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prettythicksme: hmmmm everybody don already hear us naa you for say it for my ear

Lol... I wan say am for your ear but you no gree na. Abi you want make I draw your ear comot from your face ni?

It's funny that the title of your thread says you are sexy and you know it. And yet, you asked to know what being sexy means. If you need to know what it means by being sexy, why not look at yourself to know, since you already know you are sexy?

prettythicksme: see you some meat no strong pass fish like eja panla hahahaha.you guys will be comparing our brain with fish abeg stop that jorrrr.

But girl, between you and me. No let any other person hear am... But you sef know say una dey f**k up big time abi? Una no dey try at all... Yes of course some guys too dey lobby and all that, but talk true, una own bad die!

C'mon... Not again.

This issue has been on the fore time and time again. The idea that males/females are more deserving of the crown as ready-made "wife or husband materials" is one subject that would continue to spring up a debate whenever one is favoured above the other.

IMHO, I would assert that, as of the days of yore, women were by a long margin more prepared, more primed, more ready in terms of total disposition to marriage, more complete in values and/or family attributes. And at such period, and even stretched to the days of old, men have always been less of husbands materials (as used in the context) than their female counterparts.

The question that lingers at the fore at this present age is; can same be said of the women having more of "wife-materials" than the men having more of "husband-materials"? IMO, No! Same cannot be said of women any longer. You know why? Because they are seemingly competing head-to-head with the men. Need I remind someone that being a wife-material or husband material entails alot of values and attributes? How many people have values they believe in? Core values that they would die for! There are good girls everywhere, and so also good guys. But if you ask me, barring a factor like unfaithfulness which seems more common with men than women albeit women are as much as men in the unfaithful ladder these days, I would say taking a whole lot of things into consideration that men are more of husbands materials than women being wife-materials.

This is just my opinion, and I would gladly back it up if need be with an outline for comparing men and women with their values, attributes and traits.

Yet, it should ne noted that, issues like this can never lay to rest. In other words, it can never be said or agreed that one is easier to find than the other. The society will always be divided whenever issues like this surfaces as it's relative to a very large extent and it depends on a number of factors like geographical locations, religion, race, culture and so on.

So make we no drag. Just believe what you want to believe. But speaking for myself? I am a PERFECT epitome of a husband-material. Take it or leave it.

Peace.

prettythicksme: if we ladies have fish brain then you guys have meat brain.

Fair enough... Meat strong pass fish. Lol

Dyt: Orisirisi
claps both hands x5

Wetin happen? Na church you dey ni?

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Wolison: lol...u tink so?

Think what?

Wolison: hmm....ok, let me say that I've not got the right one....but for now...#my education comes first#

Fair enough...

Wolison: lols

Guy forget oooooo. Love dey sweet die! Especially if you have the right one for you.

Wolison: Nice one @op..........I had to call it a quit with my ex few months ago cos of this four letter word "LOVE"....#let love rot in hell#

OMG!

Ceasar1: [color=#000030] I'm only being nice to them because of the ‘golden rule’.[/color]

Otherwise known as the chain rule... Do unto others, what you would want them do to you.

tosyne2much: It is almost impossible.... There wld definitely be an atom of hurt, only if love neva existed in their heart... Its not wen either of dem start crying or get emotionally depressed.. Hurt is an inward feeling

Taking the texts in bold into consideration, it would be safe to say it's impossible.

lomaxx: You wan give yourself hypertension

Bros no be lie... You better no reason am at all to avoid stories that touch.

scribble: I saw somebody's wife to be standing outside club escape last night in vi.

She was charging upwards of 10k quite enterprising.

Chai! Olorun majè. That will never be my portion in Jesus name.

pixtuk: neymar will cum back a better player

Yes ooooo. We are looking forward to that.

Wow... This is the kind of thought-provoking topic that should be prevailing especially in FP.

OP I am seriously behind you on this. I have been an advocate for this over the years. Often times people get or paint a wrong picture about this, and thus so many of us live with the illusion that one shouldn't change you or you shouldn't change someone.

Like you rightly pointed out, this can seldom be achieved with a view to changing the person from whatever vices the person has to something better (I guess). But, if it's done with a view to ameliorating the entire well-being of the person as time progresses, then I think it should be noted as something that is worth doing and that everyone should embrace.

First and foremost, what is the idea for going into relationships and marriages? For me, the idea is, but not limited to being with someone who can complement you in almost all spheres. Even in marriages, need I remind someone that procreation is not the primary aim of marriage? That is why the Bible attested to the fact that, children are a gift and a blessing from the Lord. They are used to compliment the union called marriage. Now this is by the way. Back to the nitty-gritty.

I always advice that, albeit there is need to appreciate someone's virtues and to build upon it, while weighing the person's short-comings and making sure you can live with them for the rest of your life. Yet, it doesn't undermine the fact that relationships entails but not limited to making eachother better in every way possible. The idea is to make eachother better all and sundry. Now, how can we better or influence eachother’s lives without changing certain things about the person? The only level or state that doesn't need working upon is being the best. But it is agreed that no one except God is best or perfect as the case may be. Therefore, we as humans need to better ourselves in all ramifications. Even a good man needs to get better, let alone someone who is less of a good man.

Like the OP said, it shouldn't be done with the idea of changing the person. Having such notion or rather ideology means you don't appreciate the person for whom he/she is. It could also imply condemnation if one starts with an outright idea of changing the other. But then, taking someone for whom they are doesn’t give room to the fact that corrections shouldn’t be made. It should be done with the mindset of getting to better one another's lives. It could be in form of enhancing the person and making the person a better or more refined version. What good will it be if you are in a relationship and you can't influence eachother? Whether positively or negatively. And what does the influence bring forth? Did someone say change? Of course it’s change.

What would one say if they were dating an armed robber or let’s say a love peddler? The first idea shouldn’t be to condemn the person by wanting to “change” per se. The idea should be to help the person get over its flaws or short-comings as it were. With a more positive idea and view towards this, it would help to really go a long way in helping the person out. But then, whatever the case is; people are always resistant or adamant when it comes to helping them. There are people, especially girls (with all due to respect to all the ladies in the house) who find it difficult in accepting corrections. When you correct such people or give them an insight towards something and it happens to be contrary to their view and especially if it’s better than theirs, then there is problems.

The bottom line is; many people don’t want to be helped, don’t want to improve upon a particular sphere, don’t want to accept corrections, and don’t want to be told what or what not to do. And until people are humble and mature enough to understand that, life is a phenomenon where we are all leaners. If like the educationists says; the more we live the more learn. How then would that saying or quote be valid if people are not ready to embrace corrections and all of the aforementioned?

There is need for each and every one of us to ruminate on this deeply, and see where we are failing as regards the subject.

May God help us all.

Ney @ Ibiza.

EejaNla01: The truth is we overate women too much here,I just don't want to cast some brothers doing this shit,i would have start quoting some some of them.

It would be better if you named names as well as naming blames... Quote them make we know who and who dey lobby.

kokoA: Some guys sha.. Smh.. I know a guy who knelt down and was shading serious tears thanking a girl for agreeing to go out with him.. Smh.. I know because the babe in question is my cousin.. Na so dey girl come tell me say any day she hears that I do such a thing for a girl, she will 'disbrother' me straight! I just dey imagine wetin such guy go do when babe allow dem knack akpako.. Lwkmd.. They will roll on the floor naked and beg the babe to jump and match on top of them while they cry and shout "thank you and God bless you" in appreciation.

Rotflmao. Guy abeg you no be better person. Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ga ga ga ga ga ga ga.

avuekwe: He's a nairalander and might even be on nairaland as we speak. I pray that he has a change of heart soonest.

Ehya... Sowie.

Onlinebiz2012: @dmcdad , d above shows d reason why i don't agree with you

You and I know the context for which this issue was raised. There are ways issues of incompatibilities are handled. Do you handle it by doing one thing or the other to hurt the person, with a view to pushing the person out of your life?

And sincerely, was yours an issue of incompatibility? I guess not. So, albeit incompatibility might trigger two people to go their separate ways, but then, what is the frequency of people splitting due to incompatibility? Assuming they were good to each other.

andromida: Makes some sense.

Some? Okay... Lol

philfearon: Don't think so. ...

I read it earlier today in the same news that reported that he took to twitter to congratulate Deco, that he missed his flight. I don't think he would have missed it for no just reason. And when I read that he missed his flight, I had to agree hook, line and sinker because I never thought he would have loved to miss such an opportunity to reunite with some of his old-time friends such as the ones that were involved in the match.

philfearon: You Should believe so bro...That's Ronaldinho for you...He probably went to one party like that!!

He missed his flight.

andromida: Hmmmmm.

What...?

Obalegend: Potentially,naturally,humanly,emotionally and psychologically,guys aren't faithful. If you claim to be faithful, is simply because you have not been tempted with the right temptation.

Baba leave that thing! It's about self control and self discipline.

xcitedjay: Me too, you're like a brother to me.

Brother kor, father ni...

jahchild34: No bleeping way, use a lady as a bait for me and i swear it won't take up to a second before i'm in D HOOK, i'm just too weak i cant hold meself. #fact.

And that my friend is a serious problem however you wanna look at it. Cause it would surely hunt you even when you get married.

There should be a reasonable amount of self - control in every human. You don't wanna fall for the slightest of test, trust me!