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Honestly that lady is up to something, why is it that she always come to cook for you whenever your wife is not around? can't your wife prepare your meal before travelling?

you touched her she didn't say a word or feel embarrassed, that alone she tell you that she knows what she is doing

she knows what you’re going through, women are smart.

Please avoid her like hell fire SHE IS A HOME DESTROYER

The problem started with the wife, she gave her single GF access to her home without limitation even to cook in her kitchen in her absent, I think the girl friend has key to her bed room, now is affecting her marriage unknown to her because she is about to loose the husband to her single girl friend if care is not taken.

Is high time married women come to understand that they should maintain a distance with their single friends, young sisters, mother after marriage because you love them don’t give anybody access to your home.

@OP what you feel for her is not love rather LUST , please RUN if you start it, no going back and it will definitely affect your marriage

@blackweaver i have UCWEB in my phone but don't understand the language it came out with, i can't do anything with it cos i don't understand the language, can u assist

jenny9:
in addition, i pray that no one would have this kind of experience i had even my worst enemy. and my advice to all preparing to get married is this, please dont be carried away by the preparation rather dedicate more time in prayers for the sucess of the ceremony. i think i didnt do that much.

AMEN!! please find it in your heart to forgive him, love and accept him back, you know without him you are incomplete. Wish you best of luck

Marriage! Marriage!! Marriage!!! I fearoooooo

@OP the post is for guys not ladies

@OP I think is too early to say you don’t feel anything for the guy anymore, have you forgotten that marriage is for better and for worse, this is test of time/faith/love, my dear as far as I know that guy is still your hubby whether you like it or not, among all the people that seek for your beautiful hand in marriage, you accepted him, so you have to bear it ok. One man one wife.

Am not supporting him for postponing the marriage, I can understand how he felt that day, thou he allowed his emotions to control him. He is trying to mourn with those that mourn.

Try to make up with him, but your parents went too far, by saying ‘’OVER THEIR DEAD BODY’’ that is too expensive

Anyway sorry for the hot slap, I know it could be because of how u run your mouth that day, women’s mouth is their weak point men should know that

This is indeed wonderful!! Hope our matured guys will stick to this. Guys the OP said you should ZIP UP!!

@OP you didn’t point the guy should get a house, not getting married and remain in family house, where his whole siblings will automatically turn the lady into a house help.

I like this, OP I want the one for Ladies

Nobody has ever asked the OP if he has any experience in this line of business, Chemist business is life and death if you don't know it u don't know it, let him also tell us his experience in this business, to aviod giving people over dose and get himself into trouble, if no experience i advice he try some thing else like small provision store or something else.

pls this is important

@OP only know that nothing in life comes easy, with God the sky will be your limit. Do you ever imagine how those Mallams make it with their small kiosk , you can start something with the little you have and hope for expansion, you can buy some drugs and sell it along with your provision like the mallams do, or better still look around your neighbourhood and find out what people always want to buy, it could be rice, pure water, mineral, weavon, recharge, etc, check what is lacking in your environment and pick it up, with the little you have you can make it, the only thing you need to do is to determine, this is challenges of life remember to become a man is not a day job, money does not stay with people start something now, If you really want to succeed in life note the following;

1. Put God first in all you do, trust Him for direction and wisdom
2. Pray without ceasing
3. Pay your tithe it opens door for prosperity
4. Be a Sower
5. Avoid Pride
6. Keep away from WOMEN
7. Be focused, and always believe you can make it, don’t depend on human, rather depend on God
8. Be humble
9. Be a person of truth
10. Be willing to help the needy

and so many more, stay out of trouble, avoid self pity, always say to yourself I can make it, this is my time, Iam unstopable, dream big and believe you can make it. Don't look at today, yesterday has gone for ever rather look at what the future holds. pray for your helpers that's what you owe them. This is your opportunity utlise it well.

Cheers

It is interesting to know that there are people with heart of gold, who are willing to help one another without asking for anything in return. May God bless you all who have helped in one way or the other to put smile to this face, God who searches the heart of men will definitely search your heart and meet you at the point of needs.

We have said so much about the relationship of women with in-laws. No doubt, a good number of in-laws are difficult to relate with. But like I always say, we are all in-laws in one way or the other. Whatever you sow, you reap.



Amara

But what about the issue of siblings in our homes? Just like the in-laws, siblings have torn many homes apart. Women most of the time get too attached to the siblings that it begins to affect their relationship with the man. Yes, I know you have to be close to your family (parents and siblings), but if you don’t put certain things in check, you are bound to go beyond the healthy zone and then such relationship becomes harmful to that with your man.

When two people are joined together in holy matrimony, the priest always read the Bible passage that says, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother and cleave unto his wife and the two shall become one”. Is the Holy Scripture just referring to the man alone? Definitely no. The woman has to also leave the parents and siblings and become one with the man.

So many women pray for a disconnection of the man from his family when they are also very much attached to their own family. You know there are times we pray without understanding. You spend your time complaining about the man and his family members not allowing you to enjoy your home. Madam, are your own family members allowing you enjoy your home?

We have this understanding in the African society that anyone from the woman’s immediate family wishes her well in marriage. I can tell you today that your very own blood sister and mother could be your worst enemy. Wondering why I said this? Read on.

A girl I know very well got married and was childless for 8 years. The prayer contractors that surrounded her were quick to tell her what she wanted to hear: the mother-in-law was a witch. It was not until a genuine pastor revealed to her that her mother was behind her misery that her freedom came. The man told her that the mother must die if she would have a baby. They did a lot of things, and later the mother died. She conceived and today she is a mother of four.

I once attended a wedding where a woman gave her innocent daughter out in marriage to her lover. This she did just to hold on to the man’s wealth and also for easy access to her lover. Girl, you may not believe this, but I can tell you that a lot of mothers are having secret affairs with their sons-in-law. This is why I tell people never to trust anyone.

Now to the issue at hand —your siblings. I believe so many people have gone through so much in the hands of their siblings. Some have been able to identify the source of their problems and make amends while others are still living in ignorance.

I once lived with a family friend while waiting for my JAMB result. Being very ignorant about the issues of life, this woman had so much going wrong in her home. Her husband will always come home during the day and take the sister to bed. Several times, I saw them cuddling. I really felt for her but there was nothing I could do.

Sometime in 2008, just a few houses away from my office, a woman travelled for summer with her kids. She sent the house help to stay with a friend while she was away but left her sister at home with the husband believing she would protect her interest. As this lady got back to Nigeria, she was locked out of the house with so many false accusations. The sister was already pregnant for the husband who bought her a brand new jeep even before the lady returned. This was how she lost her home.

Enough of the story of infidelity. Your siblings have contributed to your husband’s negative attitudes towards you. A man once sent me a text telling me that his problem in the home has nothing to do with the wife, but the sister. This young girl who is still in secondary school goes out and doesn’t come home early. According to this man, the wife is not doing anything about it. He on his part; doesn’t want to hurt the wife by sending the only sister out of the house because any time he threatens to do that, the wife becomes moody.

I have seen siblings who will insult the man and his relations without the wife scolding her. I have watched some men enter the kitchen to serve their guests while madam’s sibling sits in front of the television. This is absolutely wrong.

Another reader called me to ask if it is wrong for the woman to gather her own people to come and beat up the husband. Trust me, I didn’t answer that question until I asked to know what led to that. He beat the woman who in turn called her people to come and fight for her. They beat the man and left him with injuries. I told him that no responsible man beats his wife, which is the height of irresponsibility. He said he did that out of anger, I also told him they beat him out of anger. But seriously girls, don’t call your siblings to beat up your husband.

It also doesn’t speak well of you when you allow your siblings use your husband’s car. You stop the man’s people from visiting your home. Your own people don’t just stop at the visiting, they have the right to enter your matrimonial room at any time (even when you are relaxing with your man). They pick up your husband’s car key and drive to wherever they like. This has to stop. Give the man all the respect he deserves.

So many women have the habit of discussing their husband with siblings. What do you want them to take the man for? Your marriage is with the man and no third party should come in. If you cannot keep calm and keep the man’s reputation, I would advise you get closer to your in-laws. The man feels more respected when you report him to his own family. Most times you talk and say so many derogatory things about your man without knowing your very own sister is interested in him. She will act the good sister you want her to be and then go back to the man to destroy you —HOUSEHOLD ENEMY.

A friend once told me how he lost about ten designer shirts that were in his wardrobe. According to him, no relation came visiting. It was only when he later went on a visit to his in-laws that he saw his shirts hanging in the wardrobe. The wife suddenly became a thief in her own house. I don’t believe I should hide when I want to give things to my siblings. If my husband is a part of me, then he should be aware and also be supportive about it.

Your own family has the right to go to your pot, enter your husband’s room, drive his car, and in some cases, wear his clothes. But the moment your mother-in-law and his siblings go to your kitchen, there is fire on the mountain. Your own sister has the right to stay in the living room and watch her favourite series while you cook in the kitchen, but you start barking like a mad dog the moment your sister-in-law does that.

Why live a life of hatred and discrimination? Why should your husband train your own siblings in school only for you to stage a fight the moment he sends money to his sick mother? For how long will you continue to buy Italian shoes and handbags for your own sister only to remember you have to manage as a good wife whenever it’s time for your brother-in-law to go back to school?

I once heard a woman telling her female child never to go into the brother-in-law’s room. She told the house help that the daughter is allowed to go to her own brother but definitely not the in-law. Are they not both guys? You are afraid of your daughter being sexually abused. Remember, your own brother could be the devil around you.

Sisters have planned the death of their married sisters out of jealousy. You may not accept this truth, but your own sister may not be happy that you are the only one providing for them. You think she is happy when you tell her your experience during your last trip abroad. So many young girls have refused to get married because they want a man who will be able to help them stage a competition against their elder sister in terms of clothes, good cars, and holidays. To these ones, they deserve better things than their elder sister.

This article is not meant to stir up animosity between your family members and you. I write this for you to be able to make amends, become more alert and treat everybody equally. Once you get married to a man, the two families become one. You should be able to love your in-laws as much as you love your own people. This is the easiest way to get your husband to love and accept your own family.

I was asked to put two spoonful of red oil in a pot of soup, I ended up puting almost one litre into one full pot of equsi soup with assorted meat and fish, oil became water, I was punished to eat the soup alone, which resulted in spending almost two weeks in the hospital.

My mom forced me to make achi soup, I ended up using hot water to dissolve the achi, which came out in ball form, leaving the soup watery.

I was cooking for my ex-boyfriend, and had a shape cut, when trying to open the tin tomato, guess what? my blood was mixed with the red tomatoes, I continue the cooking, the food turned out very sweet, and leaving an everlasting mark on my palm

Men’s forum I hate this game!!! , oh what are mine doing here? I Runnnnnn!!!!!!!!

i have mails in my yahoo box, sent with GTB and Central Bank address. asking me to upgrade my ATM card and also asking for ATM pin, this is Fraudulent i think, ignore such mail or better still go to the bank to inquire first.

please lets be guided, i know this mails are from fraudsters using GTB log, also pass this information to your friends and love ones to ingnore any mail or text that ask them to upgrade their ATM or something, in that case you go to any GTB bank to inform them of the mail, before taking any action.

to aviod loosing millions to those hungry pple out there

please lets be guided, i know this mails are from fraudsters using GTB log, also pass this information to your friends and love ones to ingnore any mail or text that ask them to upgrade their ATM or something, in that case you go to any GTB bank to inform them of the mail, before taking any action.

to aviod loosing millions to those hungry pple out there

Madam my kind advice is to keep praying as others adviced, don't hate your husband rather pray for his deliverance.

you can visit DIVINE MAJESTY WORSHIP MINISTRY if you are in Lagos for great deliverance

Lagos Branch:
19, olu-Irolu street, Alalade B/stop, Ijeshatedo surulere Lagos

i wish you the best

Please can someone advice on how a woman can maintain flat Tummy after giving birth.

@ suxes2005 Not yet, i abandoned the plans for a project that came up.

Please if am going for a holidays do i need invitation letter, in the absence of IV letter what are the process to adopt.

I was told invitation letter may not be required for just 2 weeks holidays

kindly advice

@ Poster if u are in lagos, go to Ikoyi passport office or the one at FESTAC, first of all you can go to their office for enquires and know when to go for the passport, simple as that

I don't think is wise for a woman to pay her bride price thats a man's responsibility. If a woman tries that the man will not value the woman, if he doesnt hv he should try to pay that even if is to borrow, is paid once not twice, This is Naija

but in preparation the woman can come in.

@Chaircover you are a role model, i like your courage

I will dialogue with him, if he didn't change i will keep praying to God to touch him, i will ignore them, and believe one day he will come back.

but i will keep myself busy, always looking attractive, doing things that will make him feel jealous i.e when am on phone with my siblings, i will use sweet words and laugh loud, trust me before you say jack he will ask ''who is the caller''?, trust women.

i strongly believe Busy-body and Chaircover, i think they ve done justice to this case

@ Spicymum i wish you the best, i encourage you to pray more God will see you through He has seen your heart and know you really want the marriage He will fight for you, divorce is not the answer. That is challenges of marriage, say to yourself iam a conqueror is well.

we share ''ANGER IN COMMON'' '' hot temper'' lol

women are to serve in marriage not to be served. Don't expect your in-laws and hubby to serve you rather serve them

if you want peace