ZUBY77:


.. and you would chase Dangote's first son out of your place with a broom if she comes near your 17 year old sister or daughter or you?
Really? And then later you would kneel down, close both eyes, hands in the air, asking God why he made you poor and accusing your father's elder brother of keeping you poor.

Poverty stricken in this context, doesn't mean you are poor, not that I care in anyway. It means that poverty has configured your mentality.
It is easy for you to say rubbish on the Internet.
Go check how old Buhari was before he married his Aisha who is currently your first lady.
Check how old Aisha was at the time.
I wonder if her life is past her now.

I am sure if one Koran or Bible has said that it's cool to marry a 15 year old woman, you toad brain would have been the first person to broadcast it everywhere

Any future daughter of mine will be raised not to need or depend on a man for money.
As for poverty configuring my mentality, stop making assumptions that you know anything about me. Assumptions make an ass of you. Either ways, I thank God for my life. I'm content thanks. As for Buhari, that is one success story yay! For every success story, there are a thousand sad stories out there.
I hope you are also celebrating Shettima's divorced 17 year old ex-wife as you are celebrating Aisha. Dude, when the time comes, I hope some guy comes to buy off your 14 year old daughter. You probably would need the money.

ZUBY77:


Don't cry for the future of the nation based on sex issues. That's the least of our problems.

It is a very important problem to deal with. The girl child is being exploited by men like you. They are as much an important part of the solution to the problems facing this nation. And if you derail them this early, I continue to weep for Nigeria.

Give the girl a pen not a penis. But when we have senators and Governors like Shettima providing poor examples, people like you will never learn.

ZUBY77:



Allow?
Will you allow your 20 year old daughter to have sex with a 22 year old man?

Yes allow. Afterall, if the parents approve the relationship, then they are allowing it. That's not to say the parents approval is going to be sought anyways.
As for the 20 - 22 year olds, I'd probably have less issues with it. At least the 22 year old won't be chased out of my house with guns and dogs. However, If the 17 year old was my daughter, you can be sure the guy will be going to jail.

And since you are so concerned about the use of the word allow, I will rephrase :
Will you be okay with your 17 daughter sleeping with a 27 year old? How would you react to finding out?

ZUBY77:


Na.. You got it wrong..
I wrote 'men'. Not me..

At my age, I wont sleep with a 14 year old.
But if I was still 17, I would gladly do that.
Tell me you don't know that 14 year girls have sex..
Tell me this is the first time you heard this.

Well on the bright side of things, I'm glad you are one less person sleeping with 14 year olds.
I wouldn't castigate a 17 year old sleeping with a 14 year old either. Sad it is tho as 14 year olds and sex should not be mentioned in the same breath.
What is wrong is wrong. It doesn't matter how many people are doing it or support it. A 27 year old sleeping with a 17 year old is wrong. WTF does a 17 year old know about love or what she wants. She is at an age where she can be easily influenced negatively. I don't blame the 27 year old though, I blame her parents who haven't done their jobs well and instilled in her some self value and appreciation.

harristo:


Go tell that to omotola who married at age 18 to a man 10 years older than her. Today Omotola's marriage is more successful than that of most women that waited until the old age of 30 to get married.

Some women who got married at 30 still ended up having problems in marriage and breaking up. It is not the age at which you got married that will determine how successful your marriage will be.

Op need only wait until she is 18 years old, and he can get engaged or married to her.

I'm so sure you are totally involved in omotola's marriage to realize what she went through and how happy she is. The grass is always greener on the other side.

For every omotola, there are thousands of ladies that married that early and their lives are doomed. They are nobodies, and so no one bothers with them. Will you allow your 17 year old daughter to sleep with a 27 year old man?

Obalende:


Truly reasoning like a crazy woman. So her boyfriends are not taking advantage of her its a husband that is?

Upside down reasoning.

When people like you talk, I cry for the future of this nation.

ZUBY77:


No. Marriage is not fools rush in program. It a beautiful thing, very beautiful.

At 17, you think a girl is still a Child.

Are we not talking about people that started sleeping with me as early as 14?

Life is controlled by the culture of the environment you live.
At 30 in Nigeria, you are already piling up pressure for yourself without a stronghold on a man who is either your husband or has every intention of marrying you.

You see one thing, it's difficult to accept the truth when it doesn't seem to agree with you.

We inherited a society where if you are a woman without husband, you inherit nothing from your father.

Genevive Nnaji, Linda Ikeji and their likes seems to be enjoying spinsterhood at 40s because they are on the news. And the deluded ones like you think they are the Chief role models of how a woman should live her life.
Naaaaa.

I repeat, at 17, a girl is ready for sex.
Only a wicked man would take advantage of her 17 year old wife if they get married.
That's where love comes in. Remember the OP said they are in love.
With love involved, I won't take advantage of my 17 year old wife.
Without love, I wont marry or date a 30 year old woman.
This is basic philosophy but your block head won't allow you to see the truth in it.

The way out of every situation for people like you is God/Pastor/Church/Faith. The same things that allow some women to live for 60 years without getting married.

What exactly would a 30 year old woman be coming to do in my house as my wife if I am 27?

I would only consider a 30 year old woman for wife if I am 45 and above.
If I wanted to marry at 27, trust me, my wife won't be more than 18.


One last question..

Poverty controlled Dullard..
If The first son of Aliko Dangote who is 27, comes to marry you at 17,

Tell me what you will tell him.

You are so deluded and so off base that I'm at a loss of words. God help us in Nigeria.
Did you proudly say you have been sleeping with 14year olds? WOW!!! We really need child protection laws in Nigeria. You are nothing but a pedophile and a rapist dude.
Yet some unfortunate girl is going to marry you one day and think she's got a responsible man in her hands? SMH

Poverty controlled dullard? Indeed the internet is a leveller. You can sit in your room and spew rubbish. Rich or poor, I am glad God has made me into someone with a conscience and respect for human dignity. Not some low life like you.

And if dangote's son was to come for a 17year old, I'd chase him out with a broom. The 17 year has an entire lifetime ahead of her to choose. Unfortunately, people like you think because you have some change in your pocket, you can control other people's life. You think you are the in thing. Dude you are nothing till you learn to realize money is nothing.

Obalende:


If a 17 year old can have four boyfriends she sleeps with in Nigeria, why can't she have one husband who isn't even sleeping with her until she is of legal age and marries her?

How many stupid decisions a 17 year old makes is no excuse to take advantage of her. Pedophilia! You think the guy isn't going to sleep with her? stop kidding yourself.

ZUBY77:



That's how you people wait until you are 30, then it's time for TB Joshua to sleep all night in the Synagogue and time to accuse one person or the other for holding your destiny.

Another child molester in the making - go for ladies that are old enough to really know what she wants and not some kid. You go run to which MOG you want, thats your business. PS there is nothing wrong with being single at 30. Marriage is - fools rush in program.

I can't believe people think this is okay. Usually a 10 year gap may be nothing, but it doesn't count when a teenager is involved. You are just taking advantage of a young child. What the hell does a 17 year old know about life. OP stop being a child molester. Go for someone more mature.

Not even sure where to start from but Dude you f..d up big time.
when you date and marry a single mom, you already accept that she's a package deal. Right from the onset.
You can't love her without her child. If you love her, you can't claim not to love her kid as he is a vital part of her. And you can't possibly try to separate her from her kid. THat would be cruel.

One thing about dating a single mother? You'll never be first in her life. Her kid comes first. You have to know that.

Your second screw up, marrying a lady cos she was pregnant within 3 months. You should have both used protection till you are okay with having kids. But you couldn't resist skin to skin abi? Now it has happened. Now time to deal wit it. You married her cos of her sad past? That's not good enough. You be captain save a ho?

Now it has happened, forget the ex. He is in the past, no big deal. And hopefully he will still surface for the kid in future. Cos the kid needs the both of you. His biological father, and his real dad, you - hoping you become what he needs. You will be his role model in life.

Kids can sense when they are not loved. They can sense when they do not belong. This kid will grow up with you kids and be a brother to them. He will be there to help and guide them, and in your absence, be a father figure to them. You really want to make sure that your substitute father figure is up to the standard for your kids. If you did, you would not regret it. My step father has never regretted it, he's made me the man I am today.

Sparkles003:

And i gave you my requirement.

What's your requirement? Just to be sure we are on the same page

Good luck

Dreams come true. Keep dreaming.

Kids!!! smh

See quesion. Abeg pak wel wel

She better be

If its yours, it will work out. If it doesn't, dont sweat it. Don't you bother yourself whether love exists or not.

Everything is wrong with the story

Sparkles003:

Give your life to Jesus Christ

That's taken care of and has nothing to do with this. na you talk say you be good wife, trying to see what we need to get you.

Cutehector:
Let us just be good potential husbands first, and we will get good wives...

Story for the gods.

You are right that one should concentrate on being good persons/husbands etc but it doesn't guarantee good wives. Bad things usually happen to good people bro. Life is not fair....way of the world.

All the girls doing me shakara online....

He wasn't the right guy for the job at the time anyways.

Raymondenyi:
. Bunch of jokers; op do not ever listen to this ones...

Hahaha....you think the guy doesn't already know his problems? Or you think anything anyone here tells him is going to make a difference to him? Probably not.

christinie:
any reason(s)?

Your choices are really between feeling inadequate and settling for lower standards. You'd never feel fulfilled.
You'll never be good enough for one and the other never be good enough for you. Recipe for unhappiness.

killerman47:
Hello house!!! I honestly think I need help...

I'm a young man; 27 year old, I'm self sufficient (independent) and have a stable Job...
I graduated from the higher institution @ 23, afterwards went for my youth service, and returned, got a job the following month, and have been doing well, in Most aspect of my life.
My issue is; I'm scared of getting committed in any relationship, I hate commitment and I scare away from it at the slightest hint.
Through out my life; I have never been involved in any committed relationship ( like having a GF)... The only time I tried this was during my youth service far away ( the truth is, I only allowed it then, Becos I knew it will only be for a year, afterwards we go our ways)... i'm really scared of getting involved in any relationship...
What might be wrong with me?

Honest, and mature responses I require please...

You have a serious problem. Send some money to my account number and I will email you solutions.

Fool. Yes

What a waste of beauty.

Compared to Jona?

OP Lead by example

take the sales one. Talking from experience.

Time to get a job