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Enlightening.... now I know better.

OK oooo

iceberylin:
Lets wait till he finds out the truth....

Take your Pessimistic self outta this thread.

It seems like everyone is in a race to be the best
— the best parent, the best spouse, the best
neighbor, the best PTA president. To become
the best, people often lose sight of the things
that really matter. Unfortunately, I’ve even seen
this in my own life. As my husband worked
toward a law degree, I pushed forward, day
after day, trying my best to be a supportive
wife — the best homemaker, the best mom, the
best neighbor, etc. But I often found myself
burned out and discouraged. At times, I just
couldn’t do it.
This shouldn’t have happened. I shouldn’t have
allowed myself to become consumed by the
need to be the best in every aspect of life, and
neither should you. As I contemplated what I
needed to change, I realized I was carrying
garbage. I was holding on to habits and
thoughts that were tearing me down. I needed
to throw things out and never look back again.
Here are five pieces of garbage you should
quickly toss out and never hoard.

Doubt:
When my husband started law school, we
moved hundreds of miles away from family and
friends. I knew nobody and I could hardly
navigate our town with the million one-way
streets. I had a lot of doubt about what my
husband and I were doing, why we felt we were
supposed to be in this town, how I was going to
raise a family so far away from my family, etc.
According to an article in the Huffington Post,
self-doubt leads to anxiety and depression,
which, in turn, leads to numerous physical and
mental consequences like weight gain, high
blood pressure and chronic fatigue.
When doubt creeps into our minds, when we
start to question “why,” it can consume us. It
can tear us down until we give up on
everything. However, it doesn’t have to. When
you start to experience doubt, pull out your
notebook and make a list of all the good in your
situation. Think about your good qualities,
about the blessings and tender mercies you
receive each and every day. Also, don’t be
afraid to talk to someone about your feelings.
Positivity from another person is the perfect
way to throw out any doubt you have about
yourself or your current situation.

Fear of failure:
It isn’t uncommon to let the fear of failure stop
us from accomplishing our goals. When
thoughts of failure creep into your mind, just
think about the worst possible scenario. Often,
it really isn’t as bad as you think, or you can
plan ahead to avoid that situation. When you
create a plan, you are prepared. When you are
prepared, you cannot fail.

Procrastination:
Procrastination is a terrible, nasty habit that will
only stop you from reaching your full potential.
Many people come up with a million excuses
why they should put something off: the kids are
taking a nap, I’ll wait until my husband comes
home, etc. However, putting things off doesn’t
help. In fact, it only makes things worse. I am a
firm believer in creating a daily to-do list and
schedule. If you know exactly what needs to be
done and you prioritize your tasks, it is easier to
keep working throughout the day. Plus, the
feeling of satisfaction as you cross items off the
list is contagious.

Laziness:
Laziness goes hand-in-hand with
procrastination. Being lazy doesn’t just mean
being idle in family and household
responsibilities. It also refers to our physical
bodies and our health. If we do not put forth
the effort to properly care for our bodies, we
won’t have the energy to become our best. We
won’t be able to care for our children, be
supportive spouses and manage our
households. Throw away your lazy habits and
participate in some type of physical activity
every day. It doesn’t have to be a large or
overexerting workout — just move. Also, be
careful of what you eat. You don’t want to eat
anything that will suck away your energy. Put
food in your body that will fuel it like fruits,
veggies, protein, etc.

Over-analyzing:
We may not realize it, but over-analyzing
situations can be a large burden on us and it’s
something we need to get rid of fast. We may
find ourselves in many situations where we
don’t feel comfortable or something is said that
makes us upset. People may critique your
parenting or say something about your
marriage or how you run your household, etc.
Don’t overanalyze what they say. If it isn’t kind
or if it is judgmental, push it away. Don’t dwell
on it and don’t think about it.
You can easily lose sight of the things that
matter by losing focus on your life. Evaluate
your life. Think about those things that are
tearing you down and throw them out. Get a
giant garbage can and chuck them. You will
feel so much better

IamLEGEND1:
walking in faith my foot.

While elsewhere you're lying,gossiping & cheating in ur exams and probably banging 2 side Niggaz. I might as well go look for a nun in a brothel.

Nónsense

and who made you a judge over her life?
stop making offensive comments about someone you know nothing about.
learn to respect Ppl's decision.

Biafra never start and Una don dey expel unaselves.... who is deceiving who? An Average Igbo Man cannot Co-habit with a fellow Igbo in peace yet they want a Nation of their Own..... Mtcheew.... Abeg, Make I hear Word.....Biafra ma Left Ball.

APC has until Friday to Decide on who to Adopt officially... and they beta do that fast because WADA ain't coming back ooo.. Personally, I don't see the need for confusion. Mr. James Faleke could easily have Carried on and someone else like Mr. Yahaya asked to replace him.

cumz:
where's saurezitttoooo.... what the Bleep is penaldo doing on that fucking list

Go sleep Ma Friend... Who Suarez wan bench for that List?

Abeg, Make Fifa go Siddon... we already know the Winner.

i'm More Familiar with the name than with the face. R.I.P to the Dead. I Hope she died Knowing Christ.

I couldn't Agree More.

wait, I tot Yahaya Bello was the guy APC settled for? Where this news con commot from?
Ah Swear this Kogi Matter don dey "Buhari" me cos i'm so confused.

If it's true, then Ma Oga Name dey follow am Well well.... Chai... to think Nigeria once Had this Goodluck but allowed themselves to be One-Chanced into a retrogressive Change..
No weapon formed against you Shall Prosper sir. Dem go always dey try and Fail because you be beta person and God dey with you.
APC, I hope you see the kind of Change you have brought... Assassination attempts everywhere now. OK oooo. There is God ooooo.

This one na Direct Invitation.

waiting to hit FP

More Ppl joining the Wailing Wagon... Pls don't be left behind ooo.. it's High time someone listens to Our Wailing... #ProudlyAWailer.

She Probably offered him the handshake... and him no get the liver to refuse her... But him get liver to shun our Nigerian Women.... SMH. if he can shake her, then he should be able to shake every other woman... But hypocrisy won't let him.

Spare us this long epistle abeg... A Man does not leave his house on Fire 2go and and sit down with others whose houses are air-Conditioned. he's been travelling for the past six Months and we haven't seen the effect of the Travelling. Will he be sacked if he doesn't attend the meetings Everyone knows Nigeria is being terrorised yet our President jes keep Hovering around smiling and Dining. December don reach oo..... Beta come back and flush away BH boys as you promised.... Gosh... it's annoying Mehn.. BOKO boys dey do their own, Biafrans dey protest, Queues dey pile up for Stations... yet you still dey run around all in the name of seeking for Help... DAMN.. WE'VE BEEN SCAMMED REAL HARD

Pastors Children these days are the worst.... Sometimes if you see the things they do it makes you wonder. and all they say is "Ma Father is the Pastor not Me".... anyway, too Many Fake Pastors around these days... I neva tot i'd say this but END TIMES INDEED.

akinyeleaa:
Some of y'all just don't get it. None of those ladies made the move to shake him, probably due to personal reasons. My guess is dat the first lady had reservations as to shaking men, probably her beliefs, so the other ladies probably decided not to make such moves. Its not just about Buhari, a former education minister under Jonathan, Prof Rukayat Rufai never shook his hands due to her personal reasons. Buhari has no problems shaking ladies, as he had done so in the past severally, even Oshiomole s wife. U guys should try to be objective with your criticisms else you look foolish

So you are saying that if you meet the President now, you'll be the first to make a move in Shaking him. Guy, your excuse is LAME.

I saw it coming... The Single "HELLO" was such a hit I would be Surprised if the album didn't break records. Kudos to her.. Thank God say Nobi Naija, if not the Album for don full every blog for free download by now.

Didn't watch the Fight but was Happy that Fury won. always had that believe that he would win. @last Klitschko lost a fight...that goes to show that Nothing lasts forever. Congrats to the new Heavy Champ..TYSON FURY

With all these things Happening now Four years seems to have become a Very Long time.

seyirock:
lazy men always find excuse...what is worth doing is worth doing well,if school is worth coming I don't see why good grade is not worth having.

I agree with you.... that's why I said student should strive to have good grades... or you want tell me say you no see that one?

olapluto:
People like you should be avoided. If you know where First class takes people, you wont type what you just did.
Believe me when CVs are in front of employers, it takes some balls to push aside a 1st class graduate in favour of a 2:1 or 2:2.

Guy, I didn't in any way condemn getting a First Class.. or didn't you read where I said student should strive to make good grades? if you're smart enough you should see the point that i'm trying to pass across which is, don't hustle to depend solely on your result or you want to tell me that i'm wrong too.... Ma dear, like it or not, it's the bitter truth you'll have to swallow. This is Nigeria and this is 2015.... Things have changed.. Open ya eyes.

abrahambest:
You are very on point.

Na True na... Na with your first class u wan dey collect #5000 monthly on top say you no get work? Won't you feel ashame collecting that money? Ma Guy, times have changed ooo.... so it's beta to change Approach too. Degrees used to fetch money, but that was yrs ago.

OP when will you Understand that First class Degree doesn't guarantee you a First class life? i'm not saying Getting first class isn't good ooo.. But in Nigeria today, it's as good as Nothing. Ppl roam the streets today looking for work everywhere. the economy is bad... even ppl with first class that are lucky enough to get work are loosing the Work daily. I think it's time every Nigerian youth acquire a Skill.. work with your hand... and be Smart with your Work. this first class You are talking about not everyone has the brain for it... some ppl no matter how hard they try can only make do with 2'1... Some have First class brain but couldn't make it due to other reasons...
Exams are not necessarily the true test of intelligence. Life itself is the real exam and only the ones who becomes successful are termed Smart and Brave regardless of the degree. How would you feel having a First class but working for someone with a third class or Second class lower and calling him Boss.?? Students should try as much as possible to get Good grades but shouldn't depend on it cos good grades ain't good life.. (at least not in Nigeria).. get a Skill, enhance your Skill and be Smart @what you do. In no time, you won't have to depend on a Useless Government 

P.S 
A friend once said, educating the Man without educating the Mind is no education @all... I Drop ma pen here.

Finally Someone in APC (All Progressive Cheats) know the Truth and is Bold enough to say it.... I hope he doesn't go missing after this.

Compatibility is an utmost essential requirement
for any love relationship to bloom and last
forever. Often we see people getting in
relationship with someone whom they find
attractive, talented or wealthy, but they are not
necessarily compatible with each other.
Obviously, no two people can think alike on all
the matters and be on the same level always.
Some disparities are bound to occur in every
relationship. However, it is important to ensure
that the differences between you and your
partner are not so big that it gets difficult to
continue a harmonious and loving relationship.
Below are some of the signs that you need to
watch out for as they indicate that you and your
partner are not compatible.

#1. Your mate is always unaware of your
feelings
If your partner never really knows how you feel
about everything surrounding you, then it is
time that you reconsider your relationship with
them. He/she does not have to be a mind
reader, but it certainly makes life easy for both
of you if you can understand each other without
the need of putting feelings in words always.

#2. There is very little spark between you and
your mate
You do like your partner, but somehow you feel
that your chemistry lacks spark. Maybe this is a
sign that you are just not meant to be together.

[b]#3. You and your partner have very few things
in common[\b]

You like romantic outings, while your mate
loves to go for adventurous trips. For you,
spending time with family and friends is a
priority over other stuff, but your partner feels
that meeting deadlines and going for official
lunches and dinners are important than
socialising with closed ones. If such is the case,
then clearly the thought process of you and
your partner does not match. It is necessary
that you review your relationship with them
before it gets too late.

[b] #4. There is hardly anything to talk about [\b]

When you meet or call each other, do you have
to think very hard about things that you both
could talk about? After exchanging pleasantries
and discussing about the weather, do you feel it
is tough to continue the conversation with your
partner? If holding the conversation is a
challenge, then sustaining a long-term
relationship surely stands a bleak chance.

[b] #5. Perceptions and personalities do not match [\b]

Do you and your partner react very differently
to the same thing? Having different
personalities and holding diversely opposing
perceptions about same issues show that you
and your partner are just not compatible.
It might not always be necessary that you and
your partner would hold the same opinion on all
things, be it religion, politics, family, career, life
or anything else. However, it is important for
you both to have respect for each other’s
beliefs, career choices, political affiliations and
religious sentiments to maintain a healthy
relationship. If your partner ridicules your
beliefs and questions your opinion every time
you express them, then it is a sign that you and
your partner are not made for each other.

#6. Your partner often lets you down [\b]

Does your partner repeat mistakes that have
hurt you in the past again and again, without
actually feeling sorry? If so, then it shows that
your partner has little regard for your feelings
and hence, he/she keeps on doing things that
will makes you upset.

[b] #7. You hardly miss each other’s absence

If being away from your partner for several
days does not bother you or your partner, then
you can be sure that the passion, which makes
any love relationship thrive, is missing. And, you
need to reconsider your relationship status with
your partner.

#8. You find it difficult to adjust with the traits
of your partner

If you find yourself always feeling annoyed with
whatever your partner does, then clearly there
is some incompatibility issue between the two
of you. If their habits make you feel irritated
more than happy, then it is going to be really
hard for you both to sustain your relationship
for too long.

#9. You do not get support you deserve from
your partner
It can be very disappointing when you feel that
your partner should stand for you during your
crucial moments and they fail to do so. Not
getting adequate support from your partner on
key issues can cause a lot of friction in your
relationship.

#10. Your partner listens to others more than
you
Many couples often do not pay heed to the
opinion given by their own partner, and rather
prefer to listen to what the world has to say.
However, neglecting the viewpoint of your
partner and listening to others in case of
important matters, pertaining especially to
family, children and career can spell danger for
your long-term relationship.

#11. Your partner makes you feel like a slacker
Sharing uncommon interests or divergent views
should not mean that your partner must hold
yours as any lesser. Look for someone else if
your partner talks down to you.

#12. Not sharing things with your partner
Another sign of incompatibility between you
and your partner is, when you start keeping
away secrets from each other. Often, you do
not mention about important occurrences or
events of the day just because your partner
does not care to listen to them. You keep things
from your partner simply because you know
that he/she will not care.

#13. You do not enjoy going out with your
partner
Spending quality time with each other is
something that all couples look forward to as
this makes relationships stronger. However, if in
your case, going out together is something you
dread and passing time in each other’s
company looks like a grave challenge, then your
relationship is certainly going through a serious
compatibility issue.

#14. There are constant fights between you and your partner
Small bickerings are a part of every relationship,
but if you and your partner are constantly
fighting even over petty issues, then it is a sure-
shot sign that you two are not meant to be
together.

If any of the above signs show up in your
relationship, then it is certainly a sign of
incompatibility between you and your partner. It
will gradually eat up your happiness. In order to
resolve issues try to have an open
communication with your partner first . But if
the problem still persists, then know that this
match was just not made in heaven.

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