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bluepreek:
Good morning my fellow Nairalanders...... It's weekend already... So let's try as much as possible to have some fun coz it's very obvious now that Nigeria problem NO dey finish

So, among these three,which one of them would you gladly save if you were to be in a position to help rescue anyone?

Mynd44
Nlfpmod

nobody

[quote author=TouchNfollow post=132334215][/quote]i will visit all of them

MOORCHMOORE:
I am a low income earner, with a wife, son (3 months +), nephew then 1 inlaw today another tomorrow.
My wife suddenly came home day before yesterday with the news she went Job interview.
The next day, she was ask to start work on next Monday.

Dilemma!
With what am passing through, I desire my wife to work so that we can meetup with some bills.

Our problem is we have a Son that is heading 4th month, her employers can't accept her with our baby.
She went to day cares around and was told they only admit a year plus. I tried to discourage her, knowing what our son is going to pass through. But she accused me of not being supportive.

Please I need professionals here.
This is one place I always get answers and support

No, she can’t until the baby is 8 to 10 months old. By then, find a good nanny for the baby.

eyesoflagos:
After looking through her husband’s phone and reading his Whatsapp discussions for a few minutes, a young Nigerian woman explains the situation she was in.

After getting a sneak glimpse at her partner’s phone, @tomiwa_29, a TikTok member, took to the platform to publish a video documenting her current health.
After viewing her husband’s Whatsapp, a woman finds herself in the hospital. Eyes Of Lagos reports,

Without stating what she found on the phone, the video captured the lady in tears before being hospitalized and a drip attached to her hand.

She captioned the video, “I decided to check my husband whatsapp. All I can say is omo! Love is not for the weak.”

While her fans debate the importance of respecting her partner’s privacy, others are curious about the content of the chat or other graphic media she may have stumbled upon.

A fan @RuthAbians wrote, “I can’t say you saw the signs and ignored B4 u got married😌… but take heart… that’s what most men will do…so my question now is as u saw Wat u saw Wat will u do now… ?😌”

Another follower @maraben2020 added, “how do women check their husbands phone.what happens to boundaries and mutual respect. in my 16 years of marriage i have never checked his phone nor pick his calls,is not my business.is call peace.”

https://eyesoflagos.com/2024/10/11/lady-lands-in-hospital-after-checking-husbands-whatsapp/

I won’t allow myself to check my husband’s WhatsApp, even if he isn’t cheating. To me, my WhatsApp is private and part of my life. It’s not good to check your husband’s phone at all.

Esiter:
Can anybody dash me money for food for my children?

I am a mother with teenage children. I am struggling with the children. I am about to sink in feeding this teenage children alone. Please can anyone help with whatever way you can?

You need to find a job, even if the pay isn't enough to fully support them. At least you'll have some money to buy things with that salary.

DyshApp:
A man has left netizens with mixed emotions after sharing the plans he has in store for his fiancée who cheated on him.

The unidentified man revealed that he found out that his fiancée, whom he is set to get married to, cheated on him with another man.

However, the fiancee has no idea that he found out about what she had done.

He revealed that he intends to play a tape of her cheating on him on their wedding day, right before everyone.

He wrote …

“My wedding is next month and my partner is a cheat. She doesn’t know that i know yet. I have a tape of her that will be played on our wedding day in front of her family and friends. I will not be in attendance, I’ll not even be in the country on that day. I want her to feel the pain i felt.”

Comments below

@MUMSYTIARASTORE wrote: “This is not fair, it shows the guy never likes her from onset”

@_henwall said: “If you’re reading, the tape won’t get to the point it being played if you’re not available. She will sense that something is wrong immediately. I’ll say, go through the wedding then leave (change and join the crowd) just before the video is being played.

You need to watch everything burn. The disappointment on the parents faces will be worth it.”

@yallmeetbenny2 wrote: “Ah this is serious oh
Why not just call off the wedding instead this coz of the bribe’s parent Abeg oh”


This wedding will be interesting😎🎬🍿

🤕🥺

oloyeagbaakin:
Please house can you suggest a good name for my Baby Boy born on October 5.

john

Streamz:
Me:
Late 30s
Athletic build
Fitness maniac
6.1 feet
Generous
Good sense of humor
Master's degree
Employed
I do house chores myself. I've been taking care of my boy since when he was 1+ years.


She:
25 - late 30s
Be Loyal
Ability to adapt
Educated
Integrity
Honesty

Send me a mail.
brampage@yandex.com


“Love can be found in unexpected places. Sometimes we go out searching for what we think we want and we end up with what we're supposed to have.”

May God help you and give you a good wife

LoveUdie:
We've been married for two years and have no child. I’m not surprised that we haven’t been able to have a child but what I’m surprised about is my wife’s attitude towards the fact that we don’t have a child.
Yesterday she called me impotent. Some days ago she called me sterile. I warned her, “The next time you call me any other name apart from my name, I will walk out of this mess you call marriage.”

Let me take you back to when we were dating. This girl was very strict when it came to sex. She was the one making the rules. “This month no sex, I don’t want you to be enjoying it every day. We are not married yet.” I won’t fight her about it and she would go ahead and do exactly what she said she would do. Another time she will tell me, “I called you and you didn’t answer. No sex for three weeks.
I didn’t allow those things to bother me. She was a good person. I would have been very wrong to just look at her from that angle and conclude that she wasn’t a wife material. We stayed together for two years before we finally decided to marry.

After marriage, she didn’t stop throwing those rules around. Every new day came with different rules and all of her rules had to do with sex. As I’m writing this, we haven’t had sex for the past three months. What is her reason? She had severe cramps during her menses and according to her, she has never had crumps all her life. She told me, “I spoke to a doctor friend of mine and she said my cramps were due to sex and that if your husband’s joystick is big, it can result in cramps.” I knew she was lying.
I knew she was just looking for another excuse not to have sex. I’m used to that antics so it didn’t bother me.
We are married but we have sex only when she wants and since she doesn’t want sex often, we can go for several weeks without sex. And the annoying part is, she doesn’t want any other style apart from missionary. So, when her goodness comes and she finally opens the way for me to do it, she will tell me, “Just get on with it and leave me alone.

If I kiss her, bue! If I don’t kiss her, bue! “Don’t touch me here. Why are you going side by side, can’t you go straight? Hey…hey…hey, don’t touch my breast, it’s paining me. You’re keeping long, what medicine did you drink?”
She’ll nag throughout the action. Sometimes I don’t even cum. I’ll just get off her and have my peace of mind. It’s been like this for the past two years since we got married. I’m not complaining. Recently, she brought up the topic of childbirth and I told her, “Do you know how many times people have sex before a child can result?

You are here giving me rules and yet want to have a child?” She said, “Alice got married four months ago and she’s pregnant. How many times did they do it? We’ve been doing it for two years and nothing has happened. Go and look for medicine before I give up on you.”
Every marriage has some troubles. She’s my trouble, I understand. What I don’t understand is her attitude towards the problems she herself has caused. I was there one day when she told me, “I spoke to my doctor friend. She said we’ve been having sex unnecessarily that’s why the pregnancy is not coming so we should have sex only when I’m ovulating. From now onwards, you won’t waste your sperms on me. Store them. Grow them. Make them potent so that when you hit one, a child will come. You hear?”

Brothers and sisters, how many times do women ovulate in a month? At least once, right? So why haven’t we had sex for three months? I want an answer so I went to her, “You mean you haven’t ovulated for the past three months?” She said, “I’m tracking it with an app. So far, the app hasn’t said that I’m ovulating.” Eiii! So now it’s an app that’s going to determine when to have sex and when not to?
Dear people of God, that’s my wife for you. No husband will sit and stare while things go wrong in his marriage so I reported the issue to her parents. They called her home and talked to her extensively. Her father called to tell me, “We’ve spoken sense to her. The way I’ve bashed her, I don’t think she’ll come home and do that again.” The day she got home she said, “Shame on you. You ran to my parents and reported me to them? Are you a kid? All because of sex? I thought you are a man. A true man doesn’t need plenty of sex before pregnancy. They hit one, bam! and the child is there.

You want it every day. I can’t.”
Three months. Maybe it sounds very short so let me calculate it into days. I haven’t had sex for over ninety days! I’ve received three salaries without sex, yet she accuses me of not being potent because we haven’t had a child. I’ve reported it to her parents twice and each time, they talk to her. The last time her father told me, “If I have to come and supervise it, I will come there myself. What kind of silly attitude is that?” Even her father is angry on my behalf. At this point, I will be right to take any drastic decision that I want. One day, I will pack her things and send her to her parents. Before she comes back to the marriage, she will sign a bond of good behavior and sign to have sex four times in a week before I will take her back.
A wife doesn’t live her life just to traumatize her husband’s life. Or I should send her packing right away?
Source...https://www.allsinglesandmarried.com

You need to sit her down and tell her that you can’t continue like this. She needs to make a decision, and both of you should find a solution to the issue. If not, you might consider marrying another woman.
Just say it like this, and she will figure it out herself.

Geonigga:
How can I tell my neighbour and the wife that they always have a loud sex. I mean the bed will be shaking, the wife will be screaming and the man will be spanking the wife's ass. As I'm typing this massage this couple are having sex very loud.

Just tell him, or send your wife to talk to his wife and jokingly say that they are being noisy when they're in bed.

RevenuesBoost:
My husband was wowed by what he saw today.
He was like 😯... When did you know how to knit?
Who taught you how to do this?😄
Do you know this skill can fetch you money?

I replied;

I knew how to knit in JSS 2; i.e September 2005.

No one taught me, I watched my classmates handled the knitting pin and decided to practice it myself.

Yes I know, I used it to earn some money after secondary school.




December makes us 2 years together and my husband never knew I could knit.😄
What amazed him most was my knitting speed.

I asked him, can you also knit?
He replied, No
He also said, watching me knit makes him confused on how to go about it 😄


I knitted two baby caps for our unborn baby.

Beautiful work
May God help and grant success.

Afonja101:
I've been married for the past 6years and blessed with two(2) kids. I'm just a guy hussling from being a teacher, house agent etc. My cousin came to visit me last week, he arrived when i was about going out, so i told him to just stay and wait for me since i won't stay out long. Never knew they had discussions with my wife before i came back. So when i back we gisted, ate together and laughed. Later in the evening when he was leaving i escorted him to get a cab then while i was escorting him, he said he need small cash like 5k from me cos he wants to travel to Abuja, then i told him honestly i don't have money but i can send 3k to his account and he said no problem, then when he left I send the 3k to him, till today he hasn't called to say he has seen it or even thank you. Then Fast forward to today. I woke up from bed and was pressing my phone then my wife said she has something to ask me and i said to her go ahead, the next thing she asked was, did you go anywhere to get money? I answered how cos i don't understand, then she said my cousin brother told her that it seems i went somewhere (charm or babalawo) with my friends to get money because i don't like helping anybody in the family including him, that we were told not to help anybody with the money, infact the way he told my wife is as though he followed us to the place. According to her he also said i have money yet look at the phone she is using and also the phone i am using, that none of us is using a good phone.
I would have said maybe one of my friend tried to tarnish my image by telling him all these but my brother only knows two of my friends and those two, i can confidently tell you that he can't remember the last time he saw them because they don't stay in town and secondly talk has never joined any of them back in those days around 2007-2010 that he use to see them when he comes to my place.

Imagine what my own cousin brother would tell my wife...? I'm still in shock, how much do I have that i would help someone who doesn't have any responsibility? He's not married, neither does he have children. While i have a wife, 2 children and one of my late cousin's daughter staying with me because she's an orphan.

I'm the only one who knows the stress i face daily to cater for them. Yet, he says i don't like helping him or anyone in the family as if i have millions. I've never gone to any babalawo or whatever, I've never seen one with my eyes. To some extend I don't really trust my wife right now because only God know the conversation that led him to say all these.
Please guys what do you think?

Just let him go, focus on fixing your home and your marriage; don’t listen to what people say.

[quote author=Meerahbel post=131506982][/quote]🤕

[quote author=papyjaypaul post=131825751][/quote]They are not leaving the electricity until the month ends; they come to stand on our electricity bills.

ogododo:
https://dailytrust.com/just-in-fire-guts-emir-sanusis-palace/

May God protect the future and guide the king.

Olaolar:
Shout it thrice And thank me later

madness 🤣😂

Onebabe:
A passenger found a cockroach in the food served on the plane. He complained to the flight attendant and when he got home he sent an angry letter to the president of the company, just to vent his fury, not believing he would receive a response.

Days later, a response signed by the president arrived, apologizing profusely and saying that the flight attendant had been fired, the pilot had been grounded, and the plane had been dismantled to be disinfected.

The passenger was satisfied, but then he saw that his own letter was stuck to the reply letter, and on it was a handwritten and penciled note: "SEND THE USUAL COCKROACH LETTER."

more explanation please i don’t get it

Iagos:
90 percent of Nigerians are guilty of this

Only a few are saying it correct,Who cares to say it correctly now? The whole country is in chaos 😂🤕

Successtube:
I never thought I’d find myself contemplating divorce just two years into my marriage. As a bachelor, I’d look at couples splitting up and wonder how they ended up there. Didn’t they date and get to know each other first? Didn’t they see the signs? And yet, here I am, standing on the brink of making the same decision. I dated my wife for a year and three months before we got married, and I thought I knew her. But I was wrong. She lied and pretended to be someone she wasn’t. Now, I’m starting to see who she truly is, and it’s tearing me apart.

Immediately after our wedding, I noticed changes in her that hadn’t been there before. One month in, we were not having sex like any newly married couple would. Every time I tried to be intimate, she’d have some excuse—a headache, feeling tired, or being stressed from work. I tried to be patient, thinking it was just a phase. But it didn’t end. When I finally asked her what was wrong, she bluntly told me she didn’t like sex. I was shocked. How could she not like sex? We had been intimate enough times while dating for me to believe otherwise.

“How can we have children if we don’t have sex?” I asked, trying to keep my frustration in check. Her response was indifferent, almost as if it didn’t matter. From then on, she’d sometimes only have sex with me during her ovulation period, like it was a chore to check off her list. It went on like this for over eight months, and I felt more and more disconnected. I felt unwanted, unloved. Every attempt to bridge the gap between us only seemed to widen it.

But the cracks didn’t just stop there. Through a relative of mine, I managed to get her a job that paid her 300,000 Naira monthly. She seemed happy, and I was glad I could help. Then, fate dealt me a blow—I lost my job. After months of searching, I managed to find another one, but it paid only 120,000 Naira a month. I couldn’t afford to stay home, so I took it, thinking it would just be temporary until I found something better.

My 120,000 Naira salary barely covers our expenses. I take care of the rent, food, bills, and still fuel my car to get to work. The one that hit me hardest was when our rent increased to 700,000 Naira around the same time my car’s engine gave out, needing another 500,000 Naira to repair. I felt the walls closing in on me. I was struggling, juggling all these financial burdens alone. I turned to my wife, thinking she’d step up and help. After all, she was earning more than double what I was. But all she could offer was 50,000 Naira.

I was speechless. She looked at me and said it was a man's duty to cater to his family, and she could only "assist." Her words felt like a slap. Here I was, drowning under the weight of our expenses, and she was holding back. I had to sell one of the lands I’d bought back in my bachelor days to cover the bills. I never thought I’d be in a position where I had to sell my hard-earned property just to survive while my wife, who I had helped get a better-paying job, stood by and watched.

The emptiness gnawed at me until I reached out to someone who had once filled a different kind of void in my life—my ex. We had broken up years ago because of distance when she moved to London for her studies. But we never really ended things on bad terms. There was always a "what if" lingering between us. Now, in my loneliness, that "what if" turned into late-night conversations, laughter, and the kind of warmth I hadn’t felt in a long time. I sneak out every now and then to be with her. I know it’s wrong. I know cheating is not the answer, but I felt like I was drowning, and she was the only one who could save me. With her, I felt alive again, seen, and heard. Things quickly escalated, and before I knew it, I was back in her arms. It felt like a betrayal of my marriage vows, but at the same time, it felt like the only way to reclaim a part of myself that had been lost.

I never imagined I’d be contemplating divorce, but here I am. I want to marry my ex. I want a fresh start, a chance to feel loved again. I don’t know if I can continue in a marriage where I feel more like a burden than a partner. Maybe it’s time to face the harsh truth: some people change, and some people never really were who they claimed to be. Maybe it’s time for me to choose my own happiness, to take a leap and start over.

Don't make the same mistake I made. Study your partner thoroughly before to married, don't rush!

Just pray, and God will bring you help easily.

copyrites:
Men will choose a daddy’s girl any day, anytime. This is because these girls are considered the best, always and forever.

But women don’t want mommy’s boys.

1. Do we subconsciously agree that women ruin their sons' lives?


2. Do we also agree that men raise children better than women?

sometimes,mothers don’t let’s their sons to be close to their wives.they keep an eyes on them ,not because the wives don’t care.

stacyadams:
Start from the one wey u collect number from,,later invite 2 ,then from back collect the other number or for front collect the number ...them dey chop two sisters talk less of two friends

Just tell her the truth. She understands you well. After that, find her friend or her phone number simple

Ammmy:
Growing up, my mother did a lot of terrible things to me even till I became an adult. I'm 40 now and she's aged. She's trying to be kind to me now and I've forgiven her or so I thought. My life didn't turn out well the way I wanted because of her curse and evil mind towards me. She regrets everything now and I have moved on but the memories fail to leave me. I've tried as much as possible to forget those things but I can't and each time I remember them I feel this rage inside of me

Pray for her, love her, and forget about the past. You will find peace after a while. Good things are coming your way.

Yinabim:
Hello Everyone,

I am writing here for the first time, i don't know how to feel about this because i a very private person but since the death of my husband i had to wake up everyday to sadness. I never knew the extent of pain people feel when they lose their loved ones until now. I cant even concentrate on anything else and his family are making things difficult for themselves already.

I'm so young and with a 2 year old daughter, i just hope God help me scale through this storm. I'll come here to update this page as things unfold.

My condolences💔

grandee4u:
I just stumbled on the internet about the news of Junior Pope's funeral taking place now In Enugu, the actor's home state.

And then this very thought, hit me so hard like I lost a loved one; what do you really fear most in life

Lets have your thoughts, mine is Old Age by that meant a state of absolute dependence on people, feeble and helpless.

Death and poverty

Eucarl:
I just got married, I was happy and felt like I had achieved a lot already only for me to wake up this morning to the first marital shock of my life. Barely 24 hours of our wedding, my wife has started stealing and lying.

After our wedding, all the cash that friends and well wishers sprayed us was counted and handed of to me by my sister. I asked her how much it was and she said it was nine hundred and thirty two thousand naira (930,000).

I gave the money to my wife to keep and we drove down to our hotel suite. We planned to stay a while at the hotel for the weekend and then travel for our honey moon afterwards.

At our hotel, we had some drinks and laughed over some funny incidents at that occurred doing the weeding then we both slept off.

I woke up this morning and I asked my wife how much was the money, she said it was four hundred and thirty thousand (430,000).

I asked her if she was sure, she said yes. I was shocked, I couldn’t believe my ears. I went to the bathroom and called my sister to confirm If I heard wrong yesterday but no, she confirmed that the money she counted and gave to me was 930,000.

My people, what do I call this one. Na so we go do the marriage ? I had no plans for the money, but why lie?

What would you advise I do, should I let it slide or confront her? If I do, it might spoil our honeymoon, if I don’t, it will spoil mine. God.

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Bro ,you had to sit her down and ask her why she do what she did, you have to hear from her first .

Lance008:
To be honest why Nigerians always Dey feel say Na them wise pass 😂😂

for sure 😂

ezugegere:
Both of you are still together so she couldn't have taken the money to the bank. Search her bag

good idea

tammyf:
When is the right time for a child to start school , 1 ,2 or 3 years .... ? And which class should he start ? Nursery or creche ?

2-3 years is okay

Congratulations, welcome to fatherhood

brucemarsus:
A good night's sleep is important for everyone, especially after a long day of work. Adding the right products to your bedtime routine can help you relax and get better rest. Here are four products that can make a difference in your sleep routine.

Silk pillowcase
A silk pillowcase is more than just a luxury item. It’s soft on your skin and can help reduce wrinkles over time. Unlike cotton, silk doesn’t absorb moisture, so your skin stays hydrated throughout the night. It’s also great for your hair, preventing tangles and breakage.

Sleep mask
Blocking out light is key to falling asleep faster and staying asleep longer. A mulberry silk sleep mask for sleeping does just that. Choose one made of silk for added comfort and to avoid any pressure on your eyes. This simple product can make a big difference, especially if you have trouble sleeping with lights around. Silk Pearl masks are highly recommended nowadays by the dermatologist

Lavender essential oil
Lavender is known for its calming properties. Using lavender essential oil before bed can help you relax and fall asleep faster. You can add a few drops to your pillow or use a diffuser to fill the room with a soothing scent. It’s a natural way to improve your sleep quality.

Soft blanket
A soft blanket can make your bed feel more inviting and help you settle down for the night. Look for one that’s cozy but not too heavy, so you stay comfortable without getting too warm. Having a soft blanket can turn your bedtime into a peaceful experience.

thank you for the advice 🙏

LordReed:
I'm bursting with joy, and I just can't keep it to myself! My daughters have filled my heart to the brim, and I'm compelled to share their sweet gestures with the world. Maybe, just maybe, it'll inspire some fellow dads to shower their kiddos with love and affection.

I'm a proud papa of two little ladies, ages 10 and 5. I love them more than pounded yam, and that's a lot! I try to show them love and affection as often as possible, and it seems they're catching on. The other day, I was lounging on the couch, reading a book, and being my usual cool dad self (just kidding, I was probably snoring). My 5-year-old mini-me walks up to me, plops herself on my lap, and gives me a big ol' hug. But that's not all - she breaks into song. A song she made up herself, with a whopping four words: "I love you, Daddy!" I mean, what's a dad to do? I was a goner, people. Overcome with joy, and still grinning from ear to ear. It's been several weeks since this happened and I still can't describe how it makes me feel.

And then there's my 10-year-old, who's apparently been paying attention to our morning routine. We switched schools, and I thought our forehead kisses were just a thing of the past. But nope! She pipes up and says, "Daddy, you haven't been kissing us since we started this school!" I was shocked, but in a good way. It turns out, those little kisses meant the world to her.

Fellow dads, listen up. We often get a bad rap for being stoic and unemotional, but trust me, our kids crave our affection. So, don't be afraid to show your love and get a little sappy. Your kids will appreciate the tough-guy exterior, but they'll adore the softie inside even more. Take it from me, a dad who's learning to embrace his inner cheesiness.

Awwn 🥰
Yes, that is good. Show your children love and care; it will make them feel compassion for you. In life, all parents who show their happiness more than their own will raise children who cherish them in their hearts."

[quote author=Rubyjade post=131897681][/quote]Of course, they can get married. I know a girl in my area who married the son of her father's first wife, and they have a baby together now