I know some persons will say....... This is a silly, shallow or childish thing to do/say here, but its important you all know that we've broken up!!!!!!!!







Now, I'm announcing it for the sake of ladies that were disappointed that I was taken. I'm free now. And not in any relationship for now! So hurry, while stock lasts!

Cutehector
Vizkiz
Hob
Gamaliel121
Iamsodium
Modelmike7
Libertyfather
Donholy28
Misspicy
Michellla
IamLegend1
Onstelly






Lalasticlala

Goahead:
Unlike our Muslim brothers who can even kill themselves.



Conversation amongst two Jihadists....
Muhammad; look at those Christians (wahabis),they claim to love Jesus and will die for him all they carry with them is a cross
Ali: forget about those infidels I'm more Islamic than you are, I carry with me my sword, check it out its right under my gown.
Muhammad: ha-ha you can never be more Islamic than i am. I carry with me 4grenades, one pistol and one AK-47 right under my gown. Remember what the Imam said "defend you faith till death" that's what I'm doing.
Ali: are you kidding me? For your information I just gave my 12 year old sister for marriage to Yusuf 62years old. The other one I order her to blow herself up in the market place and they all did as I ordered without remorse.
Muhammad: are you challenging me do you think you'r more Islamic than I'm watch me ..Allah alla alla alla then detonates the two grenades with him Bom Bom......

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Shey na you I go call mumu cuz this story na funny stupid story, or na the Mohammad and Ali I go call FOOLS!

PS: My nigga you made my night!

Most popular phones of ALL time in Nigeria....


1. Nokia - this product shook Nigeria. During school days, some of us had 2nokia phones sef! Sometimes 3! Of all time, i.e.
atleast for the past 15yrs.... No think am! It has to be Nokia! Them take us make money! Its not debatable!

2. Blackberry - Oboy! BB! This one got our gals crazy and stupid! BB? Oh my! All you hear is. . . . "I want to sell
my curve 2 and buy curve this.....", "I wanna sell my bold 2 and boy bold 4!" From one bb to another! "I want to sell my toucch 2 and buy bold 5!"...... Una know the remaining story!

3. Samsung - it deserves this spot. No need for explanation!

4. Tecno - Straight to the point: for the last 4 years Tecno has been the Nokia I explained above! Shikena!

5. Can be anything! Make them drag for that spot!









Those saying iphone, should tell me how many times they've see Nigerians using iphone. ipod was very popular one time, not iphone! Haba. . . .



I no dey like comment again, when I don miss front page, but this iphone peeps annoyed me!

IamLEGEND1:




aaahhh mah niggur,no let dem NL feminists hear you oh....when they come for ta head,my hand no dey

My man. . . . . Help me tell them say na joke I dey joke ooooo. Cuz I no get power to argue with one of their activists!

IamLEGEND1:


itz all good mah nígga....

but still doesn't change the fact that intrusion into your personal space is unhealthy and with time,trust me.... it will graduate from just a minor peeve to a source of genuine irritation.so just enjoy her while you can,and when the time comes to dump her àss...... do it fast and ball.

Beht mah guy,why you be calling the shawty dry
she no sabi the reverse cowgirl ni?

Ma man! I don hear you!
But I've learnt that its not gentlemanly to dump a sister, and I've always been too soft and emotional to deliberately hurt a sister. Its better to always give them the honour and privilege to do it themselves! Cuz I think we're emotionally stronger than they're! I hear they derive pleasure from it! So I always allow myself to be dumped!

Concerning your last paragraph. . . . . . No comments! :-

misspicy:

.....as long as a guy is pure he has nothing to fear...all i know is thatbeen teamsnoop has helped me greatly and a host of oda women,eg a woman gets to know her hubby willed all his estate to another wife she is not aware of,she confronted him n got lawyers involved and she eventually got her share...

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Funny story!

I won't deny you're making sense to some extent! #TeamSnoop, for real?
You don give this innocent cuppy cake of mine a new nickname! #TeamSnoop hehehehehehehehehehehehehehehe
Babe no be me talk oooo..... You don see am na!
TeamSnoop! Una no go kill me for laugh!

misspicy:

and that is why i said she wasnt smart enuff by hinting you on what she does....its supposed to be a catch him red handed thing......so u wunt even know n u will let your guide down.... i rest my case

My dear, I get you ojare.
But, when you check and you see nothing! What happens? You check another day! And you still see nothing! You continue to check until you see the one that is worth ending the relationship for!
But, Ladies make una think am small, does that make any sense........ Looking for negatives! Like literally searching for troubles that can end your relationship with a guy that has shown you beyond every reasonable doubt that he loves you!

Make you and my Soft candy continue! When una marry, una come see for una husband phone, una go tell me whether una go divorce the man that time!

misspicy:


yea i gat it buh i still stand on my point it lets us know where we stand in a relationship....eg i might be thinking am his all meanwhile am just a side kick,i use my brain sharperly n take a walk instead of cooking,cleaning and laundering his cloths when my guy has original plans for another babe...seriously if you all call it insecurity,imaturity or what have you...i call it smarting up...besides this theory has helped me alot of times eg when i caught my guy cheating,den he gives me a bull and dog story of how the girl came for him,den i discovered thru their chats that my so called boyfriend is spoiling me by calling me names with this babe,please who am i to believe......

guys are mean i tell you,we ladies just have to employ every trick to hold dem down...but tell your gf she is not a smart snoop and she still needs to learn how to kip detaila of previous relationships from her guy coz he is going to use it against her,eg you just did

Ok. Noted. And I do understand you! I will tell you exactly what I told her. . . . The day reading chats and messages prevents heart breaks and prolongs relationships I will start practicing it!



Concerning your last line, that implies. . . . . "I am using it against her!" I actually think I'm using it FOR her. I'm using it to help her here! Far from it, that I rub that on her face, using it mockingly or making jest with it, or using it to get a dig at her! Nah! I'm in a relationship to make you a better person, to improve you, help get to your goals and make you sexually raz (I no wan lie, so I had to add that!). I'm not like that, I'm actually helping her see that her method kills relationship and it will never build a relationship! Never! Instead, you create a smooth liar and player out of the man when he knows you're bent on reading messages. Except guys aint smart enough I can always make you see the perfect thing 'you wanna see' whenever you read my chats! Its easy! See that's why I said you'll only end up breeding a smooth liar and a deadly player out of the guy! I rest my case!

gamaliel121:
Generally, bit-cheese like to read dia niggas text...its fuccking normaal....

Derz a way you can still do that chat thing sha....


Delete in between messages...(asin the things u texted or received that she may not like to see and leave the normal talk.)

Do it in a way that the convo rymes sha...lol

I don't know if u understand...


U have to be coded to make this work...if u perfect this shiit..my nigga...she will read and read and read and see nothing..



Btw....why do bit-cheese read dia niggas text??


I don't read my mamis text because I'll surly see something I don't like..even if it doesn't mean that something is up...

My dear, she once admitted using such method you mentioned above! And I'm way too smart to know about the method before now! But you know what? I don't have time for such editing! I don't! clear the whole thing!


Also I really don't know why ladies (not 'bit-cheese' you disrespectful call it. It's unfair na, you have a mum, a sister a cousin, name it! Respect them small) read chats and messages! Dey even go as far as checking call logs, some chronic insecure ones check contact list! I don't have that time! I always go with the vibes I get from the lady, the signals, how dey treat me. That's what matters! If you lie and call me a side guy or a mugu/maga (which I can't even be!) I will surely find out one day! No stress! For now let's enjoy the relationship and see how it goes!

IamLEGEND1:
all of una don craze finish
and why you typing like an imbecilé just bcoz ur babe could potentially see the thread.
stop being a wuss.

+ ur babe is cray-cray.... my advice: dump her and run while you still can.

coz na her type fit kidnap (adultnap) you and tie you up in her basement if you break up with her.

They are paranoid and extremely insecure, I guess she already told you that when she said that's just who she is.

*Drops mic*

My Nigga.... Your comments got me cracked up!
You seem like a guy that knows about jacking and all.....
So allow me to praise myself:
I'm not a wuss, the moment you see me, there is nothing wuss about it! I'm a full blooded JACK! Infact fellow jacks have awarded me Professorship! I've broken lots of guys from the shackles of chronic Wuss baggy! In fact, I was born a JACK! And now all I get is you're too arrogant and dey love me anyways! But in all my years of jacking, I've discovered that you can't be a Jack and a true wonderful sweet lover at the same time! Its impossible! Love is all about being a wuss! Its selfless, its sacrificial, it understands, its caring, its compassionate, it goes on and on! If you know all about Jacking then you'll know that you can't combine both! Now, I've been trying (even praying) so hard so I can be a soft mild considerate and sweet lover! I've been trying to let go of most part of my "Jacking-being"! That's why I sounded like one above! But I've not dropped jacking oooo! Atleast get the chic with the jacking, when she falls in love, then you lower your guard and reciprocate like a WUSS! I had to digress so much because I felt Insulted to be called a wuss when I'm a JACK LORD!

Every other person just ignore that long epistle! Its for IamLegend1 alone and the other "jacks" that read it!

IamLegend1, Back to the topic and other parts of your comment. . . . . Oga ma buttercup is not insecure at all! Neither is she paranoid! She is too dry to do something as exciting as locking me in the basement (cuz I will love that adventure!). . . . She is just a lady, that this method has "worked" for in 2 previous relationships, so she is just doing it again, t
o save herself from "whatever" misspicy called it! I understand her worry and tension but I don't permit it! And I've told her that I will stop explaining. But she is a sweet shy gal! That's why she has sworn never to comment! Shy shy gal!

And yea you're right.... I'm a diligent, smart, God fearing, gentle looking, CRAZY DUDE! She knows and she fell for me that way!

misspicy:
well am somewhat guilty of this habit too,but with time i get bored and stop it until a guy gives me reason to doubt him...

inshort i have been saved a lot of relationship headaches by going thru his chats..eg that is when you will know if you are a side chick or main chick , if he has other girls on his radar....

note i can do this vice versa as i have nothing to hide...so oga Ade davedoz what do you have to hide by clearing your chat history

My dear, that's exactly what she says.... "It makes me know if I'm a side chic or if I'm a play thing or if I'm the main chic"
that's not a smart thing... Now my buttercup apart. Cuz my advise won't make sense to her right now.....
Misspicy, lemi advise you! Do you know status can change? Plans can change! Reasoning can change! Outlook to life and relationship can change! A rich man today might be a poor man tomorrow! And a poor man today can be a rich man tomorrow! A side chic today can be your wife tomorrow! I might be in another relationship or I might be jokingly/seriously saying something to a friend or I might be trying to have casual sex with another gal or she might even be the so called side chic , and she sees it, you know what happens from there, it kills the relationship! Neither you nor her can tell if this present relationship can end up in marriage or something better! But, she has already used her prying eyes to kill a relationship that might have potential in it. Then she leaves me and goes into the next relationship and the same thing happens. She ends it again. And the cycle continues! Don't you know That, the guy might change tomorrow, he might decide to grow up and make you his one and only. He can decide to stick with you! You are a far better quality than the gal that's a so called main chic. Or he ends the stupid relationships he's having and sticks with you! But you've ended it. See I no sabi explain abeg, just ask Annie Idibia!
This is what I believe in or what I think you ladies should adopt. If he says don't read ma chat, don't read it. Give him that privacy he seeks! But, focus on the signals he sends across! Does he treat you like a queen or a side chic? Is he a loving bf! Is he proud of you! How is his private (you too alone) and public (when others are there ) interactions with you. Do you feel loved? Focus on these things and forget things that will hurt you! And sometimes those things are not really a threat! But dey can cost you a relationship filled with potentials. that's all!

See, make una help us judge oooo. . . .

My gf and I are both avid followers on NL!

You guys should know that, we are both irritated by peeps that come here seeking for silly relationship advise that should be an indoor thing! Hence, I should be called a hypocrite (it's allowed!)

Ok, Just few minutes ago we were having a light argument (or you can say, a heated discussion) concerning the above subject, and I jokingly threatened to come share it with you guys. I told her that she will get lots of bashing from you guys (hopefully sha! Make e no be me, una go bash. Hehehehehehe). I'm in a lighter mood now, and I feel like doing the unthinkable, by bringing the gist here! Hehehehehehehehehehe

Now the full body of the argument!

The lady in question loves reading people's chat, especially the guy she's dating. . . . . **pause** knowing that she's reading this makes me shy **covers face**. . . . . .
Back to the gist. . . . This habit of hers, has caused her 2 good relationships (babe, sorry I said that! Lol). Now she has started it, in this our new and young relationship! It's causing mild and small issues for now sha. And its tiring! Cuz, I'll have to be explaining and explaining things (una know how e dey go na). So, I decided to be clearing my chat history, ALWAYS! The last time she visited me, she had nothing to read. You can imagine how frustrating that was to her. She brought the gist up Just this afternoon and was complaining that my new "chats clearing habit" is giving her headache (abeg make una help me see headache oooo). This is when I got a little worked up and gave her a sermon on PRIVACY! I told her that if she's my wife and she's saying all these, I 'might' understand . . . . (ok ok ok... Before una go chop me raw ) I 'will' understand! But, for now, its just an intimate relationship with prospects (the last word, na make her mind sweet. Lol. I know say I be craze person!). And whether married or not, everyone needs their own privacy. She can't be reading my chats indiscriminately and without regards to my privacy! She might see family secrets, transactions and deals, she doesn't have the clearance level to see for now! Lol. She should respect my privacy! I went further to tell her that, reading texts and chats can never prevent heart breaks, (cuz I noticed that's her 1st reason cum motivation for prying into my privacy!). I Also told her that, she's prone to heart break the moment she decided to love/like anyone or be in a relationship of any kind (like the one wey I get with Chelsea Fc, that's tearing my passion and love for football apart! I've stopped seeing other football matches) Peeps, una no go believe say after this long sermon, mind you, na the short version I give una oooo, this chick no gree oooo! She said, that's who she is! Imagine! **thinking out loud** So she was born to read people's chat!!!! That's when I just resorted to locking my phone!

Abeg, I don tire to type! Nairalanders, what do you guys think?!!! Bashing is allowed and expected!


But, make I confess ooo. . . . e dey sweet when na only your side of the gist them go use judge matter oooo!!!!! I know she will be like. . . . Hah! Dave! You've twisted and turned the story! But I cross my heart! I didn't twist or turn the story! She can create a counter thread! Lol! No try am oooo!





Below is what she said when I told her I wanted to create this thread!

I'm coming, lemi eat break fast 1st. I can help you !

I'm coming, lemi eat break fast 1st. I can help you !

Talk na........




I'm guessing your number was saved as "Maga Must Pay 9"

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I'm crying already! Omo, see views don reach almost 1,700 in how many minutes!!!!! Corrupt NL people!



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OP, you've made my evening!!!!!

firstEVA:
NFCS will

I thought its "who cares? NFCS does"

But I love your response sha. . . . . Cuz I use it a lot! Whenever anyone tells me, "who cares?" I'll say, NFCS does! I learnt that from my NFCS friends during school days!

NB: I was never a part of NFCS!

MMotimo:
You have to remember that the www is a jungle and there are all kinds of personalities behind each moniker, going through different things in their personal lives. You should not assume every Poster has your best interest at heart, that would be naive. It's also a good idea to check post history. The person bashing you may have just lost their job and feel like the matter you brought here is inconsequential compared to their own reality. In that situation, it would be better if they didn't comment but not everyone practices self restraint so they bash you instead.

Different people are on this site for different reasons. For some, Nland is an avenue to vent the frustration they feel about their own circumstances. If you are forced to seek advice on a forum like this, you have to make sure you have the wisdom to separate the wheat from the chaff because you will get both. Unfortunately, bringing your matter to the www does leave you vulnerable to bashing. If you are going to do that, you have to grow a thick skin or better still, find a way to help yourself offline.

You start a thread saying your husband only gives you N250,000 per month for housekeeping. What do you expect the woman who only gets N19,000 after begging and fighting to do? Or the woman who is battling her Baby Daddy to get money for diapers or school fees? The average Nigerian woman in these situations is either going to lash out at you for being greedy or go into full mischief mode, asking how you can tolerate that and call your husband names to boot.

Or you are a male who has a girl that is truly in love with you and has shown you care and no monetary demands but she won't become a sex slave meanwhile you are getting the green light from all kinds of other girls and are tempted to ditch the girl that loves you. You come to Nland asking for advice, forgetting that a lot of those who will advise you to ditch the first girl have never been loved like that and would give almost anything for the kind of girl they are advising you to betray.

Purely out of bad belle, they advise you to ditch the girl. When it's time to get married, you realize you have become a member of the association of "choosing the lesser evil men's movement" aka which of your numerous girlfriends can you manage since you exchanged your true love for multiple sex partners early on. Then you say all women are bad.

I tend to ramble when I have time on my hands but hopefully, you get where I am coming from. The harsh truth is same way you have all kinds of people in the marketplace, same reality here. Do not expect too much from people you don't really know.

Now, that's thick and deep!
Wonderfully said and structured! I really agree with you. And I hope lots of Nairalanders can get their eyes on these facts you just stated! I'll recommend your post for anyone seeking advise on NL! You took your time and you did great justice to this issue and I know it'll be helpful to one or two Nairalander!!! Thanks bro.

Cc: lalasticlala

nikenry:

Wow! You are d best. I appreciate your intelligence and wisdom. I have come to understand that it doesn't take decade to radiate one's true identity. I could see a good counsellor and great shoulder to lean on in you! Your spouse is lucky.

Back to d topic, responses of most nairalanders reflect our level of maturity. I have seen d effect of negative words in my personal life, and I have made a vow DT I will never attack somebody with my words. There are many ways of passing across your message without raining abuses. I will recommend '7 Habits of highly effective people' to anyone who want to learn the act of empathic listening.

Thanks A lot! Your kind words are soothing. Your spouse is lucky too.

Yea! Negative words can do a lot of damage! And positive words can do a lot of repair. Words have unbelievable power! Words can destroy or build, can make or mar! A Great Book says: "Death and Life are in the power of the tongue".

I'll also recommend that book, it'll help anyone that reads it.

belamour:

Yes Many Re Called Few Will Be Chosen (Bolded Part Above)

Contemplating About Dese Won't Change Anyone Decision

For Instance I Read A Thread About A Lady Who Made Mention About Falling In Love With A Married Man

Only To Seek An Advice If She Could Go On With Such Filthy Relationship

Now Tell Me How To Attend 2 D B-i-t-c-h

I Re-emphasize Let Us Keep Doing D Bashing

Exactly!!!! That was the last thread I saw, out of the many I've been seeing, that inspired this thread!

Now, lemi tell you how to attend to the Young Lady (not the B-word you used). Before, I say another thing I want to state emphatically that, IT IS WRONG FOR HER TO CONTINUE THAT RELATIONSHIP, WHETHER, DATING OR MARRIAGE!!!! Its a big NO NO!!! I just conspicuously declared my stand on the matter!
So, how do you now help her? Ok, lemi start by asking you that, do you know that the lady was the victim? She met a guy, HER SPEC, all she needs in a man (do you know how important that is?), they BOTH fell inlove with each other, all of a sudden the dude comes with a heart breaking story of having a family and the inconsiderate guy still wants her to be part of a polygamous family! My dear, if we wanna do some bashing, do you know who deserves it? Yes of course, you're right, its the married man. If I wanna bash that young lady at all, my reason will be that, she brought it to NL. Fully aware of how we "can be" here! Anyways, its still hard to blame her for that, sef. Because you can expect anything from a downcast, depressed and perplexed young lady!

I'll end this long reply with this... Please, before you bash anyone, do two things:
1. Always selflessly, completely and sincerely put yourself in that person shoes
2. Always remember that no one is perfect, we all have our shortcomings. And at one point or the other we will make or own mistakes.

Babe2sure:



We are still saying the same thing. Everything you said here, I have addressed in that post. It depends on the matter brought actually. It is not every matter one needs to be criticised on, that was why I used[b]some[/b].

People should emphatize with people who seek advice and not make jest of them. I remember a thread a particular guy opened concerning is health. Come and see people making jest of him, I was like WTF!!! He would regret opening that thread that day. I gave him an advice over the issue. But I was surprised about the way people go about responding to his thread. You don't kick others when they are down, nobody knows tomorrow.

And I said, even if you are to criticise, it shouldn't be harsh. Some people are not strong psychologically, they are vulnerable to verbal attacks easily.
And I said, people can be excused sometimes because of their temperament, it plays a major role in how people react to issues often times. That is why one should strive to develop thick skin.
It is an anomaly that should be addressed, really.

SPOT ON!!!! Sister, we're both on the same page! If only 50% of NairaLanders can have this mentality!

Babe2sure:
Nice one from OP......


On every issue, one should expect potpourri of reponses, we see things from different view-points. The responses to an extent are a function of our temperament. Someone with melancholy temperament will react to issues differently from someone with sanguine temperament e.t.c

Criticism is good sometimes, but it should be constructive and not destructive. It makes one retrace steps oftentimes, more than words spoken is soft tones.
However, one shouldn't say words that will further dampen the mood of the person who seeks opinion on an issue. We react to uncivil comments differently, some people take things to heart, they are very emotional.

All in all, one should just pick the treasure from what is said, disregard the trash, and move on.

Yea. I agree with you a lot! From your post, I noticed you're a strong person psychologically! But not everyone is like you! what of those that are weak psychologically. Lemi make what I'm saying clearer to you. Sometimes when people make mistakes, and you see them admitting and being remorseful, I don't think that's the time to, start being a critic. That's the time to be shoulder the person can lean on. Every kind advice you give then will not be forgotten and will go a long way in helping. But with the criticism the person may feel judged and may not like to share more hideous things with you. When they brought the woman that was caught in adultery to Jesus, what did HE do? He showed the critics that all of them judging her and criticizing her, are not better than her. And Himself (Jesus) that is better didn't even criticize her. And she went on to be a changed woman. I can give more examples but, my patients are waiting for me, make them no fire me!

pet4ril:
You are very correct. If you are inexperienced about a particular topic especially the ones on this family forum, please back off because it's supposed to be for the mature and experienced ones not secondary school children or under 18

Lol.
What if the person is 27 or 40 and is still inexperienced in a particular matter concerning the family? What happens to patiently helping out? Like I said initially, you do not know how far your words of enlightenment can go. No one is an island. My pretty friend, if we don't cultivate the habit of patiently correcting people here on NL, it might become a difficulty when we want to correct a loved one in patience and love!

belamour:
You Re So On POINT

But Some People Re Meant To Be Insulted, Bash, E Bully, E Slap And So On To Corrected..

But All In All We Re Different People With Different Character

Matured People And Immature People

Experienced And Inexperienced

Op Continue Showing Empathy/Sympathy And Let Us Do D Bashing/E SLapping

Everyone Can't Be The Same !!!

Yea, my friend you're right. The only problem is that the ones that practice what I'm saying are always very few, and the "Bashers" are the intimidating majority! Now, let me give you another hidden reason why I created this topic - Its my family! You see my dad eh, he does this popular method a lot! Now... My siblings are following suit! When something goes wrong or something not so good happens, instead of thinking of the way forward, instead of thinking out a solution, they'll concentrate on blames and bashing! Its tiring! Most times the 'defaulter' in question, has already admitted to being wrong and he/she is sorry. Shey, the next thing na to find solution to whatever mistake?? And ensure it doesn't happen again.

EVILFOREST:
CORRECT
But I must say that what accounted for this, is our Nigeria's way of life.

Unknowingly, and Gradually we are becoming AGGRESIVE as a nation.
We have more AGITATORS than reserved people now.
This happens to be as a result of ECONOMIC Hardship and FRUSTRATIONS that have perverted this nation.

EXAMPLES :
1) It's becoming rare to find a happy and comfortable Nigerian youth.

2) TAKE a LOOK at our LAW ENFORCEMENT OFFICERS, like the POLICE PATROL on high way.
While asking u to Park, they start heaping insults on you. e.g THUNDER FIRE U.

3) Our NEW GENERATION PASTORS are not left out.
Take a look at their preachings.
You will see GROSS AGGRESION. yet devil appears undisturbed.

4) Our POLITICIANS on NATIONAL TVs, u need to watch CHANNELS or AIT and see physical rage.
Most times they end up in turmoil.
Yet it appears as though, they are fighting for us e.g wike/Amaechi

5) Even when d way we TOAST and DUMP LADIES, it's as if we dated demons and treat them with disdain.
Not considering the fact dat, dat same lady may become OKONJO IWELA.

6) See how we TREAT MAIDS and SECURITY GUARDS.
these are people we shouldn't JOKE with because they can exterminate your life softly, if paid hugely.

7) Now about KIDS.
we beat our KIDS like the way FULANI MEN flog cattle.

Just visit our PUBLIC SERVICE OFFICES, before you greet some will end up ridiculing you.,most especially the ladies. BANKS are now taming diz characters because of incessant sack.

9) Despite being LEARNED and living comfortably , I still find myself talking rubbish. This is what I believe most of us have been taming.
Just imagine my USERNAME..!!!!

10) Finally, u can see why JUNGLE JUSTICE for petty thieves will never stop.
In fact as we talk now, we are yet to PEAK.

GOOD MORNING and Thank You.

My guy, you took your time and you super nailed it!!! Its from our environment! We're just angry most times (notwithstanding, we know how to find happiness and humor in hard/difficult circumstances).

The experience I've gathered from being an avid reader of NairaLanders' comments on every section is what birthed this Post.


I've noticed that we prefer using insults, bashing, negative utterances, pessimism, etc, to advise peeps that come here for advise. People come here with their confusion, dilemmas, ignorance(as the case may be), looking for advise, and the best we can do, most times, is to start bashing!!!! What happened to sensible talking, intelligent suggestions, showing empathy and sympathy, being less judgmental, etc.

Some of them even start by telling us, that they know, they made a mistake and they're here looking for how to correct the mistake or whatever. That's when you will see the 1st person to comment starting with, a negative comment or pessimism or bashing!

We can save lives here with our words and contribution. We can save homes, marriages, families, friendships, jobs!!! I can go on and on!

Before I forget why I created this thread, and before you start asking me how does the body of the post relates to the subject/topic!
I have to state that, you might be thinking that bashing on NL is fun, before you know it, you apply this same awful method of advise on peeps around you i.e. Your friends, family members, siblings, kids(if any), spouse/partner etc. And I'm sure you don't wanna be that individual that one cannot trust for a reasonable, helpful advise. An individual one wants to avoid in times of shame, sadness, depression, confusion etc, Cuz you're just an awful shoulder to lean on!!!!

OP, talk true.... You were looking for p*orn on youtube, when you "bumped" into this discovery! Talk true, shame the devil!! I no go tell your papa!

The experience I've gathered from being an avid reader of NairaLanders' comments on every section is what birthed this Post.


I've noticed that we prefer using insults, bashing, negative utterances, pessimism, etc, to advise peeps that come here for advise. People come here with their confusion, dilemmas, ignorance(as the case may be), looking for advise, and the best we can do, most times, is to start bashing!!!! What happened to sensible talking, intelligent suggestions, showing empathy and sympathy, being less judgmental, etc.

Some of them even start by telling us, that they know, they made a mistake and they're here looking for how to correct the mistake or whatever. That's when you will see the 1st person to comment starting with, a negative comment or pessimism or bashing!

We can save lives here with our words and contribution. We can save homes, marriages, families, friendships, jobs!!! I can go on and on!

Before I forget why I created this thread, and before you start asking me how does the body of the post relates to the subject/topic!
I have to state that, you might be thinking that bashing on NL is fun, before you know it, you apply this same awful method of advise on peeps around you i.e. Your friends, family members, siblings, kids(if any), spouse/partner etc. And I'm sure you don't wanna be that individual that one cannot trust for a reasonable, helpful advise. An individual one wants to avoid in times of shame, sadness, depression, confusion etc, Cuz you're just an awful shoulder to lean on!!!!

If I hear

Okay..... Be careful!

Please, my sister needs to do her industrial training, as a
public health officer in any public health facility, e.g. Primary Health Care Centre, general hospitals, NGO's, WHO/UNICEF, etc. The island is her preferable location, V.I., Lekki or Ikoyi. Information on places will be appreciated, even if its the location or address so she can approach these places
herself. Helpful and useful contributions will be enormously
appreciated! Thanks.