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FamilyRe: I'm In Trouble. I Need Your Advice. by Davies25(op): 6:19pm On Aug 02, 2022
Calibrator:
Just when you think that the highest quality of Foolishness obtainable in a human is the "Pro" variant...... Someone will proudly show up with "Pro Max"
This vawulence is too much, reduce am abeg grin
FamilyRe: I'm In Trouble. I Need Your Advice. by Davies25(op): 3:01pm On Aug 02, 2022
Aaaaarghmed:
Guy you no get problem
Ehn ehn? huh
FamilyRe: I'm In Trouble. I Need Your Advice. by Davies25(op): 3:00pm On Aug 02, 2022
Mercury12:
You just confuse like most of us.
The matter tire person
cheesy
I've been laughing reading all the comments. I can't believe it's my life we are talking about.
And this isn't even close to my biggest challenges. I will be fine las las.
FamilyRe: I'm In Trouble. I Need Your Advice. by Davies25(op): 2:57pm On Aug 02, 2022
ImaIma1:
At this point, you can't settle down with an AS person. You have to finale a way to unhook yourself from your present girlfriend. So are you going to "un-adopt" the son?
It was a survival calculation to date her. I had no presence in the business then. She could run it down if she doesn't have a stake in it. I gave her a reason not to.

She's a girl. I'm thinking of setting up a trust or a life insurance where she's going to be the beneficiary. I don't know what to do with her. I love her.

I guess the thing to do now is to "unhinge" myself like you suggested.
FamilyRe: I'm In Trouble. I Need Your Advice. by Davies25(op): 9:50pm On Aug 01, 2022
sisisioge:
grin grin grin grin

You will not kill yourself fa! You mean the older AS gf would continue to work for you while you date you school gf? In fact, you even think the school gf really loves/like you? Whew! You dont know anything.

How about the daughter you adopted? Are you going to unadopt her? Whew! Good luck biko...I cant even type grin
When we started dating. Her genotype didn't matter cos it was never going to be serious. And i didn't even think i would survive.
Everyone knows that girl is my life. She ain't going anywhere.
It got complicated cos my old girl isn't following through on the agreement which i understand.
And i never thought i would take life seriously.
FamilyRe: I'm In Trouble. I Need Your Advice. by Davies25(op): 9:22pm On Aug 01, 2022
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<< You really need to start from ground zero to get your act right man...
[/color][/quote]I swear.
* The apartment is for the old girl.
FamilyRe: I'm In Trouble. I Need Your Advice. by Davies25(op): 9:19pm On Aug 01, 2022
Channah1:
So, why are you fighting over someone who's not going to base in Nigeria anyways? undecided

You better tell both of them off and get someone else.
I'm planning to move too.
I feel the business limits me.
I feel i could be more with her.
But the business is my only source of income so i need it badly too.
FamilyRe: I'm In Trouble. I Need Your Advice. by Davies25(op): 9:14pm On Aug 01, 2022
Channah1:
You want to have your cake and eat it. It's not possible now.

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My business girlfriend can't be in a platonic relationship with me ( she's the very jealous type). She needs the business too to survive. Telling her to go means taking her back several years...
And the new girl is a career person. She doesn't even plan on staying in Nigeria.
FamilyRe: I'm In Trouble. I Need Your Advice. by Davies25(op): 9:11pm On Aug 01, 2022
HRHQueenPhil:
Stay with your business wife, leave infacuation alone ..and marry her, u will smile later in life .
Congratulations in advance
That means I'm saying bye to having my own kids.
FamilyRe: I'm In Trouble. I Need Your Advice. by Davies25(op): 9:10pm On Aug 01, 2022
LutherSanchez:
Whether the old girl or the new one,your only priority now should be only yourself and your health. You dey allow people wey go abandon you tomorrow to dey give you unnecessary stress.
True talk.
FamilyRe: I'm In Trouble. I Need Your Advice. by Davies25(op): 9:07pm On Aug 01, 2022
LutherSanchez:
Buh do the new girl know you're a sickle cell patient?
Yes, i don't hide that fact about myself.
Though i don't look it at all.
FamilyI'm In Trouble. I Need Your Advice. by Davies25(op):
I will be creating several threads about the troubles am in. I'm the definition of problematic.
Let's talk about this one first.

About two years ago, i employed a sales girl. She was good ( a single mom).
Few months later, i got very sick. I couldn't take care of the business for months. She took care of it. Increased our sales by almost 100%.
I felt i needed to make her more committed to the business since i don't even know if i will be alive in few months. So i adopted her daughter and i started dating her; but with a caveat; no serious relationship. It was supposed to be casual and it wasn't supposed to affect the business. A year later, she moved to my place. With an agreement to move out as soon as she got her own place.

Fast forward, I met a girl, she's everything i ever wanted. But she's way younger ( about 10 years age difference). All my friends advised against it. I was advised to stick to my girlfriend
Note; I'm a sickle cell disease patient. My girlfriend is AS. So we can't have kids even if we decide to get serious. We both agreed i could date any time i want to settle down.

Now, the problem; my girlfriend called my new girl and told her about us. Told her to stay away.
I got angry and we had a fight cos we didn't agree on a for better for worse.
New babe had to go back to school cos she couldn't handle the situation. Though we still talk and she promised to come home when I get my single mom girlfriend a place ( i got a self contained close to the business, it's very expensive but i had no choice. The place will be ready in a month time).
New girlfriend agreed to stay low for the one month.
I need my old girl cos of the business.
I love my new girl so much. She's everything i could dream of.
I'm stuck.
New girl messaged me tonight that she can't cope. We need to break up. It felt like i died. But i can't force anything on her, anyone that would love me need to love me on a personal decision scale cos of my many challenges.


What should I do?
Jobs/VacanciesRe: What Happened After I Removed The Lies From My CV by Davies25:
Wow..
People with half baked stories Sha...
PoliticsRe: I’m Not Tinubu’s Campaign DG, Says El-rufai by Davies25: 7:28pm On Jul 29, 2022
I'm waiting for someone with brain to say something.
PoliticsRe: The Man Tinubu by Davies25(op): 8:43am On Jul 29, 2022
richmond500:
These two parties take us for granted and we will show them whose boss
Yea, you are right, but with who?
Who's the youths candidate?
Pls don't mention Obi cos he's cut from the same fabric (PDP)
PoliticsRe: The Man Tinubu by Davies25(op): 8:40am On Jul 29, 2022
advanceDNA:
Selling bad product
Sell your own good product
PoliticsThe Man Tinubu by Davies25(op): 8:35am On Jul 29, 2022
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The Man Tinubu

It seems to me that some people have come to accept the social media gossips against Bola Ahmed Tinubu. A little research can unearth the needed facts about this man. There is no need pouring invectives and scorn on a citizen whose notable "offences" are that he has the audacity to aspire to the highest office in the land even though he sprung out of "obscurity" and material poverty, and that he has been so successful in mentoring great men that he himself has become an institution without the need of an appointment to a notable public office for conferment of relevance, influence, or power. At the moment Asiwaju Bola Ahmed Tinubu is a PRIVATE CITIZEN like many of us.

This I know: Tinubu graduated with distinctiion and awards at Chicago State University, USA in 1979, worked for top companies in the US, rising to executive cadre, returned to Nigeria in 1983 to serve his employers at their Nigerian branch, exposed corruption in his company as a meticulous and conscientious auditor, leading to a top management official losing his job; resigned as a technocrat to run for Senate in 1991, won the election, had the courage to fight for democracy in Nigeria at his young age then against the Abacha junta, went into exile in 1993, returned, contested, and won the governorship of Lagos in 1999. He assembled a crack team, developed a 50-year development plan for Lagos, and took the meagre IGR of about N600 million a month when he assumed office to N19 billion a month before he left office. Presently, the monthly haul is in excess of N50 billion.
Tinubu's fecund mind found a solution to the perennial overflow of the Bar Beach (which the FG had no solutions for), having transformed the problem into an economic opportunity called Eko Atlantic. Few years ago, I stood at the window of my hotel room on the last floor of Eko Hotel and looked into the Atlantic Ocean, where used to be a looming danger. I saw the exhibits of Tinubu's vision, sagacity, innovation, courage, and sheer brilliance.

Today, with a 146 billion dollar-economy, Lagos is the 5th largest economy in Africa. Lagos presently receives more than 90% of foreign direct investment in Nigeria. Tinubu's fingerprints are all over these notable and undeniable achievements no matter the precision of economic and social forensics that may be performed on the State.

One may be envious of Tinubu, lie against Tinubu, and even hate him, but all these cannot CHANGE THE FACTS ON GROUND.
All these and more make Asiwaju Tinubu my CANDIDATE. May God whom I serve in truth and clear conscience preserve this mentor of men as the NEXT PRESIDENT OF NIGERIA. Is there not a cause?

Leonard Karshima Shilgba
https://www.facebook.com/1110520304/posts/pfbid037BrHTLE4NyTKeFde7tXiCxM6PoK5o9fLACNWuwHUBjfGDDyrMth6b7E56j2YBAGql/
CrimeRe: Insecurity: Terror Attacks May Start Another War In Nigeria – OPC by Davies25: 7:11am On Jul 29, 2022
Those fanning the embers of war have never experienced one.
No one is safe in a war. No one is free in a war. You will fast and pray for this little peace you take for granted now.
I wish you all understand what war is..
I rest.
PoliticsRe: SDP's Adewole Adebayo Discusses How He Plans To "Fix Nigeria" by Davies25: 6:59am On Jul 29, 2022
If you really love Nigeria and you want her growth, there are tens of better Candidates you can choose from apart from Atiku, Tinubu or Obi. These 3 are part of the same corrupt system. No real change will happen with them in power.
But some people are so fanatical in their followership they are blind to reason.
They do not have the love of Nigeria, only the Love for their ethnic groups, religion and Political party.
Most Nigerians are her enemy.
I rest.
FamilyRe: Urgent Advice Needed. by Davies25(op): 10:46am On Jul 23, 2022
Stevenbright:
If it is roofed already, put windows, move in and manage it and then continue working on it at your own pace without having to borrow any money.
Ha, i can't live in an uncompleted building oh grin
FamilyRe: Urgent Advice Needed. by Davies25(op): 10:40am On Jul 23, 2022
Dailyparrot:
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Can you throw light on how many siblings you have, your position in the family, and how your relationship with each other looks like.

PS: Except you must have lived up your expenses in the house, then you should not be bothered whether your siblings come to drag the house with you in the near future. Imagine living there for the next 10 years, calculate the savings and see that you still gained putting money there no matter what happens in the future.
Thank you,
I sought clarification, it's my mom's place.
She promised to do an affidavit.
But i think she's reluctant to do it and i don't want to push it.
I'm the last born. On the face level, no one is ever coming to disturb me or lay claim. But people can be unpredictable.

It's a room n parlour, with a self contained by the side ( I'm not working on the self contained yet) so, it would be too small for me in the nearest future Except if i rent it out.
FamilyRe: Urgent Advice Needed. by Davies25(op): 10:34am On Jul 23, 2022
Channah1:
Why didn't you draw out a proper plan and first calculate the cost before going ahead with the building project? Even the Bible says so. Now you're caught in the middle of nowhere, planless.

I'll advise you drop the project first, put it on rent and use the money you get from the rent to complete it for the tenant while you get a place to stay for the meantime.

Thank you, you are right.
I'm just looking for a way forward cos i know i already bleeped up.

To make it rentable, i will still need that 800k
A room n parlour here is around 150-170k/annum
So, 2 years rent is still 300k.
Not even close to what I need to complete it

Next time, plan very well before starting anything.
FamilyRe: Urgent Advice Needed. by Davies25(op): 10:31am On Jul 23, 2022
Naijaolosho2:
Not only a 3 bedroom flat,it will build 4flats. Many of you don't know what the market says now and yet you'll come here making foolish assumptions, I doubt if you've ever done a house project before.
Thanks man,
If i know i would spend half of that, i won't have even started it since i have my own land somewhere else.
Things are crazy expensive right now
FamilyRe: Urgent Advice Needed. by Davies25(op): 10:29am On Jul 23, 2022
Mariangeles:
If after completing the building, you're able to live in it for up to 10-15 years at least without paying rent, that alone would've been a good investment (in my opinion).
Still, you can have the discussion with your parents and siblings, to establish an agreement.
I can't cos it's a small place.
Rent would be the only option.
Yes, i had the discussion with my mom.
She said, it's mine.
I just want to know if it's a good investment since I'm probably never going to be able to sell it
FamilyRe: Urgent Advice Needed. by Davies25(op): 10:23am On Jul 23, 2022
Munzy14:
Your write up doesn't correspond if I look at from an Engineering view.

Uncompleted single room? At what stage did you took over the construction?

Block work stage?

Lintel stage?
Roofed stage?

Because 1.4M will buid a one room from scratch to pack in...With balance.

Family inheritance are usually dicey if you aren't the first son, nor last born...

In my place only this two get inheritance without arguments..
First son takes over his father's obi (house).

Last born inherits the land allocated to his mom for cultivation..This land is that small land at the back of a family house in the village where mothers throw away kitchen waste and sewage.

Other inheritance are now shared to benefit every member.

If you can renovate the house and stay there, save up for some years to get yours even na remote area, fine...No investment is waste.

Land is the only thing that appreciates in nature.
Are you serious?
Tiler just gave me a 300k bill
Electrification more than 200k
Plumber more than 280k
Doors 310k
Pop, i don't even know yet.
Plastering is gulping more than 150k already.
I took over after roofing, and yes, i will spend more than 1.4m to make it livable

Thanks anyway.
I'm the last born. Mentioning inheritance is making feel like an idiot and a do no good.
FamilyRe: Urgent Advice Needed. by Davies25(op): 8:34pm On Jul 16, 2022
Mariangeles:
Finish what you started by completing the building your parents gave you.
You've gone too far to neglect it now, and paying your rent after everything would be a waste of effort and investment.
If you have the money to pay your rent, use it to complete the house and move in (it'll save you future expenses).
Thank you.

That 800k will pay my rent for 3 n half years.
My fear is; no official documents was given me, won't it amount to a waste if later my other siblings are laying claim to it. Since i didn't start it. ( Humans are unpredictable)
FamilyRe: Urgent Advice Needed. by Davies25(op): 8:30pm On Jul 16, 2022
Rubbiish:
Why are u rushing to complete the building if your parents gave it you? If money for ur rent can't complete it, pay ur rent while u complete it gradually.
Yes, this is what I feel like doing. But my landlord is aware of the house and he has told me he isn't collecting rent from me again. He expects me to move to the house.
So, that means am getting a new place.
2) The general opinion including my parents is that i should complete it that paying another rent would be a waste.
FamilyUrgent Advice Needed. by Davies25(op): 7:21pm On Jul 16, 2022
Good day Nairalanders,


My rent is expiring soon.
I was given an uncompleted one bedroom building by my parents (no official documents)
I was in a difficult place financially so i decided to renovate/complete the building instead of renewing my house rent.
Thus far, i have spent about 600k
And i will still need close to 800k or more to make the place habitable.

My thought at first was that if i spend the equivalent of my 2 years rent (400k). The house will be habitable and i can move in.
But now, I'm spending money i don't have.

My rent is expiring soon, should i look for the 800k and complete the building or i should just renew my rent and let go of my 600k investment??

Note: I'm broke, if I'm looking for the money it will be a high interest loan.

I'm just confused. I need help here.
Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: I Need Someone To Talk To. by Davies25(op): 12:28am On Oct 26, 2021
Davies25:
I am not bored. I am an introvert, going through some emotional stuff, I would like to have an emotional sounding board, someone to act as a friend. I haven't gotten any.
If you are going through stuff too, I can be your listening hear, I'm good at calming people, seeing the greater picture. I can be that person who will always be there for you emotionally. This profile is an alt profile. Single females, no matter the age are welcome.
Married but not happy? You are welcome too. Let's help each other get out of whatever we are going through...
Send me a WhatsApp message on 07038152004.
I can't reach my mail right now.
RomanceRe: What Is Bothering Your Mind Now? by Davies25: 12:26am On Oct 26, 2021
Guestonline:
A whole lot actually embarassed embarassed
Can you please message me on WhatsApp?
07038152004. Can't access my mail right now. Thanks
Dating And Meet-up ZoneI Need Someone To Talk To. by Davies25(op):
I am not bored. I am an introvert, going through some emotional stuff, I would like to have an emotional sounding board, someone to act as a friend. I haven't gotten any.
If you are going through stuff too, I can be your listening hear, I'm good at calming people, seeing the greater picture. I can be that person who will always be there for you emotionally. This profile is an alt profile. Single females, no matter the age are welcome.
Married but not happy? You are welcome too. Let's help each other get out of whatever we are going through...
Send me a WhatsApp message on 07038152004.
PoliticsRe: Attairu Jega: PDP, APC Have Led Nigeria Astray For 21 Years by Davies25: 7:57am On Oct 10, 2021
With all the comments above, if you have sense you will know that we have missed it in this country. See senseless emotions. Like Nigeria was paradise before Buhari. Like Jega should have rigged for them. Imagine them spurting repulsive words! Kai!!

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