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@aisha
I support him. I didn't know better then But I do now.
He has been talking of quitting his job which put him in interaction with scores of people everyday, where he can even meet finer girls, But I give him the encourage he needs to hold on.

I encourage him everyday, Because his work is both tasking and time consuming.

You shouldn't sound so angry and mad. If the person involved could walk past all that, to a certain extent, then who are you to judge me so harshly? After all, nobody is perfect. And he saw some good in me to have come back....

I started dating this guy x years ago. A couple of months into the relationship, he told me he wanted to further his studies. Well, I wasn't in full support. And a short while latter after he started fully, I became very insecure as it was a long distance relationship.

I didn't ask How lectures were going. If he wanted to Read in the library I'd accuse him of seeing other girls Since he would tell me he couldn't pick my calls in the library.

We would argue and bicker before exams and sometimes spend the night talking it out and exams were the next day. To Please me, he didn't keep late nights Since all I accused him of was cheating.

He would tell me I was hurting him, wasn't allowing him concentrate. But I continued.

I guess it became too much as after a particularly serious fight, he told me it was over. I thought it was business as usual until I saw he wouldn't pick my calls or talk to me.

Days stretched into months, months into a year. Two.
All my attempts at reconciliation were rebuffed.


Then I got a breakthrough. He gave us another chance. Things have been going on well as we have both matured and i know never to act like i used to.

At this point, he was doing the final corrections to his thesis. He was supposed to have finished But his new busy job delayed him.

I saw the final draft and noticed he omitted my name from the acknowledgment, even though we were back together. He thanked his profs, his family, his friends, his roommates. He mentioned people by their name. Even those that did minor favours for him, he mentioned. But mine is nowhere to be found.

Am I justified to feel so sad, angry even. Considering the fact that we are getting married, don't I deserve a mention? He made a distinction in his thesis and it hurts that he doesn't see me as one of those who went with him on that academic journey. Has he even truly forgiven me?

I can see people hurting here...

I appreciate all your advice. The thing is I'm so sad and disappointed that I'm bursting to tell him just what I think of him and his dirty behavior.
I mean the CDs can't have disappeared from his box. They are no longer in his box because he made use of them!
I've tried to be there to cater to this man's emotional needs. Why does he have to treat me this way?

He makes me sick!

Hi house.
I will go straight to the point. My man called me last week that he had to leave town on a sudden job assignment lasting some days, something to do with the report asking for funding from parent organisations.

So I rushed down to see him and met him dumping his cloths hapharzardly in his travel case. I knew he was in a hurry and that he always had them ironed at any hotel he stays, so I left him to it and offered to make him a quick lunch which he refused.

He was still getting things together when he was called out by his colleagues to go sort out some things at the office before travelling. As he left for the office, he agreed I make him lunch but asked I put it in a warmer for when he gets to his destination.

The deal is this.
I made spaghetti and since he wasn't back decided to help him fold his travel things. I was doing that when I discovered he had some packs of protection in the box he was travelling with.

I was surprised but I managed to scatter the cloths and leave the box just as he left it.

I have been going crazy all week and when he got back from the journey, I made sure I was around at his place. He just left for the office and I went through the box. Nothing! Not even one protection left from the 6 satchets I saw. They've obviously been used!

Do I confront him when he gets back from the office?
Is this what I get after loving this man the way I do? I feel sick of the two-faced cheating heckler!

Hi house.
I will go straight to the point. My man called me last week that he had to leave town on a sudden job assignment lasting some days, something to with the report of funding by parent organisations. So I rushed down to see him and met him dumping his cloths hapharzardly in his travel case. I knew he was in a hurry and that he always had them ironed at any hotel he stays, so I left him to it and offered to make him a quick lunch but he refused.

He was still getting things together when he was called out by his colleagues to go sort out some things at the office before travelling. As he left for the office, he agreed I make him lunch but asked I put it in a warmer for when he gets to his destination.

The deal is this.
I made spaghetti and since he wasn't back decided to help him fold his travel things. I was doing that when I discovered he had some packs of protection in the travel box.

I was surprised but I managed to scatter the cloths and leave the box just as he left it.

I have been going crazy all week and when he got back, I made sure I was around at his place. He just left for the office and I went through the box. Nothing! Not even one protection. They've obviously been used, else where are they?

Do I confront him when he gets back from the office?
Is this what I get after loving this man the way I do? I feel sick of the two-faced cheating heckler!

When I started dating my boyfriend, I told him about my wicked uncle that I grew up with. I even showed him my uncle's picture!

Darn, that man was really mean! Just remembering him makes me feel uneasy. Whenever we children heard his car horn, we would scamper for safely and zap into the children's room. We usually disappear before we get this really painful, open handed spank in the middle of the back, for no serious reason! My uncle used to spot a bushy moustache and whenever I got in trouble, he would sit, twisting the ends of the moustache contemplatively. Then suddenly; a heavy knock on my shaved head and a painful twist of my ear.

So back to my boyfriend.

He started growing a moustache earlier this year and I told him I don't like it. But he laughed it off and said it was a new look. Last week, I was seeing a movie and had an argument with him. He turned off the TV and glared at me angrily. He looked so much like my wicked uncle that I became petrified and my ears started twitching out of fear, like it was about to be twisted again.

I even answered 'Yes, uncle' unconsciously when I heard my bf calling my name from the kitchen, because I was really engrossed in thoughts about the unhappy past. After we made up, he told me (jokingly?) he'd be keeping the moustache, to keep me in line cos I looked so scared.

Please, what do I do? He has refused to shave! I hate the way he looks now!

I don't care anymor. I wantd to change his name and I got carried away. now it's out for everyone to see. I seriously don't care. They can al c it

I don't care anymor. I wantd to change his name and I got carried away. now it's out for everyone to see. I seriously don't care. They can al c it

I don't understand. Why me?

Mimi has always been a thief. She has always taken what is mine.
Mimi is my cousin and since we were kids; dresses, compliments and even affection, Mimi has stolen from me. If I did a simple hairstyle; Mimi was sure to do a better one to get all the compliments. If we were in drama group together, Mimi was sure to steal the spotlight with her shameless shenanigans! When I joined Judo and couldn't sumersault during practice, Mimi who escorted me to the gym did better and then joined too, became coach's favourite and was sent to nuga.
In all this, I always see the accusing look in people's eyes asking me; Why can't you be more like Mimi?
The current cause of my sadness is Peter. Peter was my coursemate. I always liked him from afar, but we didn't date. After school, I found myself thinking about him often. I was so happy when we ran into each other last year. He asked for my number and we started chatting. The day he was to come visit, I cooked rice and salad. But I forgot to buy salad cream, so I biked down to the market to get it. Mimi was even mocking me for going to so much trouble for a guy. Peter came in my absence and was with Mimi.
By the time I got back (which wasn't long); he started calling me 'Mimi' by mistake. I was shaken but I thought I could fix whatever harm had been done.

After that day, Henry came regularly to take us out. Till one day, they both went out and left me. That is how Mimi took Henry from me.
I'm so hurt. My feelings are raw. Mimi has all these guys buzzing around her. Why did she have to take this one guy I really care about?
I have made a resolution to tear them apart! I can't take it anymore and I don't care what happens!

all these people standing and looking. . .can be of better help if only they bend down and start digging!!

Thanks at everybody for the various advice. But that is the latest he has done (hacking my FB). While I don't have the proof this time around that he is the hacker, there is no other person around me who would do that! I'm strongly suspecting him!!

Someone gained access into my facebook account and that person didn't even bother to cover up his/her track. It's almost as if that person left footprints for me to find and know that my account has been compromised.

This is getting serious! What can I do for Pete's sake?

Idowuogbo:
Darling fear no man na crase dey cure crase, if he sees me in action he go enter sempe mode dats one of the qualities of bin a Badosky.Gal dis dude is demented walai , if he try nonsense i will order bois to lock him inside washing machine and spin the mudafucka till his senses are clean and correct.Infact if all dat done and notin changes , we will lock him inside again and repeat process.Who does he think he his tryin to frustrate a fellow damsel,pass him over so i can roast him bonified monkey.

Thanks, girl!

Idowuogbo

lol/ But R U sure you want to do that?

He even dealt with a lawyer who saved him from a lawsuit immediately he was acquitted (they were still even outside the court). Can you imagine that? By the time he caused a great scene, the lawyer took off and forgot about the fee he was asking for.

I think I'm so scared of him because I've seen him 'in action'!

@all
Thanks for all the support.
I'm sure with all the advice, a solution is in the offing!

^thanx, telwisdom.
Never in a milion years wil i go back! Dem jaz me? Lol!

Please can someone get that ediot posting p.orn images off my thread!

@The thing is; he does all these things anonymously through all his robots/hidden numbers, so that he can't be linked to me. He even denied the call he made to my friend.
And in all truth, I don't have a male friend with his type of razor-sharp mouth to warn him off. I'm extremely cool headed and those are the type of friends I have. Moreover (like a serial killer), he has a good facade put up in the eyes of the society. He has a great job, staying in a great neighborhood. Everything that would make him seem a 'responsible' man to people!
His mum is one of the few people who know the brutal side of him. But as her only son, of course she'd support him come what may!

@freecoc
It's a very long story, what he did. It's not even a palatable one.
But I know he's the one responsible cause I carried out investigations of my own. I found one of the culprits in his facebook friend list and some of the strange texts have a very similar pattern to his past texts to me.
Apart from that, he called an old friend he suspected had a crush on me and described to him things we did sexually. Then told him to keep away from me cause I was a 'ho. The guy is crazy! I'm just looking for a peaceful way out without going ballistic.

@sauer
thanx for the advice.

@sauer
Yes. Early this month, I was getting calls every night from a guy with a dodgy Hausa accent. When I asked how he got my number, he claims I flashed him first. I subsequently stopped picking.
Last week, I got a call from another number and the person at the other end kept silent while I was askin who was on the line. Things have tapered off now that he knows it's end of year and i'd be with my family. But I know he's only waiting for me to go back to where I stay in the new year to start again.
It's really affecting me because I'm now suspicious of anybody who tries to strike up a convo with me. Which isn't the way to go as a single girl.
One of his cronies successfully got me by lying that he was an old friend, requested that I add him on facebook and then proceeded to write an abusive comment on a perfectly decent headshot that I used as my profile pic.
Now I have erected a high fence around me but it's keeping away the good people too!

Since then, I get all sorts of strange calls, texts and facebook requests.
He sends all these random people to toast and pursue me and I'm sure he wants me to fall for it so that they could sleep with and humiliate me. He's obsessed with setting me up because he feels humiliated that I called off the wedding.
Its a long story how I know he's responsible. I just want to be left alone, so I can move on. It's been a year since the breakup.

My ex is a thorn in my flesh. We were serious, getting set for our intro when he committed a great misdeed and I had to breakup with him.
It wasn't an easy decision but I had to do it since he'd disrespected everything we stood for.
When he saw I was serious about leaving, he begged me to forget what happened and forge ahead with him. But I wouldn't budge because I had forgiven him too many times and moreover, this last deed was a big slap on the face of my whole family. Then he told me I wouldn't get another person like him and demanded back his gift, which I returned intact and unused.
I left mine with him though. After that, I decided not to have any contact with him. So I ignored all calls and texts from him.

A serious problem with naija guys nowadays is this. . . .

^^^Didn't post this just so you can "awwww. . . ."

Tell us your preference
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Yeah. . .I know u posted a pic, but is that what u really like? White dudes?? Abi na Indian

Who can forget Saworoide (Arapa and arese) and Magun (Uche Obi Osotule, BTW RIP to the man who played headmaster). Those films were the bomb. They should make more movies like these jare. Clean and classy. . .

Adebayo Faleti had me cracking up in Saworoide, playing the sleepy old man. . . .

Mainframe pictures, go on soun! You're seriously mouthed!!!

^^^
On the internet, Mz. D's boo and Tell wisdom everybody magically becomes slim and buff
Make una put pics jor!! Its not by mouth only!!

^^^
I think u should ask Dr Kathy. I don't know much about contraceps!

@cotton101
I thank God for your life. At least you're alive to tell the story and now, you're safe too. I understand all you've been trying to say. God bless you and keep such people far away from your generations and mine! Amen!!

@Ileke IdI
The day some men die, their wives would dance a little jig of freedom in the sanctity of their rooms; the way we all danced when Abacha died. . .nuff said. You don't need to acknowledge some posts. . .not all post requires you to go through the stress of typing, k?
Just ignore. . .in this case, ignoring is golden!!!



@ronkebp
Yes o. You have to discipline your wife by running a car over her foot, choking her and verbally abusing her till she losses all self worth. Then you are a MAN and you're managing your home and your woman! Tufia!!!