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The OP just want validation from nairalanders for him to be told that nothing is wrong with his manhood.

Get busy bro

Prettylitlady:
Yes he was the one that deflowered me. How do I do that??

Since he deflowered you, there's a tie/bond between the both of you causing the emotional bond. As it is well known that sex goes beyond the physical. It involves emotional connection, spiritual connection through the exchange of body fluid and blood

If you are a Christian that attends a living church. Kindly go for a deliverance to break the emotional ties/bond.

And if you are not a Christian you can do accordingly to what is takes in your religion to break the ties.

From your own end as well, delete his contacts and any means of communication between the both of you.

Free yourself intentionally from his thoughts that could be growing in yours mind and at the same time. Give yourself some times before having anything to do with the opposite gender in order to heal your soul, body and mind.

Yusufisraelj:
You are speaking from both sides of the mouth? Who sleeps with these ladies! In India this your point holds no water.


What's substantive is what @UncleKoboko has said anything less than this doesn't add up.

The values of sex is way more high for women than men and that's bkos of the ideals of society.

Why bringing India to this matter now?
Are you an Indian?
Let indians deal with their issues with any judgement that fits their culture.

The points may not hold water in India, but holds more than water weight in Nigeria. Gotten?

Modified

You asking for who sleep with the lady is so illogical of you.

For the fact that men sleeps with them doesn't change any of my points in as much they weren't forced to the act.

Remember, we are not talking rape matters here. We are talking about an act where both genders consented to carry out

Mind you, lots of the female gender even render the service in exchange for material/financial gain. Will you still blame the men for that? Kindly wake up from you slumber please.

The truth of the matter is that men and women don't have equal right when it comes to the subject matter (sex).

Body count to men and women are completely different. In the part of the world where bride family charges heavily for bride price, what do you think those things collected from the man is meant to compensate if not the clean state of the lady?

Do you think the huge amount of money and material things being collected from the man is meant for the make-up face or fixed nails?

Those things are originally given to pay for the discipline and chastity of the lady. And I think a lady that is not a virgin should be the one paying groom price because the man will be doing a lot of favour marrying a lady that's not a virgin. Because foundationally, a non-virgin girl should not see any man to get married to and if by chance she cunningly get married to a man by deceit when she is not a virgin, the man should publicly divorce her for not being a virgin and take all his bride price and bride materials back fron the family that collected those from him.

And I think he should charge them to court with a charge of false pretense, and the man be compensated with immediate effect while the bride family and the bride should face the necessary charge of collecting bride price over a non virgin girl.

Prettylitlady:
Goodday NL members.. I am here for any matured advice I can get as I understand we have matured people here who can talk senses into my head and make me realise one or two things.

I am in my mid 20's, I dated my Ex for few years, we were both students then in one of the West Universities (graduates now) and I really loved him, it was true love I felt for him to be honest, he wasn't working, I don't demand for money from him or anything, I sell clothes, shoes, bags and do other small businesses while schooling, that's how I foot my own Bills and also give him money sometimes when in need. His family knows me, my family knows him like we were so much in each other(or so I thought). I saw no other guy except him, I built my world around him, we were best of friends as I am an introvert and really don't keep friends so he was my all.
Even though it was a tough decision to make, I had to break up with him due to the following reasons;
1. He has beaten me once and promised not to do it again but he still slapped me in every slightest provocation.
2. He wanted to go into yahoo yahoo. That's not the kind of partner I want, I want a legit hustler not a fraudster.
3. He sometimes cheats on me and I will forgive him always. He tells me I am the main while the others is just for cruise that every guy cheats
4. He suddenly started smoking and drinking due to friends influence I guess (Eew, I don't want that)
5. He is Lazy, always wanting big money buh doesn't want to work. I told him to Start from somewhere after our graduation no matter how little buh he won't heed.
6. He always talks dirty with his female friends even in my presence, I wonder what happens behind me.

I ended the relationship after so much talking, pleas and counselling hoping he will change but he didn't. I dated another guy 2 months later, I know nobody is perfect but trust me when I say my current guy is all I ever wanted in a man. But the truth is I really do not love him that deep, He treats me fine and all but I still feel something for my ex maybe because I was already soo used to him. My boyfriend has told me to go back if that's what I want because he doesn't want a divided attention. I know I can't break up with him because it will hurt him so badly and my conscience won't even allow me because he has done literally nothing wrong, yes we normally have our ups and downs but he hasn't done anything worth breaking up over with.

I just need advice on how I can get this my ex off my head for good. We don't communicate, I have deleted all his numbers, We have been separated for few months now but I still think of him every single day even when I have a good guy already. I don't know what is wrong with me pleasee

If he happens to be the one that deflowered you, then you need to take some extra steps to get the soul ties disconnected.

Sometimes I wonder and think hard if these people are human being or animals with just human covering.

How would a large number of things like these be this brainwashed and non of them can really think on their own to realize what they are doing for this belief.

Calling these things Nigerians is what's irritates me any time any day.

TheManOfTheYear:
5DME and Deepocean, please can we all calm down and take a chill pill.

This thread is for us to learn and examine the process of breaking into a fast growing field like tech. Not for heated exchanges and name-callings.

Let's behave like professionals that we are. Thanks

You are welcome.
Don't mind me brother.
Good afternoon.

The5DME:
It takes one to be something, to be able to identify the particular thing in another person. So, I'm pretty sure your Dad is a daft idiot, that's why he gave birth to a fool like you.

People going by the ill-mannered responses and attitude of your response to the gentleman that asked a question can relate to who's parents are fools. If you have been privileged to be brought up by a parent you won't be referring to people's parents on this forum


But I always know your type that could not trace any path to any of your parents, probably your agbero father impregnated your Olosho mother under Obalende bridge and the agbero father ran away from the oncoming responsibilities.

Probably the reason the irresponsibility of your parents is checking on you.

GloriousGbola:
The beauty and horror of SM is that you can no longer do these things on the DL.

This sxxt happened to one of my guys when we were in school. We lived in ilorin. His dad worked in national oil in lagos.

We knew the dad used to screw around becuase he had delivered package to his wife one time. Madam was thinking she caught it from toilet.

Anyways na so it came out dude had an entire second family in lagos. Today, madam would have found out by SM.

Your message would have been decently passed across and we'll understood without the abbreviations. What happens to writing in full? Takes more energy?

England vs England final is all I have seen.

bunnae:
Yet all of Lagos state is lagos

No, all of Lagos State is not Lagos.

We have Ikorodu, Ikeja, Festac, etc.

All Lagos seems to be Lagos to you because there is no distinct border between the afforementioned geographical locations.

Because when it comes to landmass in Nigeria, Lagos State is the smallest in that term. But the funniest things is that it happens to have the hugest population.

Ahmed0336:
Make una no vex. Is it the same person Osibanjo was at his palace yesterday or a different king?

No.
His tour was in Ibadan, not Oyo town.
There is Oyo town inside Oyo-State. Just as there is Kano town inside Kano State, Kastina town inside Kastina State etc. Did you get it.

therealMcCain:
An alternative is to read from January 1st 2020 post till date. if you do this, you will have virtually all bases covered.

Thanks, I appreciate

[quote author=iCauseTrouble post=111823673]The information are still valid. Sometimes, to understand the present, you need to study the past. Happy Reading!!! [/quote

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iLegendd, do you have relatives in terms of cousins, uncles aunties etc that are educated enough to be a nairaland user or are your people so uneducated that gives you the confidence and the boldness to behave like this on the internet?

I am wondering whether you are the only trained person among your people that makes the joy of the education to be this abused with the joy of no family member can see me online because "I am the only educated in my family."

Besides, haven't you thought of it before that the ladies you are posting up and down to fuel your ego could be a nairaland user. I also think maybe they do give you permission to post them online in exchange for money, or that is part of your arrangement and agreement before the invitation.

Your post always make you feel that you are the only man making money on nairaland.

Why?

Pride is just what I have seen in you sincerely.

With all the conversations I read, the lady didn't commit any offence.

Your points becomes meaningless to me at the point you highlighted the statement she used sir.... and you took it up with her saying that's was rude.

Kindly swallow your ego and reconcile with her.

She spoke with humility all through and I could not find a fault in any of her words with you.

Is like you are looking for someone you will dominate 100%. If that's what you're looking for, better for you. You will see the pepper seller in the market with primary six qualifications.

Best of luck brother.

Jennyclay:
I created a thread early January this year seeking for an advice about how my boyfriend is keeping malice with his father for over 3 years, even till today without opening up to me about what actually happened. Mind you he's a great guy with good qualities. But I saw that "malice" as a big red flag. But most nairalanders were saying Men are scares, you better continue with the relationship.

What if we had little misunderstanding in marriage will he forgive me or keep malice with me for years? If he can't forgive his father despite I've tried severally to talk to him politely, will he even forgive me? That was a very big red flag for me. I don't want to feel lonely in marriage.

If you're in a potential relationship and he/she is displaying some unwanted characters and you're seeing the signal clearly that it's a red flag but you're hoping he/she is gonna change, hmmm.. Honestly it's not easy to change a full grown man/woman. Don't give yourself false hope he/she will change.

Being in a Relationship is not all about Intercourse But interview. What do you do during an interview? You have a chance to communicate and study each other personality and character, it would be so easy to detect red flags. Don't be carried away by sex, money and gifts.

I read your post you mentioned in this post. You are an analytical thinker I guest.

May God lead you aright to the person that will value your worth. It's good not to take some steps emotionally.

Hello Damsel.

I like the fact that you always seek knowledge and information through your act of listening to radio. I really appreciate that in ladies.

When I was in secondary school, and immediately after my WAEC, I used to listen to news almost every hour of the day.

That made me to be vast in knowledge and currently affairs, I could literally mention all the federal ministers then, with their portfolios.

It's really a good thing, keep it up.

There are some employers that will not appreciate your efforts no matter what.

For instance I manage a particular organization solely owned by one man. The owner doesn't stay in the state where the organization is established, she only comes to check once in a while.

I always do all my best to the progress of the organization, but to the owner I am not doing anything. He will always complain that I am not managing the organization very well.

I have gone really extra mile, try as much as possible to cut cost, increase sales bring more customers spend my personal tokens in some expenses and lot more. But this person will still be on the point that I am not adding values.

What the CEO did of recent that pissed me off was that she nearly call me a thief, she has trust issue to the extent that she may not even trust angels.

To her everyone is a thief even down to the non skilled workers, she doesn't trust anyone. Too difficult to work with, will always bring in unnecessary and choking policy to police her. money.

I love her the first time I resumed when I was yet to know her person, but now I'm gradually hating her person.

There's no single thing you can do that she won't complain about.

If you call her na wahala, if you fail to call her na trouble if you text her, she sees it as disturbance, if you fail to text or call her she would accused you of not carrying her along in the activities of the organization.

I'm fed up.

Mine was the follow come charger of my newly purchased HP laptop charger.

Holamidhe:
I have done it with cam scanner app. Test done 70%

Congratulations, how was the questions?

Holamidhe:
yes.. Tried it now with Firefox and it was successful
. I think midnight and early morning is the best time to use this site.

I will scan my docs later and upload

I have been able tob validate the BVN.

Thanks


Use your phone to snap it na

Holamidhe:
I can't validate my BVN details. All I get is error message.

Is there a format for phone number apart from the normal 08......?


The number I use now is also different from my BVN number. It is advisable to put my new number?

I am having the same issue here.
Have you been able to validate the BVN?

Please is it everyone that applied last year that can update their application or some people have been selected along the way.

haydee012:
Aiit. I'm grateful.

Good evening, have you been able to upload the passport?

I'm just getting home.

Ennyboy12:
Oh but I didn’t see that option when paying for the application form. How do you think i can go about it?

Choose your payment platform, it will show you the amount to be paid. The amount is 21,000 altogether. It is not separated.

haydee012:
I appreciate the response, buh PS recently crashed on my pc, had to use alternatives. Eventually I had a passport spec. of 310 x 320 px with less than 100kb as specified.

I really don't want to ask, but broz can you help me out with this?

Alright no problem.

But the issue now is that I'm mow at work and my system is at home.
You can continue with the other part of the application, so when I get home I will do that for you.

haydee012:
Good morning everyone. Please I need help o. I've been stuck to the passport upload stage for a while now. It's been rejecting all the sizes and pixels I've tried to upload even when they're obviously conforming to what they demand.

Ejoo...help a brother.

Make sure that you use the required size and pixel specification. That paspport section is very sensitive to the programmed specification.

I later use Photoshop application on my system to set it to the required pixel and size.

Don't just reduce it to 200mb or less.

Be sure that the pixel for the length and breadth of the passport meets the required specification.

Ennyboy12:
Please how did you pay for the exam? Just applying too

I paid together with the application fees.

Good evening, please to those of us that are just applying, is there any update on the coming examination scheduled to hold on the 26th of this month?

Besides, if there's any vital information that you think is worth passing across, please don't hesitate to do.

Thanks.