In 2014, my husband was owing close to 2m if not more (it was business gone bad), I couldn’t blame him. I just had my second baby. He almost developed HBP, I had to be a pillar so he doesn't start considering running away or doing something more drastic

Fast forward to 2019 he bought me a car, 2020 he wants to change the car. When I look back at our hopeless situation of 2014 - 2017 imagine if he did anything drastic.

My two kobo, this too shall pass, Get up and get going, tell them you don’t have the money you will pay when you have, you need time. I wish you life!

I miss this trend

I miss this thread.

Mbok I was just quoting somebori

You don't know what you are talking about. If he was a nonody and worse than a begger like you ignorantly claim, what then attracted her to him despote the age difference? Was it Love? Nonsense![/quote]

Abeg my argument end for here
'MUSA Danjuma poor? TY Danjuma's brother abeg research on him first'.
How can I call Musa Danjuma poor, I get money reach am?

You don't know what you are talking about. If he was a nonody and worse than a begger like you ignorantly claim, what then attracted her to him despote the age difference? Was it Love? Nonsense![/quote]

MUSA Danjuma poor? TY Danjuma's brother abeg research on him first

In case you didn't know, Caroline married the idiot when he was a nobody. When he was worse than a beggar. [/quote]

Mondisweets:

You have a baby, forget that one. If your husband is around he comes first. The baby can cry and eventually keep quiet. Remember he is your number one baby, others come after him.

Your mother is sick and u have to go take care of her but your husband wants you to be home with him because he doesnt want to do things for himself for a few days. Abeg dont mind your mother's sickness, your husband comes first in everything. Shebi was it your mother who paid that N500 as bride price?


he is always forgetting things? Please ladies dont remind him, even if its something important. You don't need to keep reminding him, even if its your anniversary keep it to yourself if u want to keep you marriage!

he cheats on you? He abuses you?
My dear continue to show him respect, one day he will change... Even if its after 10yrs and you have HIV! Continue to be submissive, if u get sick you know the direction to the hospital!
He stops providing for the family, simply because he doesnt want to work anymore? It doesnt matter! Just go down on your knees everyday and serve him food that will just miraculously fall from the sky.
He insults you? Biko just go sit under iroko tree and sign praise songs, surely one day God will intervene!

Remember respect is only earned by the wife, the husband can go crazy but you should keep treating him like a responsible, mature adult! Forget all that self-respect, take whatever comes your way



You marriage is going down the drain? Biko dont ask for help, one day u will surely figure it out by yourself!
How can someone else's knowledge on marriage help you? U dey mad?

if he wants to do the bedmatics while the sink is full of dishes and the clothes he removed are still on the floor. Biko leave them there! Do whatever he wants first. Shebi u didnt know you just another kunta kinte, you do whatever the master wants you to do when he wants you to do it! What is a clean home, when all you should be focusing on is pleasing him?

why do u deserve to be treated like a queen? All you have to focus on is treating him like a king! Forget his shortcoming! Even if its overspending and borrowing what he cant pay back, focus on the useless things he is using that money on instead! Who are u to focus on what he isn't doing right, thats his job, he is the one who gets to condemn your every little mistake as a woman. As for you, just shut up! The perfect husband is found on disney and nickelodeon! But a perfect wife must exist in the real world ooo!
In fact u have to be the combination of Eva Longoria, mother Theressa, Catwoman, superman, batman, captain planet, Shakira and his mother.

Lol, I love this, "The Perfect Wife" showing in the cinema near you. If wishes were horses ...

shalommeri:
first of all if u tink hez cheatin on u den u admit to ursef dat u're married to a man wuz cheatin on u nd u're d wife to a cheater nd u av to spend d rest of ur lyf wid him..pray abt it secondly den thirdly talj to him..tel him u're goin no wer dat u're married to him nd ask him to b free to tel u abt d woman(he may nt do so)bt let him knw he has responsibilities as a married man nd wad shame it'll bring on u guys..dont put all d blame on him,he may nt av d power to resist d temp...urge him to tel u abt it nd if hez gona continue...accept all he has to say witout naggin..u'll figure out frm der

Pls were is the dislike button. What do I need to know about the other woman? Abegi

luvablesam:

I would have said the same thing if this same thing happened to a Man. In fact the same thing happened once to me with an EX once. Going thru a partners persons personal effect is very tempting buh it isn't worth it cos a smart cheat won't leave traces and fake evidences can be planted on a Good partner to him/her look bad.
Snooping isn't worth it

Why would you say don't go into a partners personal effect, when the partners goes into my private effect, protected or unprotected? Me i don't just snoop, i check, in your presence and in your absence so you're sure that i check and if i see what i don't like, i ask, i don't pretend that i didn't see anything. How do you even manage that?

@ posts. Wow! am learning a lot, i wish i read these 4 years ago when i got married am sure would have been a better wife. I'll find time to share my experience.