₦airaland Forum

paulynpen:
I will love to know the section of the constitution you are quoting from. He can only decide on his money not on his wife's I keep cautioning my fellow men on egoist tendencies. Its very dangerous, whoever built the house provided its our own. What if the woman used her share the way the man used his? The man is a terrible man who is bent on manipulation and oppression, if he has no ulterior motives I don't see anything wrong with joint ownership and living together in peace. No he want it in his name so that he go out and shout at the top of his voice to everyone who care to listen about how he laboured for the house. I know he will never tell the world about his wife's. I got to know lately that many houses standing are actually the brain child of women but they were swindled off the ownership. My sister I am a man, never ever reneges your ownership. Put it in the name of your children at worse

What's the purpose of this thread since the man has left everything for her and left already. Why is the lady crying all over the place, playing the victim card, let her go n marry the house n stop crying now. The divorce she planned for is here already, what an evil woman that destroyed her home for common property.
The man is very right to get angry over this massive betrayal of a devilish woman. Let the woman move on too like the man since the man is not even dragging anything or do his bidding as her husband n stop crying already.

Submission of a married woman is not negotiable, do the will of your husband or divorce him period, u can't eat your cake n have it.

I hope the house is a mansion and worth all these stress after all, good luck to both parties in their future endeavors

cococandy:
Go and sit down.

Lol is that all ok get lost already

Amberon11:
Shut up, mumu. Please save such rubbish advice for your sisters, sane people don't need it.

Who allowed this kid into this thread, son this thread is for mature people not kids like you. Now get lost

cococandy:
Your post is annoyingly disgusting. First of all there is no under or above in marriage. It’s a partnership.a partnership that requires investment and sacrifice from both parties not one person.

Secondly, if she had used her share of the money to take care of her own family like he did, they wouldn’t have a home now for him to claim. Maybe that’s what she should have done to save herself unnecessary heartache.

Her asking him to agree to 50-50 ownership is basically him getting 75% of the proceeds of the business (since he used his own 50% earlier). That’s actually very unfair to her and I think she’s very kind for agreeing to that. You want her to give away more because if she doesn’t appease his ego the marriage won’t last. Who wants that kind of life for themselves? And what kind of person thinks that’s okay? I’m utterly disgusted at the lot of you who see nothing wrong with that. You’re despicable.

For a mature man to not plan for his future speaks a lot about they kind of person he is. Basically he’s annoyed right now because she has refused to give him 100% of the proceeds of their hard work together.

In your demented minds, that’s what a woman deserves. 0% of the fruit of her labor in exchange for the title of Mrs?

In Godly marriage that I believe in, the woman is under the man, infact she must submit to the man. Submission is more than respect it's only below the word worship. Marriage is not a partnership par say because the man has the final say on all issues in the union. He is the head of the union.

The word husband literally means "Master" most ppl don't know dt.

The maker of marriage also gave us the manual for it and it is called holy Bible.

The holy Bible is not there to please any one it is the eternal and timeless word of God.

If you don't wanna submit to a man then don't marry, marriage is a place of submission to the will of your husband.

When a lady says she is looking for a husband what she is saying without knowing it is that she is looking for a Master

JoannaSedley:
Not everybody believes in fairy tales.

We are talking about holy Bible and Godly marriage principles not fairy tales

Martinez19:
SMH. Keep living in stone age.

My submissions are based on eternal truths as enshrined in the holy Bible which is the factory manual for Godly marriage

JoannaSedley:
The man marries the woman and the woman does what in return. ? What sort of archaic definition of marriage is that? This is so stone age mehn!??

Not really it's biblical standard

The man paid bride price n married the woman

Martinez19:
lol. The woman has more solid grounds on this issue. She used HER MONEY to build the house. It's not advisable to force love. It's either he loves her or not. He should recognise what has happened has happened, If he can't stop his wickedness, manipulation and pride and accept 50-50 ownership for the sake of love, then he Bleep off.

The op has played her part in trying to mend the relationship by offering a 50-50 ownership of the house. If the husband can't humble himself and change his ways, he should Bleep off. He is meant to apologise for trying to kick his wife out. How callous!

Alot is at stake here ( except the woman wants a divorce) and we are talking about husband and wife here. In a family the husband is the head and taking a major decision like house owner ship without his knowledge and approval is unacceptable moreso sole ownership as a married woman.

The man has moved on already n his wife is the one crying all over the place now even with sole ownership left for her already. My brother it's not DT easy to say bleep him other wise the wife won't be here crying when the man has left everything for her already. It's not like the man is dragging anything he left everything.

Whose idea was the biz that brought all d money DT caused this problem?

Let them shift grounds, they have alot of juicy joint businesses ahead.

Concead 60% ownership to the man and make peace n save the marriage

Babybunny:
60% you say?
Would you advice the man so If it were the other way round? Bunch of egoistic hypocrites.

Calm down
Husband and wife ordinarily are supposed to be one, all these are caused by lack of trust and firm believe in oneness. The man married the woman and not the other way round. The husband is head to his wife n DTS not hard to figure out.

Any woman who cannot stay under a man should not consider marriage, after all marriage is not a must

Martinez19:
She built it with her money, so she owns it. Which is worse? She or her husband who didn't spend a penny to build the house but wants it in his name alone?

The only way out if she still wants her husband is to concead 60% ownership to the man. There is serious trust issues already therefore sole ownership by either party is unthinkable in the interest of their marriage

you are his wife so building the house with your name alone is a big red flag, moreso without his knowledge what type of wife does that? It shows you are preparing for divorce.

There are two sides to a story and I know you are not telling us the whole truth. In the building of the house there is no way the man could not have made a lot of contribution n sacrifice (may be not financial) to see it completed believing it's our house, complete betrayal.

If you are a Christian then always Know that your husband is your head.

He asked you to leave the house but believe me he doesn't mean it, it's just a way for men to show they are in charge.

There is alot of trust issues already but the only way out is to have joint ownership that allows him 60% if you still wants him as your husband. There is no way he will stay in a house u own alone as the wife.

poverty kills

pride goes before a fall
it pays to have a balanced ego, learn to say sorry

you guys should not get it twisted, a lady is like a market and some of them has so many better options than their broke ass boy friend yet they stayed and built with him. such a lady is a rare gem and should be celebrated.

some of these men even upgrade and dump these ladies once money show.

I don't see anything wrong in appreciating such a lady, any man that thinks otherwise is an ingrate.

she left men with means and stayed an built with a broke ass n now you think she is an idiot, it's a huge step of faith in her man and there is no guarantee BC d man may still die with her even poorer.

men appreciate ladies that built with u biko,

man is a provider and lady a helper. if a man cannot provide for a lady you are not qualified to date such lady and that is God's standard. Having a penis is not what makes you a man, it only makes u a male. weak broke ass ingrate kids everywhere

Rev Father Ejike Mbaka the annoited man of God

Congrats

d ladies hand is like that of a wrestler

d guy get mind sha

Sprumbabafather:
bitter as always

Don't mind them
Instead of them to go and mourn their brown roofs n mine more skulls

TonyeBarcanista:
How did you come to the conclusion that he's better off her family? How do you come to conclusion that the marriage will improve the family's economic worth? Please, let's speak from informed position instead of making jaundiced judgement.

Marrying at 18 isn't strange, it has been happening since our fathers and mothers era.

If an 18 years old can be presumed to make an informed decision to vote and decide the destiny of a society, if an 18 years old is deemed matured enough to hold political office advanced nation, if some societies could crown an 18 years old monarch, if an 18 years old is deemed matured enough to reach/cross age of consent, what is now surprising for an 18 years old to take decision to get married?

will u give out your 18 yrs old out for marriage? she is definitely too young and unprepared for marriage. she barely understands what she is getting herself into.

comparing Nigeria with advanced countries is senseless in this case BC at 18 a girl that grew up in America had more exposure and education n probably working better off than even 26 yrs old in Nigeria.

The only acceptable reason for this marriage is poverty alleviation. mere observation tells you the girl is even malnourished like wise her family members, u may not recognized her after 2yrs of marriage when she is well fed.

graphic pictures

how can I unsee the pictures

TonyeBarcanista:
How did you come to this conclusion when from the photos the groom doesn't appear like a wealthy guy

poverty and wealth get level, he may not be wealthy but better off bc at least basic human needs will be guaranteed with him

professors are very poor people and are classroom material.

most of them are only good in theory and has never built anything all their lives. They are mostly disasters in politics. They are programmed to earn salaries n can't create wealth.

Even most of them are copy n paste professors

eeewise:
Our parents did not have diapers, nutribon and co

They used cloth, pap, mashed solid foods, guinea corn and co and we turn out fine

Its basically simple.. Know your familys total income and expenditure vis a vis monthly savings and adjust to it
That's what good women do.

God bless you

Baby that will survive will survive I don't see why an African baby will not start eating marshed food as from 10 months

ifyalways:
Check out of this new genetation of Nigerians. . . If e no be sudden death before 50 years , e go be one kain yeye sickness in the 30's.

No fruit and veggies in your babies diets but you slay?
No better baby food all because of management but you wont encourage your wife to go for FP as your religious leader (who by the way is neither married nor have a child) have declared it a sin.
You feed your baby adult food and all sorts of chemical filled fast foods?

Pooor babies. Our parents did a better job.

have you thought about how people survived in the olden day? Baby way go survive go survive Even if u start giving them fufu at 7months. what doesn't kill d baby only makes him stronger

Ishilove:
I understand Ralph's bitterness, but taking it to social media, twisting the truth and humiliating the entire family is not the way to go.

I wonder why the family gave the girl away so early. The mind boggles

for poverty alleviation

Buhari again

no never again

dt name is a liability

AKswift:
Nice!

There should be a race (like a marathon) tournament on that road. This will help showcase it to the outside world.

nice idea

should be term coal city marathon from Ekochin by 9 mile to new market via milking hills new road

That's the newly completed milking hills road at Ngwo Enugu, lovely road to drive through at night . the helicopters views are breathtaking

is shopping and taking pictures the occupation of this idiot

haba is this the new trend

if u see one for 1 million let me know

real ones will cost more than that say 1 million

esty27:
How come women are the ones who need marriage the most? Explain cos I don't get your thinking

they need it most because 70% of woman are dependent on their husband at marriage point but 100% of men are not.

This lady may be jobless too n that compounded her woes at 40yrs