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Depressed101:
what's the fastest way to get to that page1018

Every page has a number...next time just edit the page.

irumanle:
I hate this line.

I am not your God to make you happy. Go meet ur God for that.

Greatzeus:
Have you given your mum 100k this year? Don't tell me I don't want to know,it's a rhetorical question.

my mum is late. Are u satisfied now?

Naija246:
no reply am again; the boy nah fool.
The more I read the thread the angrier I get.
My dad so hates soft men like this ehnn.

Some men will always be foolish to Women no matter what you tell them.
Leave am, the boy will commit suicide las las by the time women are done with him.
I know someone similar who later committed suicide after spending a fortune on some girl.

I don't know how I missed this one. Lol. Me fool? Me. Commit suicide.

Same. U said u will feed my entire family

Okay. I no blame u...

Westernlove:
Lol na here the loophole dey guy, I never wanted to engage u until I saw these lines, See guy, all those pretending pure format. She was doing all that gaining your trust and patiently waiting for the right time to harvest u lol. It's something I have personally experienced. Truth Is Female beings are extremely SMART when It comes to MANIPULATION......I'm not criticizing u for sending money for her mom's treatment. But say u go date Naija lady and she won't form one format for u na lie.....It's a Root thing embedded In them. Someone has Just to be always one step ahead of them....

Lol.. Bro, no wahala.

Even my pal who called her was falling for the stories she told him. Despite glaring evidence, she still insisted that she didn't block me and that it is a phone malfunction.

I had to ask my friend, why isn't the same malfunction denying her own friend access to her WhatsApp contact?

I connected my WiFi to my friends phone and told him to add her WhatsApp number. Right there he saw the WhatsApp profile is active and his countenance changed.

I told him the girl is lying and he should forget about all those bullshiit she told him. I raised more pointers so that he can see what she is doing.

Anyway, we go see Las las if I won't retaliate.

Mcslize:
Let the same guy stops giving you money and watch how the same person you are pouring encomium will turn your enemy. This is what we call no money, no love.

This is fake love my sister. You love the guy based on the money he is spending on you. Without the money, he will turn your worst enemy. Is this the kind of love our grand parents experienced in the past.

But nairaland men, una get bad mouth eh. If to say I no get strong skin, una for roast me for this thread.

Mcslize:
But bro you acted too desperate and needy. Why will you even send her 60k? You can never satisfy a typical Nigeria girl with money. The more you spend ,the more the demands keeps coming in.

You don't even need to bother yourself checking WhatsApp status just to know she blocked you.

Don't spend on a girl. Use the money to upgrade your look and wears. Show a girl you have the money but don't spend lavishly on any so called girlfriend. If any can't stay without you doing everything for them financially which will in turn make you look like a mugu spender, let her leave.

I prefer to use any money I will spend on a girl to give myself a nice treat or give it to a guy rather than spending it on a girl. You are not her husband.

Let a lady feel you have money by giving yourself a nice treat but don't ever think helping her with money will make her love you.

Move on. But let this serves as a lesson to you in the next girl you will meet.

Ok

Nukubib:
errm, you are waiting for her call? Does that mean you want her to come back to you? You haven't gotten over her?

e get why. Shebi, I b mumu? We go know how far.

Poorboy:
Don't you see the girl likes you , I know you're not dull son.

I am dull oooo

LovelyPoison:
Relationship matter don tire me Now I'm damnnn confused does dat mean I should give up looking for d right guy. Backup haba i should fear guys oo

It was never intended.

Poorboy:
You people are in love already why not excuse us here and get it done via pm

victorian:
Amen .

But try to give some ladies a benefit of doubt.
I had terrible past with exes. I had even given up on men when my guy pops up from the blues .

I gave him benefit of doubt, he did the same and the rest i will say is history. If he had listened to his friends about Not going all out for me ,we won't have the peace and love we have today . Our instincts and what we feel for each other were our guide . We simply had to trust and see where it leads us. His friends are still waiting to see me take a walk but they go wait taya!
Aint going nowhere! We die here !

If the guy is really like you have said, be good to him as well (it seems u are though)

The thing is Nigerian girls want to be worshiped, they want the guys to do all the work and this how many of them loss their chance because the other party is a human with blood in his vein.

So why complicate things?

AAA593:
Seo guys with domainers eh. Why them dey jealous?

Those guys and IT guys are evil. 90%of the time, they will ruin your chance.

victorian:
Its well with u.

it is well with us

Joylove2324:
This is the reason why I always admire these government, while some countries are struggling with poor economy due to COVID19 pandemic, Nigeria government are making her environment easy for her citizens to make a better business. Kudos to NAFDAC on this����

Do you have a business?

Auxigen:
No be lie.
Cloud storage things

internet of things sef join

jericco1:
My brother better have like 4 or 5. Things might get messy

I actually have them bro.


They even make me feel a comedy super star cos me Know say I am worst person to crack jokes but I see them laughing at things I don't consider funny.

Oya mi lenu.


So for the next couple of months, I can have my attention somewhere else until she pick up the phone and call.

victorian:
Well that's you.

Other guys who used such formula of starving me for whatever are now begging and crying to date me. But sorry , it too late .
While my boo whose head is screwed right , a man of few words and lots of action is now the one in charge of my heart and body. His nickname is Mr capable . No wasting , no fake promises , his own way is Action paves way!
God help me to keep him so happy and at peace ,with the way he has blossomed my life with great joy and contentment .

So dnspro, all women are not the same likewise all men cannot and will not be like you.

What I can deduce from is that ur guy has made clear that you are not indispensable and that alone is enough to keep women on her toes.

Like I said, the last time, someone said that, I know how it ended and dude was even nicknamed "desperate" because he didn't want to play hide and seek.

I don't take words from any woman who try to make it look like they are "different" so serious. The lady in my earlier post said more than you did, including how ex was bad but she ruined everything when another did right.

Wish u all the best but u can't fool me.

Do u know why I am not so pained about my experience of the story I shared, I have learned to always expect these things from you women. Call me pessimistic but it is what it is.

victorian:
Its not about being blind. I believe in actions not sweet words . Sweet words are just empty promises . Do what's applicable and ladies will know u are a good guy who mean well and have her back!
Thank God , im taken by a good guy who knows his onions. Bliss and peace all the way.

The last time a lady said the emboldened to a brother, I know how it ended lol.

Any guy who falls for this, we regret it. The best is to keep you starving for that "action"

Icechillz:
Bro Nigerian girls ain't worth the stress, try dating a foreign girl..

Make I no lie, baby mama things done cross my mind before but I don't want my kids to go through some emotional trauma that they didn't bargain for.

Intrepid01:
Guy listen, you see those guys consoling you, are your enemies and you will surely fall maga again, from all your comments I read. There’s a difference between helping a stranger and helping a lady you’re with.

Never in your life should you extend a hand of help to a lady you’re yet to confirm her loyalty 100%. Many of these girls are in it for the benefits, so you need to wise up.
Let me tell you, the highest I have given a lady is 5k, there’s nothing you wanna say in this world, it will never be more than that.

Let me share a personal story, there’s this lady I met when I wanted to acquire a landed property through all this agent companies advertising properties. The lady attended to me and saw how much I was dropping monthly for the instalmental payment. Although we’ve been friends before then, she got closer to me after then. This babe go dey stylishly ask me for money, we’ll hangout, ofcourse I’ll pay for everything but will not give her a dime. After a while she came out directly and ask me for money, I told her I don’t give anyone who is not my wife money, I am working for my future wife and children, anyone who isn’t part of that can’t have my money. She was shocked. But that’s the way it goes.

Another babe on WhatsApp was asking me last week to buy her a chop chop platter worth 12k , she knows I can afford it, I laughed at her, she asked why, I said you’ll eat it and take the energy to go to your boyfriends house baa...I don’t do such business.


Another thing is you people should stop doing as if you can’t do without sex, ladies are using sex as a weapon to get guys. You will not die if you don’t have sex. The estate agent lady was always shocked whenever she came to my house and I wouldn’t even make any attempt to touch her, yes I didn’t touch her cos I knew her game plan, I’ll touch her and then she says she needs money before she’ll allow me. But as a guy man, naaa I don’t fall for such trap, we see the end of the game from the beginning.

How in the world would you send 60k to one random girl all in the name of girlfriend, to even think you were planning to send additional 40k, whattt, forget all those rubbish you dey talk say you be nice person, you acted mugu.

You might be wondering if I ever sent money to a lady, yes I once did, but you know what I had already cut ties with the lady and the mother was sick, also her mum, who is a Pastor, had once helped me out on some spiritual issues before. So when I heard she had accident and needed money for operation, I sent 20k to the mum’s account. I and the mum still talk on the fone till today, but for the girl naaa, even when she called to thank me for the money I gave to her mum, I didn’t pick the call. I needed to give an impression that I didn’t give her cos of you, not at all and never will I.

So guy, WISE UP!!!!

I appreciate. I do. Well, you no lie sha. I am not surprised about that lady being friendlier because of the money you were dropping. Last year, when I was doing a business and it require me to always be at the bank to make deposits, the GTB female staff, after 2 consecutive days of depositing funds, started trying to be friendly... i no smile, no respond, i just did what I came for and left. she never repeated it again.

For sex, I never bond with any woman via sex, never ever it is even the other way round for woman to bond with me after sex. The easiest way to get me is reciprocation, not sex.

Not that I am against those brothers attacking me. The problem is they shouldn't act like they have never been fooled before. It is the height of hypocrisy when we do that.

Anyway, deed has been done. I appreciate.

Ishilove:
You no sabi explain well at all

I hope you sort things out sha

no mind jare. Yeah but i need to turn the table around and let work for that attention because it appear she is taking things for granted now.

Anyway, God dey.

Ishilove:
Why are there so many friends involved in your relationship?

it is just two people ooo. her own friend and my own friend. sorry if i no sabi explain well.

AfroKnight:
Lame excuse. Nigerian girls will use real life facts to manipulate you. They will appeal to your mercy and ego.

You knew you were blocked right from the beginning but you were in denial.

Guys, I hope you can see that throwing money at a problem, orchestrated and sustained by your babe, won’t solve it. A normal human being would have a change of heart after receiving money from her boyfriend and may even unblock him but brokeass naija babes are not like that. They won’t even have the decency to reject the gift or unblock him.

She probably thought you’d send more money until you were tired.

Having a Plan B is good but it has to be a girl who can fend for herself without the financial input of a man. If you keep rolling with brokeass babes you will get similar results.

Men should learn to recognise manipulation. Naija babes won’t pity you once they decide to mess with your emotions. That’s why they should never be accepted back once you catch them cheating. Forgive if you want but don’t accept a woman back. Let the relationship end cos once you’ve been zoned, there is no good thing you can do to change their mind. You will only appear weak in their eyes.

You have a point. She claimed she didn't block me (according to what she told my friend last night) and that it was phone malfunction but same malfunctioning didn't affect her friend's number, did it?

Her own friend was trying to be manipulative too by saying "she is trying to make me understand something because women like to be listened to. I should listen instead of reacting" I knew where she was going. I cast give that one and told her to ask whether I didn't do anything about the phone.

At least changes in my attitude going forward is very much justified right now.

2dice01:
No wahala man

Send me I.V when the time comes

lol...

Volkswagen90:
60k,chai op ,u for give me just 30k,i will pray for u soteyyyy, banks go dey call u say u get 30billion with them, different banks o,

2dice01:
Yes partly from Ogun
Am mix

Well its good you know
Same shii my forma boss has
The dude just sack a staff yesterday for doing something forgiveable

Wait do you think she is that old?

lol bro, she is bro. If you talk to her on phone sef, u will see it. She is not the first child but she acts like it considering their dad is no more. So she is always in a hurry and always busy. Even for this corona, she still dey work small small. To be honest, she no dey ask me for money.

Bro, my anger issue actually stem from experiences I have had. I was not like this before. It was even getting worse until people started pointing it out. So I am trying to put everything under control. It is no easy but we can always try.

Ishilove:
Okay, but it still begs the question why she blocked you.

Honestly, I do not know. It is weird because she always pick my calls, no quarrel or anything like that.

Though my friend spoke to her last night and they were speaking in our dialect (let me not mention tribe before zombies turn it into another we VS them thread ) and she still hinge on faulty phone and assured my friend that she never blocked me. She told him a lot of things to assure him that it is not what I am thinking but I told my friend that dude,when people do something, you do listen to their words but watch their body language. I had to tell my friend that I do not buy that explanation.

So I asked my friend, why didn't she explain when I called instead she went defensive as if she can withstand my own rage, not my friend does not know this about me. He(my friend) tried to placate me and told me to put my anger under control.

Now, I am asking because many females tend to misbehave at their distraction phase. What people here call 'hoe phase'. This phase is between 18 and 25/26.

I knew why you asked even before this. I know the experience and I actually laughed when I saw the question.

Now, I will write from the POV of a female. The average female basks under the euphoria of endless attention at this distraction phase. She wants to explore all her options and settle for the best. At this point they sometimes take the men in their life for granted, especially when it seems like the grass is greener on the side. She essentially wants to eat her cake and have it when she is distracted. When she finally grows up and starts getting sense, she now realises ''oh boy, time to focus on one'' and then that's when she becomes serious with the men around her and starts eliminating them one by one. No more distractions.

Yeah, I know this. Some of them who lost me as a result of this same charade are stalking me right now and hoping but being whom I am, I am sure they don't know I am aware of this. One in particular still hold on to the image of my old "inexperience self" but I rarely pay bad with bad.

Yes, I support the backup girlfriend. The Plan B, especially if you're still unsure of your plans for the women in your life. You have to carefully scrutinise all your options before settling with one. However, be advised, don't string them along for too long so as not to give any lady unnecessary hope. I believe 3/4 months is enough time to do this. No matter how good people are at pretence, they reveal their true character in ways that require sensitivity, wisdom and and the Holy Spirit to detect.

Sure. Thanks for the you responded. I appreciate it.

2dice01:
E don reach Ogun level
Well am free Ogun state
So killing over here man

Seems you have anger issues
And you also need friends

Ishilove can be your good friend

oh u b from Ogun state? That state wey Thunder kill person in 2008. The loudest thunder I have ever heard since I was born. No wonder dem call Ogun state lol.


Yeah I have anger issue, I can't deny that.

Ishilove na elder here na...

2dice01:
Hate woman

I only hate Dumbo's who thinks telemundo love is the same with what happens in real life

bros na 60k dey pain u for body like this o. 60k.

In case u missed when I wrote it

1. She does not ask me for money.

2. She works, no matter how little.

3. She didn't tell me the degree of her mum's illness cos she was told me "I am not ur responsibility"

4. Everything I did was voluntary. E no pain me but I wonder why e dey pain all of una.

5. If not for corona, bros 60k is just 0.75% what I would have gotten from a project that should have started this month. But God dey.

Try to be good to people man and never feel bad when u do.

2dice01:
Dont take your frustration on me ..I wasnt the one that manipulate and played you

Why will a girl scam me?
I dont try to impress anybody with money
You don't like my personality the next girl will love it

I dont have to be dating the person before i assist
I treat everyone except my family equally

If my Gf, or friend male/female needs my assistance I give only what i can afford

Not what i will give and start lamenting online
Baba grow some balls and move on

Where did I mentioned I impressed anyone with money. Point it in that thread or Ogun go kill u today.

Ishilove:
Oh okay I get it. So instead of communicating with her, her friend was her go-between.

Well, we are blinded to obvious red flags when we completely trust a person.

How old is your girlfriend? I have a reason for asking

Lol.. I know why u are asking. 24.

But let me point a few things.

She has never asked me for money.

She is very hard working, no matter how little, she always want to do something.

She clearly told me she is not my responsibility (a more reason I feel she didn't want to l tell me about the mum's degree of illness) I can't say she didn't tell me about the illness when she was always traveling and I am aware the mum is sick.

I resisted spending until I saw those pictures.

I even reach out to another of her friend, through whom I met her, it was that one that broke everything down and told me my girl actually tried and that it's been a battle.

Some other girls would have bug me from day 1 about the mum's illness and ask me for money. But this girl never did. She only told me her mum is ill when I saw how frequent she travelled but the degree is what I never knew.

And here nairaland men are calling her broke as if they came with money from heaven. I don't ever use the word "broke" on anyone.