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budaatum:
The poor woman was naive if she didn't know they were 419ing her!


“First, they assumed that I was one of those who served in government and had a stash of looted public funds hidden somewhere to expend on the elections. When they realized that was not the case, they made a second wrong assumption by believing that I would be willing to go and obtain foreign cash to prosecute my Campaign"

The leadership of the Party became frustrated that I was not using my global network to get some countries, organizations and foreigners to donate money to their Party like the APC and PDP do. The more I told them that I was committed to abide strictly to the provisions of the Electoral Act and INEC rules on campaign finance and was not going to negotiate that in order to satisfy their monetary demands, the more frustrated they became.

“In all these, the options before me were clear. I could give in to the ACPN’s desperation and use any means necessary to satisfy those fellows or I could uphold my values and leave their fold. I could succumb to their pressure, pretend as though I did not see how utterly corrupt their ransom demands were and continue with the campaign or I could step up at great personal cost to myself, and say ENOUGH.

I hope (Pastor!) Oby now understands (Nigerian/black African) politics better! I hope she would apply this experience when next she opens her mouth to blame the government.

She didn't win elections o. One political party simply made her "emergency" presidential candidate without any known party convention issues - yet she was obviously harried being the scenes.

She saw the corrupt waters that those who become President of Nigeria have to transverse before nearing Aso Rock and she ran. Did she ever think she was going to win the Presidential elections because of those who relate with get on twitter or similar suicidal media? Those people don't have PVCs, and if they do, they wouldn't go through the risks of polling booths and electoral violence.

That's why she should praise the government that have succeeded through these political party issues, won elections and invited a "saint" like her to come and run a ministry.

Oby should face reality add help Nigerians and herself by telling the world the Nigerian reality at the several levels she knows it, this being one of them.

To imagine that her former party has now turned to support Mr Buhari only tells us re enormity of moral and mental burden the President has to bear, whether he wishes it or not, yet the Daura man and his short lawyer deputy would continue to surge on despite the enormous challenges, as they try to lead Nigeria to the Next Level.

Hello friends.
I need your assistance in terms of advices on how to achieve the dreams of a shy but strong-willed colleague of mine. He is a Nigeria-trained Medical Doctor. He holds a MBBS degree but is, rather queerly, determined to pick an MPH (Masters in Public Health) and consequently do PhD - not just anywhere in Europe or America but at Harvard or John Hopkins Bloomberg!

He is hardworking and academically gifted. He ain’t married but has got huge financial engagements here in Nigeria – as in - his family and all. When asked how he intends to pay his fees were he to gain admission for example, he answers 'God would do it...’

So I've decided to help my friend by writing this here. Let's help with whatever information that may help his ambition. He hasn't currently written any foreign qualifying exam: the likes of USMLE, GRE, GMAT or TOEFL before now. I'm sure he'll also need a scholarship or endowment or something.

I (or we - as he'll also read them) look forward to your kind responses.

Best Regards.

Post Script: I like my buddy’s courage. I’m keying into it myself. I guess whatever information you drop here would help us both. #Truth

Hello friends. I need to help a shy but strong-willed colleague. He is a Nigeira-trained Medical Doctor. He holds a MBBS degree but is, rather queerly, determined to pick an MPH (Masters in Public Health) and consequently doPhD - not just anywhere in Europe or America but at Harvard and no other!

He is hardworking and academically gifted. Unmarried but with huge financial engagements here in Nigeria - his family and all. When asked how he intends to pay his fees were he to gain admission for example, he answers 'God would do it..

So I've decided to help my friend by writing this here. Let's help with whatever information that may help his ambition. He hasn't done any foreign qualifying exam i.e usmle, gre, gmat or toefl before. I'm sure he'll also need a scholarship or endowment or something.

I (or we - as he'll also read them) look forward to your kind responses.

Best Regards.

The Nigerian problem is multi-faceted.

Yesterday, we were discussing about the poor airports and terminals when compared with other nations of the world.

The day before that, it was about insecurity.

Yet still, we are bogged by poor road network, inadequate or poorly funded healthcare facilities, education is an eyesore and all manners of social malady.

The sleaze and apparent danger in the Police Barracks is only an infinitesimal proportion of the rot in our system. We've got to address these matters in a honest and bold-faced fashion. It ain't about putting this on the FP or blaming the mods or pooh-poohing the government.

It is about what we say all the time - the Nigerian mentality. We, us, your Dad and mine - are the government. We aren't ruled by the military or some monarchy.

If we decide to annihilate the three evils bedevilling our country: Corruption, Ethnicity and its attendant Nepotism, then we'll begin taking the very first few steps to cleaning this augean stable in the mess currently known as Nigeria.

It took Hong Kong 10 years. Maylasia also turned around. I believe this is why many are advocating for the tall Katsina General to rule this country; but he wouldn't do it alone. Many believe that he is disciplined and forthright. Indeed, that's what Nigeria needs at the moment.

We must disavow this 'make I chop my own mentality.' We must ask to give the society, rather than take from it or amass some ill-gotten wealth.

The average American, British, Finnish or Norwegian government official thinks first about his country before he thinks about his personal gain. The system works in their climes. Corruption has grinded ours - yet we: U and me, are the ones who have oiled the wheels of this decay... It isn't time to point fingers, that's why I've not alienated myself - even though I've played no personal roles in government before now...

The way out of this is by changing our orientation about our country, voting sane men into power, questioning the authorities per unit time and remaining faithful, honest and forthright - even in our personal and daily activities.

The average white lie, the little cheating in 'business', the lassisitude we attach to our daily responsibilities - even outside of government - are all that has added up to stagnate out dear country. Money alone wouldn't do it, it is about revamping the mentality of every one of us.

I submit!

Efemena_xy: ^^ You keep typing english. It should be English with a capital letter, not english.

I might have begun that word with the lower case 'e' a few times, but Sir, I haven't done that all the time here. I have clearly capitalised the 'e' on occasions here.

This indeed ain't a language classroom. You've been a good man all along Efe, don't do something odd.

We should express ourselves freely. That's what '(sic)' was created for.

See me see yawa o. Okay, I hail all of una o.

Kanwulia yabbed me unfairly. I kon arrange am say I no go reply am. I only dropped 4 short sentences - the shortest of all my replies here.

Na im Baby get con take carry am reach anoda level. Baby123 dearie, I'm a box of humour on my day o. English, yoruba, pidgin and all that goes just fine with me!

I'm indeed not as rigid as it seems here o - and I've tried hard to explain that severally here. I have written in english, yoruba and pidgin too. I've won class awards in the past for being the most homorous dude, shey U get... Indeed, I'm not straitjacketed - and I'm not being unneccesarily defensive with that point. The gist is this: I came to NL and wrote my classical criteria. Of course, some juggling would be done along the line when I meet the woman naw... I 'kuku' can't create a robot with all that specs and marry her, na human being I go carry marry naw...

In introducing myself here, I simply had to write my primary orientation. It doesn't mean there wouldn't be the place of compromise as we get along - only that certain things wouldn't be compromised at all. I might not have a Queen Elizabeth english spewing damsel, but I also wouldn't settle for a Dame Patie*ce Jona of some sort, U get...

Kanwu, I'll not honour you by getting into a roforofo with U. I've had good women in my life - only that I haven't decided on who to marry just yet. I'm not 30 - I'm indeed in my mid 20s ma'am. I don't describe the religious affiliation of members of my family as 'shyte' and I respect my fellow men. Calm down ma, don't burst an artery!

Kanwulia: Not my kind of man. . .

I DON'T KNOW YOU. . .SO NOTHING PERSONAL HERE!

Reasons:
A Catholic. . .(spiritually-allergic to CATHOLICS. . .MY MOM IS ONE. . . MY HUSBAND IS ONE, so, I know them well. . . .THEY DARE NOT BRING THAT SHYTE NEAR ME. . .AND I LET THEM BE TOO)
A medical doctor. . .(I WORK WITH MANY. . .NEVER DATED ONE! Reason: the poorest of socialization skills)
A sex-free advocate that wants marriage. . .(a most DEFINITIVE PRUDE)
A Nigerian man with no successful 'DATING HISTORY'. . .EVEN FROM SECONDARY SCHOOL OR UNIVERSITY (? CLOSET BISEXXXXUAL)
A THIRTY YEAR-OLD FRIGID BLOKOS? (ABSOLUTELY NO EXPERIENCE WITH WOMEN WHO ARE ABSOLUTELY EMOTIONAL CREATURES)

Dude, you are not real.
I will NOT RECOMMEND YOU TO ANY WOMAN I KNOW. . . YOU ARE THE MOST SUMPTUOUS RECIPE FOR FAILURE IN ANY LEVEL OF RELATIONSHIP!!!

DO NOT GET A DOG!. . .WOMEN FLEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE FROM THIS DUDE. . .UNLESS YOU ARE ON A EMOTIONAL DEATH-WISH!
You need to join a SEMINARY. . . DATING OR MARRIAGE IS NOT FOR YOU! YOU ARE DOOMED TO FAIL!!!!

Damn! I am good at reading people. . . MY GREATEST STRENGTH IS SOCIO-PSYCHOLOGICAL PROFILING!

I should go work for OLIVIA POPE!

Kanwulia, you've assumed too many things. You've generalised too broadly. You've asserted only too unfortunately. Finally, you've arrogated too much to yourself.

I've got no words for you ma'am!

TV01: ...I've started so I'll finish.

Definitive, if you are a truly faithful to God, please believe your "situation" is not like that of others.

If I had met my wife a year earlier, I may well have missed it. I had lot's of notions I needed to be disabused of, prejudices I needed to let go of, as well as insights I needed to glean and wisdom I needed to acquire. The timing has to be right, the person has to ready, you just have to be righteous.

God is working with you to this end. Just be patient and trusting. Prayerful, watchful and humble. I could never have seen the end from the beginning, but when God finished His work, it all became clear. Those who do not believe as you do have to engineer their own ends. And it's not that this approach cannot pay some dividends, but who will be your guarantor, who will stand surety? Please be careful from whom you solicit and take advice.

He is the God of all comfort and all consolation. I have passed through so I can share with you. Not that I'm a Catholic or any other denomination, but I am, and speak to you as one, who over and above labels truly believes. If so, you do not need to hear anymore or say anymore. Not just Guarantor, not only Surety, but also Justifier.

I have spoken. Off to swing some kettles jor...

TV

Bless you Sire! Waa sheere egbon mi! *May God bless your endeavours*

Baba Mimo a tun ile ati ona e she. Ona e a la. Adura re a gba. Emi Mimo a da'abo bo e. Inu re a dun, ayo re a kun. Iro ayo laa ma gbo ninu ile re!

*When I really have to bless someone from the deepest depths of my heart, inspite of English being my first language, it simply comes in Yoruba. I hope U could read all of that. They are prayers and blessings for U and your family.

At the moment, I'm making some wonderful friends and meeting some truly awesome souls. I'm not in a big hurry at it were. Friendship is it - every other thing can exude as effluents of a solid friendship!

Tv, efemana, madamchima and the rest of U all have been fabulous. I pray for all of you today:

When you call, the Heavens would hear...

Before you ask, the Father Himself would attend to your every need...

May you find peace and favour every where you turn...

May you never feel isolated, marooned or beleaguered...

At the end of time, may you be reunited with the Lord in His Glory and Sovereign Majesty.


Once again, God bless every one of you! This experience for me has been breath-taking and I'm so grateful for every one of your comments.. Ese, Nagode, Imela, Merci!

@Efemena: I would. What matters is the inner person.

@soulglo: I've dated less than 8ppl in all of my life. I'm very relunctant at making commitments - because when I do, I give in everything. Sadly, I lost 2 of that very few, my last 2 really - in friendships that lasted about 3 years in combined total - to the RC matter.

That said, pls don't rush to castigate. I keep trying to reply messages here so that I'm not misconstrued.

andyanders: Op, I find it very difficult to believe you or take you as a good man the way you painted yourself.
Come to think of it, a man with such your good profile as a catholic, who claim to be a devoted one looking for a fellow catholic shouldn't be having problem coming across one yourself since you are a born catholic from birth.
If you are here soliciting for a good catholic, I can state here that your character should be questionable.
My reasons. A true catholic with a sound background like yours, who grew up within a catholic family, should have by now seen a true faithful lady with your kind of needs.
A true catholic whom you claim to be, should have by now known the true steps and directions to have followed either by asking your direct parents to source for a lady with the qualities you want from your catholic mission or even asking your close relations to help in getting a good lady within the catholic family.
A good catholic as you claimed to be should also have access to your inner catholic family members for them to have known that a man with your kind of profession should have a sister from within as a wife and they should be in a position to introduce one to you.
Op, remember that catholic churches are one of the largest gathering of christian family and as a true member you claim to be, you should not have any problem getting a true wife from there.
Having stated the above,I will deduce that your inability to see any good lady from all catholic family in which you grew up, goes to show that you are either not a faithful member or you have a questionable character.
Coming through this medium to seek for a true woman goes to show that either you have a hidden agenda or you are a very bad man that no woman wants to stay or spend their lives with.

andy, pls calm down. Don't overstretch your imaginations. I assumed that my replies yesterday would have satisfied you and others with your kind of mindset. I'm obviously mistaken.

Ma'am, I'm not getting married tomorrow morning. Even if the lady were Obama's daughter. I'll date whoever I meet for a minimum of 12months before walking down the aisle. There is no desperation or rush. I'm only planning early and writing out my priorities in women.

I've lost very close pals in the past. I wouldn't want to lose a relationship any further especially on matters as this.

@TV01, Efemana and Phema: God bless you guys really good. You indeed understand the situation at play here.

Everyone seems to be thinking that I must have dozens of 'offers' now. It really isn't so. Not much has changed and I'm still as single as when I first wrote this initially.

To andy who sounds a little mischievious, I was cyon parish president, nominated for nfcs executive office in the university, my dad is knighted... I can go on and on...

All of that doesn't give a man a wife. It can make girls available, it doesn't however guarantee one gets that lady who fits snugly. Indeed, the best compatibilities are those with as many similarities as are contrasting differences. I hold fastidiously to the saying 'In love, the first thing one appreciates are the similarities; thereafter you RESPECT your differences.'

If 'arrangee' marriages, as was contracted for my greatgrandparents is what you are pooh-poohing me over, you can go to town with your ideation. I would lose no more sweat trying to convince U.

Finally, @Efemana, beauty is important. But like your rightly posited, it is only in the eye of the beholder and is largely ephemeral. I see x-rays of the head frequently and I know that physical beauty is usually overrated. Of course that's aside the fact that 90 percent of our women lose those shapes, curves, make-up and other attractions after as early as their first baby.

Carriage, elegance and composure are qualities I value ahead of 'beauty.'

kreami diva, I appreciate your comments. You are such a wonderful person. God bless you. I'll certainly take the advice. The good part is that my orientation about this matter is known ahead of time....

But what can't change anyway? Almost nothing... I doubt if I'll ever change my RC ideation tho.'

That said, how do U balance your family with ur different denominations? When U pray and speak in tongues, what does he do? *Very few Catholics do so. That's not to say Caths don't speak in unknown tongues...* On Sundays, do U go to different Churches? How about the kids - are they Catholics or pentecostals?

These are the fears I have ma'am...

@Lews: God bless you for your kind comments. I honestly appreciate them. I guess my words in describing my few experiences in the past are now being used against me. Let me explain it here:

In med school, I was the regular bookie. In other words, I didn't socialize as such. I learnt to make a few good friends and keep them pretty close.

I've lost some one or two friends in the past to the RC Faith matter - after sorting every other issue of compatibility and mutual interest.

That's why I've publicly stated it here and done that early. The phone numbers I made available here are alternate phone numbers to reach me. Please notice that there are 2 different phone numbers for whatsapp and text messages. I have kept my direct line private. It might be unusual but I'm only airing my private need, albeit without desperation however.

Trust me Sir, I'm a team player. In marriage, yourself and your spouse are mates. Nobody is a Dr or lawyer. All that ends the moment U make a commitment to yourselves. I only wrote out the most important criteria. Trust me, I might not be the party type but I'm humorous and playful in my way.

Why have I put up all this on NL? Well, NL is where everything happens - good and bad. There are all manners of people here - bad, ugly, wicked and all what have you - but there is no gainsaying that there are also kind hearted, tolerant and understanding souls here.

If we can talk about admission, visas, politics, socio-economic and many private matters here, why must I be excoriated for doing no wrong?

@KayJasper, since you aren't open, I'll go no further. I respect people's private affairs. *smiles*

I was going to reply @andy until I got the latest update from @ifyalways...

NL can be a tough place to seek anything, U know... Phew! See yabbing... She went on to write passionately 'so-much-acclaimed-Dr' on more occasions than one. It doesn't change the work I do daily ma. That's simply my job.

Okay, let me say this: women have never been far from me. How close they get is what I define however. That's one.

2. The Catholic Faith is conservative, as U can see I am too. Matters like rosary, confession, novenas, sacraments and all that are the pillars of the Faith. They are best understood when willingly taken up, and not with the pressures of marriage or the need to get hooked/ 'settle down'.

3. Gentlemen and responsible ladies do not rush. We simply take our time and assess our options. That's what I'm doing - NL is only a broader scale.

Finally, don't rush to castigate. This isn't Wale Adenuga Productions or some nollywood flick. I wouldn't be too bothered by criticism though. Jesus had more than a fair share of such - even till death. Today, 2000 years after his demise, his native people in Israel still deny him - only 10% of them are Christians... So why would I be perturbed if I'm unduly villified here?

P.S: I'm sincerely grateful for the kind replies I'm receiving privately. God bless you all.

kay jasper: Eeya ..I feel for you Doctor.
.I happen to meet your criteria ....and am Catholic too!!!!

But I wont call or message you simply because you have to shift ground to meet a good woman.

You want them to bend into you....why can't you bend into them?

If you still live by the church rules of having to marry a Catholic like yourself then maybe the choir will be a place to start your search.

Bottom line....drop this rigid criterias you have here .. and stop being too stuck up with Catholicism....Catholics have moved beyond this your reasoning .....except probably you are in your 70s!!!

@KayJasper: thanks for your kind reply. I'm pleased you are Catholic. It is even more heartwarming that U meet my criteria.

That's a fine way to start. U see dear, whatever got me to the point where I had to write this on NL, for a professional like myself, I'm definitely going for broke.

I'm willing to work at a relationship with a wonderful young lady, but I must avoid the pitfalls I have previously experienced. Therefore, on NL, I had to state the first criteria - the Faith. I have had beautiful friends that didn't work out only because I didn't shift ground on doctrine. The Catholic faith works for me. It built me and I want to raise a Catholic family too. That's all.

I'm not denying and would never controvert the known fact that christianity also exists outside the RC Faith. Certainly not, but this is a life time commitment and I'm willing to get into it only in the terrain I know best.

Faith and/or religion, I believe, are the most important matters that must be sorted as soon as an affair is contracted. Every other matter would rightly fall into place thereafter. Trust me dear, that's all.

So would U kindly let me know how to reach U now? *smiles*

As a way of introduction, I'm a medical doctor. I'm gainfully employed. I live and work in the largest city in West Africa.

I'm a practising christian and of the Roman Catholic extraction. Honestly, speaking very modestly, I'm averagely good looking - if not very handsome. I'm adroit at my professional responsibility and communicate pretty well in English language.

Ordinarily, I have no problems. But that's where the problem indeed is: I seem to have huge problems getting a good woman to settle down with.

Now I'm almost losing my mind. Women often complain that men are fake, are smokers, womanisers and all of that. Now here is one who doesn't drink, smoke, womanise or party. I can't even dance to modern nigerian hip-hop. I get on well with the old school music however. That'a where the issue is: I seem to be too definitive, too God-conscious, too Catholic or too 'rigid' to whatever is right and appropriate in the sight of both God and man.

I would love to meet a woman who has my orientation about life - as I'm nearly 30 and haven't simply met a Catholic lady or willing-to-be-Catholic lady who is willing to keep a sex-free definitive relationship which would lead to marriage. Often times, when I get to meet a lady who can speak and present herself in the society as good as I do, they come as proud, unchristian or warped mentalities. On the rare occasion when I thought I had met the woman I so badly prayed for, we couldn't work out because she was rigidly stuck to her pentecostal faith.

So I have come to appeal to all of you: Nairaland please help.

I'm in need of a beautiful lady for marriage. I'll prefer a hardworking professional with global horizon who can communicate in impeccable English and who is a Roman Catholic or is willing to become one before marriage.

I can be reached by replies here or by texts to 08036698683. My whatsapp # is 08156133790.

I'm genuine. I'm optimistic that there is a lady out there who shares my orientation.

Bros abeg don't be avoidably paranoid. Please don't derail this thread either. I have my need and I have written it here.

You can keep the sermon about negativity for your audience, not for me.

I need a Catholic lady, that' all - and I'm sure you aren't Catholic or female - from your manner of reply anyway!

I don't know if I'm putting this up in the wrong section. That's why I've labelled this as 'a special need.' What's my need? A wife!
Why here? On nairaland? In religion section? There is a peculiarity: I have been searching for quite a while and I'm becoming a little desperate, hence the need to use Seun's e-country.

I'm a medical doctor. I work at a hospital in SW Nigeria and would be 2* in March. That's by way of introduction. I'm averagely good looking and speak english quite well, so what's my problem?

It is my *peculiar need; A CATHOLIC lady.

Now you are about to say "Catholics abound everywhere, they are the largest single christian denomination on earth... bla bla bla." Yes Sir, you are right. Before Catholicity however, I need a practising christian, not just a church attending catholic. I have met a number of good christian ladies but converting them to the Roman catholic faith - BEFORE MARRIAGE - is usually the problem. Roman Catholicity is too complex to understand only by virtue of marriage. A lady needs at least a year to understand the basis of the Faith and without the pressure from a potential husband.

I'm yoruba and could indeed marry anyone from anywhere. Just be at least 30months youbger than myself, be a Roman catholic christian, have a perfect idea of your life goals i.e have a clear cut personal vison and finally, be able to present yourself to the society by speaking impeccable english. A professional like myself would gladden my heart specially.

I hope I'll find someone who has been searching for someone like me here. I'm positive that there is a lady out there with a similar need like mine. i however know that many people might quote me and diss me. I'll take the insults. Marriage, to me, is very serious business and the most important life decision a man makes. If people can ask info about visas, admission and its likes here, I hope I'll find my own need here.



***I've been on nairaland since 2007 and I use a different moniker. I had to open newly in order to achieve this special and important purpose without attracting much to my known identity on NL.


I can be reached on whatsapp via 0815-613-3790. I'll look forward to reading your replies. This is real.