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Nairaland, this is real fab! Great comments everyone, its good to see that we have a truly diverse and engaging bunch of people commenting here (and some really wise people to). @poster, at the end of the day though, this is a deeply personal decision that no amount of Nairaland wisdom can make for you. Best to listen to all the advice, pray hard, take a deep look at YOURSELF and then take the leap once you feel all is well on the balance. There is no age for this (but the earlier the better, I think?). I pray you get it right, all the best!

A loyal fan (and vice-versa), children and family, friendship and companionship, shared bills/expenses, shared worries, shared responsibilities, mutual spiritual support, safe sex, a comfortable home and a balanced life,

@Militia, talk true, u r a bored ugly housewife that regrets being married to your douchebag of a husband who dosen't knack you anymore. You tried knacking outside and u were successful, only the guy dumped u afterwards. Now u r stuck at home with douchebag's kids and u r pissed and bitter, hence ur attacks on poor honest Tola77.

@Tola, you'll regret it in the end, though it may be so sweet in the doing. Get over it, it aint worth it!

ThiefOfHearts:
They never slept together. You depraved dorks have severe issues.

How would u know this, dearest thief of hearts? Having said that, I agree its wrong for everyone to assume they have slept together and hence will so so again (non-sexual relationships still exist, in case y'all jaded cynics don't know).

@Poster -

You are a smart, articulate woman who is still way too interested in this guy by the sound of your posts. You are picturing the girl he's with? Lol! Come on, you want him back, I think? You should go and see him if you're so curious. Don't torture yourself so!

If he gets you where he wants you though, you'll have to deal with that!

Lol, "her father is a commissioner" wtf? Guy, give urself brain o!

At Poster, it aint the devil, its ur randy d**k,

Kunbee:
I cant believe people pay some amount of money or go 2 the cyber cafe to write crap on the internet when dere is war in Darfur

Roflmao, Kunbee. So because of war in Darfur, we cannot laugh at stupidity again? Haba, chill out.

At poster: you and ur "best friends" girl r both jokers. You should get together and save the guy the pain, u deserve one another,

whitelexi:
I always thought people were genuinely decieved when their partners were cheating, but now i know some people will continue being cheated cos their own blindness is out of this world

A guy who cannot spot any difference in his babe's behaviour when she's cheating is surely doomed. No girl can hide everything, there is always a clue. . . You dont even need to know her whereabouts, just call her and listen to her tone, if she's with someone, u will surely know. . . If she doesn't answer the phone, and the trend continues over a period, a trend that never existed before. . . Then u r justified if u decide to investigate.

@whitelexi the expert, pls excuse my curiousity, but how come you know so much? You have a knack for dating cheating girls or what?

soulamanne:
sure it is wierdly interesting.my gf is  a V and said she doesnt want it yet except for the normal sex paraphinelias(kissin,smoochin,fing, ).good for her cos she hasnt tasted the forbidden fruit but me?so i ve dis babe that has a bf and didnt hide it from me.all we do is have sex.no emotions attached though i render help to her in when she needs it.for eg she got expelled from school and s been lyin at home just wonderin around so i elped her get a form for the last ume.i always withdraw from 1ce she shows signs of emotion but she knows the rue herse

@bf of V: what's wrong with your finger? @incapacitated husband: you're just mean. @ poster its a pretty common phenomenon, at least among guys. The strange thing is how many girls appear to be fine with the arrangement, though they almost always want to escalate beyond lust eventually.

He's a single guy. She's a happily married woman. They are about the same age (late 20s/early 30s). They meet through work (don't work in the same place), talk a lot (phone, texts, IMs, etc), are very good friends, then one day they kiss and it gets to be a little more than just friends and they're trying to stop but it keeps coming back on somehow, no matter how much they try to separate and not keep contact etc. Whats the way forward and is this common?

Thanks people!