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Easy to talk out of both sides of your mouth when you're born into money, when you're self made then you can talk, you wey your only identity na billionaire son, check otedola children, dangote and Adeleke, are they behaving like you?

Cti28:
The word "identify'' is the deal. I have met certain people who don't like to associate with their tribe in anyway because they felt they "exotic"

That's just buojee people, and they exist yea but my argument here is not bearing your native name or speaking your mother tongue doesn't mean you denounce your ethnicity.

Cti28:
Yeah! I concur on the name aspect. But if doesn't like speaking her native language, she will find difficult associating with the folks at home. Igbos at home will use mouth to finish her, if she is only speaking English.

My siblings who didn't grow up at home don't speak our native language, but whenever they visit home during the holidays we all speak pidgin and mix it with our language and everyone understands each other, because it's Thier mother tongue it's innate, you can't take that out of your subconscious even if you don't speak it, I dunno if you understand me, I don't speak my native tongue either, but I'm a full blooded male from my tribe and I identify as one anyway, showing it physically isn't the only way you can Belong.

Cti28:
I use my native name and I speak my language when it matters.
But saying I don't like my native name or my language is significant.

If the the English men and women posses same mentality like the lady, their language would have vanished.

Come to the North, many have lost their identity because of such mentality.

If may ask, do detest your native name or language?

It's okay to not like your native name, e fit no sound good, e fit no mean good thing, she has her reasons, that doesn't mean she won't ever go home or associate with people from her tribe, it's not that deep.

Cti28:
He passed up on her, because she detest her root.

That's how you choose to interpret it, I don't go around using my native name as well and I hardly speak my mother tongue, does that mean I detest my roots? Una too carry insignificant things for head.

So basically you pass up someone you have solid connection with simply because she's not igbotic enough for you? People express Thier cultural identity differently, hers is subtle so what?

You're weak bro, everything no p, me wey like games die, you'd never know I'm unto you, and the way I'll emotionally blackmail you ehn, guilt will eat you alive and you'd start acting sketchy and paranoid and I still won't say anything, you go beat yourself up sotey plus subtle clues wey I go dey show you say I know, you'll reach your breaking point and beg me to divorce you, and I'll tell you I already did without your knowledge.

fyneboi79:
To build this same stadium in Nigeria will cost $25B...

That is if iron condemn, area boys looking for settlement, bandits and pot bellied politicians let them finish it.

I guess cows, goat and chicken even fish don finish, why kill this poor creature, everything is your stomach you think about.

bolzyboy:
Really!?
Good thing is, you have google to bail you out sir.

Bail me out of what? I'm just explaining what you're doing, nothing more.

And her group is packed to the brim with girls who bought her book this generation is cooked, plus na anyhow guys e fit work on, e no take genius to figure out her stories as stories.

Careful when you buy stuff on AliExpress especially electronics, I ordered something on AliExpress and I was sent a defective one, I recorded all my evidence and submitted then asked for a refund, after waiting for days I got their response today, and they're giving me till November 10th to send it to them or forfeit my refund, problem is I tried to get a quote from our regular shipping companies like DHL and FedEx and I'm seeing 299€ shipping fees, the only way it can get there fast before their deadline is to use express shipping, they gave me barely two weeks, and if they don't get it before then I should forget my refund, it's as if the thing is rigged against me because how is this my fault, with this now they can deliberately send defective stuff and get away with it because AliExpress is clearly on their side, I went to our local post office and I was told it'll take 30k, I then asked the guy what's the latest it will take to get there and he just kept deflecting and wouldn't be straightforward about estimated shipping time, it could take or month or more, and he even called that one express shipping, at this point I've decided to let this count as another loss unless there's something that can get it back to them before the deadline.

Guys is it possible to return an item to china, ordered online from AliExpress and it came damaged now they're refusing to refund me saying I should return the item before first week of November elapse

foodlum:
Bruh! aint dat the truth!
I've always wanted to marry as many wives as I can fully provide for and take care of. Women are creatures made to be loved and cared for by men. In turn, the woman yields and submit herself to that provider and caring man. I love women. I care about them just as I love children and care about them. Even though I was raised in a monogamous strict Apostolic tradition household and spent most of my life in the West (mostly the US), I fully intend to marry many wives BUT not have many children. 1 wife 1 child. Each wife gets 1 separate house, 1 car and 1 thriving business. I will love them and fully provide for them equitably. No favoritism. And I will be the King of my mini kingdom.
This template is fully permitted by God. Check and confirm your scriptures.

Easier said than done, na till then you go find out.

heniford2:
are suggestion one should not buy it

He's tryna justify pricing it low by badmouthing the brand and low balling, it's a common pricing tactic, tell the seller what he's selling is worthless and problematic then give a low ball offer that makes it seem like that's what it's worth.

fadre5:
This your village no get name??
I want check something cos e dey similar to the Alekwu deity in Otukpo, Benue state.

I've seen people, so full of life gone just because of one silly deity which is only concerned about sexuality. Why not deploy this same prowess to make better the lives of those people within its environs. Besides, the part you mentioned 247 power is indeed a fat lie for the whole of your village

Na this Benue own I know and have seen in action, just that it doesn't involve the licking private parts stuff, but murder, with craft, infidelity etc it'll punish you with an incurable disease that won't let you go until you confess, very archaic but still exists.

The thought of being mosquito free sounds like heaven to me, oh what I'd give to live there.

santos123:
If you have a phone under or slightly above 100k, kindly drop the specs of the phone in the comment section.

check this one out.
https://www.nairaland.com/8506936/open-box-redmi-a5-sale

Yes as long as simps exist hard to get will exist, some men no get level at all no matter how much redpill indoctrination you give them.

AngelSlay:
Yes I am a therapist.

Thought as much, you're good at it.

We4all:
Lol..For someone who can't even use punctuations correctly, you must be suffering from delusional superiority to think you are more intelligent.

And punctuating with all seriousness on an anonymous online forum translates to intelligence, lmao, you're even slower than the other one , this would be my last response to you sha.

grandstar:
The situation is very complex. Your dad is madly in love with this woman and she is ready to do what it takes to hold on to him. Worse, she knows what to do

It might be best you turn to the Bible for advice. It is where you get the best advice (Read Psalms 19:11, Isaiah 55:8,9)

Make peace with the woman.

Let the woman know that she and her child would enjoy themselves in your dad's house but with a caveat: your needs and those of your siblings are not neglected. She's an ass because she feels that's the only way she can hold on to your dad. Let her know that she and her child would have no problem. Perhaps, talk to her son as well. Mothers always want their child protected. You can even add the caveat that one day you and your siblings will leave the house to them.

Just go all the way to make peace with her (Read Matthew 5:38-42)

Talk to your dad. Tell him you know he is lonely after the death of your mum (just say some bullshit). Tell him he has the right to move on. Tell him you want a peaceful house. A house filled with endless quarrels can lead to HBP or a stroke. It is an outcome she too wouldn't like.

The woman unbeknownst to you needs legitimacy, and she can only get it with your endorsement. Acceptance matters to her. It establishes her in the house and she is no longer just seen as an unwelcome usurper. If you promise her no drama and no interference with her and your dad, she might begin to come around. Tell her to also fight for your interests as well with your dad because men under the lovebug can become neglectful. Your siblings can even be calling her mummy.

Don't be bothered if your dad treats her and her child as first class citizens and you second class. It is not a contest. Just focus on your needs and that of your siblings being met. Don't demand too much. If the barest minimum is enough, such as feeding and school fees, then stick to that.

Seek win-win. You be nice to her child. Get him some nice treats. Love your enemies. It works. Read Matthew 5:43-48, Isaiah 55:8-9. His thoughts and His ways are far superior to ours.

There's nothing like peace of mind.

Weaklings always think a certain way, this is your advice? Op should welcome the parasite and make her feel at home? Do you even hear yourself, instead of seizing what's rightfully his right he should cower before the love peddler like a weak man, and give her more leverage and audacity to unleash more of what she's doing, small opportunity she got is already intoxicating her, imagine what she will do if OP rolls out the welcome mat like a weak man.

dmangodwin:
Nice one . A junkie always thinks weirdly.

Do you know What a junkie mean at all? Una dey muzz me for this space, make it make sense.

We4all:
The butterfly thinks himself a bird! What makes you think you are more intelligent that the person you mentioned? Because you said so? Anyways, talk is cheap and you just proved it.

Same thing I said, it's easy to discern what's worth your time and not, and you can tell if someone's intelligence matches yours or if it even close, like I just discerned yours right now, and I decide if it's worth my time or not after I discern how intelligent you are, it's not rocket science nor did I insinuate anything, just pointing out There's a level of intelligence you need to have before I agree to interact with you and if it's not it, it's not it, what's hard to understand there bro.

AngelSlay:
This moment in your life — as ugly, unfair, and heartbreaking as it is — won’t define the rest of your story. Families break, people fail us, and love can feel hijacked, but your identity is not wrapped up in your father's failures or this woman's presence.

Your role now is to:

Protect your own heart.

Stay emotionally available to your siblings.

Choose peace over revenge — not because she deserves peace, but because YOU do.


You are showing more maturity, emotional intelligence, and strength than most adults would in this situation. And that says something powerful about who you're becoming — not in spite of this, but because of it.

If you ever want help planning how to talk to your dad (if that’s a road you want to take), or help navigating boundaries after you move out, I’ve got you.

You're not alone in this.

Wow, I'm not the op but I've been glued to this thread because I also saw something similar happen in the past, and of all the comments in this thread yours is something else, I felt peace reading it, are you a therapist or something.

Every voice of freedom must be suppressed in Nigeria, that's the country we live in, there's no right to peaceful protest, we're in a gilded cage and you can't even shout, it's also pointless fighting for a lost cause, this country is one, can't risk my life for anything.

Kobojunkie:
This one don delulu finish! 🥱🥱🥱

A woman is morally loose because she is dating your father and has children of her own? Nonsense!

2. Telling @OP to embrace the facts of his reality rather than continue chasing shadows that will lead him nowhere means I am insensitive to his plight? Nonsense! 🥱🥱🥱

whatever man, there's a level of intelligence I interact with, just know this so you won't expect more replies.