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Offpoint1:
These thread ain't necessary. Your family business should remain private.

You're not connected with the ops.who knows you here? .we are learning from others. There are people who would never give a dim to their parents even when they have and their parents are suffering.This thread is an eye opener.

papyjaypaul:
This spending is black tax for those abroad but not all financial spending can make sense, some of them are emotional and you will keep paying for your absence. You never know when they will be gone so you will spend to take care of them. Forget what anyone there is saying about Dangote or Otedola, I don't think those people have responsibilities because even if your parents are doing well, there's this blessing that finance cannot explain that comes with taking care of your parents. No be everything de textbook. You just have to experience some things. Some religion consider it as charity

I know some people have a problem where parents are demanding or the parents are spending the money you send them helping other people, see I cannot explain everything in life and we cannot understand everything about life. You will get to a stage where you will be looking for loved ones to spend money on. Money, energy and time are not always the same. You will make more money and still have some energy to make more money but you don't have enough time to be with them.

Spend on your parents and indulge them a little. You need their prayers as you are growing old. I know say for oyinbo life, they cut the cord very early but Africans are rooted in community and we will continue to keep the connection. One love Africa ❤️

You're the son of the soil.l love you.life begets life.

CaptainFM1:
You should receive sense. Do we all earn the same amount that we must now compare how much we've spent on our parents?

Nobody owes you any information on how much they've spent on their parents. If you're thinking you haven't spent enough on your parents, then it's safe to say you need to spend more. No need to ask others on how much they've spent on their parents.

There's no benchmarking for spending on your parents and no need to ask what people spend on their parents. It's an individual decision.

Excuse maker.This is just to encourage others who don't. This is a faceless forum.Who knows you?

spiceadole:
It's the least I can do.
8 years ago,I sent him 200k after my mum pleaded and attempted to bridge the gap...The man returned the money to me with plenty abuses.Lol.

We haven't seen again since then.
Everybody is fine.

Oh,its a pity,something is wrong somewhere. Get reconcile with him at all cost, before he passes on..The Bible says follow peace with all men and holiness without which no man shall see the Lord.

Abee79:
I spent everything, but Dad still passed 💔

Never mind. The Lord will console you.you have done you best. You will certainly be rewarded and prosper.

spiceadole:
Well,that's my case.
I have never liked my dad and he doesn't like me too.
It's not my problem.
Even if I see him in my dream,I recognize him as my enemy.
Life goes on.

Are u a christian? Get reconcile with him,before he passed on.life begets life,mark you,what you do to him now, your son will do it to you too.This l have seen. At least lam 63 years now.

spiceadole:
Lolz.

Broken record.

If I can go this far without him,there is no limit to anything good concerning me.

There is no second chance for use.less fathers.

I have long moved on and I'm doing quite well, without him.

I surely believe you were not dropped from the sky.Nothing happened to you without your father's knowledge. He gave birth to u,tutored u,brought you up and sent you to high institutions and now you think you have gotten it all. What a pity.Have rethink bro.

Harddiskng:
Reconcile with your dad.

There is a limit to how far you can go in life without fatherly blessings (especially if he is alive).

Your reconciliation will remove some stumbling blocks you currently have in your life, this i have seen.

Wow! You're blessed.

Softmirror:
There are stages in life. The stage at which children mostly spend on their parents is when they become old and weak. It's a circle, but only responsible children who have mercy in their heart usually do this without excuse even if their parents are still very wealthy in their old age. It's one of the best of kindness to can ever practice.

On point sir

ibechris:
I have given my parents more than I can quantify and I can't stop given.

This year alone,I have bought them food items worth more than 500k just my dad and mum alone.

Money,I give them 100k feeding every month.
Gas 15k every month this is excluding food items.

In six months,I can respectfully say I have given them about 1.2m.

Fantastic! Tell me how God will not prosper you.You're a star, keep it up.l acknowledge u.

Onegai:
There's a book I'll recommend and please take reading it VERY seriously:

Stormie Omartian "Power Of A Praying Husband".

Read it, Pray every single prayer at the end of each chapter. Open your Bible and start studying Scripture on Forgiveness and Love. The Bible is a book about Love. Ask God to show you your wife's heart the way He sees it. She's shut down emotionally from you.

Then you need to work on your anger and need to resort to violence. Love means submission and Apostle Paul tells us to submit to each other. So you need to find out who you are in Christ Jesus (because change is very hard and we don't want you resorting to violence ever again).

I'm glad you regret it, next step is repentance.

When you get home, phone should be on silent or vibrate, you sit with your woman and do whatever she's doing. Gist with her. If she says she wants to eat grilled fish, don't buy it and bring home, tell her to go make herself pretty because you want to take her out.

Treat her like a fresh new bride, because your old marriage NEEDS to die. It wasn't a good one.

When you feel the anger and impatience rising (violence is the last resort of a weak man), you walk away and turn to prayer. Then come back calmly. She needs to give you Respect, not Fear. A lot of men think they're the same, they're not: Respect is rooted in Love, Fear thrives in Hate. And Fear means she will be waiting for the right time to strike you back, one day. So make her love and respect you, slapping her around breeds her fear.

Tell yourself "she is mine, my church and I will love her like Christ loved the church". That means when she's getting on your last nerve, you tell yourself and her "I love you, I'm not going to let the devil use me to destroy my blessing. You're my blessing!". Keep saying it till you believe it.

It will take time and patience, which is good training for you to learn how not to resort to quick anger and violence.

The intimacy will come back. Better than before sef, you won't have time for us on Nairaland

Brother, you're going to make your wife fall in love with you again. Doable and possible, the love will even be sweeter. Commit it to God and come back with your testimony.

PS: today, go and buy her lunch or dinner (fried rice and turkey, with salad and dodo ), get a scrap of paper and write "Songs of Solomon 1:15", put it on the food. Drop it beside her, don't say anything.

Another day,when she's done bathing and is dressing up, creaming her body, make sure you're in the room always. But act like you're not looking. Then send her Songs Of Solomon 7:1-9 after she's done dressing. So she knows you were admiring her nekkidness to the point that you needed to go and read Bible

You'll be messing with her small small, working on yourself, showing her you're a better man now, who's completely in love with her.

It'll work.

You're great! Are you a marriage counselor? Even me who is not directly affected, enjoyed your write up.Thanks so much.Where do we run from each other.Onlyheavenky citizens can get the message.

JASONjnr:
You can't possibly be afraid of their people.... Why not name them?

Exactly my thought. Why not mention them.? Peradventure, he is afraid.

labake1:
But why is this not everywhere?
If it's a lady that dumps a man that sponsored her education, here for full of misogynist

Asegbe kan ko sii.what a man sow,that's what he will reap.It has always be on both sides.

Omihanifa:
Nigeria suppose dey that list but the cement mafias don hijack mining licence

Can you tell us More? Why are you too economise with your words?

Sermwell:
Igbo amaka! This is good for the image of the country

Let's celebrate this young woman irrespective of her tribe! Because some people are coming to claim it's Tinubu s handiwork, meanwhile education has been terrible under his watch

When did Igbo started bearing Nafisat?

jmoore:
Thank God I will marry a virgin..

Thank God I will marry a virgin..

Does that keep her from fornicating afterwards? Haven't you heard about a housewife who was disvirging by her husband and later became wild in following men here and there. Virgin is not a mark of true Chastity.

Mariangeles:
What women do effortlessly.
Yet, men will not give women their flowers. 💐

I cringed at the whole shitty situation, I won't even lie.

All men are not the same. There are women who cannot stand the odour of baby excretal, similarly, there are men who would do it without ponder over it.it depends.

DenreleDave:


This is so funny sha... I can't say how I'm gonna feel seeing mysef washing my pikin shit sha..

Una mean say I go watch pikin shit if I born

Chai

Yes now! Why are you then father or mother? Its a thing you to with joy and pride.Gosh!

richmond500:
Na wa.

If u haven't changed it before, u need to respect ur wife

It all depends on your love and bond towards toddlers. Changing diaper is a little act l learned from my Germans friends in those days in Germany.l can close my eyes to do it.In fact, my wife respected me a lot for this act.Apart from this,l can cut or trim a day old babe finger nails and birth him.

adamkkk:
I don't know why u said this bt just in case let me clarify something. I believe you're saying this because you think am "Igbo". Unfortunately, i am not.

Criminality doesn't know tribe or religion. There are people in yoruba land dealing on hard substances as well as from other states. It plain ridiculous the media propaganda is mostly against the Igbos. Nonetheless, search Google, you will find thousands of Yoruba name and even people from my own tribe(Urhobo) that deal on these things.

Hate is like a two edge sword. It cut both ways. Try to live in harmony. I am Urhobo from Delta and I have yoruba friends that support Obi. Our heart doesn't see tribes, it feels empathy.

Urhobo wa doo.Urhobo wayo.Of a truth not many people realized your opinions. Even God said in the holy writ that that it repented the lord that he made man on the earth, and it grieved him at his heart.

juwoonn:
News mentioned Elephant and again Hippo.

Which one should we believe? Elephant or Hippo?

Both

modath:
Not knowing is small problem, knowing the truth but choosing to misdirect is a major problem. You are ignoring the most important part of the conversation. The mighty falling is not the topic here. Our unruly and badly behaved compatriots with major audacity and sense of entitlement is the "fall". The country didn't program them to behave like who nor get home training or values.

If our home is okay, why going to other lands to become nuisance? Nigerians are never known to be like this.We were highly respected in the past as big brothers. One of the protesters says Ghanaians cannot do without Nigerian neither can Nigerians do without Ghanaians.Your generation has led us to this embarrassment.

modath:
Strangers going to other people's lands to dictate to them.... shameful.

How are the mighty falling! Nigeria my beloved country! In 70s and 80s who are Ghanaians before Nigerians not to talk of all other African countries.? Even British worshiped us.This l have personally experienced. Is there not a CAUSE? God has mercy!

muyico:
Anambra again? Billionaire city? Factory wey made una billionaire b dis?

Wetin Igbo man no go sell.Haba? Una too much? There must be glitches somewhere, otherwise, this information would not have been exposed. Anyway, what did l know?

pdppower:
Tenant don dey eye am even before then. She just lucky that night.

You meant opportunity to take the husband from her met the temptation of that woman to lock out her husband from home?Haba a lesson must be learned here.

laivwire:
It's not a Gaboon viper but a common snake within Nigeria. Different people have uploaded this snake specie on nairaland but I can't remember the specific name.

It is venomous yes.

Very dangerous, its common during raining season particularly in cocoa plantation. In Yoruba land,wecall it AGBOOKO.Truly speaking, it is ldeal for soup making.

Ochibaisik:
OUR LIVES IS AS THE VAPOUR THAT VAPOURIZES IN DUE TIME.
No matter who you are—rich or poor, strong or weak—one truth remains: every man will die, and every soul will give an account before God.

“It is appointed unto men once to die, but after this the judgment.” — Hebrews 9:27

Life is short, eternity is real, and none of us will escape that final moment. Fame, wealth, and power will mean nothing before the throne of God. What will matter is this:

Did you repent? Did you believe in Jesus? Did you live for truth, righteousness, and mercy—or for yourself?

We will each stand before Christ—not as a crowd, not with excuses—but alone, to give account (Romans 14:10–12).

So here is the advice:
Live ready.
Turn to Jesus while there is still time.
Let go of sin. Embrace the grace He offers. He died to save you, and rose to give you eternal life.

“For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ…” — 2 Corinthians 5:10

Live each day with this truth in your heart: you were made for eternity, and eternity begins with the choices you make today.

What more? This is the climax of this thread,.know this and be at peace with the greatest judge who is coming to judge this world of wickedness. May God count us worthy to be adequately prepare for Him Amen.

chido20:
Not surprising anymore. Nigeria have been a failed state

The question is,how did these rag tag terrorists equipped and have the boldness to face a well established forces of Nigeria? Seeing their dressings and what they put on,its annoying.

ultraviolet27:
Pray because she is seeing falcons lately?lmao this una religious mentality ehn don't you think it's because humans are encroaching on their habitats lately and their ecosystem us being destroyed?

I refused to agree with you.

Godfullsam:
Desperation for power took obi to ADC. He wants to be a running mate to his Fulani boss in 2027.

He believes Atiku will stand on his 'i will do only one term' premise .

Anyone that plans to vote for APC, ADC or PDP in 2027 should go and have his/her brain examined.

My bro,if you used to do something in the same way,you will get same result. Why not change your orientation and get a fresh result?. I agreed with you.

LivingEarthMan:
I'm wondering what Iran's nuclear weapons got to do with this though. Are you saying if Iran got nuclear weapons it is nuclear weapon the man would have used to kill the daughter instead of using a gun?

Peradventure, this may be the reason for his arguments

Themanleshey:
Now that he has gunned her down, at least he won’t be bothered about her getting distracted anymore. 🤷‍♂️ 😡

What then is in the world, without a child, to be boasted about?