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Romance / Re: Why Nigerian spinsters should be finacially independent. by dlashondra(f): 5:24am On Jan 06, 2016 |
True quote author=Toks2008 post=39769207]It is widely believed that it is a man's responsibility to take care of the lady in his life and in my opinion i see absolutely nothing wrong in this and i always tell any guy that even if his lady makes 1million naira a month,he should still make it a duty to take care of her and give her whatever he can afford to make her feel happy and also to maintain his place as the man hence the need for any real man out there to understand that taking care of your woman is sacrosanct in order to be a real man and not a figure head. However,it has become very appalling that many ladies have taken this for granted and have put their hope in getting a man who is financially prepared to take care of them and have totally forgotten the fact that they are also expected to be an independent entity and even more worrisome is the ideology of some ladies that they now prefer to be with a man that has "potentials" as though they are totally hopeless in getting the best out of life. This write up is not for greedy vultures who despite making a decent living will still want to suck a man dry but for the decent average disciplined Nigerian lady so i present to you 6 good reasons why it is very vital for our unmarried ladies to have something doing that can at least bring in a daily profit as little as N2,000 on the average for a start. 1. You have the confidence to be with a man for the right reasons: I have seen many ladies claim they love a guy they would never have considered in their dreams And this has nothing to do with the man in love with them but he is ready to spend on them and because they are so financially vulnerable,they easily fall prey to a man who has no desire for them but just their body.But if you have something doing that at least takes care of your minimal needs,you will be able to say YES to man for the right reasons and not because of what he has. 2. Unmarried men now prefer a financially independent lady: Yes it is no longer a fashionable thing for guys to crave for ladies who have nothing doing just as ladies have phobia for guys in same category.I am not talking about secondary school or campus romance but if you really need a man who has a sincere desire to make you his,then you better get your ass right and start doing something to earn a living no matter how small. 3.It boosts your self value:Do you know that guys respect a lady who does not ask for recharge cards,money to make her hair,money to buy this or that? Oh Yes that guy may not care and i really don't too but trust me,even if i have to give you a weekly or monthly allowance,you better be making something for yourself no matter how little so that i will give you that allowance with some respect for you knowing that if i don't give you,it won't affect you in anyway.Ladies who are financially independent are hardly jilted by their guys because men see them as great assets and not liabilities. 4.You have the propensity to follow your dreams:Oh yes when you make your money,no man can make you his puppet(Not saying you should be arrogant) because he will hear you when you speak and you can decide to make your own decisions about your life and aspirations but if you depend on your Bfriend,fiancé or hubby for money,you will involuntarily see yourself yielding to his demands knowing that going against his wish is tantamount to being broke. 5.You become a real help meet for a man and not a parasite:Yes GOD made you as a woman to be a help meet for a man and even if no sane man should expect to eat from your sweat.shits happen in life and a man who is full of life,energy and plans may find himself in a crazy situation and at times like this,you play a good role by helping him out while you also pray to GOD to resuscitate his finance and this means if as a spinster you are independent,you will definitely catch the fancy of many men. Whether you are still a student in the secondary or tertiary institution,you can still be financially independent and YES we know how harsh the economy is but trust me,if you think deep and become more purposeful,you will see something you can do that can bring in at least average of 1000naira on daily basis which is a good start. 6. It will be a sure proof that indeed there is gender equality: This needs no long explanation as we are tired of hearing about gender equality yet the ladies still depend on the men folk to take care of them as well as the children they both brought to the world but when you are financially independent,gender equality becomes a practical thing to reckon with.After-all,what a man can do,a woman can do even better according to the songs of the ladies. Just trying to make sense and i hope this helps.[/quote] |
Fashion / Re: Free Online Makeup And Gele Training by dlashondra(f): 2:24am On Dec 31, 2015 |
april88:Following 1 Like |
NYSC / Rivers State, 2015 Batch B by dlashondra(f): 2:18am On Dec 31, 2015 |
Hey, my fellow nonwa_gbamtai peeps where were you posted to? Please comment to know your neighbors or possibly room mate |
NYSC / Re: Cross River B'15: Lets meet here. by dlashondra(f): 1:55am On Dec 31, 2015 |
MrJah:Hey just saw this, where is your ppa |
Romance / Re: Guys Can You Help Your Babe To Lace Her Sanitary Pad On Her Pant? by dlashondra(f): 4:19pm On Dec 29, 2015 |
It's a sign of love and affection, it's means the two have become one flesh, so lacying pad is no big deal, I have seen some husbands who washes the bedsheets / undies(wife's) if stained by wife's menstrual blood. |
Education / Re: Picture Of Examination Hall In Saudi Arabia by dlashondra(f): 1:38pm On Dec 29, 2015 |
With all d tension, how will I eat? Maybe after the exams, I can eat. |
Romance / Re: Help Urgently Needed, Am In A Dilemma by dlashondra(f): 12:39pm On Dec 29, 2015 |
AbuadStudent:Whatever way he looks at me, at least I get to b with him, and also make sure such don't happen again, and if he likes me, one day he will look beyond the lusty feeling, and see d real me. |
Romance / Re: Help Urgently Needed, Am In A Dilemma by dlashondra(f): 12:36pm On Dec 29, 2015 |
400billionman:Yes I am, |
Events / Re: How To Throw A Nigerian Wedding With N49,950 Only by dlashondra(f): 12:31pm On Dec 29, 2015 |
As for me, this is an embarrassment, if you don't have money to plan a wedding y not go to court, invite few friends and family, and eat in a decent restaurant afterwards. Elaborate wedding is not my thing, I prefer simple and classy. |
Education / Re: Someone Please Help Me Before I Kill Myself by dlashondra(f): 9:37am On Dec 28, 2015 |
Killing yourself will not solve anything , instead it will spoil so many things and also break the heart of your parents, have been in ur shoes before, while in 100level my gp was 1.7, cos I played away my time , I was very active in sporting activities than my academic and my so call friends were not helping out. Same thing happen in my 200level, my break Tru came wen a lecturer called me and advice me, in his words''your grads are bad, but I see potentials in your, you just need to read a little '' I was touched and went home crying. You know what I did? I changed my hostel, changed my friends, I went to d dept notice board, I wrote down the names of the best female students in my class, I went to meet them, told them all about me, collected their numbers and made sure I call them everyday, to find out about lectures, I started attending lectures and I also noticed the do tutorials amidst themselves every evening, I joined them and my grades improved. With time I was good and even passed them in some exams. And I graduated amidst the best in my class, I will advice you not to kill yourself, instead kill your books, and you will come out successfully 2 Likes |
Romance / Re: Guys, Can You Sleep With A Wife Material On First Date? by dlashondra(f): 4:16am On Dec 28, 2015 |
A girl can do crazy things for love, having sex doesn't mean she don't love you. Sleeping with u on December first date is bad, but looking beyond that she might be awesome. Y not have another first date with her and c if she is a wife material or not? |
Romance / Re: Help Urgently Needed, Am In A Dilemma by dlashondra(f): 8:04pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
Decker:Thanks |
Romance / Re: Help Urgently Needed, Am In A Dilemma by dlashondra(f): 7:54pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
thanks so much, I really love him, I feel happy and at peace with him. Never felt this way for anyone. I don't know about him, how he feels about me, but I love him nevertheless. publicenemy: |
Family / Re: How This Lady Nearly Died In Her Bed (photos) by dlashondra(f): 6:42pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
ikombe: |
Romance / Help Urgently Needed, Am In A Dilemma by dlashondra(f): 6:41pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
I met this guy years ago, we started talking of recent which lead into dating, though we haven't seen physical for years, I felt emotionally attached to him, I did some crazy this with him on phone(send nude pics), something with I stand against. We planned on meeting and we met, I promised myself before going to meet him that I won't sleep with him, but on getting there I was carried away by my love for him and not wanting take him angry. I enjoyed every moment I spent with him, he had my time, it was like we are the only people in the world. Now he is gone, and am feeling sad, I don't know if what I did was wrong or right. I don't know what's right anymore, all I think about now is him. Am I cheap? I know it's wrong to have sex on the first date, but I couldn't help it, I don't know what he feels about me? And am losing it. Pls help |
Family / Re: How This Lady Nearly Died In Her Bed (photos) by dlashondra(f): 6:27pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
ikombe: I only registered then, I haven't been active since, not until recently |
Family / Re: How This Lady Nearly Died In Her Bed (photos) by dlashondra(f): 6:18pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
9jahom: How do I post a story? |
Romance / Re: Please Is Such A Girl Worth Taking Serious "Snapshots Included" by dlashondra(f): 2:35pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
SINNZ: Wow, so how do you find that person? How would you know she is the one, when you have no intention than to have set with her |
Romance / Re: Please Is Such A Girl Worth Taking Serious "Snapshots Included" by dlashondra(f): 2:25pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
SINNZ: Not taking women serious won't solve the issue, we have good men and also bad men, same with women, we should also pray to find the one who loves us, cos if a woman is in love, nothing else matters to her. |
Car Talk / Re: Fatal Accident Along Asaba Airport Road, Entire Family Dead... Graphic Photos by dlashondra(f): 1:29pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
May their souls rest in peace. *sad* |
Romance / Re: When Your Bae Insists On Investigating Your Past. by dlashondra(f): 1:26pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
For me, it's not bad to find out about your lovers past, but most times it better to let the past be, our past doesn't determine our present relationship, some might have a bad relationship in the past learnt their mistakes and ready to correct it. Some people may have done some bad things in the past and have really changed, you haunted with their past? Allow the present speak for the person. |
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