Some people in this forum are yet to grow up. We should be mindful of what we wish/say to others. Remember what goes around come around. Be careful, you must not comment.

What is expected of Chief bridesmaid, really need to know pls.

Still waiting for an answer.

Pls can someone that read Urban and Regional Planning apply?

some people wrote today in Lagos, result to come out tomorrow

Pls. i need the current Gmat. rizzynon8@gmail.com Thank you

Kindly send the current Gmat to rizzynon8@gmail.com a friend need it urgently for a test on 30th Nov. 2012 pls help

enibal: Check ICsl in obaonikoro

Thank you, I thought they take only OND and HND holders.

pls. help

Pls. help

vhrinter: Call dis number. 08067671553. VHR Int'l is currently recruiting graduates from any discipline. call for my detail.

thank you, will contact you.

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I really need a job/Business, a graduate of History and International Studies (B.Sc) (2009)can do well in Marketing and in any other field outside my profession. (Male) I base in Lagos. Kindly help.

I really need a job, a graduate of History and International Studies (B.Sc) (2009)can do well in Marketing and in any other field outside my profession. (Male) I base in Lagos. Kindly help.

I don't see anything wrong in getting married to a lady that is older, is all about genuine love, if the lady is willing to be submissive and put her age behind her knowing that age is just a number it will work .

You're lucky the lady is just 2 yrs older, I have a friend that is 4 yrs older than her spouse, thou the lady looks 5 yrs younger than the guy, the lady made up her mind to be submissive, and is working well for them. If you love her marry her.

Money is good! But not everything, money can buy you good things but ca’t buy you happiness/love, if you come across a broke guy that has prospect, who doesn’t like his situation and working and praying hard for God to change his story, why not stick to him and assist him in your own little way by praying along and encouraging him.
If the guy shows you care, love, respect etc. Why not stick to him and forget what you will gain, nobody knows tomorrow, the end of a thing is better than the beginning.
Some of these so called rich guys doesn’t know the meaning of love, because they think that their money can get them all they wanted. Is better to know a marry a man you know the source of his wealth who will respect tomorrow, than the one that will make the marriage miserable.
If you are working, and you come across a broke guy you love, don’t run, thank God you have a job, support him in your little way and tomorrow if he pays you back wrongly his conscience and God will be the judge.

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Caution!! Caution!!! Caution!!!!

Na me una dey warn!! I don suffer. . .

@ Logica: Bros I forget. . . I thought he never slept, took a break nor went on vacations. . . These Boko boys must be darn good to have slipped over three past him. . Darn!!



Don't use the name of God your creator in vain! you can joke with everyother thing.... but the name of God that gave you life and enables you to read and write should not be joke with. pls. mind your speeches when it comes to God.

I came across this article and find it useful. Ladies take time to digest.


We live in a politically correct world right? In other words, it doesn’t matter how soon you sleep with a man, right? Wrong.

But, not for the reasons you think. Not because men have double standards. But for your happiness and relationship success.

Men will ‘categorize’ women in to either one of two categories, whether we like it or not. They still do it. You are either a ‘just for a good time’ girl, or wife material. This doesn’t mean that men are right, or that this is a good way or categorizing women; it’s just what commonly happens, on a surface level, and you need to be aware of it.

Pre-framing your relationship with a Man
And, the sooner you sleep with a man without building ATTRACTION first, the harder it is going to be to develop a committed relationship with him. Why? Because the beginning stages of a relationship or courtship are when the FUTURE of a relationship is pre-framed.

What I mean is; if you sleep with a man early, it’s highly likely that he will only see you as someone he sleeps with, not someone he marries; and he might be more likely to keep expecting that. When it’s done, it’s hard to change the original ‘terms’ you created for the relationship at the start. There’s a reason for this, and it has to do with how men are built; how their brains are wired, but I won’t go in to that stuff here.

Is this fair? Not at all. It’s downright painful at times, for a woman to be in this position, or to make such a move and then find herself in a position she never intended to be in, but it’s how it is.

I don’t believe in holding back sex out of fear that he will run. That decision is coming from the totally wrong place. And more importantly, I don’t believe in feeling guilty over sleeping with a man too early. Neither of these two things are in the least bit relevant, or useful in your life. We’re aiming for happiness and passion in your love life, not feelings of guilt or just becoming overly controlling about what the “right” decision is.

So what is best for you as a woman, is to start off with awareness of how men think in this area, and then make the right decisions for your own life, through true awareness.

When it comes to men and your choice of when to sleep with a man, you need to be aware of only these two important things:

1) Men want to have sex, but they actually NEED is to feel attraction. That is what they are looking for, underneath the many cries for sex, sex, sex.

So, sex is rarely what they really want. As a woman, its your job to remember that, for your own happiness, and not expect men to tell you that.

Because too many women do not know this, and then they don’t know what else to give a man, so they feel pressured to have sex with him (which they do), and then the man leaves, which is very hurtful the day after, when you are left feeling used.

2) If there is not enough attraction between you and a man, he will be more likely to push for sex, and with much more urgency.

If you want to be a High Value, High Status woman, you need to realize that if you are not focusing on building attraction with men, you will find yourself having slept with men, but most of them would have run; only because there was not enough attraction.

Is the Question: How Soon is too soon to sleep with a man?
To be frank: the question is not WHEN should you sleep with a man, or how SOON is too soon to sleep with a man. The question is: how much attraction is there between you and the man that you are dating?

That’s the simple secret to men: Attraction. It’s not sex. After all, if it was sex, why would men actually turn DOWN offers of sex from hookers? I was recently in Singapore, and mistakenly ended up in a hotel in the red light district after a mistake in booking a hotel (a long story) and to my dismay, for the two nights I was there, every morning and evening I would look out the window, and witness many young women approaching men with offers of sex (at a price of course), and a majority of men turned down the offers for sex.

Most single men can afford a night with a hooker, especially in parts of Asia where I was, yet I personally witnessed one man after another, turning young women’s offers for sex away.

Men must just want sex, right?

No.

Men want to feel attraction.

What if YOU want casual sex with a man?
So, what if YOU just want to sleep with a man, you ask? Well, that’s up to you. That’s your decision. Perhaps, if you have already decided that a man is not marriage material, that you want to just have casual sex with him. That’s your choice. But you DO have to be aware that, even though this might seem safe and convenient, what you are doing, effectively, is tarnishing your own ‘associations’ with sex by settling for what’s comfortable and convenient at the time. A 5/10 experience.

At our core, what we want, is not just some sex, or just a good time. We want something deeper, something infinitely passionate, something that makes us feel alive. The longer you go with just a sex friend, rather than opening your heart and being vulnerable to the right man, and the longer you have sex with someone you are NOT passionate about and would NOT die for, the more you imprint associations in to your brain of mediocre, ‘ok’, experiences, and that in turn effects the energy that you put out in to the world, to another man who may be worth spending the rest of your life with.

So what is the solution?
This is the solution: keep your focus where it benefits you and your future relationship the most: focus on creating attraction with men. Then, everything else will fall in place naturally, and it will all feel ‘right’ to you.

Become that woman who is irresistibly attractive, playful, fun and fascinating, so that men are more interested in committing themselves to you than just having sex with you.

The situation is right when a man is compelled to keep contacting you even when you haven’t had sex.

And this is ESPECIALLY true for a man whom you want to spend the rest of your life with. Attraction is the truly valuable experience that a man wants, not just sex. If you want to become an expert at doing that with men, join Attraction Control Monthly.

Attraction and passion FIRST; then sex. Once there is enough attraction, sex will happen at the right time completely NATURALLY, without you having to beat yourself up with guilt over ‘sleeping with him too soon’ or laying awake at night wondering when is the ‘right’ time. It’s for your own future and benefit.

And when you prioritize the feelings of Attraction between you and a man, you let the tension build up slowly, and everything will be a much better experience for both of you.

Now over to you: what are your thoughts on sex with men? How soon is too soon and what recommendations do you have for other women who are unsure about when they should and shouldn’t have sex with a man?

am asking for myself i don't sell. where is ur shop in Lagos?

where is ur shop and the cost?

@Mr. Cork, I have seen your efforts

honeric01:

get him a pair of singlets, boxers, a nice sneakers and maybe a simple watch.

not really all the above but you can pick from the list above.


get him a shaving cream too and maybe a nice shaving stick set.

you are the bomb!!! thank you i appreciate

@Murkie the gift is tobe given to a guy not a lady, thats why Victorian directed the question to guys to tell us what gift they will appreciate and value.

@Mr. Cork you are not assisting.

victorian:

You, guys are not helping here!, Ok , lets help the poster rephrase her question or better still help answer my question: what will you, as a guy like to receive as a gift from your babe, that will make you happy and smile? but remeber should be moderately expensive but has value in your eyes.

Guys pls. tell us.

thanks to y'all, still need more suggestions.

@Inked-Nerd you are the bomb!! am considering bath set, that guy knows the qualities of everything, anyway will try in my little way.

@Inked_Nerd, you are right, but we planned going out, just needed some simple to offer.

@Mr. Cork, nawa for this your suggestion.

he likes movies, want to get him something simple and less expensive

@Mr. Cork, forget the English and provide the answer. There is no time