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Stephen2324:
A name you can never give to your child?

Tanimu and Dahiru

NikoDeBonAmi:
So as a young bachelor that just moved into a new apartment, a next door neighbor who happens to be a single female brought this bowl of afang soup as a show of warm welcome.

Would you accept it?

"I will thank her before I go into the room. If she is clean, I will eat, but if she is dirty, I won't eat."

seunoladele:
MEN WHO ARE NOT SEXUALLY SATISFIED WITH THEIR WIVES

1. Have low self esteem
2. Easily get angry.
3. Are easily sexually attracted to other women
4. Are some times irrational
5. Are easily distracted from their vision, dreams and goals.
6. Suffer financial set backs.
7. Some have sex in the dream
8. Despise or hate their wives.
9. Spend more time with other women.
10. Waste financial resources on frivolities..

If your husband is suffering from any of the above...check your sex life. Is it regular, hot, passionate or boring, sick, almost or non existence?

If it is boring, dead or semi dead...there is fire on the mountain!

© Seun Oladele.
talktoseunoladele@gmail.com
Facebook: Seun Oladele

"Only a simp is satisfied with being intimate with just one woman."he knows only me;he has nothing to do with other women.”

Mynd44:
If/when I marry, it will be because I love that woman and I want to spend the rest of my life with her. It will be because I could not near to go a day without seeing her face, can't eat without hearing her voice and not be able to sleep without her in the same bed not because of kids.

If I wanted kids, I could as well stay unmarried and knock up the first girl I see.

Cheers

Awwnn 🥰
this is what call LOVE

2scorehigh:
For the men, how long can you wait before seeking other options if your wife is unable to conceive after marriage? Which options will you take? Take a second wife? Try to have a child outside wedlock? Seek adoption...?

As for the ladies, how long do you think you can wait after marriage before you start getting worried? Will you pressurize your husband or support him to seek some of these other options? What exactly will you do?

"As long as God wills and I will keep praying for God to bless them."

healthkknatural:
Hello Nigerians.

I don't like living with anyone . I like living , Staying All Alone . I don't just don't know the reason for this.

I feel Uncomfortable Having anyone living with me .

Right now , I have My Family in another House , I stay Alone in another House .

I would visit them , Check there Books , Joke, Play with them and leave to the second house a bit distant where I stay .

I Love Cooking , Washing doing all things by myself .

For Example if anyone Visit Me , After Some Few Hours , I will start feeling uncomfortable that he should just leave.

There is this Comforts, Peace and security that Radiates in my mind whenever someone stays with me.

There was a time , A woman was calling me a Ghost because for 2 years no one ever visit me.

Pls. I don't understand this . Does this feelings has a medical Name ?

Is anyone having this kind of Feelings too

"This is what usually happens to me whenever someone visits: I feel uncomfortable. I don’t like living with anyone except my family; I prefer to be alone, especially when someone wants to stay in my room, and I don’t want to visit anyone."

IAmHim1:
This is gonna be a quick one...and it defies what we've been taught but c'mon haven't you really sat and thought of it

We add salt to meat so it doesn't go bad...then they say "add that same salt to your food so it taste good"

So which is it exactly, what's the purpose of salt in food:
salt to make a food tasty or to act as a preservative?

Salt don't make food tasty because all food has its own smell hence having its own unique taste.

Any food we eat, we want to make sure it's a perishable food...and we want to make sure we eat it before it perishes

So if salts inhibit the decay of meat (that i salt stops the multiplication of bacteria in the air that decompose meat), then how is salt good for our health when we also have bacteria in our stomach that digests our food too?
Wouldn't that Salt DELAY the bacteria action of digesting our food properly??

Hello! The salt applied to meat killed off the bacteria in the air from decomposing the meat...how are we sure that Salt isn't gonna kill of the bacteria in our stomach that digests our food?

It stands to reason that Salt applied to any food whatsoever inhibits digestion of that food in our stomach

And we as humans do not need a food to be tasty or sweet before we'd want to digest it.

Sugar for example is sweet but it's bad for our health while bitter leaf water, although bitter, holds some nutritional value than the 'sweet sugar'

The stomach doesn't see... neither does it taste.
https://www.nairaland.com/8060180/stomach-doesnt-taste-not-vomit

So why am I salting my food when I'm not trying to preserve it in my stomach?

I want the meat I eat to digest!!...not stay in my stomach and be "preserved"

"Salt has its own benefits for our bodies. It’s good to add it to food, and it won’t affect our health when used properly."

gentlesinna:
Pls can a man be satisfied eating only rice for the rest of his life....

Sometimes he need to add beans or better still try another food..

"There are some who stay with only one wife. What happens to their lives? Are they not normal people? What will happen when they keep eating rice?"

T4taiwo:
Drama ensued at the Ejigbo Customary Court in Lagos on Monday when a housewife, Mariam Jimoh rejected the divorce suit instituted against her by her husband, Sunday, insisting that they must continue with their 10-year old marriage.
Mariam was taken to court by her husband seeking for the dissolution of their marriage because he claimed that he no longer loved her.
The mother of two insisted that her husband still loves her as they are still living together in the same apartment, sleeping together in the same bed and making love regularly as husband and wife. The woman also revealed in the court that Sunday made love to her that early morning before they came to court for trial.
Sunday confirmed that they are still living together because of the children and said he was tired of the marriage because her parents did not support it in the first place.
While the matter was going on in court, the parents of the couple who had not met each other since the marriage started 10 years ago appeared in court.

They pleaded with the court to allow them step into the matter to resolve it out of court because of the children.

source:PM NEWS.

wahalaaad🤣😂

UyaiIncomparabl:
The fact that a woman is a housewife doesn’t mean she is jobless and/or a liability as you people call it. Being a housewife is a job on its own. Do you know what it means to take care of the kids, cook and tend to the home affairs? Do you understand the monotony that accompanies the role of a housewife? Do you know that being a housewife is more monotonous than your regular 9-5 job?

A housewife is a homemaker and as well a home manager. And if she's a competent and energetic one, that's perfect.

Do you understand that a HOUSEWIFE can as well make money from home too? Do you know some housewives live better and more quality lives than you that run the usual rat race of trying to meet up to society's standard of being a career and industrious woman?

In totality, this means that she is likely to have a better home than her counterparts who are always out of the home because she is always present at the home front and for the kids.

For me, there are no DISADVANTAGES.

Side note; you are allowed to have your opinion(s). Don't force yours on me or make me see reasons why your reasons are superior to mine. And if you say that housewives are being maltreated or cheated on, then Ataga's wife should have been adored and been made a monumental piece of worship by her husband. If you marry a man who's conscientious, kind and humane, you will know peace. Working-class or not, you will be disgraced and trampled upon by a man who doesn't understand how to treat a woman right. The advantages and disadvantages depends on the kind of man you married. Please, let people do whatever works for them.

Housewives dey and housewives dey, abek.

"You have said it all right. God bless you."

lookin4luv:
recently i just discovered that my husband still communicate with his ex girlfriend to the extend that the girl tells my husband any misunderstanding she has with her husband to be. they talk on phone almost everyday.
i called my husband and told him that it was not healthy to maintain a close relationship with one's ex esp with wat transpired between them but he said dat nothin can happen between them. and there is nothing wrong with being close to one's ex.
i am worried. i ve given my husband one month ultimatum to distance himself from his ex or i call the girl and tell her to distance her self from my husband.
please i need ur advice.
thanks.

"How can he use his phone and answer a girl's call in front of you? That's not fair at all. He should know your value and not allow himself to call or answer girls' calls."

DanielAlhassan:
What are the disadvantages to be a full house wife.

"She needs to work and get a job for herself; she doesn’t want to be without a job

Fineman2:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TDsJSj8QfdQ?si=Yijb-gUaxD0m46jM



https://www.legit.ng/people/family-relationship/1611496-nigerian-lady-marries-rep-worst-enemy-school-video-trends/#google_vignette

"God bless your marriage and protect you from evil eyes."

officialwdhtvv:
Nigerian man proudly shows off his 2 wives

#wetindeyhappentv


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GcCtJzGUqV4

"God gave them peace in their home and continues to bless their husband."

LVStone:
Hello everyone,

I am married for five years now and I love my marriage.

I have an issue and I need your advice on how to detach myself from being emotionally connected to my wife.

She mostly have mood swing and I use to have issues attending to her emotions, I want to always at each time check what exactly as gone wrong and how I can fix.

Most often I apologize because I want peace(she picks fault easily and gets angry)

The worst is that we do have sex but we mostly don't make love;

My wife hates being romantic, I can't play with my wife's breasts or buttocks, 90% of the times I tried she says she doesn't want.

I do ask the following questions

1. Am I not attractive?
2. Don't you have emotional attachment to me?
3. Why did you marry me if 1&2 are yes?
4. Is there something I did wrong?
5. Are you thinking about something?
6. Is there something i need to do?

In all she will Only say she doesn't just want it.

It happened that this evening, she was on the couch and I tried touching her best in a romantic way, she immediately changed her mood and said I should leave her as usual.

I asked her why she did that and she said that doing that will turn her on and she doesn't want to be turned on. I then asked if it was a crime for a married woman to be turned on, she said she doesn't want to be turned on because she doesn't want it to lead to sex because she doesn't want sex.

Again I have still not understood how a married woman who claims not to be having any emotional/phycological issues and no offense from the husband will avoid being romantic or being sexual with her husband.

If I need sex she gives as a duty, but I need more than sex, I need a romantic contact mind you i dont have extramarital affairs.

I feel very stupid, I feel like a fool, I feel I am too emotionally connected to her.

How can I stop having feelings for her? As in including sexual feelings for her? I wish I can also give her sex as a duty any day or year she needs it too.

Please I need help on how to do this.

I will appreciate mature responses without insults.

Thanks

"Hmm, oh God, please help us on our marriage journey. Don’t let us reach this stage; allow our marriage to be happy.

Jozilinn:
Good morning nairalanders, how's the country's current situation on us all it's been long I wrote was having issues with my phone I believe I had to try to sort it out offline took me weeks but I thank God for everything.
Some of my family members are trying to pressure my cousin sister to go back to her hubby siting that the kids are too small and that he will change but she has made her points known because now she's working to care for her kids and he wasn't supporting her with Money especially in the school aspect.

Fending for two kids( he always wanted a male child) she have birth to females and he asked her to get pregnant again and her last child was barely 6 months she refused and then the abuse increased plus the fact that he stopped the little feeding money he was giving someone who's earning 100k plus then now it has been increased already.
If she get rice he would not buy rice again and would rather go to the market to buy the items himself,she couldn't eat properly as all she ever earn went to the kids what if just what if she had taken in and given birth to a female her whole existence would have been over this is someone who contemplated killing herself because he said she has a cursed womb for birthing female kids.
Now I'm seeing a lot of men complaining about their wives not contributing anything but they're still happily married to most of them no matter anything they're still providing for them. Before school resumed he told her to take the child to a government school and the child is barely 6 because she told him the 20k he's sending for the two kids isn't enough.

Since she's adding her own money to it as well feeding is minus from the 20k because it all goes to school, just to buy snacks for the kids is how much??per each day not to talk of feeding. She is currently trying to get a hand work adding it to her job since he bluntly refused her from learning hmm. Some people would just be trying to by force things they don't want to think of the other side,the death threats and the rest it's so scary to think about. They're just believing that once she goes back everything would be fyn... someone who was hoping that she would come back because of the shame of being a single mother. We can't change the past but the future should be better at least, fast forward to today resumption has begun with list of things to get thank God we saved enough but that doesn't mean we would not still be needing money, during the holidays it was 15k for that month because they were not in school. Now she messaged him and told him to take responsibility for the fees so they can cut for each person since first term is almost four months at least so that it will reduce for her I don't know how they do it on Whatsapp that you would read messages yet it won't show that you did that's what this man did next thing he put the message on disappearing message for 24 hours and he has been doing that before immediately she drop message with no reply. This is the same person they are asking her to accept some family members Sha and they're not the ones taking care of her or even the kids oh. Are female kids not kids like is it a crime really?? I have warned them to stop telling her that what matters is that she is sane because she almost lost her sanity in that marriage. What's your take on this am I being too harsh?? Is she not able to forgive like someone told her that she no dey forgive oh, his attitude says it all that there's not going to be anything new that she hasn't seen before I just don't wonder how some women feel or think I'd it better she endure?? Your comments are very important.

Why do some men do these things to their wives? Can’t he remember that he married her before they had kids? She had those kids because of him. The issue of giving birth to girls is not her fault; she didn't create the babies. How can she know she will give birth to girls? Honestly, some men are like this too."

PJtech:
While at work you recieved a call that your best friend was shot a d in critical condition and you also receive another call that your wife is in labour

Who are you visiting?

"I will choose my wife until she gives birth in good health because I am her support at that time. So, my mind won't even go to my friend; she and the child are both mine. How can I leave them?
When she gives birth, even if it’s about my friend, he will have people to support him. It doesn't have to be me; he has family and relatives."

Maryann97:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x-H2wlr7IMA?si=bEJVTbPuTC4yOe3G

What is his strong reason for stopping you from working? Can he meet all your needs? If so, then there’s no problem; you can leave the job."

Infotubia9ja:
An American man (Mr WILLIS ) just found out in a (baby court) that all three children who are all fully grown up and married as well with grandchildren, are not his biological children. This came as he has been having doubts about the behaviors of the children and he has always been questioning his wife about the looks and behaviors of the kids.

He claims that all the kids have criminal traits as they all possess ill characters that he or his family in his lineage do not possess.

One time Mr WILLIS quote that when he was having family dinner with all his extended families, that his children behaves differently from his other brothers and sisters kids. While other kids were playing having fun, his own kids were busy going around the house and that of the neighborhood to loot whatever they felt valuable to them.
He finally had the courage to take his wife to baby court and then he found out all three kids were not biologically related to him.

Videos and pictures are available below.

Rumour has it that Mr WILLIS worn a ball lottery in a very large sum only then did he finally took the chance to find out for himself if any kids were related to him or not so he could leave them some new found fortune.
However, since none were found to be biologically his kids, he has been going around the world flexing his new found wealth till the very last penny.

https://youtube.com/shorts/44LF8RTJGSs?si=EZzGQ5ZehXgLQArr

These women have done something wrong. May God continue to protect our faith, but the situation is not pleasing. I find it difficult to even speak about it."

Vyvyanvyvy:
I had 2 children. When I got married, my husband had none and accepted them like his own children.

Before marriage, we had discussed about the children living with us after marriage but that couldn’t be possible anymore because we were having financial problem so we couldn’t afford to move to a bigger apartment. We were staying in a room self contain with my daughter while my son was staying with my elder brother and his wife.

Now three years after we had moved to a bigger house still my husband doesn’t want my son to come and live with us. At the moment my son is going through hard times. My sister in law has been maltreating him to an extent that he has been stealing, he was caught and beaten like an animal. My brother said he doesn’t want him in his house again. He wants me to come and collect him.

I pleaded with my husband for me to bring him with us but he said no, he should stay there because he doesn't want him to damage our children. I’m angry at him I stopped talking to him and I don’t know where my son will go because I have no mother no father it’s only my elder brother and kid sister even my sister who is married doesn’t want him. I’m pained and in tears seeing my only son suffering while I’m still alive and I’m helpless to protect him.

First of all, why don’t you wait and raise your kids in a good environment, or take them back to their biological father? Not all men agree to stay with kids that are not their own. Your husband is trying his best to stay with your daughter too."

Vyvyanvyvy:
I had 2 children. When I got married, my husband had none and accepted them like his own children.

Before marriage, we had discussed about the children living with us after marriage but that couldn’t be possible anymore because we were having financial problem so we couldn’t afford to move to a bigger apartment. We were staying in a room self contain with my daughter while my son was staying with my elder brother and his wife.

Now three years after we had moved to a bigger house still my husband doesn’t want my son to come and live with us. At the moment my son is going through hard times. My sister in law has been maltreating him to an extent that he has been stealing, he was caught and beaten like an animal. My brother said he doesn’t want him in his house again. He wants me to come and collect him.

I pleaded with my husband for me to bring him with us but he said no, he should stay there because he doesn't want him to damage our children. I’m angry at him I stopped talking to him and I don’t know where my son will go because I have no mother no father it’s only my elder brother and kid sister even my sister who is married doesn’t want him. I’m pained and in tears seeing my only son suffering while I’m still alive and I’m helpless to protect him.

First of all, why don’t you wait and raise your kids in a good environment, or take them back to their biological father? Not all men agree to stay with kids that are not their own. Your husband is trying his best to stay with your daughter too."

mmadu4:
So guys i often wonder is it OK to love wifey more than our mom. like can a man put his wife first before his mom?

a neighbor of mine sent his mom away all because she had altercation with the wife and told the wife to leave her son and set him free from her juju ,

i wanted to put mouth but don't want to insert my self in family matter . nothing will make me send my mom away like that though .

so guys would you do it?

A mother is your first love in the world, and you can't compare her love to anyone else's. She is the one who raised you well, so your wife sees you as a good person and chooses you as her husband."

SWriter:
Anyone's ok it's God creation

It is not good to use the left hand at all."

Sonnobax15:
Good day Nairalanders.....Hope everyone of you here is fine and doing just great?

Well, there's a situation my siblings and I have found ourselves in presently.......It's been 19 years since we lost our mom and those years were really hectic years for us,due to the circumstances surrounding her death because she was murdered................But somehow, God came to our rescue and we've all grown now

Before my mom's death,she had a sister who was her only blood sister, tho they had other step siblings...... Honestly,as I kid,I remembered how many times my mom tried to resolve the dispute between she and her only blood sister but all were to no avail.....She(my aunt) was hell-bent on the fact that she'd rather die than to settle things up with my mom.......Even in her death bed,i remember how my elder sister went to inform my aunt about our mom's situation and everything that led to what happened to her,but she gave deaf ears and even chased my sister away.....

I was only a little boy then,but I remembered every single thing that transpired then ..

Now here's the problem.........My aunt has been on our necks, begging us to forgive her......There was a time we were invited to our maternal home for a family meeting,and my aunt happened to be around.....She knelt and was weeping and begging us to forgive her....... Personally, I'm a soft-hearted person and I've toured my heart to see if I could forgive her and I think I'm about to let bygones be bygones.......But my other siblings especially my elder sister has sworn never to forgive her . Tho I've tried to talk to my sister but she has vehemently refused never to forgive her .....My other uncles have summoned another meeting but my sister has vowed to ignore their calls.......

Should my sister be blamed for finding it hard to find a place in her heart to forgive my Aunt, considering the fact that she's a Christian?

Or make everybody just mind him business just like we've been doing over the years?

The matter just tire me I swear but it's all good tho..

In my opinion, if I were your sister, I wouldn't forgive her by the time our mom wants her to. By then, she couldn't, even if she thought about how life goes on and how it can change. She just follows her wishes and does what she wants at the moment.

Taigaban:
A friend is troubled about the wife 's behavior lately. He is worried that the wife consistently hides her unclothedness from him. He needs help. No need for insult. It can happen to anyone.

Maybe he did something wrong to her, so whenever he wants her, that comes to her mind.

BlindAngel:
Good afternoon Nairalanders,

Please read to the end, It'd be quite an episode.

My marriage of 6 months has almost finally come to an end.

On my previous thread I have posted a lot about trouble we've been having during and after the marriage.

- How she manipulated me with her tears into marrying her despite the fact that I wasn't in anyway ready.

- How she manipulated me with her tears, and refused my pastor to conduct our baby's naming ceremony, therfore giving way for her pastor to conduct our baby's naming ceremony. And called me all sorts of names while crying when I refused and insisted that my pastor will be the one to do it.

Plus other's that I cannot even remember.




Now back to the topic, I will be extremely sincere to you all, I won't add anything and will not remove any. Everything started two day's ago, I was lying on the bed and she came to me crying and begging for me to love her that she's tired of begging for my love all the time, that I should give her just 1% of the love that I've for our son. Just 1% is all that she asked for, I didn't answer her, but later told her that I've tried in the past and still trying but the love isn't there naturally that maybe it's because she forced me into marriage when I'm not in anyway ready that in my wildest dream I never believed that I'd be a married man this year. Then she started crying heavily, went to look for rope and started strangling her neck that she will kill herself that there's no life for her to live, I rescued her. Then, I went to bath and before I came back she has locked the room door, I was hearing endless cough outside the door and pleaded with her to open the door but no response. Thank God the door key is somewhat faulty, I managed to open the door and saw that her eyes are already extremely red and spit drooping out of her mouth, the rope was so very extremely tight to her neck. "I'm still wondering until date how she managed to hold on tight and not let go despite the great pain she was in" next she went tho get knife that she'd stab herself. I was late for work and with the anger inside of me, I walked out of the house, she called me on video call immediately and showed me that this is the end that I should take care of out baby, I immediately ended the call, put my two phones on flight mode until I few hours later.

Immediately I on my phone my mom called me, she has reported a lot to my mom, my mom talked to me and when the heat was too much I walked out of her.

After that day, which is a day before yesterday, she totally changed, she no longer respect me, she talks to me anyhow, she insult me and talk back at me. These are things she does when I newly met her until she totally changed, now she has turned to something else, she bought a school form without even informing me. Two weeks ago she brought one of her friend to stay with us without informing me, when I confronted her she said she forgot.

Today she told me that I'm treating her bad and expect her not to revolt and continue keeping quiet, that this is the end road for me. I guessing that she got this advice from a friend, because she told her friend that she met at antinental everything that has been going on and she gave her some advice.


Today a huge quarrel broke out today which I'm clearly the cause, we were watching a Nigerian movie and I saw a chubby girl and complimented her that she's sweet that this is the kind of body I like that I'm going to search for her on Instagram just to see more of her. I said all this because I've been singing in her ears that I love dark skinned or chocolate women that are extremely chubby or fat. She also don't always fail to tell me that she's on weight reduction therapy "I'm always pained whenever I hear this words from her because she's not in anyway fat, she's fair too and rubbing cream to make her fair more, all these is paining me, she knew what I want but always doing the opposite. I can't resist a chubby girl, but coming home to see her how slim she's always makes me so heartbroken and weak.

The quarrel led to insult, we started insulting each other. She told me to shut up, that I'm an idiot bastard, a fool at 30, mumu, Goat etc.

And I insulted her as well, I'm pained by her insult because as she's supposed to give me some respect.


During the heat of the quarrel while we were still dating, I reminded her how she cheated on me by going to sleep with a stranger In a hotel until dawn, and denied that nothing happened, that the man didn't touch her.

I got to know all this when I she was sleeping and I used her finger print to open her phone and saw her chat between her and her room mate In school, she was still a student then.

"her friend asked her not to go, but she refused and went, on the chat she made mentioned that she didn't shaved that she'd be ashamed if the guy want to have sex with her.

When I saw her chat she blamed me, that I didn't gave her attention on that particular day. This is a woman whom I'm always chatting with all the time, except that particular day that I was extremely busy and told her that I'd be busy but when I'm less busy we'll chat. She said I told her that I was busy but I was online on whatsapp that she sent me messages but I never opened them, that her emotions got the best part of her.

I also reminded her of how she chatted a guy that was always disturbing her. She told the guy that she's ready to date him that he should go and rent house so that she would be coming to sleep there. What made her to write the guy? We had a quarrel, her friend that our last born was far older than, insulted me and instead of her to scold her friend she joined her friend and starter insulting me that I was the one at fault. Note : we were still dating back then when all this happened, today's argument made me to remind her.

I also reminded her of her chat with her friend when she told her friend that I'm a broke guy she's just managing.

But she said she was naive then that things have changed now which I can't deny. I then told her that I will call a family meeting and state all these that sha did during the past, I won't have done it but all her 4 sisters excluding her mom and one of her sister, think I met her a virgin, the remaining 4 of her sisters think I met her a virgin, so I want them to know that I didn't met her a virgin that she has already dis virgined when I met her.


Now back to the deal breaker, she said everything on my body is small including my penis, that whenever she's holding my penis when not erect, God forbid that it looks like a baby's penis. That God forbid our son having such a small penis.

Then I told her that her vagina is very wild that I don't feel anything when having sex with her, that all the prostitutes and my ex that I've slept with are far tighter and sweeter than her that she's has the worst and bitter vagina I've ever tasted in all my life and day to day existence.

Then she kept on hitting about my small penis that my penis is small and that's why I haven't felt anything. Then I told her how many girl's that have cummed during sex, even prostitutes. "Note, I'm not lying, this is 100% true" Then she said I'm lying, that my penis only long but it's small bla bla bla.

Few minutes later, I dressed up and went to church, while going she again called me a Goat, a fool and a Dog.


The decision I intend taking, I intend doing out child's dedication next week Sunday, so in order for anything not to connect us ever again after I've gotten back my bride price.

I have blocked her both numbers on whatsapp and Facebook, and on calls although she doesn't know yet. "note : this is the very first time that I'm blocking her, ever since when we started dating, no matter the quarrel and provocation, I haven't ever done this ever before.

Nothing and absolutely nothing will make this marriage work ever again, I intend calling a family meeting immediately after the dedication to state my mind that the marriage has ended and she should leave.

To me, this marriage ended a long time ago right from the very first day she manipulated me with her suicide attempt and endless tears and calling me wicked, heartless. In which I couldn't bear and I agreed to marry her despite the fact that I wasn't ready, the love wasn't there and above all I wasn't sexually attracted to her. I wasted 4 million plus in getting married to her February this year, and I have accepted my fate. I will do the dedication and call the family meeting to make my stance known.

Thank you all for reading, although I've already made a decision but I'd appreciate your contributions and what you think about all that happened.

Bro, you played with your chance. She has already disrespected you.

Christianoir:
Which one can you deal with

A noisy neighbor or a nosy neighbor

As for me I can manage a noisy neighbor I really don’t care too much, but a nosy person is a no, they can intrude in your privacy and ruin you.

It's not easy to live with either of them, but sometimes it's better to live with a nosy person. You can stop sharing things with him and stop letting him know about your life.
But a noisy person won't let you leave and rest well in your own apartment.

[quote author=YINKS89 post=131826615]Before you guys come for me, hear what the argument was all about.

So there was an argument in the bus I took few days ago and a man said when next he's going for naming ceremony, he'll always give monetary gift to the husband because he deserves it more.

Immediately he said that alot of women in the bus flair up and said he is heartless all because the lady carried the pregnancy for 9 months went through all the stress and pains also does he know what it feels to be in the labor room, it was very serious until the man said let me explain myself.

[b]His Explanation: [/b]He said right from the moment the woman got pregnant he has been the one footing the bills, up until she gave birth not also forgetting the fact that days the lady has mood swing he is also affected as a man. He would also be the one to take care of the naming ceremony and at the end of the day money would be givens to the wife by different people forgetting that he might even be in debt with all these spending.

[b]People in the bus all of a sudden splitted into 2 groups some supporting the man and some against him.
So my question is this, who do you think is more deserving of the

She will take the gifts because they all belong to her, including some for her newborn baby.
If she wants, she can share them with him. But if he is a real man and a caring husband, he won’t worry about the gifts. Instead, he will think about adding to what she has because she gave him a big gift.

Rukkydelta:
May 20th

Hi mate🥰

pmoye:
This is advice is really for Nigerian ladies. Please and please do not marry a man that is not rich. Your very life will depend on it. You heard me... How long you live as a woman may well depend on how rich your husband is. This may seem like an over-generalization, but a very needful one. Quite a troubling percentage of Nigerian men can not handle a woman who is more financially buoyant.

Ideally it shouldn't matter how much each person earns, because I believe that the husband and the wife should be one financially. That the home should be planned like a company with budgets, financial planning, sound auditing and all... But from the much we have seen around the average Nigerian family is far from this ideal. We often have what increasingly looks like a union that appears more to serve a cultural/societal expectation, a union that is sustained just so that the society can think you are happily married, while between the man and the wife it is more like between US and China, between Northern and Southern Nigeria, a perpetual cold war and bitter jostling for resource allocation and control.

I have seen women who have died because the husbands couldn't afford antenatal care and used ego-motivated argument to keep the women from accessing timely medical care... And of course, few years or even months after that those wicked men would later bring in other wives into the house.

The poorer the man, the more wicked, the more angry, and the more deadly he generally is in Nigeria. Do not let any man or any woman convince you to marry for love. There is no such thing as that, just a queer surge of hormones that makes you think you are in love. If you marry a poor man for love, hunger and suffering will soon reset your thinking, and by then most women feel too culturally compelled to remain with the toxin of a husband they have. Take a cue from evolutionary development in animal kingdom generally where females select the most suitable male for mating.

Do not simply believe in a man's future plans and dreams. If he doesn't have money now, he is not ready to be a husband. No matter how much you think you love him, treat him like the case of AS genotype (yours) marrying an SS genotype (his). And this is something I respect some Igbo men for. They will never think of marrying a woman unless they are economically ready.

If he is earning N30,000, or N40,000 or N90,000 per month he is not ready to marry. These are just examples from posts I have seen around here. Do not be fooled, the amount on the payslip is not always available for taking care of the home. But that's the talk for another day.

Some of us are probably never going to get married, I personally find it very scary to read about how men because of poverty increasingly turn against their wives in marriage... I may be too traditional though, because I do not fvcking care the money the wife is bringing into the house. Her role as a mother and a wife is already supremely more than you need to compensate for as a man. If you are a man, do not get close to a man when you are still poor. It is wickedness. It is dishonesty. It is crime against humanity. Do not sell her a future hope of becoming a pastor and other popular silliness.

Marrying a lady when you cannot completely and single-handedly take care of her is gender violence. Stop it.

That's true, but sometimes love can control people's minds and blind them to the truth. When a rich man wants to marry a girl, people might say she only wants to marry him for his money, even if she truly loves him for the right reasons.