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I am confused

bayplus:
Jummu'ah Mubarak to the Ummah

May we withess many more Jummu'ah in our lifetime and be among the favoured in the hereafter. Aameen thumma aameen

Aameen

Blessedmercy8:
Console myself how? Na today?

Look, from my childhood I've always envisioned the kind of life I'll give my kids and planned towards it even its going to take a while. That is because of the life I enjoyed as a kid up to my late 20s and early 30s ( when I lost my parents) which my parents made sure we had with proper planning and I hated seeing children suffer right from childhood days. So I decided within me, If I don't land me a capable man, I'm not settling down.

I've had lots of suitors both rich and average but the few rich ones were stingy and the average guys were not encouraging. That's why I didn't give in to either of them cos I know what it entails to maintain a healthy marriage.

Also, the economy has not been helpful and favorable to majority of men which is why 75% are barely in the average class and can only fend for themselves. Is it those ones somebody will settle for?

Marriage is not an achievement. It's a responsibility that requires wisdom and proper planning otherwise you crash.

Don't ever think whatever I say as regards impromptu marriages is to console myself because sometimes I'm happy I didn't end up with the guy I loved just because I love him. I'm sure by now, I for don Japa cos I hate suffering in my life let alone dragging someone else into it.

Please ma, if you see a man that is averagely ok please marry him and have at least a child so that when you get old, there will be someone whose responsibility is to take care of you.

Happy Jumat

Survivor2020:
When I met my wife she said that she wanted a non sexual relationship because of the past bad experiences she had when with her ex boyfriend. I was fine with that because I had been with so many girls in the past and I already had a child with one of my ex but we broke up because she traveled abroad . I was ready to settle down so I told her it’s fine by me I love for real and I am not after her for sex , I want to settle with her.

During courtship we had never been alone she always visited me with her friends and most of the time we used to meet in public places she wanted it like that to avoid temptation . I have tried before jokingly demanding her for sex but she bluntly refused. But I was surprised on valentine day 2013 she came alone without her friends , she wore a seducing dress exposing her breast unlike her because she had never wore something like that before immediately she entered she sat on my lap and started caressing me and everything was like a dream to me .

I then asked her why she suddenly changed her mind , she said she have seen how happy I made her ever since she is been with me so she has decided to have sex with me but she said I should promised her that I will never dump her after sex for another woman. I have told her I cannot do such and will never dumped her because if I only wanted her for sex then I wouldn’t have stayed with her for a year and 6 months when there is other women out there who willingly would have given me the sex but I didn’t go after them


Because I love and want to spend the rest of my life with her . We had sex and continuing been having sex then in May 2013 She told me she was pregnant , I was so excited even though I didn’t want any pregnancy before marriage but I have accepted my responsibilities and we started planning for our wedding , we did our traditional marriage 3 months before she was due she gave birth to a baby girl in November 2013 and our white and court wedding was the following year. To cut the long story we have 4 children together plus the 1 From my previous relationship making them 5 but I have been doubting whether my first child with her is mine , the reason why she looks exactly nothing like me or her mother, my wife and I are both dark skinned same as our other 4 children they are all dark skinned and looks exactly like my wife and I and my first daughter from my previous relationship is my carbon copy but my first child with my wife she is fair with beautiful curly hair like a mixed race Indian which I believe she is my wife ex boyfriend child , I saw her ex pictures before on Facebook he is fair mixed race ,his mother is Indian mother and Nigerian father my daughter looks exactly like him .

I saved his picture on my phone and mix it together with my daughter picture , and I went around asking strangers if they could see any resemblance of him and the child , I lied to those strangers that my daughter was my niece and the guy has been denying her and everybody that I asked has confirmed that the resemblance is so much that he is her father. My heart is broken in pieces because I loved my girl
So much she is the most loving and caring child , she is always with me when I am
Home she love spending time with me , the first thing she does when she wakes up she will come to my room to ask if I am fine.

I remembered when I had an accident at work I broke my wrist she was always there for me asking daddy how are you feeling today , do you want me to
Make something for you to eat and she is always in the kitchen helping her mother to prepare food for me , out of all my children she is the most caring one even my first daughter at 15 she is not that caring .

It break my heart to know that she is not mine that I have been raising someone else child for 7 long years it pained me so bad that she is been lying to me all those years and I strongly believe the reason she has agreed to give me sex was because her ex has gotten her pregnant then dumped her so she came to have sex with me when she was already pregnant so she could set me up for her pregnancy which is not mine. I hate her for doing this to me which I think I will never forgive her, I wouldn’t mind if she was a single mother when I met her because I was also a single father , I would have happily married her with her child but for her to set me up with a pregnancy which is not mine and for 7 long years I have been raising her child believing she is mine I don’t think I will ever forgive her .

I know that I haven’t done any DNA test yet to be sure if she is mine or not but asking strangers was enough proofs for me to confirm my suspicions. For the past few days now I have been treating her and her child differently every night when I get home from work I will buy snacks for the other 4 kids without buying for her child and when she comes to my room I will kick her out , I know I have been hurting her feeling badly for her to see how her dad has sudden change towards her but I just can’t help it because I don’t know why the love I had for the child has disappeared , as for my wife I hate her even more I see her as a betrayer , I have been avoiding her and have been sleeping in the parlour which she is been wondering about the sudden change in me but I am waiting for the right time to come so I can spill the beans and only God knows what will happen after .. I am at loss . I don’t know what advice you can offer me because I don’t have anyone else to turn to. Please forgive me if I made some mistake grammar and vocabulary

Please don't hate the girl, it is not her fault so that you don't attract the punishment of God on you. You have to discuss it with your wife

geezonaire1415:
Still taking orders

Why are you hiding the prices, when you are selling at discount prices

PointZerom:
You're right after fucking your moda she also gave birth to more foolish soul. Enjoy.

I am well trained by my parents, I will stop here for you to continue your foolishness alone

PointZerom:
No matter how foolish I am, I can't suppersede that of your parents. Oshe.

I can see, your foolishness start from your great-grandfather

PointZerom:
Shut up, what do you mean by hatred for Tinubu?

If truly you love Nigeria, you won't be supporting a crook, sick aged man to rule NIGERIA let alone bn an APC man.

You are a big fool, who prefer Anambra development to Lagos State development.
A person that cannot differentiate the visionary leader among the presidential candidates.

bennybuhari:
https://independent.ng/tinubu-already-speaking-to-nigerians-at-rallies-granting-interviews-not-mandatory-apc/

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I as a person, I like to listen to Tinubu, his type is not common. Tinubu thinks out of the box.
He will create way where there is no way.

I am highly disappointed with Dele momodu these days for his comments recently. I use to respect him right from my childhood, can someone advice him to control his hatred for Tinubu?

Babysho:
Quit misinforming Nigerians.
The economic development you see in Lagos today is as result of a something called OPPRESSIVE CAPITALISM that was kickstarted in Lagos when Nigeria was a colony. The same reason why Europeans chose to exploit Nigeria through Lagos, is the same reason why foreign investment troop into Lagos; it’s strategic location. And this has nothing to do with the governors. Whatever development you see in Lagos is private.

For the government, one of the tools in which we can measure government performance is HDI. The tax from the private sector/foreign investment can be used to improve human development through life expectancy, standard of living and education. If you live in Lagos, you’d know that all of these are terrible. Life expectancy is 61 years(ease of transport and traffic gridlocks, security), standard of living of the proletariat is low(no housing, no water), the sch system is so bad, public sch teachers don’t send their own kids to public schools.

If Abia, Zamfara or Benue was in that location, they would be the Lagos of today.

In conclusion, using HDI, there are definitely worse governors than Lagos state governors but you must be able to measure the ratio of the state’s history, factors of production, strategic location which all defines their ability to create revenue and then the revenue to the HDI. Lagos revenue is not matching human development at all.

Is Bayelsa and Delta revenue match human development? I just hate your nonsense jealousy.

The security of Lagos State should be doubled, being the most populated state in Nigeria.
The insecurity occuring in other regions can occur in Lagos State because all the tribes troup in to Lagos State every second.

samuelson06:
What exactly is his crime?

I didn't even know the presenter on till I had case where he violated Lagos State road law.

kizyalex10:
see what tribalism have turned u to,a proper slowpoke.inside your mind you know that you are avoiding disaster that’s why u say so,I don’t know ur reason for supporting tinubu but you must be very stupid insulting a sane person who is supporting a just cause.infact thunder fire you for insulting people with clear intention of making Nigeria better,I would have kept quiet if u stupidly support ur candidate but the audacity in which u insult people with sane mind is so alarming

Why are you so frustrated, you better prepare your mind. Tinubu will win next year election so that you will not have heart attack. I pity your family.

Prettygirl200:
Useless fake story

You better believe it, I have seen a doctor who captured his wife with a man in action, the doctor had to run DNA test on his 3 children only to discover that it is only one out of the three that is his own.
When the secret leaked out, the woman commit suicide.

What surprised me was that the woman looked descent, you will never think she can involve in adultery.

XerXers:
Other candidates will soon copy

when you campaign, consider security

Marilyn101:
Small pikin dey worry this government beneficiary
Lol

What is his offense?

Toktee:
My babygirl is 4yrs now. When she was on e were noticed some patches on her shoulders that looks dry some said it's ELA, after using Yoruba AGbo the patches just peel off.
The problem is it's keep coming back.

Buy AMOXICILLIN SUSPENSION with Purple and white carton you will add bottled water to it and use it for 7 seven days, it will clear off and she will not have stomach ache.
When my son had chicken pox all over his body, that is what I used.

AMOXICILLIN SUSPENSION is written on the carton and the colour of the carton is white and purple, it is sold for N500(Five Hundred Naira)
The price is N500 it works like magic

Mstravelindiva:
Smile….you’re on airplane mode! Flight crew loved my travel gear, lol!

Enjoy your trip ma

Why these pictures during working hour?

Mr Dele Mohammed, we have seen the impact of Tinubu in the society, we are yet to see yours

VeevoH:
The first time he hit me till I lost consciousness. I reported to the police but we were told to settle at home. This man laughed at me and told me he will be the one to bury me

I have seen a case like that, where the husband beat his wife, when the woman reported at police station, they told her to go and resolve it at home.
The police are not helping matter in this situation.

This is a good development, please don't forget to put camera inside and outside the train because of enemies of Lagos State.

That is why I will vote for Tinubu because he will only put qualified people in positions.
I can see the performance of Abike Dabiri.

DrAkpamudehe:
See how Afonja urchins are defending their jump and start Master Thieffnubu. Very shameless set of people

The problem of you people is that you don't know how to control your mouth

Sammy07:
Alright, if I got a vacancy I'll let you know.

Thank you very much.

Sammy07:
Where is your location and how much were you earning?

I am sorry for replying late, my data finished.
I live in Ikorodu, Lagos State. I earn N35,000 and have HND in Accounting.
Thank you sir.

Sammy07:
Where is your location and how much were you earning?

I live in Ikorodu, Lagos State and I earnN35,000.
Thank you sir.

BABANGBALI:
if this is how you answer simple question, your yansh cannot balance in your husband's house, no wonder you're still single at 56

Wahala be like bicycle

Alabaintprice:
You come here to look for pity....

Hatred the Igbos has been showing you online you say.

Are you trying to justify what you people are good at doing?

Are you trying to justify the fact that you feel you can do whatever you want to us because we are in your state...

Who was the person that threatened to throw us into the canal here in Lagos. An Oba.

Don't expect us to soft pedal when your likes are even displaying that helatred in reality .

You don't expect a man to keep quiet when he is threatened.

Mind you, it's not chest beating. When the drum of war you guys want to play starts, we are ready to dance and dance better to that tune.

No one has monopoly of madness and this is my the era of civil war.

No man will live in a strange land and want to be a nuisance but when those owners want to turn to be the nuisance to the visitors Athen whatever you see , you take with all your heart

I am not surprised at what you just displayed here, that is what your people did in South Africa, Dubai, Malaysia ets always causing trouble and stubbornness.

You are a disgrace to yourself and the parents that trained you.

Rebuke:
So, the Obi flagBoy and his friend that they almost lynched were also there to rent a bus bought for them by yhur slave master (Tinubu), right?

It's such a shame that yhu silly lot always have a way to defend evil. Continue, it will reach yhur turn and yhu may not even be so lucky like those Obi flag boys that day.

The big problem you Igbos have is that you don't know how to control your mouth, you say everything that come out of your brains.