Ok sister, I will be glad to know when you have successfully domesticated your man. I am sure you know your ways to doing this. Women, I respect and fear them. They know how to have their ways. But softly o, I beg, it might not be that easy..

Actually I am indifferent to the advert.

At the same time, I think it is imaginative, at least for the guy to know that the sunshine is actually out there waiting for the girl. Nature is a gift.

Ra:

Brother, whereabouts are you from? Forgive my French, but I couldn't help cracking my ribs when I read your “She has learned a trade or skill to avoid being a financial liabilty to her husband”.

I believe what you meant to say there was she must be independent career wise. Learning a trade or skill somehow reminded me of the days of my great grandparents when all the wives could do was limited to dyeing clothes, selling palm oil or farm produce and matting hair.

Well, I am laughing too.

The point is, if a girl has to marry at the age of 18 or less, then she couldn't have achieved much career-wise. At best, she might has just finished her secondary school education.

Hmmm.
I can see that this discussion is getting heated, and the ladies are already getting excited.

Chigszy:
Just pray that the man you will marry will be understanding and loves doing housework. Otherwise, you cannot force him to do it. The best he can do is to employ a house-maid for you. Even if he loves doing housework, his friends and familiies will discourage him from doing it. Except you are not living in Naija.

Omo-naija:
It is natural for a guy to be be nice and try to impress a woman he is just getting fresh with. He can cook, wash and even run errands for her, just to win her approval. The lady is the one in control then. But the moment they are married, situation has changed. It is now the man in control. He does what is convenient for him and what he feels he should do in his own house, even matters like doing house chores.

In short, what I am trying to say is that it is very difficult to get the african mentality out of us men.

Yes Ra, As if you read my thoughts.

Somebody who 've got the wherewithals and know-hows should organise Jazz nights once in a while.
Recently a Jaz Festival was organised in Jo'burg, South Africa, featuring reknowned Jazz artists from African and other parts of the world. The organisers charged $1,500 dollars (all inclusive) to go for the programme from Nigeria.

I would have loved to be there, and I wished I am rich enough to afford such trip. And to think that I was in Jo'burg just 2 weeks before the event, barely missing it.

Anyway, Jazz is gradually becoming a recognised music in Nigeria. Thanks to Kunle Ajayi & co. So, it is just a question of time before we start having such events in Nigeria.

Personally, I believe the right age for a man to marry is when:
1. He is financially able to take care of a family (not necessarily rich).
2. He is emotionally mature to play the role of a husband and a father.

As for the woman, the right age for her to marry, in my opinion is when:
1. She is has reached at least the age of 18 (to guard against VVF).
2. She has learned a trade or skill to avoid being a financial liabilty to her husband.
3. She has a ready suitor (which is the most important factor).

Now that the heads have started rolling, it will continue to roll. I believe OBJ wants to use his remaining tenure to endear himself to Nigerians, since this is his last chance to govern this country.

I wish him God's protection and divine wisdom in his campaign to clean the augean stable of this nation.

This is cool, Seun. How did you managed to type all these?
Anyway, thanks for the info. I am pasting them to Microsoft Word and read them later tonight.
This Tafa guy is in a serious trouble.

I rush to take my shower in the morning.
If I have enough time I use soap, otherwise I don't. That will have to wait till night, when I am back.
I will stand naked infront of the fan to dry myself. I don't like using the towel to dry myself.
I will hurriedly put on my clothes.
If my palm is feeling dry, I will rub some cream on it.
Then off I go.
If I can remember, I will check my face in my car rear view mirror to see what I look like, then ignore it.
Lest I forget, I am a male always with a skin hair-cut.

seun:

Yet we did not get a Microwave Oven until someone gave it to us as a gift?  Was it too expensive for us?  No!  It's just that these gadgets are not yet part of our culture.  Microwave ovens and vacuum cleaners are quite cheap, and a washing machine or dishwasher isn't so expensive when compared to something like a refridgerator.

[I]It's just not yet a part of our culture[/I]. Our ladies prefer to bend down to sweep and wash clothes like our forefathers.  They haven't learnt the joys of warming food with a Microwave oven's timer and going your merry way with no fear of food getting burnt and no pot to wash!

Seun, I agree with you. It is just not yet part of our culture. Any man that can afford a refrigerator or a 21-inch colour television should abe able to afford a dish-washer or a micro-wave oven. It is just not yet our culture, but we are getting there, gradually.

Well, I love shopping when I have free money to spend, especially whenever I travelled outside the country for official duties. I will visit clothes and bodywares shops to buy some cool stuff for me and my family. And also electronics and computer shops for the latest gadgets.

Our own Kunle Ajayi cannot be overlooked also. He is making waves in South Africa. He is very good with the saxophone. He will soon be another Dave Koz.

Any Jazz lover in the forum?
Who is your favourite Jazz artist and what are your favourite Jazz tracks? How often do you listen to Jazz music? Lets talk Jazz,

I have several favaourite Jazz artists, but notably the best among them is Dave Koz, Kenny G (the great saxophonist) and Yanni (aka as the Jazzmaster).

There is no day that pass without my listening to Jazz. I even have my favourite tracks loaded on my cellphone which is capable of playing MP3.

Seun,

Everybody likes good things. Nobody likes to suffer or pass long route when there is a shortcut. If everybody can afford it, they will have washing machines, vacuum cleaners, dishwashers, etc. But I know that in the near future, these gadgets will be as common as TVs in Nigerian homes, especially in the homes of the educated. I totally agree with you that these devices saves you times and needless stresses.

I give him (Obasanjo) only 20%. Nothing more. He would have scored lower if not for the telecommunication sector that he successfully tackled. For other sectors of the economy, all I hear are fine speeches and no buttressing action.

Except for Chefs, men don't normally grow up doing house chores. In our own part of the world, men are brought up to do the hard work, while the female species takes care of the housework like cookings, watching, etc. A man sets his mind on greater objectives like the overall finance of the house, family growth, investments, etc. If he have somebody to help him take care of the low-levels works, he is fine and happy.

A man should assist in houseworks whenever the situation demands, otherwise he is judged to be selfish or uncaring. But no man enjoys doing houseworks. Personally speaking, I hate washing dirty plates or putting my hands in cold water to wash clothes. I tried to avoid them as much as possible.

Our society is polygamous in nature. And from the look of it, we have more women than men. This explains the reason why some women will date a married man, especially if she doesn't mind becoming a second, third or fourth wife, as the case may be.

But as for the man, he knows what he is looking for. If he has a wife at home and is dating other women outside, then that is wrong. It should not be encouraged. If he is separated or divorced and dating other women, maybe he wants to marry another wife. It doesn't matter whether he is a christian or muslim, he may not have the grace to remain like that.

It is also possible for a married man to date women, not for the purpose of sex, but just for friendship or companionship. Maybe he is having problem in his home, or the wife have been sicked for a long time, etc. He just wants the friendship of a woman, somebody who understands.

So, it is better to examine each situation and circumstances separately before raising condemnation or commendation. But I make bold to say that a man that have a wife at home and started looking outside for sex is clearly in the wrong, morally or spiritually speaking.