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airforcewife:
Congrats Lululuv, first baby of the month! May God bless your LO Amin.

Cappo we are good, bags not packed but soon InshaAllah.
Xeexee1 we thank God for those movements, nothing to worry about. Baby just letting you know its doing absolutely fine in there.
Dazzle86 thats just exactly me, i get the jolts too. #proudteamsugust! #supernaturaldelivery4all.
Finish line in sight..

Oh really, are you also on the slim side?

mamatwiny:
Quick one, how much is hormonal assay?

Varies between 10 and 20k

lululuv:
B.A! B.A!! B.A!!! TO THE GLORY OF GOD, MY BOY MASTER LIGHT, WALKED IN, IN GRAND STYLE OO. V. B B.S LETA. WE RE FINE

Congratulations mama, welcome baby boy. Let the birth alerts start dropping.

CheeryChy:
Insomnia... I can't sleep
In other words, Happy New Month mamas!
Safe delivery to all July Mamas.

Same here. Happy new month

xeexee1:
Hello my august teamie.. whose facing dis kicks in the belly as if the baby is eager to com out abeg mak una answer mak my mind rest fear they catch me seriouzly hope no be pre term ooo

I feel like that too. The kicks are sometimes so strong that it jolts me. I feel my own is that strong cause I am a slim person and have only a thin layer of fat
my tummy, so not much to cushion the kicks.

ToyosiR:
Mama the mama's, How body dey do u ?
Greeting everyone in swahili

asubuhi salamu,,, Habari yako?

Hope August mama's don dey park them bag. You know our neighbours are caring and they will give us small space...

Wishing our july mama, quick quick and supernatural delivery..

cappo phlakkeys abeg, tell ya people make dem shift small for us oooo. Some of our mama will be willing to join your force.

God will grant us a happy and stressfree delivery at the end.

My able cappo, what I battle now is the constant urge to pee, it's a challenge at night, constantly waking up to pee. Bags are not packed yet, will be packed before end of July by God's grace. God is our strength. We are gradually getting there.

Hello teamies, we have just one month to go to meet our Los. Congratulations to team june. Team July over to you.
I tire for team October aka team Benjamins/bebetos they are always oppressing their seniors. July, August and September still dey ground. *Tongue out*
Ehen back to my swagalicious, portable bump teamies aka team august. How many of you have started having pregnancy face and swollen feet, plus darker skin. My own don dey start small small, though my sister is telling me the face one is in my head, but today someone at work actually commented on my face so I know it's not in my head. So to make my self feel better I went to make a new hairstyle to help mask the face and I feel pretty now.

Nnetriplet:
I need help with a girl in my next door neighbour's house, this Lady for no apparent reason hates and stresses me out daily by verbally harassing me, there is a fence separating us but she moves close to their fence and shouts so that I can hear her properly....hubby said I should ignore her but it could have been easier if I was working, am stuck with her day in day out....I'm loosing weight seriously because of her and is not good for my unborn baby am thinking always...the worst is that her sister and her children are aware of it but they do ear like say them no dey hear

Have your earphones on.

MoyosBlog123:
I don repost

I no see am o. Did I miss it again

beyedew:
Mamas, Please I Need Help!!!
Don't Read and Pass Ejoo!!!

Hmmmm, so my dh is back and has been wanting to do love wantintin, I kept on giving him one excuse or the other  **my back aches, my head is paining me in my nose, every excuse you can find**. The man has begged tire! Ok, don't do anything, just lie down, let me do the work, mba! Ino gree! Ok, it will not enter, I will just use it and rub on the surface (pardin! Nobi rubbing it for surface you use take tiff my virginity that year? Na lie oo, this girl don wise up mbok!). Em don carry face tire! So yesterday I decided ooo, on my own to look for trouble ooo, naso I use my hand start type message dey send ooo, hmmm, dh saw it and was very happy and entered the mood. We send message tire! He had to leave very early. Got home very early! Sent our help home, helped in putting his son to sleep early! Finally, it was about to go down. Mamas ooo, I tried all the styles I knew but none of them worked for me ooo, I was uncomfy in all! Hmmmm! Even dear old missionary, my back be like say e wan break, even with all the supporting pillows, e no gree work. Hmmm, na dia I dey borrow myself sense say if after all the mouth and nothing goes down and we have to look for other ways, hmmmm, the story will be used against me even when I don enter grave ooo. My sisters, na dia I dey remember dear old uncle doggy (Giddyperson ) , it was our go-to during my 1st baby's time. My sisters, na so I position ooo. Dh was happy, naso him fire on! When I started feeling pains, I tried telling him that "baby, this thing is hurting me ooo", oga no even answer me, em dey dey fire dey go. Well, I decided to bear the pain after all its been a while now (since Feb, I doff cap for am cos I know who I get!). After all the wantintin love, I wanted to stand up now, na there my waist dey hook! I couldn't move, it felt like the adhesive that held my waist together shifted. Naso I just hook for there. My dh asked "baby, are you ok?" I replied yes ooo, that I just needed to catch my breathe, it's been a while baby, just go to bed (make I tell am say my waist hook? I won't hear the end of it even in my grave at old age true. You will always hear something like "see you, by the time I handle you now, your waist alignment go shift go one side".... mbanu, Chukwu ajuu!). I stayed that way, thank God shortly after he went off to ulala land. Inono as I manage am, but I maneuvered myself, waist, alignment and all to the bed where I stayed for a long time till at last I slept. This morning, Oga woke up very early, arranged room, kept on singing one joyful song to another. He was clearly happy without knowing how I was feeling, I faked my legendary tiredness, em no even notice am, he was over the moon you know. Me too, I faked happiness, ino wan carry last mbok! I'm just getting myself now you see.

Now, my problem and my need for help is that my guy has started sending me messages, I have refused to reply because I need solution first before I embark on this journey. Why I'm asking is because if my waist see wetin e see yesterday night today again, walahi, the alignment go leave me run. How do I escape this or what other style is convenient? Make I see waist wey I go use take born this lovely baby that has reduced me to this. Biko, make una help my ministry ejoo! I bin dey think say I be baddoo, but today ayam humble! Oya ooo, no advice is too small and no style will be shunned! I will try all! I just need the one that will favor my waist. Help save my waist biko!

Lol, I know you are passing through pains but I couldn't help laughing.

MoyosBlog123:
Yesterday was Belle belle Tuesday.....lemme showcase my talent today
#Teamsepetember #Team biggie biggie Belle
#27.6days pregnant.

Wey the Belle

mizz2posh:
Yes you can too, im exclusively breastfeeding.

I thought so, your baby looks so healthy and chubby.

mizz2posh:
As promised, here's a photo of me. Before was last month at 38wks and After is today, 3wks post partum.

Beautiful, I hope I will be able to snap back this fast. Are you exclusively breastfeeding your baby?

Anugod:
I jus tire o
The tin no gree show make I use am oppress DH

Mine was like that too. Don't worry it will show soon enough then you can do all the oppression and much more.

curvilicious:
Nnejina, don born o

Congratulations Nnejima

Anugod:
Took this pix at 16 weeks. Haven't noticed any difference since then sha. Maybe by next week, I'll have a bump like CheeryChy


#NobumpyetbutIknowbaby'sbaking#
#Biggiebelleprepregnancy#
#Since belleful mamas no gree show, make I showcase bump-less me#


#NovemberforKingsandQueens#

i


Amala bump

customised87:
Congrats to Clinik and Nnejima ,God bless the LOs.
Oya make I kukuma open floor for bumpy Tuesday!
#BumpyTuesdayFirstTimer#BabyBumpAt35weeks#
#TeamJulyForNoLoss#

This bump and your body is just like mine. I am still slim with my bump.

curvilicious:
Nnejima, don born o Yay!!!!!!!!!!

Praise be to Jehovah. Congratulations Nnejima. July mamas are porting. It's good sef , you guys were too many.

clinik:
BIRTH ALERT
Thank God our cappo said porting is allowed,i bless God for d grand entrance of my princess at 12.03am....mum and baby are doing well,just a bit tired.

Congratulations mama

Giddyperson:
Lmao @Benjamin button style. Yeah I'm done. I'm in love with Aria Stark and Sam the coward . A girl can't wait for next season to be out.

Hahahaha A girl has to wait till July. I am in love with Jon, Tyrion and dynerys, varys the eunuch, can't wait till little finger is killed. You went through it very fast cos it's a great show and you just can't get enough of it. I still watch reruns from season 1 to 6. I hear they will start spin offs from the show after the final season.
The new season will be just 6 long episodes of over an hour, same with the final season.
I am obsessed with GOT.

Giddyperson hafa with your Benjamin Button style of watching game of Thrones? I hope you are loving the show. .

demiiii:
Thanks

Thanks to all the mamas that answered my questions, God bless you. Woke up at 4am to eat, yawn I am going back to sleep. Thank God for the holidays.

Good morning house. I have some questions for experienced mamas.
1. How fast does lactation start after delivery for both cs and normal delivery? Because I read online that it takes a few days, does it mean I need to buy baby milk ahead, for the baby to feed on till my milk comes in
2. Is there a way of knowing if I will lactate fast? I have heard some women leak before delivery, I am 31 weeks plus 3 days and yet to notice any leaks.

Rhemy2013:
Benny u fuckup

I don't think this is necessary.

Heavy down pour in Ibadan. No work for me today. Lying on my bed sipping on some hot milk and nairalanding. Let the rain kwontinue. ;DHeavy down pour in Ibadan. No work for me today. Lying on my bed sipping on some hot milk and nairalanding. Let the rain kwontinue.

zaynie:
Mmotimo,
In this case being a SAHW is one of the reasons o.
SAHW... Not mom.
It is working out well for you and many women out there because you have a good man walking the road with you.
Not so many women are that lucky.
She's living with her in-laws and her husband. So they're all at home all the time....
Together!
Think am .....
Do you know what happened the day she was to deliver?


1. She should have walked out a long time ago.
2. Since she didn't, she should have got herself busy by leaving the house. It's not about the income, it's about a little bit of independence and a fresh breathe of air.
3. She can't come here airing her woes when she knows her husband will see this and counter at home. Considering he has all the power at the moment.
4. Your in-laws won't want you to leave. With their grandbaby.
5. You begging means you're not really ready. He's making you make this decision.


In fact.... I'm going to sit this one out.
I've learnt that women in her shoes will only act when they've had enough.
I wish her well.


In other news, Her husband is already under fire from NLers....
Choi!
It sucks to be him right now?

Lmao really

MMotimo:
Sorry to intrude here, I am not pregnant and have not been in many many years.

The journey that led me here started with my checking the family section over the weekend and stumbling onto a post where someone was accused of tribal bigotry. As is often the case when a post piques my interest, I did a check of post history which led me to the diaries section and this thread. I spent quite a bit of time on that diary and I also flicked through Bennny's post history outside of diaries. I was worried about her yesterday when I checked her post history and that is how I landed here this evening.

The main reason why I am posting a comment is because of posts suggesting having an income can help you when you fall for an abusive man or help you escape the abuse. That is a very popular myth. I have known a number of abused women in my lifetime and every single one of them has an income. In fact, they have all been very well educated with very good jobs.

Anyone that has read Benny's diary can deduce very quickly that her husband is not loaded, quite the contrary as a matter of fact. I know stay at home Moms are not many in Naija as women have become convinced that it is some kind of servitude or victim position to turn a normal husband into an abusive one. In my years on Nland I have had cause, multiple times, to come out against such fables, when I see them. Your not having an income is not what turns your husband to an abuser. Your husband abuses you because he is an abuser. Abusers are predators, they pick their prey. Benny's profile, at least the online one I see, fits almost to a T what an abuser would look for. The fact that she's able to share some of his negatives with the outside world on a regular basis, is very atypical of that victim profile and that suggests to me she's a fighter and she can break the cycle. It has taken her time to voice out that he is physically abusive but if he has not been able to shut your mouth, you need to build very quickly on the strength that has helped you preserve your voice

I am Nigerian, married to a Nigerian man and I stayed home for years when our kids were young because my husband and I agreed together and it made sense. Everyone's family is different, it will never make sense in some families especially the economics of it. However, a lot of families still pull it off. It is for the sake of the latter group I am posting. Please do not start imagining your spouse turning into a beast because you are staying home. It doesn't work that way. The first rule is to know whom you are marrying and please, please, please, plan together as one unit. Staying home is very mathematical, amongst other factors, calculate whether or not it makes sense and make sure you are both in agreement. It is not a matter of compulsion.

Reading Benny's diary over the weekend, I could tell the abuse started a long time ago and reading several other posts, it was obvious she made several mistakes in the relationship, including getting pregnant multiple times for an unemployed graduate when she has no job herself, even when he already expressed the opinion that he did not want a child. Again I read non diary posts to sum up the picture. My people, romance without finance is VERY tough. Neither of the 2 parties is very mature and in the end, I am not sure how much thought and effort they put into planning and their union. If she got a million dollar job today, he would still be abusive towards her. He might love her in a way he understands but he does not respect her. Respect is a major pillar in any healthy marital relationships.

Benny, I don't blame you for everything, I sense there is a lot to your story stemming from your parents' home and I suspect a culmination of several events or non events have led you to the present state. I was very happy to read that your parents will welcome you back home. I think that is where you belong right now. I am not sure why you are waiting till month end, that does not sound like a good idea. I would think a baby should be able to make the trip but maybe I am under estimating the rigors of road travel from Lagos to the East.

Please, go and work on yourself before you consider any form of emotional entanglement with the same or another man. You need to clean yourself up emotionally and build your self esteem. You are made in God's image, a beautiful girl by any standards. You are worth a lot more than a punching bag. Your husband needs help too and I pray you both get it. I am not saying leave or don't leave your husband, that advice is beyond me but I am saying go back home, surround yourself with love on every side and rebuild. May God help you.

If there are no stay home Moms here, feel free to ignore my epistle. Once again, apologies for the intrusion and do excuse the length of my post. I cannot but advocate for the SAHM model because I have lived it and a lot of the people in my social circle have as well. Benny's main problem is an abusive husband, not her lack of a job. Even now, it is going to take a lot for her to leave him if that is what her head tells her to do. It goes beyond not having a job. Let us not confuse issues. Thank you.

P.S Apologies for any errors, I really suck at reading over

Thanks for your contribution ma'am.
Nobody said her not having a job is the cause of the abuse. Advocating that a woman should have a source of income is for her to be able to at least feed and also take care of her kids should the need arise in any form, it could also be death of the man.
If you are are not aware one of the major ways men abuse their wives and kids is to withdraw financial assistance.
Having a job helps a woman, in many ways apart from the financial aspect
It clears your mind, you have somewhere to go to that keeps you sane. You meet people also. All that is better than staying at home wallowing in pain.

I really don't know what to say than, once it gets to the point where the man beats, it's time to give him space. Avoid him like a plague.
Families too should stop sending their daughters back to abusive husbands, just to save face.

Women be financially independent. Do something no matter how small. Never depend solely on a man. Anything can happen. And like my sister always says, keep aside "vex money ". An amount only you are aware of, that you can use to move on if he gets violent or is making your life a living hell.
Also stop praising an abusive man, and pretending all is well. A man who beats you and maltreats you then you still go on social media to praise him. He will read it and think he is doing well by hitting u.
Pray from a distance. It is only someone who is alive that can pray.

Elixir123 , been a while ma'am. How have you been ma.

Nimi22:
Welcome to our Josephine world. Infact weird stupid dreams was one of the signs that made me know i was pregnant. Recently i had a dream and was arguing with the pastor. The pastor said i must have twins i told him I've done scan it's just one, i had to accept it in d dream before it turned another thing. Who knows if dazzle86 prophecy is coming to pass.

Heeheeee

Nimi22:
Welcome to our Josephine world. Infact weird stupid dreams was one of the signs that made me know i was pregnant. Recently i had a dream and was arguing with the pastor. The pastor said i must have twins i told him I've done scan it's just one, i had to accept it in d dream before it turned another thing. Who knows if dazzle86 prophecy is coming to pass.

Heeheeee

4realwoman:
I have done the HSG finally and it wasn't bad at all.
I am feeling now

Great. You are closer to your bfp in Jesus name

queenhecate:
Una never see massive belly.

This is the big one. Me at 36+5.

Just imagine my walk with that bump. Na elephant + duck walk combine be that.

Lol, for 36 weeks plus almost 37, it's not too big o.