hello nairalanders,
@mr crackles,
which one be your own self.yoruba people say(this is a lay man's interpretation)"its fun to look at a mad man but its like a taboo to have one for a child".
please,please and please dont give the kind of advise you are giving here to a real life couple,they will curse you for life when the worse happens. Meanwhile i want you to try standing in the middle of 3RD MAINLAND BRIDGE and pray for your safety.ill

@others
from the spiritual point of view,we have been warned not to tempt God. its a different case if they are not aware.God has His reasons for revealing that to them now and not when the wedding invitation is out or few days to the marriage. Even Bimbo odukoya said,its better to have a broken engagement than to have a broken marriage. Our God is not a foolish God. Even JESUS resisted the devils temptation when he was told to jump off the cliff.so please all of you advising this person to jump off the cliff are not TRUE FRIENDS.

from the medical point of view


seeing ,they say is believing.i have been told that the pains of sickle cell crises is worse than labour pains,so you can imagine.
you will feel like crying for these children when they are having a crises,do you know that feeling of helplessness knowing there is nothing you can do.sometimes even the most potent analgesia(painkillers)do not work.
please we shouldnt for our selfish interest give birth to children that will curse us for life. REMEMBER ignorance is not an excuse.
now back to this couple.your first major mistake was and i hope others would learn from this.when you are going steady with someone there are some basic things to do HIV screening,genotype and some other test,the reason for doing this is to know and be fully prepared to deal with the consequences of your action.

sickle cell disease is not new especially among africans,i knew my genotype right from secondary school(AS),so i knew who not to consider.i had friends who were sicklers and i saw the pains they went through.
at this stage of awareness i dont see any reason why EVERYBODY should not walk into any hospital or lab to check their genotype.

i will give you different scenerios to butress my point.
[list]case 1 a woman in edo state(did my housejob there) came with her daughter(with SCD),during questioning she said she has 6 boys but was looking for a girl.the girl came quite alright but with what SCD.all the boys when screened turned out to be either AA or AS.So you see an example of tempting God.now almost every month they are in the hospital,the girl has osteoarthritis and cant walk.the woman is complaining of all her resource being drained.
[list] case 2 this is more recent.i have a patient that was desperate to have a child and get married before the end of last year. he just broke up with someone and met another "fantastic wife material".He brought her for me to check if she was medically ok.they've been together for about a year.anyways both are AS and i counselled both and told them of the implication and also advised that they should speak to someone that has that challenge,anyways they decided to go ahead.everything went smooth until she got pregnant,they became like cat and mouse and i really got tired of separating quarrels.she would soon put to birth but have left the house.tell me,if unfortunately they end up with a SCD child what will happen when the problems start.if the hot love they had for each other is already shaky now.only God knows.

there is a doctor couple i know of who had twin girls with SCD.don't ask me if they didn't know their genotype.

back to those photographs of T boz.i know from experience that a lot of sicklers do well when they travel out because a lot of factors that precipitate crises are absent such as mosquitoes/malaria,dehydration,stress, pollution and so on.so please dont compare those over there with those in our NINJA. please prevention is better than to cure. even if it is 10yrs,say your goodbyes and move on,instead of being sworn enemies when the stress starts.

alternatively,your madam can always go for screening abroad during pregnancy to determine the genotype and an option of abortion is offered.but what about the stress and the guilt.
i dont mean to be cynical but please lets do a reality check.until we find ourselves in certain positions we cant really say the extent we can react.
PLEASE GO TO ANOTHER LAB TO RECONFIRM OR A TEACHING HOSPITAL.

the chances of getting a SCD child is 25% for each pregnancy.thats too high a chance to take.and for all those chasing miracles,remember devil sef dey do miracles.
YOU SHOULD BE PRAYING TO USE YOUR MONEY TO BUY ASSETS NOT DONATING TO MEDICAL DIRECTORS TREASURY.ANYHOW SHA,WE GO CHOP

LOVE NO BLIND AT ALL, INFACT E GET TELESCOPE
PLAY SAFE
wish you the best
if you need more counselling,both of you send me mail (faithtrans2008@yahoo.com) or call 08055180507

hi,
that is also a fear I'm having. I'm very skeptical abt using them in my click bank account opening.what of if they decide not to pay,what will i do.please anyone with success stories about their payment in clickbank through graph card.also those that have been scammed.please tell me your experience.what is their percentage commission
thanks

hello,
are you still interested in the books or has the bear chased you out of the market

hi uche
information overload is still worrying me

so you have become a tutor now,great i know you would be great in that.keep up the good work but try and break your forum post into smaller post for easy understanding,you have a lot of newbies.
cheers
dr faith

hello enockia,
yea! you are doing it the right way.after all, na you get your property. anyway you are free to do it anyway,anyhow but ONLY WITH THE CORRECT PERSON.
to most of you that replied,stop being a spoil sport. hey, they could do it on the refridgerator you know.anyway,just make sure no hot pot of soup or oil around,that could spoil your fun.
keep it real and keep your marriage alive.VARIETY IS THE SPICE OF LIFE

hello,
just as everyone says its likely to be a urinary tract infection.go to a good hospital let them collect your urine and send for m/c/s.if there is any organism there,it would be isolated and appropriate treatment given. don't go chasing these herbal people up and down.

this comment is for "PHARM" Toki. please i seriously doubt you are a qualified pharmacist so please the use of that title is wrong and misleading to nairalanders,which I'm sure was your intention. please i don't mean to insult you but i know you are a traditional herbal practitioner.please stop misleading people.
I'm not against herbal drugs but in Nigeria, we have a lot of fake practitioners who end up giving people more than they bargain for.i have a lot of proof about that.most of them refuses to say the content of their medication with one drug curing 20 ailments.I usually make research about some herbal drugs before recommending themPLEASE BEWARE

hmn,this one is tough.left to me,i could strangle the guy in his sleep. i would certainly not give him the pleasure of fighting over him. i think to maintain my sanity,i would leave the house with my kids.dont you know you could be poisoned if you still stay together especially if the man has been jazzed.let God fight your battles,but take cover first.
that supposed friend is an enemy within so avoid her like a plague and leave her to her fate.
how are you so sure,she's the only one he has impregnated,there could be others,afterall they say,the day a man dies is the day you would know the number of wives and kids he has. i personally dont trust any man so i would definately not commit suicide. but AIDS is real, so i have to leave to be alive to take care of my kids

hi fellow nairalanders,
in an ideal situation, i dont believe in keeping secrets but i have learnt the hard way.its a known fact that some men cant handle issues. The best thing to do is to employ wisdom.if you know your partner cant handle the truth,then tell half truth or just keep quiet.though it may keep burning you but it may be best thing to do for the sake of peace.
it also depend on the gravity of the issue. An example is having a child out of wedlock or destroying your womb from an illegal abortion. you simply cant keep that kind of information secret, they ALWAYS come back to hunt you,so divulge such before marriage and not after.
there are a lot of marriages that break because a bombshell was delivered. Remember, it's better to have a broken engagement than to have a broken marriage. Some men dont break up with you but make you miserably for the rest of your life and you could become a mental case.Go to neuro psychiatry and check out the patients.
also time the period to break any distressing news.do not break a horrible news when your spouse just had a nasty day at work,he would certainly transfer aggression to you.

hello.
from the information i have,most microfinance banks give up to N500,000 without collateral but for most you have to pay back after 3 months,some extend to 4months,rarely would you see that of 6months.i heard that some bigger banks offer something similar like oceanic bank.so you can pop into any of these and find out.
also if it is a place you have a salary account, if you can get your boss to stand as your guarantor,you may be given witout collateral.happy hunting. cheers.

hi yemibox,
compliments of the season.
please this is a new year so dont get scammed.my advice to you is that whatever business u want to get into,you have to do a thorough research patiently except you want to throw your money to the winds.get knowledgeable, remember,no one can protect your investment better than yourself. i still have confidence in the stock market and feel you should invest in companies with good fundamentals. also real estate is not bad "BUT" you need to devote time to go to alausa to confirm that the land does not belong to the government and the autenticity so you do not fall prey to fraudsters.
happy investing.remember most genuine investment plans are long term

hi,
its important to note that whatever losses you are calculating in your portfolio is simply "paper losses".until you give your broker a go ahead to sell,you have not really lost.
i would advise everyone interested in the stock market to buy and position themselves for better days ahead.but check the companies fundamentals first and not just invest in anyhow stocks or you would get anyhow results.cheers

hi kathyekiti,
its wonderful for coming on board this forum.im also a doc with interest in o$g and have discoverd that a lot of people need help but dont know where to turn to.its really nice that you decided to give back in your own little way.its really amazing that the rate of infertility is on the rise in nigeria especially male fertility and especially in a society who condemns the women for not being able to have children.most of the cases i've seen this year are mainly due to the male factor and its like trying to move a mountain trying to get these men to come to the hospital.God help us.thanks for being there

Quote from: phatgirl on January 24, 2008, 02:56 PM
Hi
Please i need your help concerning my sister She is married for 2 years now without any issue.She went for fertility test with her husband.The test revealed she is ok but her hubby's sperm count is 17million with bacterial infection of staph aureus.Please what is the next step? Do u av any fertility doc u acan recommend based in Nigeria

hi phat girl,
just as kathyekiti says,your inlaw has low sperm count and need to see a fertility specialist.there are quite a number of them here in nigeria,though it is quite expensive so they have to be financially prepared. they can be found at bridge clinic cant remember venue,nordica clinic at ikoyi,hope valley at victoria island.contact me if you need more info so i can give you details.cheers

hi,where are the scorpios in da house. oct 25