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insidelife22:
All 🛏️ bed na 🛏️ bed
All sleep 💤😴 na sleep 💤😴
Case closed 🔒🔐

Mrslarissa98:
Hello everyone, I need your advice please.
I am half Nigerian. I am married and currently living in another African country with my husband and our two children. Our first child is 4 years old and the youngest is 9 months old.

I was born and raised in Nigeria to a Nigerian father. When I was 13 years old, my parents divorced. My mother took me, my younger brother, and my elder sister from her previous relationship back to her country. Since we left, I have not seen or spoken to my father.

Unfortunately, my mother passed away two years later when I was only 15. Life was very difficult for us because my mother’s family treated us badly, but that is not really what I am looking for advice about, so I will keep the story short.

I got married 5 years ago, and 3 years ago my husband and I relocated to a different African country. We are both involved in business. I run a hair salon while also taking care of my duties as a wife and mother.

When I started my business, my daughter was already 2 years old and attending school, so it was easier to manage both my business and my responsibilities at home. But when I became pregnant with my son, I knew it would not be easy anymore because I would need someone to help take care of him while I worked. I stayed home for about 3 months after he was born, and when I was preparing to return to work, I asked my pastor’s wife to help me find someone to assist me. She had helped other people find help before, and she introduced us to a 19-year-old girl who came to live with us.

At first, everything was going well. She took very good care of my baby. My daughter’s school was close to my shop, so I was the one dropping her off and picking her up. We had planned that the following year we would move her to a school closer to the house so the girl could help with picking her up.

Let me also add that while I was on maternity leave, my husband used to come home around 1 p.m. to eat lunch. But when I returned to work, I asked him not to come home during the day anymore and to start taking food to work instead, which he did.

When my baby was about 5 months old, we left for work as usual. Around 10 a.m., my phone rang. It was my husband saying he was at the hospital with the maid and the baby. I panicked and asked what happened and if my baby was okay. He said the baby was fine, but the maid was the one who was not well.

He told me that he was at work, but he suddenly felt very uneasy, like something was telling him to go home and check on the baby. When he got home, he heard the baby crying inside the room where the maid shared with our daughter. At first, he ignored it, thinking maybe she was changing the baby. But the crying became worse, and he heard a loud bump. He called the maid’s name, but there was no response. When he entered the room, he found her lying on the floor naked, and the baby was next to her crying. He picked up the baby and called the neighbors, who helped cover her and put her in his car. One male neighbor followed them to help with the baby while they went to the hospital.

The girl was unconscious at first, but later she recovered. After she was discharged, I was wondering what could have happened. I asked her if she had any history of seizures or something similar, but she said no. She explained that she could not clearly remember what happened that day. She said that after putting the baby to sleep, she rushed to take a bath, and after coming out of the bathroom she could not remember anything else until she woke up in the hospital.

During the following days, I allowed her to rest as much as possible, and I started taking my baby with me to my shop. It was not easy, but I wanted her to recover.

One day, I came back home and found the house empty. She was nowhere to be found. I panicked and called her number, but it was switched off. I called our pastor’s wife, but she said she had not seen her. She was already aware of what had happened at the hospital. We were all worried and tried to reach her without success. Our pastor’s wife even sent someone to her aunt’s house to check if she was there, but she was not.
After a few days, we found out that she was staying with her elder sister in another town. We felt some relief knowing she was at least with family. We tried to contact her to ask why she left suddenly, but she would not pick up our calls.
Four months later, she came back to the church and informed our pastor that the reason she left my house was because, according to her, ever since she started living with us, my husband had been making advances toward her. She said she always refused him. She claimed that on the day of the incident, my husband came home and met her in the room while she was dressing, forced himself on her, beat her, and she passed out.
The pastor called us, and the girl repeated this in front of everyone. My husband could not deny it and started begging for forgiveness. I was completely shattered. Although the pastor and his wife counseled us and tried to reconcile us, and my husband has been begging for forgiveness, I am still heartbroken. I am no longer interested in this marriage. I feel anger and pain whenever I look at him.

Now I feel like taking my children and going back to my home country. I cry every day and feel very depressed. I really need advice, please help me.

Zackattack:
I knew he was going to get caught. Good riddance to bad rubbish!🤧

voiceunheard:
Please, if you don't have anything to say, go and sleep. You have NO idea what I have gone through except the one I wrote here, so you will not just conclude saying "many people have experience......"

Did you become s*ic*dal at or before the age of 12 as a result of your childhood experience?

What I wrote here is not even up to 1/8 of what I have gone through, so don't be too quick to judge or conclude.

Concerning me reporting the pastor, I didn't report him that he is owing me. And it's not just promise and fail, it's the situation I was when he made the promise, and I didn't ask for financial assistance from him. I guess you have never had accommodation problem before that you have no where to stay, that's why it is sooo easy for you to be saying "he doesn't owe me" as if I said so.

It's only in Africa here that when you tell people how life has been hard for you, they will tell you how life has been hard for them or someone else, telling you that you haven't seen anything, as if hard life is now a competition.

Since he can't fulfill his promise, he could have apologized or explain himself, but instead he ignored me completely and you are here saying "I went too far to report him". He put me into debt and you expect me to be silent.

SmartPolician:
This is basic! I thought I was going to see something more thought-provoking

Glimpsetv:
Summary:
A young woman went viral after declaring she is single and searching for a husband, sharing strict marriage criteria. She does not want children, will not accept bride price, insists on equality, and expects both partners to handle their own responsibilities.

She also requires her husband to relocate to Japan and support mutual goals, emphasizing companionship, independence, and shared success.

The video sparked mixed reactions across social media, with many debating her unconventional rules.

Burob:
Nawa o, frustration na bad thing, may it never be our portion.

Vicotex:
Na since last night dem drop these bombs for Ukraine na.
Una come dey post am now since yesterday

thrillionaire:
I'm not the one trying to be petty here. You've seen my idea of beauty which you say isn't up to 2% of your idea. Okay, let me see your own idea of beauty. Its a just request and you're here trying to beat around the bush.

Who do you consider as your idea of beauty.. write her name let me check her out if you think you know beauty well.

thrillionaire:
You nor see the beauty wey I post?? Where is your own spec lemme check your idea of beauty. Let's see

thrillionaire:
You nor see the beauty wey I post?? Where is your own spec lemme check your idea of beauty. Let's see

thrillionaire:
I really love Maria Sharapova.. that lady is the epitome of beauty, grace and sexiness. I choose her.

Someone get me her number kindly.. lemme poach her.

See beauty abegggg

Mankind2024:
Why Captain Ibrahim Traoré Is Playing with Fire by Detaining Nigerian Soldiers
Many people underestimate the capabilities of the Nigerian military and what it could mean for the government of Burkina Faso under Captain Ibrahim Traoré.

Don't be misled by Nigeria's ongoing internal security challenges—fighting Fulani herdsmen clashes, kidnappers, bandits, and jihadist insurgents in the North, or separatist agitation in the East involving IPOB and unknown gunmen. These are asymmetric insurgencies, complicated by local sympathies and complex socio-political dynamics that make total eradication difficult without massive collateral impact. No advanced military in the world easily wins such protracted internal wars.

In stark contrast, a direct confrontation with Burkina Faso would be conventional (symmetric) warfare. The Nigerian Armed Forces—Africa's largest by personnel, with superior airpower, logistics, and combat experience—have the overwhelming potential to overrun Burkina Faso's smaller military and, if provoked far enough, enforce regime change in Ouagadougou.

Dismiss any notion that Russia's support for Traoré would deter this. Nigeria could establish theater commands in neighboring countries like Ghana, Côte d'Ivoire, Benin, and Togo for a multi-front operation, leveraging regional alliances and superior resources.

This detention risks escalating a diplomatic incident into something far more dangerous. Traoré's supporters—often vocal online pan-Africanists and certain political factions—may cheer the bravado now, but they would have plenty to lament if things spiral out of control.

dollytino4real:
Help only comes from God not US,

AK481:
If you dont give igbos opportunity because of your tribalism and nepotism .

We go outside and lead

Kobojunkie:
1. If you were in control, you wouldn't have needed to engage them in the first place. The sole reason you engage women who do that to you is that you are looking for one of them to shine your knuckles with, abi? SO, either pay up or walk on. Stop pretending you gained some sort of intelligence by refusing to pay up for their attention and time you requested from them, when all it is is that you are a cheapskate.

2. Good! Your DM is filled with girls looking to offer you their attention and time in exchange for money. Pay up or shut up already. Don't pretend yourself better than them when you are pretty much scrolling through to find the one that you can probably get at the cheapest cost.
These na regular runs for poor men out there...nothing philosophical or enough to wax poetic about abeg! 🥱🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
Both of them happen to be glued to their screens so wetin be your own? They could be playing the same game or chatting...but the main be say wetin be your own? You carry picture of two strangers , without permission, post online to say what...that they must reason it all as you do? 🥱🥱

I am pissed that you actually took photos of the two unblurred. --- the gal is in full view too---, and posted it online without permission. Please take it down. If say na you, you go like am? 🥱🥱