₦airaland Forum

Halleluhia! I cant wait for this to happen in ma lovely state.
I pray I can make the groundbreaking by April.
Udom Is Right!

My lovely State shd adopt FG's Zero Budgeting style.

There is no shame in copying what is good and needed.

There is no sense in putting down computers and generators again in 2016 budget when you alredi did so in 2015 budget. Abi computers now have 1 year life span?

Kudos to the govt for the idea sha, at least its a good start.

Hdanny:
i fink "SEX" is d greatest investment in a relationship

Pls how is sex an investment in a relationship? Or is it part of ur own perspective?

RoastedCorn:
funny thing about betrayal is that its done by those who you trust

Break up is not really betrayal na

prettymina:
Brkup is crazy nd shatters life..

Really?

After all the breakups u bin tru, ur still very alive and dont sound shattered to me. Guess u meant on a temporal basis, right?

Oma307:
I smell lies judging from ur username

Sori I dont get. What has my username got to do with dis?

Ah! Dis is good news from ma state oh

Topestbilly:
It's a terrible experience...

I feel ya bro. It is really

Vision4God:
Most painful one is: Dos hu brk-up a day or 2 to d wedding day.

Anybody who does dat doesnt have conscience abeg.

Break-ups are usually painful no doubt. But I would like to know, wot is it dat makes breakups painful:

Is it the feeling of being rejected by someone you love genuinely,

or

Is it the feeling of being dumped by your lover after sharing your body with him/her?

Which kind of break-up is more painful, a break-up from a no-sex relationship, or a break-up from an "sexfull" relationship?

Does the length of the relationship determine how painful the breakup will be? If yes, does the factor of sex or no-sex increase or reduce the pain?

Or is it the pain that comes when you add up "all" you have invested in the relationship?

House, pls lets rub minds togeda...

MzLarem:
Lolz..Abi na..Live d moment nd let tomorrow sort itself..e go clear 4 ur eye sha wen she come give u her wedding invitation..No deal with d thing now nd leave puna 4 now.

Well, I have a bad feeling abt dis sha. Cos am not ready for marriage rite now and der is pressure on her to bring a man home. So when u add one plus one, it looks very much like a lost case to me.

MzLarem:
Lolz..she's giving u ur parting gift..if u can still find a way to make it work sha,it'll be nice.

Chai! Dat parting gift tin way u just talk now pain me oh;(. Make we day enjoy am while it lasts na, who knows wot might happen.

MzLarem:
It is finished then..this might nt be a very good decision from her parent @ the end..I think d only role left for u to play is to chill nd let her come nd do d break up.

Yes ma'm. Dats exactly wot am doing rite now. Am actually waiting for her to do the break up.

But the wahala be say while I am waiting, am beginning to love her more instead of loving her less. The break up fit come pain me pass as e go pain her oh.

Maybe its becos we are still having lots of sex.

MzLarem:
Some parents tho..I'm sure its cos they don't want issues for her bt if they shld consider her own happiness,they will let her make her own choice..she's an adult too,she shld make them understand. Sometimes,we jst need to make them see reason. If they don't want her divorced @ d end of d day,they shld let her choose her man..If she does it to satisfy them,if she's nt happy,will they expect her to forbear it nd start making all those annoying consolations? Guy,this is d 21st century,I know what I want nd I'll strive to have it.

Yeah! Ur right! But this gal in question is strongly influenced by her parents and family. She is a good girl to the core and doesnt have any iota of rebellion in her. I think if day put enof pressure on her, she will eventually give in to dia demands cos she does almost anytin mummy/daddy says.

Dats why I have alredi given up in my mind cos I know it will neva work out. Besides I am not interested in convincing anybody to let me marry dia child. And I suspect her parents are alredi shopping for a husband for her becos day always do/fix tins for her.

Am just thinking to myself, what if Jonathan had won the won the 2015 presidential election?

Yes! Yes we may not have seen $1 going for over N300. We may not have witnessed any disregard of court orders? Yes we may not have heard abt a missing national budget. Construction of second Niger bridge would have been going on unhindered. Yes we may not have heard abt any 95% to 5% votes nonsense. Yes we may not heard about the Shiites clash with the military. Yes we may not have noticed that there is no igbo among the the president early appointments, and so on.

But then I begin to wonder:

Would there have been a renewed biafra agitation?

How would Jona had handled this our new $30 per barrel economy, with his teammates stealing and sharing public funds with reckless abandon?

Would we have seen more progress in the anti-terrorism war?

Would Nigeria had known about any missing $2 billion dollars from the office of the NSA?

Would we have seen NNPC release its monthly sales report, which is the first of its kind?

Would Nigeria had fared better in such trying times under Jonathan?

Just thinking out loud...

MzLarem:
nd what's ur partner say abt this? This is why she's ur partner,I believe u've sat her down nd told her all this..I don't knw which tribe u're both from nd I can't make any judgements bt if u've come a long way nd u're sure she's d one,this shldnt be a reason to let go..There's more to marriage than Language barrier.

Her case is even worse. Her parents want her to marry from dia tribe. Day want her to bring a man home but he must be from dia tribe.

When she told me dat I just gave up on the whole issue. But I have not told her all dis becos she go just begin cry and me cannot fit to watch her cry oh.

MzLarem:
All that shld be put into consideration b4 proposing marriage to sum1,if u didn't do that,then that's a fault on ur part nd where love prevails,culture or language shldnt be a barrier..u can help her blend. Did ur frnds nd family help u woo her? Did they knw wat attracts u abt her?

U day always make sense sha.

The thing is I dont speak my language fluently not to talk of teaching it. And as such having my kids speak anoda language seems very awkward to me.

Secondly being in the midst of my inlaws and not understanding a tin day say also seems awkward to me. Wd I have to wear earphones whenever am around my inlaws or weneva day come to ma house, since am not interested in learning dia language and I cant tell dem not to speak dia language when am around?

All of dis wasnt an issue before but they are now. Very critical issues.

MzLarem:
if she consider her happiness also,she shld understand tho it will be painful. Bt if she's stubborn nd forming 007,direct her to d nearest bridge..

Okay, I have anoda question. Wot if I promised you marriage and afta like a year or two, I decide to back out becos ur from a different tribe and I've bin convinced by friends and family to marry from my tribe. And I bought the idea majorly becos of language and culture barrier, which previously was not an issue but now is.

Would dat be a wicked tin to do?

Tkester:
Not exactly. The crux of the matter is that Buhari's agent disrupted a peaceful demonstration of IPOB in NY when Buhari visited NY last year, that led to civil disorder. The police charged both IPOB and the representative of Buhari (Nigeria) to court. I think what the judge may determine will be to restate whether IPOB is right or wrong in their protest. The judge will not go into the details of looking into Nigerias sovereignty as opined by you.

Though the Judge will not make pronouncements or judgement bordering on Nigerias sovereignty, however, if the case goes against Buhari that will have a huge consequences on his administration, because IPOB would have succeeded in exposing him as a tyrant, and that will help whatever cause of actiion IPOB will want to take. Even their case in Hague, will be boosted by this judgement, and if IPOB decides to be violent tomorrow they will claim it's an act of self defence, and that will be backed by the NY court judgement.

I pray IPOB Wins

Sori to burst ya bubbles. But dis sounds more like a new year joke of the year to me.

Buhari's agent - Nigerian, disrupted a peaceful protest by IPOB migrants in NewYork abi? So how exactly did Buhari's agent do that?

Did they shoot them? Did they teargas them? Did they beat them up? Did Buhari's agent disturb public peace in anyway? If not, then there is no case here. The judge will most likely thrash that case.

So an American court in Newyork will sit on a case concerning anoda sovereign nation? Do they have such jurisdiction?

PASCHAL28:
I am for real. There are many more hard truth Umunnem kwesiri ima (my brothers need to know)

Bros, I really admire you awareness and enlightenment.

But unfortunately you cannot convince a drunk man. U cant convine a deluded man. Sentiment is stronger dan knowledge.

Nigerians down south hate Buhari with a passion so no mata wot, Buhari is wrong by default.

Once again, thanks for displaying such objectivity.

MzLarem:
Lolz..I don't have a breakable heart.

Pls bring it, let me handle it and see for myself

MzLarem:
if she consider her happiness also,she shld understand tho it will be painful. Bt if she's stubborn nd forming 007,direct her to d nearest bridge..

Well, u just helped to prove my point dat doe we do not always set out to date someone we cant or wont marry, it just happens. Either becos we were attracted to dem for the wrong reasons or something happened along the way dat made us change our minds.

So why were u attacking me initially like say I follow for the guys way don break ur heart before?

MzLarem:
Yap it is..that's u considering ur future happiness..nd its enuf reason to opt out bt u've got to explain to d bae.

Oh! So we finally agree huh?

Wot if d babe no gree gree? Say I wasted her time becos I wasnt sure of maself? Wetin I go come tell her make she gree?

MzLarem:
You still need a justifiable reason for changing ur mind.

Haha!

Assuming we were dating and after some months I realise dat I made a promise to marry you under the influence of infatuation, limerence and fantasy? Now dat the whole infatuation tin finally fades away I den realise dat we are not compatible and thus marrying you wont be the best for both our sakes and our children sakes cos of the potential future risk of growing apart?

Is dat justifyable?

MzLarem:
Ok..Maybe u'll feel on top of d world if u gf leaves u cos she wants to sample dat cute neighbour dat jst packed in. U're an Adult,u knw ur right frm left nd moreover its more abt self-conviction. Ur own wrong might be another person's right.

Okay, wot if I actually promised you marriage and later get to change my mind, will dat be wrong?

zuchyblink:
There is something fundamentally wrong with a country that fought civil war. It shows that there is no agreement. One Nigeria must be negotiated before peace will reign. That is nature and you cannot cheat nature

America fought civil war. Is der sth fundamentally wrong with America?

Dats ma state, making progress one step at a time.
Soon, ours will spring forth.

Dis is wot I call objective reasoning. A quality very scarce among men, especially in Nigeria.

MzLarem:
If u have a good reason to..Yes.

Must it be a "good" reason? And by wot standard do we measure the "goodness" in the reason?

MzLarem:
Ok..wait till 70 b4 u start thinking of marriage then.

So basically its okay to walk out from a relationship so long as I dont promise a girl marriage, abi?