₦airaland Forum

All we need is a president who can transform the country and make Nigeria liveable, regardless of their religious, ethnic or political leanings

Peter Obi is more popular than Tinubu, the illegitimate president.

OBI provides a viable and credible opposition. A perfect watchdog

My God!
What's going on in this country for goodness sakes?

Them never born any Fulani ijiot to try this nonsense with my sister. You go Kuku bury the two of us dat day, cos police no fit settle me and you

Just like I'm sick and down right now but can't take care of my health.. God please 🙏

Another hussler.
If God do am for Reno, why can't He do same for you?

Yet hunger persists.

Price of cooking oil is still very high.

Pepper has risen again

pistol:
This Governor talks to much.. he's still a neophyte

But Wike doesn't talk too much Abi?

I'm starting to like your guts.
You have to assert and impose yourself on Wike and That house of assembly speaker

May God help us.
This is too much

Titogbanski:
Very wrong insisting on death sentence, reminds me of the statement by our Lord Jesus Christ, let the person without sin cast the first stone

True

SpencerForbes:
Let's be realistic—you can't really expect the family to 'rate' you fully when you don’t have anything yet.
There is a bitter, unspoken truth in this country:

'You need financial relevance to be a member of your own family, especially in average and middle-class homes.'

Don't let it depress you; instead, let it fuel you. Lock in and double your hustle. Christmas comes every year, so don't kill yourself over this one. Keep grinding— maybe— next year you will be the main sponsor hosting the family end-of-year party at the beach.

Just my siblings and i

SpencerForbes:
Seriously, just take yourself out. Head to the beach, the mall, or the movies and make some new friends while you're at it. That's the main takeaway.

The weird part? If you've got family buzzing around everywhere, you often just want some alone time. It can actually make you feel less chill than when you're by yourself.

All these you mentioned involves resources which I don't have

If you have a family you interact with, confide in, share your pains and gains with, you don't know what God has done for you.
The loneliness I feel every time, especially during the Christmas period, is really overwhelming. Sometimes I get emotional.

No wife, no girlfriend, no parents. My siblings are scattered. I keep looking for a way I can bring all of us together under one roof during such periods, but I am unable to do so.

Every December, I see people traveling to celebrate with their families and loved ones. All my neighbours travel, I'm the only one who doesn't travel. It hurts me deeply.

You don't even have anyone who will check on you and ask you how you're doing, how the preparation for Christmas is going, if you need any support.
Parents call their children to ask them this "Are you not coming home for Christmas. What are you still waiting for. Today is already 20th December. Pls come back before the roads become even much busier" ?

Who will call me?
Where is the Home?

There's nothing as sweet as having a family Bond. Some of us are just living by God's grace and mercy. Nobody to fight for us. None to cry to.

Caaz:
Big boobs and nyash

See how he cleverly averted answering the question you threw at him.

🤣🤣🤣
Yes o. I had almost always opaque with answers to questions

Sonnobax15:

This country en

You go just come online, only for you to see things wey go just dey vex you

And one Mallam somewhere must have collected and pocketed the money meant to provide desks and other school materials for those pupils

Sonnobax, the Nairaland Landlord

Efikman:
Obi is the future president t of this country. If you like dey play.

Amen o.

I can't wait

MEGA4BILLION:
Which of the civil service rules stipulate that?

Didnt you read what is written there?

Wike doesn't need any stipulated rules to carry out his uncivil and ungodly act

Skilled workers being treated like unskilled labourers in the 21st century .

Democracy is seriously under Threat by emperor Ceaser Wike

Lonestar124:
Don't depend on her bro

Sure bro

Na to just dey knack dey go, but with protection.

I can't bank on her.

Thanks 👍

advanceDNA:
Oga.....u are just a means to an end.....
I know u will not hear
All these red flag, and u are till with such a woman...... Continue ...

I dey expect another lamentation thread from you

Lol..
I hear u sir

Karlifate:
Since you don't wanna tell yourself the truth, I'll type it for your reading:

That girl is sleeping with multiple men.

Thanks for spewing the bitter truth bro.
I appreciate 🙏

Emmyjand:
Guy man to man, forget her, there is no way she can be real with . She is only out for survival now on the next man available. She doesn't see you beyond what you can offer her, you expecting her t ne foryou only is a pipe dream.

Fact!

infogenius:
@ original post

Let me give you the short, sharp truth with small love inside:
1 You’ve only known her 3 months, you never still enter the main road, you don reach junction to dey fight leg-chain and phone password. My guy, this is just the trailer o.

2 Leg-chain no kill person. Nose ring no steal destiny. If those small things dey pepper you now, wait until bigger issues land. Focus on character, not accessories.

3 The phone lockdown + the abortion search you saw + the “my friend used my phone” story + constant sickness + pale face = 99% she did abortion recently, probably for the ex she claimed she “broke up” with.
She’s still bleeding physically and emotionally. That’s why she’s weak and hiding phone.

4 You asked all the right questions before dating and she gave you half-truths. Now the full picture is coming out in pieces.
This is not “small lie”, this is foundation problem.

5 You’re already policing her body jewelry and begging for phone access at 3 months. That energy go tire you when real trust issues show face.

My honest advice (no sugar):
• She’s a sweet girl going through a very rough season, but she’s not ready for a honest relationship right now.

• You want peace, she currently carries plenty drama (health, ex, recent abortion, shame, secrets).

• You deserve someone who is free, open and healed enough to love you without all this load.

Tell her gently: 
“Babe, I like you, but I can see you’re still going through a lot. I think you need time to heal properly. I nor fit manage this kind stress for my spirit right now. I wish you quick recovery and all the best.”

Then face front.
Three months no be marriage.


Protect your peace, king.
Plenty better girls dey wey no go give you detective work as full-time job. 🙏🏾

Thanks so much dear. God bless you for making this sensible comment. You've spoken wisely Sir 🙏.
Again, God bless you 🙏

Saybal:
My advice to you is to first go and learn how to love yourself first.

It looks as if you are not love at home the reason you are looking for love from someone that didn't love you.

Don't judge people u don't know by your own Standards. You could make a sensible comment without been uncouth.

Rubbish

Baronthecelebri:
You get her pregnant or leave her alone and stop complaining

Get her pregnant for what?
Seems you don't have what to say

Gr8mind07:
I am just curious to know what attracted her to you in the first place, because none of her attributes mentioned above indicates a good testimony

I'm still wondering too

Gr8mind07:
I am just curious to know what attracted her to you in the first place, because none of her attributes mentioned above indicates a good testimony

Honestly, the red flags are too many

From my DM:

Good morning sir, please I need your advice and that of your followers too.

I met a young lady of 27years old just three months ago.

I met her at a photo studio where she works. Got her number, kept in touch with her for like a month, and I decided to express my feelings to her. She accepted to date me.

But here are some contentious Issues between us.


— She's a single mother of a 6yr old lady. The baby lives somewhere else while my babe lives alone in a rented apartment. Her parents are Divorced. And the dad remarried. Her six year old baby lives there.
But dating a single Mum isn't really the issue for me, as long as she loves me and has a good character.

— She pierced her nose and has a nose ring. I didn't complain.

— She has a Legchain and I'm not comfortable with this. I've asked her to remove it, but she said she can't remove it. I feel responsible ladies shouldn't be putting on legchains. This is a lady I do all my best to ensure she's happy. I support her with the little I can. The public image of ladies who use legchains isn't appealing to the society at all.

— She can't allow me access to her phone. She said her phone is her Privacy. Yes her phone is actually her privacy, no doubt. But why is her body not her privacy as well? If I can see her unclothedness, then why can't I see her phone. She's always so Glued to her phone, if I need to get something from her phone, maybe music or movies, she can't release it to me. If she's showing me anything from the phone, she will still hold the phone and be showing me . Truth is, I'm not comfortable with that. If there's nothing to hide, then, I see no reason for hiding her phone always. I told her I'm not the only guy she's dating but she keeps denying it. Well, do I even expect her to Agree?
All the ladies I've dated, I try to check their phones from time to time especially when they least expected. I wouldn't just say give me your phone, I want to probe you. There were ways I would get the phone from them respectfully.
If some police officers turn up at my place and want to search my apartment, I will gladly open it for them because I know there is nothing incriminating in my apartment. But if I have a skeleton in my cupboard, I wouldn't allow them search it, even if they have their search warrants.

I gave her this illustration

— in the second week of our Relationship, I went to her place of work and while she was operating her phone, I jokingly asked her when she didn't reply my last WhatsApp message. She said she wasn't having data. I refused to believe that. Then I asked to check her phone, but she refused. She carried it and showed me numbers of UnReplied chats, but while she was showing me, I noticed that she had asked WhatsApp A.I "Drugs for Abortion". I was shocked . Meanwhile,I had initially asked her if she was pregnant for someone else. Because I have not slept with her yet. She was sick within that period and what made me suspect her the most was her constant throw of Saliva almost every three minutes. I asked if she was pregnant, but she said No. Then later I saw that abortion thing on A.I

She wanted to explain to me, but I ignored her. I was so angry because I almost gave her money to go for some medical tests to ascertain the main issue with her health. Firstly she said she had no money to run tests. Later she did it, and the doctor called to inform her it was Malaria and typhoid. I asked her to go get the result from the hospital where she had the test , then Snap the test result and send to me, but she claimed she wasn't having transport fare. In my mind, I knew she wasn't sincere. Later she told me that it was her friend(lady) that typed that abortion thing on her phone. That her friend was the one that did the abortion.
But I thought she said her phone was her privacy?
I didn't and still do not believe it was her friend that typed it. She lied, I guess. The next week, she completely broke down and couldn't go to work for a whole week. Right now, she is still feeling unwell. When she tries to talk, she develops instant headache. She looks pale.
I'm sure she did abortion.

Before we started the relationship, I asked about her guy, but she said she wasn't in any serious relationship and that the guy wasn't a serious person and that she had broken up with him. I pressed further again, I asked, have u ended things with the guy formally? She said the guy hasn't called her for over a week and she too didn't bother to call. That's it.

I asked about her baby's father, she said, immediately it was discovered that she had took in and became pregnant, her baby's father disappeared till today and she hasn't heard from him. This is the 6th year. I doubt this one.


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Cum4me:
Immediately you start making money all this your narrative and mindset will change Money is power it can change anything in a blink of eye

I pray o