Where's Siamia? We stopped seeing her here!

Sweetheart we miss you, we want you here.

Melsan:
Good evening everyone...how una dey?

Evening Melsan! Me dey kajad, hope you're good.

Bisjosh:


Thanks.

Yes am good and you?

I'm very well....Bn partying all day today.

Where you at? Home all day?

Bisjosh:
It seems the bond has been formed here
Making it hard for new peeps to join.

Hey my dear!

Welcome home....there are no cabals here FYI.
Feel free to express your thoughts and convictions on any issue.

Hope you're good btw.

Udysweet, thanks for checking.

Stay safe and enjoy your night.

missbronze:
Toks2008, ddshow, gratefulme40. thanks for your contributions. you guys rock.
All the other silent observers on this thread rocks too.
I love this thread mehn.

We love you more!

Have a blissful night rest.

Toks2008:



You have asked a brilliant question so read careFully.

-A lazy guy is a guy that does absolutely nothing whether job hunting or hustling but blames his joblessness on every other person.

-A struggling guy is a guy that is ready to do anything legitimate to survive irrespective of his level of education while still focusing on his dreams.

-Some gainfully employed guys are lazy but because they are fortunate to get a job, they hide under this euphoria and ladies get carried away but if peradventure they lose that job,their lazy nature will come to fall because they may never have the propensity or initiative do do nada except hope for another job .

-Take away everything from a struggling guy and he is most likely to bounce back even better.

Let me stop here.

Spot On!....Couldn't be explained any better.

missbronze:


The Lady wants commitment, and, the guy refused to commit. He gives the reason of not having enough money he wants to have yet. therefore, he is not ready to settle down.

The lady is ready to contribute in everything, and also willing to manage. She is not the materialistic type, she is respectful, even the guy compliments her for that.

The guy told her point blank he can marry even at the age of 50 if he wants,

The guy is an unserious fellow. He basically has no plan for the lady IMO. His body language is very clear.

If you check well, the guy probably has someone else he's hoping to settle down with or a particular standard of woman he's looking forward to have as wife. He may just be passing time with the lady hoping she'll leave at some point.

The lady has no relationship, she needs to find one.

missbronze:
Wether Joseph or Job, it doesn't matter.


All I am saying we shouldn't place priority on money as a tool for marriage to work out.

It takes more than money.

True tho! Committment alone is greater than money. But in this clime and generation, an average lady wants immediate comfort first even before commitment.

It is only when there are pressures arising as a result of the age factor that most ladies shove aside their premonition about what marriage should be like and then settle for what is obtainable.

bleble14:
@ddshow, how are we, I like ur write up, hope ur nite was great?

Very well, thanks.
Urs?

Toks2008:

Its ok then.
Good morning to you! I believe your night went well.

Toks2008:


My brother its different strokes for different folks abi how dem dey talk am...

In my school of taught, [s]i find it absolutely repulsive to even woo a lady[/s] because you will do sotey woo 2 sisters of same parents in different location and they will now see you as a desperate mofo.

I personally think this is an extremely wrong frame of reference. We are impulsively bound by nature to woo women however our premeditation and intention determines the final outcomes. You can only get to a situation of wooing two sisters when your intentions are iniquitous.

Toks2008:

I am a very bold and daring person but when it comes to woman matter,im very careful. I no fit stop woman for road talk to am lai lai and sometimes after your long epistle when you finally have time to sit with one,she will just laugh and tell you..sorry im engaged and i will just smile at her but for my mind i go say "This girl well at all?,why she allow me waste time after all the planning"

I feel been very careful is wrong, you should be very cheerful instead. Women love charismatic, eloquent and expressive men. It is wrong to seek all information on your first meeting. What is of essence is to make acquaintance. It should be very simple and brief. Find something attractive and open a conversation about it, something like..
Hi My name is...., I love your pair of shoes. Sorry where did you get them? I won't mind if I can get one for my sis or mum. Trust me, it works if you go with a charming heart.

Toks2008:

I remember the day i saw one hot chic and i decided to follow her cos as i wrote,i will never stopp a lady on the road..so i followed her and told myself that day "anywhere this babe go i go follow even if she enter bus to Maiduguri i go enter"

Aftyer walking very long distance she went somewhere and sat down then i just sighed by her side and told her "sis do you freaking know from where i have been following you?" she was like oh sorry o and that alone got me pissed with that sarcastic remark but i swallow spit kon dey tart convo...

After all said and done, na student and year one for that matter and to make matter worse,na 17 year old girl wey carry body like 30year old and i said to myself..this is it..i can't continue this nonsense...

So my dear its not an esy task expecially for decent minded people like me and i no wan make girls know me as area toaster.

I feel you need to establish a principle of natural selection before you walk up to any lady. I don't think you have any reason to have walked that far. The way to go is to make it short for the first time....Just SMILE, APPROACH, CHAT and AIM for a her contact info.

GOOD MORNING !!!!! to all of my e-friends and family! I hope today’s a GREAT day, full of smiles, laughter & blessings, Don’t hide the sunshine inside you.

Lizabeth25:
Just came to read comments! And because you are above 30 doesnt mean you wont marry! Just wait for your turn

You won't just wait for your turn. You'll also need to be steadfast in your beliefs, constantly be on a garmet of love, radiate happiness and drop all egoistic tendencies.

Toks2008:
Honestly i need a woman to come take over me completely because with the way im going im so scared that settling down may not cross my mind and there are many reasons for this.

I am so careful that i fear i may not make up my mind and not that i philander o but honestly i no get strength to woo any lady especially those wey think its still fashionable to prove hard to get.

You have programmed fear into your nervous system and it's been working like an instinct. You need to change your mindset and be audacious in approaching women. Hence, the first major step is to overcome your psychological barriers.

Secondly, always abide by the 3 Second Rule.

At a point in my life when I was looking into the challenge of talking to someone new every day for 30 days, I read about something called the 3 second rule.

The 3 second rule happens to be the most powerful pickup tool a guy or lady could have and is often referred to in these terms, but it’s a great tool for meeting new people in any context. The rule requires that if you see someone you’re interested in talking to, you have 3 seconds to walk up to them and start a conversation. It’s very simple, but extremely effective.

The reason why it’s so effective is because if you wait any longer than 3 seconds, you’ll probably end up over-thinking it and never say anything at all. With only 3 seconds, you don’t have enough time to let anxiety get the best of you. If you see someone you want to talk to, you must immediately go over and talk to them.

Stop worrying about what to say. Anything is better than nothing.

Plus, you’d be surprised by how much people especially Nigerian women actually like being talked to. And if we go back to the anecdote of being in a room full of strangers, how do you feel when someone comes up to you and starts talking to you? You feel great, right? No one wants to be the person who’s standing alone.

If we look at it holistically, you’re actually doing them a favor by talking to them, because out of everyone you've seen, you specifically chose to talk to them. If anything, they’ll be grateful that you chose to talk to them, not weirded out.

And btw, no mature lady is hard to get...all you need is patience, perseverance and the right attitude.

I hope this will help a bit.

Cheers.

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bleble14:
@ddshow, hope niurnite
ent well, good morning

Very well....urs?

Toks2008:


My brother how you dey?

I'm good...Good morning.

bleble14:
@ddshow, Am in Lagos and u?

Lagos as well.

gratefulme40:


My dear i am fine.
How are you? Hope you had a good day.

Lol @inexplicable ban. When you the grammar master does not understand......what shall we learners of oyibo do?

I'm fine my lady....thanks.

We are learners, I've just learnt from you this nite.

[quote author=bleble14 post=39854606]@ddshow thanks and God bless U, hope work was not stressful

We can't help it. Surviving nine months in the womb is the most stressful thing one can ever imagine. Hope you're doing good.
Btw, which city are you?

udysweet:
@ddshow
Loool,am right here bro. Just laying back a bit from commenting ni jare but am good tho. What's up with you? Happy sunday all

Good good Udy...sorry for the late reply, I got an inexplicable ban for antispam bot (i wonder whatever than means)

fourfunmi:
#phew...Finally....since yesterday I joined this thread, I just finished reading the whole 65pages...it already feels like home too.
#Grabs chair and picks a spot!
Lovely evening all...

Welcome home and a wonderful evening to you!

Hope your day went well.

bleble14:
I Love D people here, God bless us all and grant our heart desires in Jesus name

Amen! We love you too.

Please endeavor to check up on us here often enough.

Bless you.

Greetings to all our newbies, we welcome everyone.

Toks2008, Udysweet, Gratefulme40, Melsan, gfm01...and everyone else, I salute.

Udysweet, where at thou?

missbronze:
.

Well, this lady didn't read linguistics in school.

So, pls, translate in Igbo.

Let's start with your name and formal introduction.

Hi Fam! Its been quite sometime.

missbronze:
Ehen, what language is this?

what are you trying to say pls?

káti den akoúgetai sostá......pós boreí na eínai to ónomá sas Missbronze

missbronze:
Good morning.
I am missbronze, not married, based in Abuja, and, old enough to be on this thread.

otokx:
I am otokx, not married, based in Port Harcourt and old enough to be on this thread.

Good day

ασαφής και άσκοπη

Judgemental peeps taking over.

I'll keep observing so I don't get labelled offensive.

Morning everyone.

Beautiful morning to everyone.

TGIF!

Toks2008:

Baba, I remain loyal o...I'm still a learner for where you dey o. How the area? Hope no shaking Sir.

Udysweet, how far babe? What's the 411? This your persona is enthralling o.....e be like say we go set P o.

Siamia, sorry to hear about your gelid fettle! Please get proper medications ok? You'll be fine by his grace.

domwas2:
At 30+ I don't seems getting a serious relationship yet, all my female friends I love all they want is gifts, birthday things, fu*k etc none ever talking about marriage stuff
And when I bring up marriage talks all they respond are excuses...
But the ladies I don't love are the ones ready to settle down with me, even some wanna have my baby.
Nawa o

.

Boss, when you are ready, you'll surely find the right one. Trust me, u ain't ready...you are obviously still enjoying the moment. If you are ready and with prayers you'll meet the right one.

Halos Fam!

Wataguan?.....It's been relatively placid here today. Hope we're all good.

Udysweet, i'm very well! How are you and how's your day been.

trublvr:
I am over 30. Glad to join this thread

Your are most welcome. Feel free to join the conversation.

Good evening Lovelies and gents! I presuppose our day went pretty well.

I have a small gist to share once I'm settled.

Toks2008:
As a man with ample experience in life,i have had several experience and i can tell you first hand that most Nigerian ladies especially the ones who are not financially independent will give you serious issues if you insist on no job hunting policy.
So the bottomline is that if you truly want your lady to give you breathing space,ensure that she has her own viable source of income else...

Boss, you should stop arguing with that girl.....she isn't worth the least of your arguments.

A 20year old is still very far from reality.

missKiffy:

You shouldn't consider marriage if you are not gainfully employed yet, get a job first and hopefully every other thing will come in place

What happens if he has a job, gets married to you and loses the job six months after marriage? You'll go back to your father's house?

Ehemwhy, trust me...this is the best time to conduct random sampling. It's more likely that a woman who sees you through your challenges will stay with you forever. Those ones that hop in while you are made or telling you to get a job first are mostly devourers and self-seekers in search of where to spread their mats with comfort.