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basadenet: Capital No.............................I am only managing.

Y should u be managing when u have the freedom to choose if to be hapi or not? cuz u can't be really hapi in a relationship u are managing... Being single is one of the coolest thingz u can get for free.. Ruminate on this

tolupetas: u can say that again

Y not transit 4rm Arsenal 2 Barcelona? Just asking...

Graphy: My recent relationship sucks so i had to let go.

Ehya.. Sowie to hear that

laykhorn: why shld sum1 be locked in a mess you dnt like.. Why were u in it in d first place.
Oh! I get it, he doesnt have cash to offer at the moment... Money 4 hand, bak 4 ground.

Lolz...

P4VS20: or you can click un-follow in your profile, so its updates doesn't bother you. how is that?

Cool...

Teenage Money: Well well well... Me enjoying ma single status... No more heart breaks....

So ur heart sef dy break... How u cûm take dy live? Lol

Exponental: Yes I am....
But hw do u intend helping those who need emotional advice?
Dont just create topics that can open wounds, it hurts.

If they are willing to share their predicaments, we would gladly help in any way we can. Personally, I love to restore relationshipz bk to it's normal state...

zoete: Are african guys really that bad.

The fact is, we are all guilty of one thing or another [africans, europeans, americans etc]. The thing is, each race has it's area of specialization.. There are lots of things the westernerz do, that we africans don't do. Therefore, asking if africans are really that bad would not be fair on us when we are actually saints in certain areas.

Anywayz, back to the nitty-gritty. The truth remains that, a lot of africans are guilty of this (male and female alike). Buh, that doesn't mean there ain't a reasonable number of good people. I prefer to evaluate every individual by it's personality, rather than it's tribe, race or language. Becuz, as much as bad people exist, there are also good people. Now, would it be fair enough to categorize both the bad and the good as BAD

Lovetinz: I was as meek as a lamb.
The Dad got worried about my silence and said "young man, dont be shy!"

I thought 'Me shy! wait till I get out of here and put on my battledress'

More like a ravaging wolf pretending to be a lamb... Lmao

binger: Well, when i first met g.f's mother,i was just myself.i was comfortable with her like i would be around my mum.BUT,that day,my over-confidence made me miss a step when i was climbing the stairs.'sorry oh',she echoed.i was really embarrassed

Lol.. U go form Van Damme abi? Where the embarrassement dy na the sori wey she tell u... E 4 beta pass if she no tell u sori

k2039: I'm enjoying my singleness, I dont intend to date anytime soon.

Being Single rocks!

Mehn... It's sweeter and more precious than honey in my mouth.. You live freely without much to worry about.

Chynx: No one prays for that brother, but I have been there...on the other side though. I know exactly how how it feels to lose control of every atom of decency in you in a split second only to be filled with regrets one-too many times. When shit* happens, brace it up and choose ur actions as a man...Life goes on!

Yeah... When things happen, life goes on irrespective of one's decisions.. The pain is not the problem.. The problem lies between keeping her and sending her away.. Anywayz, I ain't afraid of anything cuz my mind is always prepared to face the worst...

**Following**

190:

Shebi u dy form novice..

Chynx: Nice one pally. You seem to be a very nice man, but my dear; when stuff happens, then , will u get t know exactly what u are capable of. Like I said earlier, woe betide that guy if he happens to be a friend of mine. MONSTERS ARE MADE not born.

I understand that when you are confronted by such situations, that's when you'd really know what to do. That was why in my last paragraph I stated the fact that, it would only take the grace of God not to nullify the marriage cuz I know infidelity in marriage it's something I would never do, and as such I wouldn't expect such treatment cuz I'd definitely feel indignant.

tolupetas: finally it got broken yesternite mayb i need a break from football

Arsenal? Lol

Well, I detest to think about such situation cuz unfaithfulness in marriage is something I detest passionately.

1. First is to confirm the authenticity of whatever way I got to know. I'd make sure I'm sure of it and to do that, I'd work my way into catching her red-handed (don't ask me how I'm gonna do that. That would be a piece of cake to do), plus the fact that I can be very patient in order to satisfy my inquisition. After confirmation, my initial thoughts would be; how long has she been doing this? The thought of this alone brings about infuriation. It would put me into deep imagination of what must have conspired.
2. Upon getting to know this, I won't react negatively at the outset cuz I know how to control my emotions. Buh, inside of me will be full of resentment and anger, which I might not show.
3. I would still continue the marriage cuz I don't believe in divorce (just not in support of it). The thing is, I would NEVER trust her in to-to again and the stigma would always be engraved in my heart. Depending on how much pain it causes, I might be forced to go against my policy of filing a divorce ASAP.
4. The guy involved wouldn't be my concern, and I don't pour my anger on someone I ain't directly involved with. That doesn't mean I won't have a bad feeling against him, buh would never do anything to him.

Generally, I'm a no problem kinda guy and I'd make sure I try to satisfy her as much as I can. You can slap me at a public gathering and I wouldn't care much. You can do one thing or the other and I'd overlook. Buh, to embrace infidelity, it's only God that would determine if we can continue to live under one roof... I pray I never encounter such plight. I'd rather remain single than face such situation.

190: Stop flirting with me and giving me bad ideas and thoughts

190: Stop flirting with me and giving me bad ideas and thoughts

190: Stop flirting with me and giving me bad ideas and thoughts

Lol... See juvenile...

[quote author=mondi_cheeks]I'm married [/quote]Finally?

I don't get scared easily.. Besides, u shouldn't have used the word scary cuz I can't get frightened just becuz I saw 50misseds callz. If u try me up to three times and I didn't answer the phone, send a message or wait to see if I'd return the call.

Buh seriously, how would I be scared just becuz of missed callz? *Just wondering...*

ITbomb: Should be ban.
What do u think?

Ban? Why? Cuz it negates sexkillz?

[quote author=Mynd_44]As if men don't lie[/quote]Like say no b 2 way traffic

[quote author=Mynd_44][/quote]Lol...

[quote author=Mynd_44]In the words of Eldee,
"Hell knows I ain't a killer but I know bad people"[/quote]

[quote author=Mynd_44]I like it better when I annoys people[/quote]Ahh! Make them no go break bottle for ur head o. Lol

wolos4real: Plenty tinx but d one I will neva forget is wen she sold her pan which is meant to lay on her house for me all cos I wanted to liv Nigeria.mama mi u will liv long and reap all wat u av labour for.AMEN

Amen to that..

[quote author=Mynd_44]Me too dude.[/quote]That's good. I always crave for what is right irrespective of what people think..

[quote author=Mynd_44]Mine too. But it taks will power, guts and the ability to go without friends[/quote]Those are what makes me stronger and better than a lot of people today.

Aafulenu: thanks all
it seems all of u are of the opinion that i tell her. but seriously its not that easy.
if i tell her and they fight and break up. dont u think i will be seen as an enemy?
and even if they reconcile at the end. i will still be an enemy.!!
again what will my boyfriend say if i tell on his frnd? wont he be mad?? wont tthere be spillova in my r/s?
i really what to tell her cos my hrt it very heavy. but i dont knw hw the concequences will be.

You can do whatever you feel is right for you to do. Like I stated 4rm the outset of my first post, if I were in ur shoes... I would do it and face whatever that comes. Damn consequences.

For me, if u were not asked directly, it would be a different ball game entirely.

Well, do whatever u want at ur discretion.

[quote author=Mynd_44]There are a couple of things I have learnt when it comes to friends who cheat on their spouse and top on the list is to mind my business. Seriously, It does not concern you.

If Tina asks you, tell her you don't know and she should ask peter. If she persists tell her you are busy. You know why? Cos if you tell her, she will get mad, they will fight, settle and the guy will simply not do it in front of you again while you will be seen as a witch.

But there is also the option I love doing. Tell Tina and damn the consequences [/quote]@bolded. That's more my bag.

[quote author=Lady George ]Many have great things 2 tell about their mothers, mine pushed me away 4rm ha side d only person she loved nd cared 4 was my elda brother ha first child. I spent my childhood life in lonelyness and i bcame used 2 it and uptil nw i find it strange 2 be in midst of people. At least i can rememba 4 that.[/quote]Crest-fallen...

I can't say much.. If I were in your position and I'm convinced about my discovery, if possible with evidence, then I'd confront the said aunt.. Well, you might not have the guts and as such, just keep mute instead, than telling someone else.. Buh, don't even think about telling the husband at this juncture..

To be candid, I won't be able to take such from my aunt especially when the man is a good man and as such, has been treated indignantly..

If you are my kinda person that doesn't care if someone is like a god, call her and talk sense into her. I bet she would respect your maturity and thread more carefully, if not stop it entirely..

Argh! It's better I remain forever single than for my wife to be unfaithful.. It leaves a stigma