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doe82:
my Mum no doubt
She doesnt ve as much time to spend agian as my wife does!!!!
As long as she is here,she will have a full feeling of my existence as a son, I m sure my wife ll like to be treated by our children d way i treat my mum, what goes around comes around

prettyjo:
I Dont believe in medicinal herbs unless its from a certified company,but how long will you dwell on that?
why not try watching pornography together,he will learn a lot from there.
lastly encourage him and Dont make him feel less of a man

chaircover:
Debbiemania, this is a sensitive matter and it needs to be handled wisely.
How did it get to the stage of your hubby not eating your food?
Did you just say "hubby I want to go to school" and he suddenly stopped eating your food? . . I dont think that this is what happened.

This is why its important that when husband and wife come with their "reports" the listener does not automatically take sides but reads between the lines

My little advise to you is to go back to the drawing board and retrace your steps and do some homework. You know your husband better than anyone here and you know what his fears/reasons may be and what you need to do is go and speak to him, but armed with information and solutions to problems that he may feel that your going back to school may present. This is not a head to head matter. Listen to him, listen to his fears and its only when he opens up to his deep seated concerns can you even begin to allay thise fears.

For example if he is worried about what will happen to the children in your absense, then you would have already have some good ideas/plans for childcare that you have in mind to allay those fears.

The truth is that you are the one who has to do the appealing. You cant force him to let him send you to school so you need to take it down a notch or two. I am assuming that you want to remain in the marriage.

You can still both meet somewhere in the middle or even still manage to convince him to let you return to school, but it wont be by gra gra but by calm, mature and sensible methods. He is your hubby . . .find his weak & tender spot for you and work on it. Sefini.


We have talked about this many times, the children are not the problem cos i will go to sch on a daily base with my car,my hubby is just stubborn,i think he stopped eating and talking to me so that i will not speak of schooling again and yes he has suceeded.i will make up with him and think of something else to do with my fine.i have been at home for 6 years now but not anymore.hubby did this cos he knows im emotionally weak towards him.but thanks anyway for all ur support

mutter:
Going back to school after two kids is a great venture and indeed to be admired. However everyone will have to pay the price for it. You the kid`s and your husband.
You need to understand that. Your husband might also have fears that it would expose you to things that might affect the home.
The fact that your husband is not talking to you and not eatin your food, is not because you want to go back to school but more likely because of the way you are going about it. You need to give him time and convince him, pet him and assure him. If you are making your request in a dominant way, he will only suspect you might get even more dominant as you proceed with school.
Do you want to give up your marriage for school? If the answer i no then go about your request wisely. Plead with him and convince him that you would always remain a dedicated wife.

Flytefalls:
The OP came for advice and left everybody else to provide a backstory for it .