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I just ignore it and leave the scene as long as it is from a lady don't take it serious

@04real
It is easy to write here that i will forgive. I always believe that when i get to the bridge i shall cross it. Frankly speaking if i must give an answer on this now, my response would be that i can't forget the act and may lead to anything. Here trust still comes in; I think trust comes before taking marriage oath and when the foundation of the oath (trust) is scrumbled then what ever the oath transcended to is shaken already. take God grace to come out of it.

Problem shared is problem solved. Am saying a big thank u for your contribution here. They are all usefull. Am almost over the matter now. And i can now move on. Thanks for the good people of nairaland

emmeno:
Which debt is OBJ paying off? See lets get real here, i knw many people wont feel me on this but its just a strategy to get more money into his pocket. So long live the "Money Eating Monkey" I knw talk say na him o!

Obj, IBB and the rest of them are all alike. I wonder why people are looking at OBJ as a saint. are they not all "Money Eating Monkey"
But i don't just like the way people are trying to nail IBB. take it or leave it the man na genius and he could do well if given a another chance like Obj

Hotstepper:
simple, tell your friend and tell the woman you are not interested, itz as simple as that.

well,sound simple! Any way I have made up my mind to tell my girl. As to the woman i have made myself clear to her several time that iam not interested but she keep on irritating me so, i could not imagin how far she could go on this.
Where am having problem is her friend (my boss who appraise me at work) who is not looking at the issue from my side of view but just want to make her friend happy. I just need advice on the best way to handle the issue so that my Job will not be affected.
Take for instance in one of my discussion with my boss she made me to realise that she could do anything within her power to make her friend happy.

A little about myself before going into the detail.
I am a guy who like meeting people and show concern for whatever they might be passing through. This has gone a long way in my rtp with my colleague. And my boss(a woman) know that most of my subordinate are loyal to me reason she does not know . And I hope this is not what is putting me into this trouble I am now.
The Story. There was this friend of my boss a single mother of one (a daughter), she comes to our office frequently to visit her friend(my boss) because she is into biz. Even her daughter do come to our office once in a while during her break. So one day my bos got me introduced to this friend of hers and since then any time she is around she do stop at my desk to greet and I respond by asking after her family and everybody(Note, then I have not discover her that she is a single mother). Man before I know what is happening I have become her friend first, a friend to her daughter then the mother. The small daughter often give me a call from their house and refers to me has uncle , Any time she travel she will surely come back with something for me. I got to know her status May(5) last year when her daughter inviter me for her birthday, and my problem started from then. I went to the birthday with my girl from there she got to know her. She had a nice time with my guy and they exchange their phnoe no. All this while I do not know her mobile no and neiher did I give her little daughter mine. She only talks to me using office line. As am writing this she has became a good friend of my girl who does not stay here in Lagos(she is at Ilorin only comes around once in a while).
Sometimes in July she invite me for a launch on account that her daughter wanted to see me which I did. It was during this launch time I got to know her because it was like she is looking for somebody to pour her heart to. In my own little way I give the advice I could and encourage her to get marry again.
Beginning of the trouble. During their long vac. Her daughter comes to my office on average of twice in a week. That same period she (daughter) got to know my house because she keep on telling me she wanted to come to my house. On the weekend she was going back to school, she was at my place on sat and she wish I should see her to school on Sunday and I grant the wish.
The Bomb Shell. [/b]After dropping her at school I have to drop the mother in her house(festac) before proceeding to mine. On getting their, she ask me that there is something for me. She gave it to me but to my supprise I was lost with words when she said she want to make a request and the request turn out to be:she want me to give her a baby. Initially I thought it was a joke but when I saw the seriousness in her I politely turn down the offer but my biggest surprise came when I saw her with tear on her knee pleading that I should just think of it. Since then I have been avoiding her which also cause me to be avoiding the little girl who is now looking miserable.
[b]The problem This year my boss first notice that am avoiding her friend’s daughter and her friend. She come me and I deny avoiding them but the friend still keep on pestering me on the issue. Recently I come to observe that is like my boss is aware of what the matter is but did not ask me and her friend keep on trying which is becoming irritating and disturbing. At this juncture I let u know that my boss is indifference to the issue if I could go ahead and make her friend happy who does not want an husband but want a baby boy preferably from me.
Area of advices: Shd I tell my girl because she n this woman still talk from time to time? How would she fill if I tell her because we are planning to get marry soon and I do not want to haunt her? Then how should I tell her because I did not know wht her rxtn will be?
2.to the guy should i give her a baby to clear the whole mess?
3. How should I make myself clear to this woman that is not going to affect my rtp with my boss and consequently my job?
4. The little girl want my friendship which I have been denying her because of her mum action. Should I tell her why am avoiding her because she knows that and if I do how would she fell?. Again I do not like the way because the thing keep on haunting her?

sentiment apart, y've not been there for her when she need. every lady want security which ur brother is providinfg for her while u run away becos of ur age u said( is he ur yonger or elder brother?). ur blame n what i htink u shd learn from this is that u don't need to run away from ur responsobilty; accepted it was a mistake. As for ur girl and brother i think they did the worst thg. and i will advice to stay clear of the girl and allow her to enjoy live where she think she find it. now u need to carry on with life and think of better thing u could for urself rather thinking abt a lady who does not give a dawn of u. Who know may u ara rope in the first place?. be vigilant n more careful in next affair. wishing u good luck and sametime wishing ur brother and d girl good luck too

IF like take a whole decay to court a lady that does not granty successfull mariage. To me any time after 3month marriage can take place if both party are sincere with each other. My dear it is not how long a courtship but how well

The way the word is been use today has made it to loss it value. To me is a big word which need to be said only when one meant it. Only my tue love hear that from me. And not what i made common like the air we breath in

@rosydabomb good news to you on behave of the person i say your sins are forgiven go and sin no more.

demmy not that am saying IBB is the only solution but my point is, among all the evil one we have now on ground i prefer IBB to others. Let the angel come out before start seeing a better solution. do you rememeber this saying that the devil you know is better than an angel you do not know?

IBB knows what u need and will give it to you. I think if the man has his way back to Aso-Rock He will use his brain postively for the nation. And they the things are now it can only take a man that knows the millitary very well to stop them from caoming back looking at the so much noise about the third term agenda and other issue in the country. To i give that man to IBB now or who else can you guys at nairaland recomended?

africanboy good we can not assess the strength of Atiku then what can u say about the strength of the evil genius IBB?
if He realy want to work i think things will be better off under him than Atiku

Let know whom do you preffer between IBB and Atiku. Me i will rather vote IBB instead of Atiku.
The question is who willrule this great nation come 2007?