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Newbeginnings:
This is not just any writeup, but for those who want to add more to themselves and improve their confidence.. If you are reading this.... Sit down and build yourself, because you deserve to be better than you are right now... and remember practice makes perfect..

Self - Esteem is confidence, confidence is how great you feel about yourself, how great you think about yourself, and no how great you think people say you are or feel you are...

Low self esteem is a situation where you compare yourself with society or people, asking questions such as am I up to his/her standards? Will he/she accept me? Will they like me if they see me? or saying I am not good enough? I am not up to her level look at her phone/clothes/accessories... I am not up to his level look at his car/women/houses/clothes..

Low self esteem is a situation in which you care about what people think, feel, say and use what people think, feel and say about you to live your life, you use it to measure yourself and describe who you are, to measure how valuable you are.. remember for you to be valuable to others you have to be valuable to yourself and believe that you are valuable in yourself...

Gaining confidence starts by creating your own rules, values, standards for yourself and being in control of your thought and what others think about you..

Most people with low self esteem don't have a direction in life, they don't have plans for their future, they don't even know where they are going.. they are just living life and by God's grace they say....... they live life according to the what they see and not according to who they are and that is why society easily influences them and makes them lose vision of who they truly are and they start comparing themselves with others in the society.

Self esteem is confidence, confidence is how great you fell about yourself. How valuable you say you are in respect to yourself and not to others... not saying that I am more valuable than a begger or people living on the streets... No!.. you can only feel great and valuable of yourself in respect to yourself when you know who you are, your ambitions, plans, potentials and knowledge.. saying you wish to go to school, get a job, get married and have a family... those are not plans or ambitions... That is the way society makes it to be and that is why you are easily influenced and compare yourself with others.. because you are living according to society and not according to who you are..

Saying that you wish to go to school, get a job, maybe own a business, get married and have a family... those are not ambitions or plans .. that is another version of what the society creates for people to live by... If I love art and fashion and I live by it.... and I say when I go to art school, I will come out... and join an art organization.. make myself known in the art world... create a platform for young Nigerian artists to gain exposure.. build art gallaries and then maybe get married and have a family... Now those are ambitions and then I plan for them...

With this you are living according to who you are with your ambitions and plans leading you through life.... This way you wouldn't even think about comparing yourself to others but you be more interested with where you are headed because you know who you are, and you know why you are on this planet earth...

Low self esteem is when you wear a cloth, which you think is fine, but wait till your friends confirm it before you go anywhere because you are afraid of looking bad and they are your judge... without them you can't go anywhere..

High self esteem is when you tell your friends to dress you that you want to trust them that day... You are not relying on them, but just giving them an opportunity to show themselves with all those advises they have been making noise with ever since.. No matter what they dress you with, it is when you say it is great that it is great...

I will stop here... hope you remembered to take down key points... But one thing is that if you think you are not strong enough to take control of your life right now ... you should said you are not strong enough to urinate... Which is an utter lie..

So I am telling you... with knowledge of who you are.. take control of your life.. plan it step by step, ambitions, goals, and plans with knowledge and understanding and with a well defined life... you wouldn't have space for low self esteem..

cc: Deejay1000 Divay22

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Thank you so very much for this piece.....
This has given me an edge over my low self-esteem,i really appreciate.....
It not really what others think about you but what you think about yourself,how you look at yourself......
Thanks new beginning.

numericalguy:
Lol... I didnt mean people should rush in and rush out. But look at it from another angle, there is nothing like being fully ready. There will never be a time when you will be fully ready because its not realistic. Its like looking for a perfect guy/lady. They don't exist.

okay......
Then there is no appropriate Age of getting married?

Never take excuses and never make one...

In this cruel world only the strong survives......

Never give anyone the satisfaction of seeing you suffer..

numericalguy:
You will never get married if you have to wait till when you are fully ready.

So it's better you rush in when you ain't ready and rush out?

.......

No appropriate Age....
Get married when you are fully ready...

Slow self esteem and depression and self underestimation..
As much as i try to 4get the things that lead me to this I just can't......i have not been able to leave them and leave for good.....

Mehn that was massive....so dope

Hmmm....what can i say

Looking for what to say

[quote author=redbeans post=53681036]6. Colik (pretty wiz - beauty and brains)

7. Pheals (looks domineering. Don't mind if she B d s m me)

8. NLchikeeto (looking innocent - wife material)

9. Oyind (gives motherly advice)

Now you are good to go...

Martin124:
ah we nor see am oooO prove yaself to clear the Air!!b!!!!b

sew wetin abeg close your eyes

[quote author=windeal post=53439279][/quote]see wetin ..common close your eyes

firstking01:
As soon as you say yes, you know what i mean.

Hmmmm.

MarkGeraldo:


has urs fallen??

God4bid.....
It's still as pointed as a straight pencil

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firstking01:
Nah, you made a valid point.

When will the validity end

evansjeff:
see una life? Kuntinu

I'm not among them o, I'm just learning How tO

Happy Sunday you all

firstking01:
Hmmm

Hope i didn't talk out of point