bleble14:
@toks2008, if u are looking for a lady to marry, I will advice u as my friend to always go to d source, d one dat Ordained marriage, dis goes to each and every of us, be u christain or muslim, always ask God for direction, am not a pastor or any of dat but I think its d right thing if u want d best

Toks2008:


Definitely no one can rule out the GOD factor but since adam blamed GOD in the garden of eden, GOD have now decided to leave the searching to man and whenever he finds one,he gets his favour.

Adam told GOD after the disobedience..." “The woman you put here with me—she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it.”(Genesis 3:12)

And GOD was like "i see, so na me u blame abi" so GOD now said "Who so finds a wife(husband) finds a good thing, and i will give you my favour"Proverbs 18:22

End of story.

Catch you all latter in the day

fourfunmi:
Going through your previous posts, I think I understand you.
Though it might seem like rambling, it actually makes a lot of sense.
Many of us are so careful that we start to become "too careful"....and tell me, what's the fun in being calculative?
No lady can take any man by fire by force(she can try but for how long?)We can only steer you guys towards 'a direction'....meaning...we also need you guys' help too.
Its true, we all know what we want....but we sometimes wonder why the whole qualities doesn't come in one package and many people wonder why what should be so easy seem so hard... It is especially hard for we that have a perfect, well-structured picture of what we want. Oga toks, there'll still be tiny winy doubts even when you make that choice...lol... Is this not a mistake? Am i not compromising? Am I settling for less?etc...
Do you fancy bungee jumping?? It involves no strategy; you simply jump!!!
Maybe you should start by telling us what is it you are on the look out for...that doesn't seem a tall order as you've said.
Goodmorning...

Toks2008:


LOL!

Honestly what i want in lady is not much at all and i wonder why its so difficult getting one...

Another annoying angle is that most ladies that i have as friends were met online and worse still 95% of them are not in Lagos and i so much detest long distance thing,

Sometimes when im driving and i see a hot chic,i will be like...does it make sense to park and start following a lady like mumu? At a stage i will leave my car at home and see if that will help and when i enter a bus and see a pretty lady,i will be like which kain regberegbe be this because the thought oif starting a conversation sef is crazy.

Honestly many ladies dont know what guys go through trying to settle for a lady. Even the casanovas and philanderers wil tell you that there is a huge difference between trying to get a decent lady to marry and just getting a bed warmer.

Toks2008:
Honestly i need a woman to come take over me completely because with the way im going im so scared that settling down may not cross my mind and there are many reasons for this.

I am so careful that i fear i may not make up my mind and not that i philander o but honestly i no get strength to woo any lady especially those wey think its still fashionable to prove hard to get.

Lizabeth25:
Just came to read comments! And because you are above 30 doesnt mean you wont marry! Just wait for your turn

grayht:
U look cute!

zealril111:
. Thanks

zealril111:
. Thanks

ddshow:

You have programmed fear into your nervous system and it's been working like an instinct. You need to change your mindset and be audacious in approaching women. Hence, the first major step is to overcome your psychological barriers.

Secondly, always abide by the 3 Second Rule.

At a point in my life when I was looking into the challenge of talking to someone new every day for 30 days, I read about something called the 3 second rule.

The 3 second rule happens to be the most powerful pickup tool a guy or lady could have and is often referred to in these terms, but it’s a great tool for meeting new people in any context. The rule requires that if you see someone you’re interested in talking to, you have 3 seconds to walk up to them and start a conversation. It’s very simple, but extremely effective.

The reason why it’s so effective is because if you wait any longer than 3 seconds, you’ll probably end up over-thinking it and never say anything at all. With only 3 seconds, you don’t have enough time to let anxiety get the best of you. If you see someone you want to talk to, you must immediately go over and talk to them.

Stop worrying about what to say. Anything is better than nothing.

Plus, you’d be surprised by how much people especially Nigerian women actually like being talked to. And if we go back to the anecdote of being in a room full of strangers, how do you feel when someone comes up to you and starts talking to you? You feel great, right? No one wants to be the person who’s standing alone.

If we look at it holistically, you’re actually doing them a favor by talking to them, because out of everyone you've seen, you specifically chose to talk to them. If anything, they’ll be grateful that you chose to talk to them, not weirded out.

And btw, no mature lady is hard to get...all you need is patience, perseverance and the right attitude.

I hope this will help a bit.

Cheers.

bleble14:
@magneto and toks2008, thanks, hope ur day went well?

nouvelle:
You are very right fourfunmi, a lot of people watch from the sideline, yours truly included

Just wanted to warmly welcome all the newbies: bluepearls, missbronze, fourfunmi, bleble14, vivaciousvivi, magneto

And to holla at the oldies: Toks2008, @halexito I like your write ups, gratefulme40 and as always Udysweet (est) don't stay away so much, this thread needs you . And @siamia, I got the hot cup of chocolate you sent over last time, hope work is good.

Have a nice evening everyone.

halexito:

Cheerfully funny that's you!
I do write sometimes, but I found these somewhere. I love it and I decided to share it. I won't take credit for it. I just copy and paste, so we can all learn from it.
Sweet dreams to you.

ddshow:

You have programmed fear into your nervous system and it's been working like an instinct. You need to change your mindset and be audacious in approaching women. Hence, the first major step is to overcome your psychological barriers.
Secondly, always abide by the 3 Second Rule.
At a point in my life when I was looking into the challenge of talking to someone new every day for 30 days, I read about something called the 3 second rule.
The 3 second rule happens to be the most powerful pickup tool a guy or lady could have and is often referred to in these terms, but it’s a great tool for meeting new people in any context. The rule requires that if you see someone you’re interested in talking to, you have 3 seconds to walk up to them and start a conversation. It’s very simple, but extremely effective.
The reason why it’s so effective is because if you wait any longer than 3 seconds, you’ll probably end up over-thinking it and never say anything at all. With only 3 seconds, you don’t have enough time to let anxiety get the best of you. If you see someone you want to talk to, you must immediately go over and talk to them.
Stop worrying about what to say. Anything is better than nothing.
Plus, you’d be surprised by how much people especially Nigerian women actually like being talked to. And if we go back to the anecdote of being in a room full of strangers, how do you feel when someone comes up to you and starts talking to you? You feel great, right? No one wants to be the person who’s standing alone.
If we look at it holistically, you’re actually doing them a favor by talking to them, because out of everyone you've seen, you specifically chose to talk to them. If anything, they’ll be grateful that you chose to talk to them, not weirded out.
And btw, no mature lady is hard to get...all you need is patience, perseverance and the right attitude.
I hope this will help a bit.
Cheers.

gratefulme40:


Plagiarism! (Lol...i never even see the write up sef. I just saw copy and paste and screamed plagiarism)
Abeg, reference it. Lol.
Good morning. Hope you are well.
Have a very beautuful day.

bleble14:
@toks2008, u need to be spiritually guided when it come to marrage cause its very important, psalm 25 vs 9

ddshow:

You have programmed fear into your nervous system and it's been working like an instinct. You need to change your mindset and be audacious in approaching women. Hence, the first major step is to overcome your psychological barriers.

Secondly, always abide by the 3 Second Rule.

At a point in my life when I was looking into the challenge of talking to someone new every day for 30 days, I read about something called the 3 second rule.

The 3 second rule happens to be the most powerful pickup tool a guy or lady could have and is often referred to in these terms, but it’s a great tool for meeting new people in any context. The rule requires that if you see someone you’re interested in talking to, you have 3 seconds to walk up to them and start a conversation. It’s very simple, but extremely effective.

The reason why it’s so effective is because if you wait any longer than 3 seconds, you’ll probably end up over-thinking it and never say anything at all. With only 3 seconds, you don’t have enough time to let anxiety get the best of you. If you see someone you want to talk to, you must immediately go over and talk to them.

Stop worrying about what to say. Anything is better than nothing.

Plus, you’d be surprised by how much people especially Nigerian women actually like being talked to. And if we go back to the anecdote of being in a room full of strangers, how do you feel when someone comes up to you and starts talking to you? You feel great, right? No one wants to be the person who’s standing alone.

If we look at it holistically, you’re actually doing them a favor by talking to them, because out of everyone you've seen, you specifically chose to talk to them. If anything, they’ll be grateful that you chose to talk to them, not weirded out.

And btw, no mature lady is hard to get...all you need is patience, perseverance and the right attitude.

I hope this will help a bit.

Cheers.

fourfunmi:
Going through your previous posts, I think I understand you.
Though it might seem like rambling, it actually makes a lot of sense.
Many of us are so careful that we start to become "too careful"....and tell me, what's the fun in being calculative?
No lady can take any man by fire by force(she can try but for how long?)We can only steer you guys towards 'a direction'....meaning...we also need you guys' help too.
Its true, we all know what we want....but we sometimes wonder why the whole qualities doesn't come in one package and many people wonder why what should be so easy seem so hard... It is especially hard for we that have a perfect, well-structured picture of what we want. Oga toks, there'll still be tiny winy doubts even when you make that choice...lol... Is this not a mistake? Am i not compromising? Am I settling for less?etc...
Do you fancy bungee jumping?? It involves no strategy; you simply jump!!!
Maybe you should start by telling us what is it you are on the look out for...that doesn't seem a tall order as you've said.
Goodmorning...

zealril111:
Very nice thread with mostly mature comments. I'm 26 so I guess I don't really. Belong here. Anyways, I pray that anyone looking for true love will be blessed beyond measure. By the way I'm also single....

zealril111:
Very nice thread with mostly mature comments. I'm 26 so I guess I don't really. Belong here. Anyways, I pray that anyone looking for true love will be blessed beyond measure. By the way I'm also single....

Toks2008:


My brother its different strokes for different folks abi how dem dey talk am...

In my school of taught, i find it absolutely repulsive to even woo a lady because you will do sotey woo 2 sisters of same parents in different location and they will now see you as a desperate mofo.

I am a very bold and daring person but when it comes to woman matter,im very careful. I no fit stop woman for road talk to am lai lai and sometimes after your long epistle when you finally have time to sit with one,she will just laugh and tell you..sorry im engaged and i will just smile at her but for my mind i go say "This girl well at all?,why she allow me waste time after all the planning"

I remember the day i saw one hot chic and i decided to follow her cos as i wrote,i will never stopp a lady on the road..so i followed her and told myself that day "anywhere this babe go i go follow even if she enter bus to Maiduguri i go enter"

Aftyer walking very long distance she went somewhere and sat down then i just sighed by her side and told her "sis do you freaking know from where i have been following you?" she was like oh sorry o and that alone got me pissed with that sarcastic remark but i swallow spit kon dey tart convo...

After all said and done, na student and year one for that matter and to make matter worse,na 17 year old girl wey carry body like 30year old and i said to myself..this is it..i can't continue this nonsense...

So my dear its not an esy task expecially for decent minded people like me and i no wan make girls know me as area toaster.

gratefulme40:




Hmmm...uncle Toks, do people still do this? I mean following a random lady on the road to woo her.

I dont know ooo. Me i dont really take such men/guys serious. In fact, i hardly even give audience sef to such men ooo.

Na when i was a teenager i entertained such......right now, i dont.