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Solidkay:
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I need urgent advice. See eh, my business has always done so well and I am good at saving money. I and my husband shared the bills. He pays school fees and other hefty expenses while I feed the family. Sometimes it is hard for him to get money to pay for the school fees and he sometimes asks me if I have, occasionally I have helped out but I noticed he will keep depending on me to keep helping out. When I say I don’t have, the school fees money will them come out from somewhere and he will pay it, but if I said I have, he will not find the money o. So I learned to say I don’t have so he will be forced to find it, and he has been doing it.




We don’t have property at all, we pay rent. I have been asking him to buy land but he has been postponing saying he doesn’t have money. I saved up enough money to buy land and I even saved up money to build a bungalow for us. All behind his back, because I know he will take the money from me and use it for something else if I say I have the money. So I decided to buy land and build the bungalow behind his back. I build 5 bedroom bungalow and I thought he will be happy and proud of me. I told him I have a surprise for him. I took him to the new bungalow which I have even furnished. I then break the news that it is our own and he was so shocked he nearly passed out. He then became very angry that I did such a project behind his back and that it is an insult to him. He said it means he means nothing to me for me to pretend I don’t have money and then go behind him and build such a house. Every room has toilet and bathroom, 2 parlours, big compound already fenced with interlocking tiles. Now furnished. I have been begging him since that I did it for our own good. His name and my name are in the C of O but he said he will never move into that house built behind his back and is talking about ending our marriage. He says he tells me everything he does but I betrayed him by hiding what I was doing. I told him is because I was afraid he will take the money off me as he has done before and I felt we needed to make progress and stop paying rent. At least it will save him rent money forever. This man is still angry o and wants to go and see my people to end the marriage



Please what did I do wrong? I thought I was being a good wife.... I feel so sad. I love my husband and I want to save my marriage. What do I do?

rent the house out and use the money for your family upkeep. I for one will never live in the house built by my wife at my back. you proved to him how dangerous you can be and he cant be comfortable around you again.

sell the house and save your marriage. with the proceeds you can start another project together

critically comment on the question with informed biblical standards.

Feminist/free thinkers are not welcomed because they don't believe in the Bible.

In a godly marriage based on biblical standards if a man contributes half of the money to pay the bills, is he still a provider.

man = provider
woman = helper

modified

most of you are deviating, for the purpose of this discussion let's look at payment of bills using money as provision forget moral support n motivation

Jasen1:
Good day all

Please I really need a good advise insults are welcome also

Please pardon any error in the post


It happened like this

She's a girl I met in 2012 via 2go, we became friends we talk, chat, and call each other, we've been just social media friends we never met each other physically till 2016 when we met in PH for the first time, it WI didn't stay together for more than 10minutes she left, we were still talking


Fast forward to this year I relocated to Abuja and she lives here also. We decided to date each other, she was staying with her sister here while I just rented an apartment, she visited me and passed the night in my house (yes we had sex) so from that day, she started complaining about her sister giving her troubles, always punishing her, she always quarrel with her, soany complain, she said she want to get an apartment, I said OK I will help her get one but first she needs to start working at least when I get the apartment for her she can be able to pay her bills she said OK, 2weeka after she told her that her sister had issues with her husband and she's packing out of the house that her sister is relocating to ph and her sister asked her to leave the house or stay with her husband

She said she can't stay with her sister husband, I then told her to come to my place and stay, she agreed.

Now my problem is this, since she been here she sleep wake up eat morning afternoon and evening, she's not bothered about working anymore like she became so lazy to go out and look for work, I spend lots of money every week making sure we've enough to eat at home. But I'm really getting tired of everything


I don't know how to ask her to leave and again she don't have anywhere to go to, excepts her village or her sister place in Lagos, she has lots of friends here in Abuja but they're not good friends to her, I stopped her from associating with them, but this time if she want to go back to them, I don't mind, I really need space


Please note she's my girlfriend, we are both in our early 20's


I want the best way to ask her to leave that won't cause problem

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co habitation

u don fuc.k her to your satisfaction about

u don marry be dt

Suzzyyy:
Hello Nairalanders! Plz help! I hv been scared and confused abt a risk I want to tk so I decided to share for advice.

Im 29 and I hv a boyfriend who is 33. We hv been happily dating for close to 3 years now, he once helped me financially in a good way with 100k when I had problem with my little business, then he was doing pretty fine with his business, I sell plastics and hez into cloth business. But somtin happened last 2 months, he had terrible problems with his business and lost almost everything including his shop and in a bid to salvage his situation he ended up owing many pple, when all these started he didn't tell me, thou hez a kind of person that likes handling his problem alone without disturbing or telling me which I don't like bcus it somehow makes me feel less important and useful to him, I got to know when he changed, his attitude, moods and everything changed, hez always disturbed, thinking and always visiting pple, he payed less concern and attention to me, don't even call and when I call, he will be in a haste to end it, I became confused, so I had to asked what was going on, he said nothing, I got upset and insisted he must tell me, he then opened up, I felt so bad and almost cried, since then I have been trying to maintain his upkeep and sometimes give him money which hez not comfortable with.

The problem now Is that im scared, he asked for a huge amount of money from me which is 700k, he wants to start all over again in his cloth business and also clear some debt, and I can only boast of 820k home and abroad as a business woman, i just feel he saw my account balance before asking for this, Im scared to loose the money and him too. I love this guy but im so scared of doing this, he helped me when I needed money, but this sacrifice is bigger than me, he showed and detailed everything he will be doing with the money, Im just confused to gamble with my life savings, I know I might sound ungrateful what if the business or our relationship crumble? Won't I be stranded and doomed? My business is not that strong and we all know how most of sacrifices like this ended for people. Is this kind of risk worth doing for a boyfriend

Plz advice me on what to do, plz.

don't gamble with your life savings

if he was your husband I would have said give him the 700k

since he is an ordinary boyfriend don't give him more than 200k of course u can endure this if things don't work out between you two

op is a learner

you want to sell a repainted and accidented 02 Camry which you have used in naija for over 4 yrs @ 1.450 when 2006 Camry toks is about 1.4,m.

u self check an now

Paulpaulpaul:
Truth be told, he is right. Some doctors should not even consider farming because crops will not survive in their hands.



Many useless and unprofessional doctors parading themselves as medical personnel.

lol at crops not growing in their hands

then they should consider a career in fashion designing aka tailoring.

crazyman
1forall
lalasticlala
seun
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Prof Isaac Adewole needs no introduction a professor of obstetrics and gynecology, former VC unibadan and current Nigerian minister of health.

This excellent doctor has been abused for saying the truth. To practice medicine you must be excellent in theory and practice because it deals with human lives.

prof said that not all doctors must specialize especially the dull ones rather these dull and useless doctors can become more useful as farmers, tailors , musicians, politicians etc

Excellent and brilliant doctors (aka medical gurus like adewole) that never repeats any professional exams are the ones needed in medical practice because they are the ones called to save lives.

the quack and unintelligent doctors destroy lives and should be encouraged to become farmers rather than killing people up and down.

what a brilliant accomplished medical elder like Adewole sees sitting down many doctors cannot see on top of mountains

Any doctor that repeats professional exams should consider farming as advised by the man that has seen it all prof adewole.

lalasticlala

is not possible to pay the wrong person via transfer except some one is too careless. what happens is over payment like u wanna pay 10k n paid 100k

contigiency:
All these ranting calling the man all sorts of unprintable names is just what I don't understand. What the man said is just very much in order.

Don't other graduates who even studied more than the over hyped Doctors farm? Please, there are many PhD holders everywhere in the world who are farmers. The ministers' advise is not bad at all. A lot of people spend up to 12years studying up to PhD and later deviate from what they have studied. That is why you have Lawyers, Accountants, Doctors, Engineers, surveyors, etc all going into politics instead of only practising what they have studied. Else, politics should have been left for those who studied political science and public administration.

Although, I know that some people's view on this discussion is out of ignorance. Because I have read where some are saying, after 7years, how can the person drop the certificate and take up hoes and matchet and go to farm. They forgot that farming has gone far beyond that level even in many rural communities today. Again, they should also see farming beyond just cultivation of land for food. How many hospitals are up to the level of any of the Dangote farms be it sugar, floor, rice etc in terms of wealth and other indices? So Any graduate can make a far better decent living out of farming if he so desire to do so. its a matter of choice.

spot on
Doctors just have over sized ego, the minister has said nothing wrong. Doctors who are not performing in medical practice should consider farming rather than destroying lives it's common sense.

He is not saying all excellent doctors should go and farm rather the dull n incompetent ones who probably repeated most courses in medical school

BalogunIdowu:
Well the question should be do we even have enough doctors on ground to meet up with the health requirements.

Well it's no problem having medical related People doing diverse things BUT it shouldn't come from the health minister!

There is nothing wrong with what the minister said in fact he is correct. medical practice is for excellent doctors below average doctors should consider a career in farming etc and quit destroying lives. zero tolerance for quack doctors

he is absolutely right, if you are not finding your feet in medical practice you should try other things like farming, tailoring even music.

Not every doctor will succeed in medical practice that is pretty much obvious

Deji is an idiot

Apc governors are vote buyers and they have come to buy votes.

APC rejected the idiot and he joined pdp

d boy doesnt need that now senseless mother

abbiboy:
But do u Nigerians ave sense,no wonder Asians use u pple as factory slaves for peanuts.

shut up already biko

how much were you paid to write this?

sexdoll:
true.

but you also need to cultivate the culture or habit of advising yourself... most especially in issues that are just a manner of either this or that.

one doesn't necessarily have to form the habit of depending on other people's opinions all the time.

doing that will only leave you more confused in most cases, as well as totally dependent.

you get advice to make a wise and better decision in an area you are less experienced/knowledgeable. you must not take the advice if u don't want it. at the end of the day you are the one taking the final decision.

sexdoll:
the problem with sampling so many opinions like he's doing right now is that he will end up being more confused than he was ab initio.

besides, he's the one wearing the shoes so he should know where it pinches him.

most people who will give him advice will be biased in their opinions sort of, and that's simply because they are speaking from their own personal experience and views but there's no guarantee that what worked for Mr. A will surely work for Mr. B.

what good decision makers do is to quickly make a decision and then stick to that plan to make it work rather than being stuck in a mud where people will be telling you to do this or do that and in the end you will not even know what to do again.

if you want to get married, get married.

if you want to go for masters, go for masters.

if you think you can do the both, then do the both.

i don't even know why you will need someone to tell you what will be good for you.

you need people to advise you on some issues in life especially if you are inexperienced in those areas that's why government even have advisers

Kingsdave:
My testosterone is in the normal level .. The Dr said I'm normal medically.... No bacteria was cultured in my semen....... I don't think it's anxiety cos I have been having sex..... If it's psychological I should be having morning erection...... But mine is just too weak

I am happy that you are medically fit especially as it concerns testosterone levels. Worry less about the erection it's in your mind. Thank God you achieve strong erection when you are with a girl but just can't keep it long.

let your girl give you Mouth Action before u go in that should help

if this still doesn't work then try alomo bitters and thank me later ie if u take alcohol

if alomo no work and everything fail my brother Na Viagra last last

if Viagra (which I don't advice anyway) doesn't get dt dick standing during action then I hereby accuse your enemies especially village people

Disclaimer Viagra should not be an option except you just wanna experiment else Na injection them go use bring your dick down if you take it

Op did you say 24 yrs haba you are way too young for this

exercise, eat balanced diet, plenty fruits esp banana/ groundnut and roasted plantain. Drink lots of water.

Erection is triggered by hormone testosterone, if your testosterone levels are too low then you will struggle to keep erection during sexual intercourse for up to 15minutes.

It may also be anxiety esp if you are a new to having sex

sexdoll:
28 and you're still looking for people to tell you what to do.... worse still, people you don't even know.

guy, your case is different.

He is just sampling opinion he will still decide what to do

Florblu:
Ask yourself the following questions:

1) Do you have enough fund to start and complete your Masters degree?

2) Is your babe ready to share costs and expenses with you equally?

3) Are you secure enough to watch your "wife" take more responsibilities at home(financially) than you do?

Let me stop here.

Share cost? few women will agree to that. Highest she will contribute/ help where and when she wants. If he treats her well he can be borrowing from her money for their upkeep with a promise to pay back in future

Earthbound:
*sigh*

If you guys really love each other, you should marry lowkey in court and end matters there.

Do a quick projection into the future, say 3-5 years. Where do you want to be? Only you can answer that question. Truth is, even if this thread enters page 20, a bunch of strangers cannot influence and/or determine your own future. Only you can.

Without traditional n bride price you wan steal person daughter?

Dorcas212:
lol 50k job and you want to get married?? Combination of 110k are you kidding me?


As a single i spend more than that in a month. How will you raise children? Depend on relatives? My brother think very well

He stays at Ibadan not Lagos and with 100k he will live a decent live

thegentleman:
I'm a of dude of about 28 years, I just finished my NYSC program and I secured a job that pays me about 50k, my girlfriend who is about 25 years too just acquired a job that pays her about 60k per month too.

Is it advisable I go for M.Sc. program or just settle down for marriage with my girlfriend and then follow my career later.

We both stay at Ibadan, the city is averagely okay.

What's your take ?

Marriage will not stop you from pursuing your career

Settle down now esp as you have a working gf you will be glad you did.

I wish I married at your age 28, imagine that you will grow with your children. By the time you are 50 all your children are almost graduates.

Those that married late used pensions to train children

Earning 100k in Ibadan is like earning 500k in Lagos, bro give it a shot

Lomprico2:
Its not about winning. Like I said if it was me, I will throw shìt to a rotating fan!

Ok i see, more like not dying like a chicken. You want to fight dirty before dying. Ambode is a political goat, he probably thinks his re election depends only on his performance lol

Lomprico2:
Its not about winning. Like I said if it was me, I will throw shìt to a rotating fan!

Ok i see, more like not dying like a chicken. You want to fight dirty before dying

Lomprico2:
He don't need all that to do what he got to do!

Well except he only wants to raise dusts but if winning is part of the plans then he cant do without a formidable support group, that is what is going well for tinubu.

Ambode may be hardworking but he is very dull n lacks courage. A politician should be a fighter not a cow like ambode someone with excess courage even if he is dull he can borrow brain but can't borrow courage. Excessive courage is the number one attribute of a politician DTS what buhari has and Jonathan lacks