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Re: Am Tired Of This Marriage,do You Think He Loves Me? by npriscilla(f): 10:55pm On Feb 05, 2015 |
No need to make a move all u need is prayer and beside or husband loves u and don't make him to choose btw u and his family |
Re: Am Tired Of This Marriage,do You Think He Loves Me? by Nobody: 11:05pm On Feb 05, 2015 |
There's more to this story , there is no way a husband will treat his wife like that. Even if the sisters wronged you in any way, he can't fully support them or even start ignoring you just like that. It's up to you to step up and save your marriage. Try to talk to him, accept his sisters too, no matter what! just ignore their troubles. |
Re: Am Tired Of This Marriage,do You Think He Loves Me? by klark3: 11:16pm On Feb 05, 2015 |
Adaeze003:ROTFL.... Wey! U used d word 'niggaz'. Tony braxton is a niga,so wht do u knw abt it. lol. We are not spewing kappish. U hear! Are u a lawyer? Or probably an advocate of gender equality, which is a sure blind alley. Though ur points are well articulated, am afraid dey are biased in favour of women. When a woman get married is customary she forgets her root, because d society accept it. But a man can never forget his root 'inclusive are his siblings,parents.., When a woman bcomes a rev. Sister, she practically spend d rest of her life in the convent, but even as an ordained priest, a man still shoulders d responsibility of his immediate family. Am not trying to debase women in any sense, it's just that women have failed to appreciate & accept their position. u say u won't visit ur elder bro, I'll tell him for future reference. but u indeed sound like a control freak, & frm wht I can deduce frm ur quote, u won't even allow ur hubby's mum or dad to live in ur home. I fear u o! Learn to respect ur man, submit urself, believing me u'll be d final beneficiary. Are u married? 1 Like |
Re: Am Tired Of This Marriage,do You Think He Loves Me? by khia: 1:28am On Feb 06, 2015 |
klark3: The wife is his immediate family, nobody comes before her. The bible says cleeve to your wife and let no one put assunder. She comes before mother, father, sister, brothers, uncles, aunts, nieces, nephews and cousins. |
Re: Am Tired Of This Marriage,do You Think He Loves Me? by Crystal3214(f): 1:39am On Feb 06, 2015 |
khia:............. .. ride on sista 1 Like |
Re: Am Tired Of This Marriage,do You Think He Loves Me? by Nobody: 3:32am On Feb 06, 2015 |
lanre4: Your case is not strange to me. My advice will always be: Ask yourself questions, are you unnecessarily trying to be hard on his sisters? Maybe to prove you are the madam of the house. If you are, please stop because you are already on a losing streak! Become friends with them if it is possible. This is your only way out else you'll live like a stranger in your own home. When you get really closer to them, the respect you desire will come. Then gradually exert your authority over them IF they are younger than you and they will go along because they now trust you. They will start seeing you like their big sister. How would you know when to start exerting control? When they start telling you their secrets. Your sound advice will do the magic! 1 Like |
Re: Am Tired Of This Marriage,do You Think He Loves Me? by Tearg1: 4:48am On Feb 06, 2015 |
After reading thru ur post, it came to mind that I once went thru a similar scenario with my eldest bro. I and one of my brothers moved to the UK to stay with him, his wife and 3 kids. Due to d size of d house the wife felt uncomfortable with us being in the house. So it caused a lot of friction. And she made my bro turned against us, due to constant complaints about us. My advice to u is to apply wisdom, pray and dnt report anything to him. Also, ur extended family living with you will definitely create friction, so just try and keep up with them, and if u have to confront them about anything, do it with love and care. Dnt fight them as its not the right thing to do. It can break ur home. Lastly dnt forget to pray before u say anything to them... |
Re: Am Tired Of This Marriage,do You Think He Loves Me? by klark3: 6:47am On Feb 06, 2015 |
khia:Your quote is indefensible. This is quite specious, I think u didn't phrase it properly, let no man put asunder, that I knw. But the wife comes before the hubby's mum while she is still alive is wht I don't get. Do u knw the meaning of that word 'mother' @all? No love on earth equals that which your mum have for u. Often times I see stories of women deserting or mistreating their hubby because of petty problems, & these men run to their mum for solace. No mother will desert her own son for any problem in the world, if job mother was still alive in the bible, she wouldn't have deserted job. I don't knw abt fathers, because some men can be very callous, but no good wife on this planet earth can supplant the position of a good mother. 2 Likes |
Re: Am Tired Of This Marriage,do You Think He Loves Me? by passionate88: 7:13am On Feb 06, 2015 |
npriscilla:Prayer has substituted brain work in Nigeria 1 Like |
Re: Am Tired Of This Marriage,do You Think He Loves Me? by Adaeze003(f): 7:19am On Feb 06, 2015 |
klark3: I just hope you'll be pleased if you're treated the same way? Like if she puts her family before you? After all, you aint related to her by blood. If you won't be pleased then you're just another hypocrite. Anyway, that's what most dudes are known for. Again, control freak ke? Just coz I told you the truth? Typical of dudes to use terms like that when they lack the ability to hold a reasonable/intelligent convo. I guess that's why you assumed I said I won't visit my bro as well . you should read my post over and over again. And by the way, respect is reciprocal and not one sided. |
Re: Am Tired Of This Marriage,do You Think He Loves Me? by Nobody: 7:20am On Feb 06, 2015 |
lanre4: your in it already so fix it how pray it changes a lot fast its a catalyst that supports prayer have faith without it prayer and fasting are a waste be patient..............................its the virtue of gods then do the human stuff sit down review the bad times and what happened dont see their faults just highlight yours isolate them and write them down then consciously work on stopping/changing them give these time and keep at it if things dont change then let me know |
Re: Am Tired Of This Marriage,do You Think He Loves Me? by passionate88: 7:23am On Feb 06, 2015 |
khia:Khia, to me, mother comes before her.... A wife can kill the husband, divorce the husband, steal his money, etc but a mother won't do such.. You don't know how most of our Nigerian girls reason. Girls that pray for the husband's mother to die before they marry him.. 1 Like |
Re: Am Tired Of This Marriage,do You Think He Loves Me? by passionate88: 7:29am On Feb 06, 2015 |
klark3:Your head dey there, that's what I keep saying... Mother first, then the rest 3 Likes |
Re: Am Tired Of This Marriage,do You Think He Loves Me? by dayosaurus(m): 7:36am On Feb 06, 2015 |
diddydiva: thus it's absurd, why shouldn't a husband relative live with him?. if any freaking woman can't stand living with my brothers, she would Bleep out of the house. nonsense 1 Like |
Re: Am Tired Of This Marriage,do You Think He Loves Me? by Nobody: 10:55am On Feb 06, 2015 |
dayosaurus:gosh!!! what a mentality!!! so you mean your relatives are so dependent on you hmmmmm any guy that will allow his relative to leave with him will Bleep out of my life simple!!! |
Re: Am Tired Of This Marriage,do You Think He Loves Me? by Nobody: 11:17am On Feb 06, 2015 |
lanre4: he doesn't love u anymore. live for your children, use him as money resource and when children on their feet start living your life with new man. don't have stupid hope-nothing is gonna change in your marriage. simple. |
Re: Am Tired Of This Marriage,do You Think He Loves Me? by Nobody: 11:20am On Feb 06, 2015 |
Re: Am Tired Of This Marriage,do You Think He Loves Me? by Debbiemma(f): 11:25am On Feb 06, 2015 |
my dear I've been there before,I'm living with my hobby's sisters and his younger brother,it was so difficult and if I complain to husband,he will be angry with me just like urs.until a friend of mine told me to get close to them.so what I need I asked them for forgiveness, and I started holding early morning prayers with them.u can try it.don't allow pride get in the way.Be matured. 3 Likes |
Re: Am Tired Of This Marriage,do You Think He Loves Me? by Tymax(m): 11:39am On Feb 06, 2015 |
diddydiva:They are family. You can't keep a man away from his family. That's wrong. 1 Like |
Re: Am Tired Of This Marriage,do You Think He Loves Me? by Nobody: 11:45am On Feb 06, 2015 |
Tymax:Don't blame us blame God!!! cos he said: a man shall leave his father and mother and will be with his wife. not taking his brother or old relatives with him , huh? |
Re: Am Tired Of This Marriage,do You Think He Loves Me? by dayosaurus(m): 1:16pm On Feb 06, 2015 |
diddydiva: great. so you would forsake your family that you've known all your life because of someone u just just met |
Re: Am Tired Of This Marriage,do You Think He Loves Me? by Nobody: 1:23pm On Feb 06, 2015 |
dayosaurus:Not living with you does not mean you are forsaking them mister there are other ways of taking care of them |
Re: Am Tired Of This Marriage,do You Think He Loves Me? by dayosaurus(m): 1:43pm On Feb 06, 2015 |
diddydiva: and when the need of staying with you arises, what would you do? |
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Re: Am Tired Of This Marriage,do You Think He Loves Me? by Tymax(m): 2:44pm On Feb 06, 2015 |
diddydiva:Lol. You win. That's a knockout. |
Re: Am Tired Of This Marriage,do You Think He Loves Me? by Nobody: 3:01pm On Feb 06, 2015 |
Re: Am Tired Of This Marriage,do You Think He Loves Me? by Tymax(m): 6:39pm On Feb 06, 2015 |
diddydiva:Lol. I'm fine dear. And you? |
Re: Am Tired Of This Marriage,do You Think He Loves Me? by Nobody: 6:44pm On Feb 06, 2015 |
Tymax:am very okay |
Re: Am Tired Of This Marriage,do You Think He Loves Me? by khia: 8:56pm On Feb 06, 2015 |
passionate88: No one said to stop loving your family but the bible says when you take a wife you found a good thing, it is up to you to choose wisely. When you decide to get married you have to do it with the mindset that this is the person I am choosing to be by my side for the rest of my life and will always come first in my life, so again choose wisely. I hope your father put your mother first, if he did learn from him , if he didn't learn from him and be a better husband to your wife. Would you like to come last in your wife's life? PS.... I am not saying the wife can do no wrong because she is not perfect but you have to make a united front (togetherness) in front of others and if she did something wrong, confront her privately. My two cents. |
Re: Am Tired Of This Marriage,do You Think He Loves Me? by MissRaine69(f): 5:26am On Nov 23, 2017 |
Have you actually tried to be friends with his family ?You don’t have to be best friends but you can be cordial and pick your battles. The only person who can answer your question is your husband talk to him BUT if you ask be prepared for the response it might not be what you want to hear. |
Re: Am Tired Of This Marriage,do You Think He Loves Me? by ubunja(m): 5:52am On Nov 23, 2017 |
traware:On point. u cant go against someone u grew up with and knew for 30yrs to support someone u met 5 yrs ago.. NEVER . family first .always 2 Likes |
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