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A fun part of sex is trying new things. Some of these things turn out to be great — lube is essentially an objective good and positions that aren’t missionary can be very fun and nice. Other things can be filed under “tried once, never again,” like 69ing, for instance. And then there’s this whole pool of things that either seem to be the best or the absolute worst, depending on the day — shower sex is one of those things.

That said, try it! Because why not. To help ease any of your shower sex concerns, here are 12 things grown women wish they’d known before venturing off dry land for sex.

1. It’s not going to look at all the way it does in whatever fantasy vision you have in your head. Bodies are weird. Especially when they’re crammed into a little booth filled with running water. Whatever you’ve seen on HBO or in some steamy movie is going to be inaccurate, unless it showed two people falling over and hitting their heads on shower tile for eight awkward minutes.

2. Unless you live in a mansion, your shower is probably built for one person, tops. Basically one person is going to be constantly under a stream of water, and one person is going to be constantly freezing because they are standing outside of said stream of water

3. It won’t make sense AT FIRST to bring lube into the shower. But it will make sense very fast. Water – something that is so slippery you’re not allowed to run near swimming pools — is somehow stickyand friction-y when in the vicinity of sex. Water-based lube is a thing. Water as lube is not.

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4. The trust you have in your Big Good Boyfriend to hold you up will diminish significantly. Your vision of shower sex probably includes this very macho scene in which your strong and ample boyfriend is holding you up against the (slippery) shower wall, thrusting away. But guess what, my friend. The moment you realize that if this sucker drops you, you may both die and be found hours later on the shower floor by your roommate, your trust in his ability to hoist you up will be shot to hell.

5. Any attempts at MouthAction are going to end in someone drowning. If you find a way to *not* get a mouthful of water during shower oral, please share with the class.

6. You will suddenly feel very self-conscious about any mildew piling up in the shower corners. The shower is a private place where people usually go to be alone and scrub all the dirt off themselves. Which is to say, it’s not an atmospheric dream. There’s mildew, there’s grungey stuff probably stuck to your shampoo bottles, there’s a smattering of loofahs that should be thrown out — it’s gross in there!

7. There are truly only a couple of positions that won’t make you fear for your life. They don’t yet manufacture helmets for shower sex but they should, and when they do, I’d like at least partial credit. It’s a dangerous and wild world in there. Extra protection is necessary.

8. You can, in fact, sweat in the shower. You would think that the shower — a place where you are meant to be getting clean — would be prohibitive to sweat. But once things get steamy (hee hee sorry), you’ll realize this isn’t true. You sweat during sex outside of the shower, and inside of the shower things are no different.

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9. It’s not a bad way to maneuver largely mess-free period sex. Not that there’s anything unsexy or wrong about throwing a towel down on the bed, but if that’s not your scene or you’ve run out of grubby towels, shower sex is a very economical way to

9. There’s no “right” or “wrong” way to have shower sex. If you’re not enjoying it, it’s not because you’re “doing it wrong.” That’s bullshit. There are people who swear by shower sex, and there are plenty of other people who do it once or twice and never again. Both things are fine! It can’t be, and isn’t, for everyone.

10. You’ll need a follow-up shower to the shower sex shower. Because you probably won’t get much shampooing done. And also because your partner may be struck by a brief moment of romance and ask to soap you down for you, and they’re just not going to be able to get in all your nooks and crannies the way you do.
Source:http://www.don9ja.com/2017/09/13/ten10things-you-need-to-know-before-engaging-in-shower-sx/

Is sex really that important?

As more and more research is done on the subject, it’s becoming clearer that having healthy sex is essential to a healthy life. Sex can even help you to live longer. According to Dr. Irwin Goldstein, Director of Sexual Medicine at Alvarado Hospital, if you read the latest research, “you can’t conclude anything else but that it’s healthy to have sexual activity.”

The research being done pinpoints a few specific — and surprising — health benefits that result from having a healthy and active sex life. Healthline examines a dozen of the most proven and interesting findings.

Sex burns calories

Sex increases blood flow and gets your heart pumping. Simply put, sex is a form of exercise, and it’s more fun than running laps. Sex doesn’t burn a ton of calories. According to a 2013 article in The New England Journal of Medicine, a man in his mid-30s might expend 21 kilocalories during intercourse. However, it’s still more exercise than you’d get sitting on the couch in front of your TV.

Sex reduces risk of heart disease

Numerous studies have shown that an active sex life is closely correlated with a longer life. Specifically, it seems like sex may lower the risk for heart attacks, strokes, and other heart diseases. In 2010, the New England Research Institute conducted a massive study. Its results suggested that regular sexual activity may reduce heart disease risk.

Sex regulates hormone levels

Why should you care? Among other things, a healthy hormone profile promotes regular menstrual cycles and decreases negative menopause symptoms.

Sex regulates hormone levels

Why should you care? Among other things, a healthy hormone profile promotes regular menstrual cycles and decreases negative menopause symptoms.

Sex can cure headaches and reduce physical pain

Although it doesn’t seem like sex would help relieve a headache, it actually can. How? During sex, the hormone oxytocin is released in your body. Oxytocin reduces pain. In a study published in the Bulletin of Experimental Biology and Medicine, volunteers who inhaled oxytocin vapor and then had their fingers pricked felt only half as much pain as others who did not inhale any oxytocin.

Sex reduces stress and lowers blood pressure

There is another benefit of the oxytocin released during orgasm: it calms the nerves. Studies done on lab rats have shown that oxytocin counteracts the effects of cortisol, which is a stress hormone. Sex also helps you sleep better. When your partner rolls over and starts snoring after a good bout in the bed, it’s not just from physical exhaustion. Oxytocin not only calms you down, but it also specifically promotes sleep.

Sex reduces risk for prostate cancer

In 2003, Australian researchers published a study showing that the more often men ejaculate between the ages of 20 and 50, the less likely they are to develop prostate cancer. According to the author of the study, men in their 20s should probably be ejaculating once a day. A similar study performed a year later by the National Cancer Institute showed that men who ejaculated at least five times a week, whether through sex or masturbation, were less likely to get prostate cancer. “The claim physiologically,” Goldstein told us, “is that if you empty out the tank every so often, it’s healthier than holding onto the material within the tank.”

Sex boosts self-esteem and improves mood

The psychological benefits of a healthy sex life are many. The feeling of walking around on cloud nine after sex lasts longer than you think. According to Goldstein, a healthy sex life leads to long-term satisfaction with one’s mental health and enhances your ability to communicate honestly and intimately. People who are sexually active are less likely to have alexithymia. This is a personality trait characterized by the inability to express or understand emotions.

Sex prevents preeclampsia

Preeclampsia is a fairly common condition in which hypertension arises during pregnancy. A number of studies have shown that if a woman has had enough exposure to her partner’s semen prior to conception, she is significantly less likely to get preeclampsia. Tests conducted by Dutch biologists in 2000 confirmed that women who regularly practice MouthAction — particularly those who swallow their partner’s semen — have a much lower risk of preeclampsia.

Sex improves sense of smell

Scientists knew for a long time that the hormone prolactin surges in both men and women after orgasm. In 2003, a team of Canadian researchers did a test on mice. They discovered that prolactin causes stem cells in the brain to develop new neurons in the brain’s olfactory bulb — its smell center. Dr. Samuel Weiss, one of the researchers, said that he suspects that the increase in prolactin levels after sex helps “forge memories that are part of mating behaviors.”

Sex increases bladder control
The pelvic thrusting involved in sex exercises the Kegel muscles. These are the same set of muscles that controls urine flow. So lots of sex now may help prevent the onset of incontinence later.
Source:http://www.don9ja.com/2017/09/13/the-reasons-why-doctors-of-nowadays-encourage-people-to-always-have-sx/

There’s something to be said about the special bond that women have with each other. Observationally, when watching two female friends “hang out” together, the mutually-intimate feelings are often apparent. It’s not unusual to see two girlfriends holding hands, hugging, and displaying their affection.

Men? Not so much. We’re more likely to have our hands in our pockets or arms crossed. We won’t call each other unless necessary. We certainly will not hold hands or hug. Does this mean we don’t care for our friends? Of course not. In fact, there are more similarities than differences regarding friendship between the sexes.

That said, psychology has discovered that women “tend to invest more in maintaining their friendships – calling friends regularly [and] meeting more frequently.” Men’s friendships tend to be more “transactional,” in that we exchange favors, meet up for fun activities (e.g. watching football, playing golf), and then go our separate ways.

Strong women arguably make the best friends – even for some men. Why? Because women of strength are far less likely to sugarcoat things (give honest, direct advice), encourage independence, put their friend’s needs first, have your back, and be there to inspire and encourage.

(On a personal note, this writer’s mother fits this description “to a Tee.” She remains not only my best friend but many others’ as well.)

It’s not surprising, then, that strong women are desirable companions. Women are drawn to their unique qualities, and understandably so. It’s also typical for strong women to attract others with similar attributes.

HERE ARE FIVE TYPES OF FRIENDS THAT Selective WOMEN KEEP IN THEIR LIFE:

1. THE WISE CRACKER

We all need that one friend who can keep us from becoming a curmudgeon. Life gets serious – and sometimes necessarily so – but no circumstance should drain us of our right to a happy life. We need someone to remind us of humor’s importance.

Enter the Wise Cracker – the friend with cunning and humorous wit.

We should all be so lucky to have a Wise Cracker within our social circle. They’ll sense someone’s hurt and despair, and – at just the right moment – deliver a punch line that has their friend reeling from laughter.

2. THE HUMAN POLYGRAPH

Some people can sense a lie with the precision of a polygraph machine. They may not be 100 percent right all the time, but they’re pretty close. Aside from this exceptional skill, the Human Polygraph also makes for a terrific friend.

Combine an inner strength with detective-like deductive abilities, and you get someone that’ll emphatically call someone on their B.S. – even if the B.S. is self-inflicted. Strong women will call their friend’s bluff out of love and compassion; refusing to let them make excuses for themselves.

3. THE VIRTUOUSLY ANGRY FRIEND

It’s now 2017 – 97 years after the ratification of the 19th amendment giving women the right to vote. Still today, women all over the world (including the United States) are still having to fight for equal pay and equal rights.

Many people, not just women, are averse to conflict – this is just an inherent part of their personality. Sometimes, however, situations arise when either ourselves or someone else must employ an intelligent, mature variety of anger.

The Virtuously Angry friend demonstrates, through word and deed, that righteous anger is okay. Similarly, this friend will quickly distinguish the vast difference between anger of virtue and irrational, rude anger.

The Virtuously Angry friend teaches a critical lesson: that intelligent anger is sometimes necessary – and that it’s okay to employ this emotion in the face of injustice.

4. THE MISFIT

It’s not uncommon for an individual’s inner circle to resemble themselves. We witness this social arrangement throughout life. Remember high school? Boys hanging around boys, girls hanging around girls, “jocks” hanging out with “jocks”– and on, and on.

The fact that we tend to associate with like-minded people is sad; it is so because it narrows our view of the world. Indeed, this accepted social trend may limit the views of our very self. At best, this social order manifests into a type of ignorance. At worst, it breeds intolerance and spite.

In friendship terms, The Misfit is someone who embodies a different set of beliefs and ideas than our own – and leads a different type of life – which, ironically, makes them a potentially great friend. The Misfit not only possesses the capability to teach us about different viewpoints (thus tolerance); but may also observe something in us – in our character – of which we were never aware.

5. THE ROOTER

When life inevitably gets tough, we have the tendency to inflict unneeded self-harm. We’ll analyze and critique our failures; accomplishing nothing and draining our self-worth and self-respect in the process.

Just as we need someone to “give it to us straight,” we also need someone who can look past our self-perceived failures and inspire. Women face a number of challenges in this world (some noted above). Some women need an optimistic voice to encourage them to push on despite any obstacles.

The Rooter is the friend that embraces you in a tight hug while whispering: “Remember your strengths.” If you can’t, they’ll be happy to list them off for you.

Source:http://www.don9ja.com/2017/09/15/check-out-five5-friends-selective-women-keep/

Care about what other people think, and you will always be their prisoner.” ~ Lao Tzu

“Their prisoner?”

What does one of history’s greatest strategists mean by this?

As human beings, it’s in our nature to want to be accepted and liked. Remember when you were in school? How much did you want to be in some social circle? The “unpopular” kids were always the cautionary tale – do this, and you’ll be alone. Isolation is deeply wounding to the human heart and psyche.

As we age, the desire to be accepted and liked diminishes a bit. But some people still care far too much about what others think.

In turn, this worry can prevent you from living your life to its fullest potential. In the long run, excessively worrying about what others think can disturb your ability to feel at ease with yourself around other people.

So, why shouldn’t you give the slightest damn about what other people think?

HERE ARE TEN GREAT REASONS:

1. LIFE IS FAR TOO SHORT

Yep, this one’s numero uno for a good reason.

You have one life to life, and it’s not very long. Moreover, nobody can predict what will happen next. Control is an illusion.

Live your life without worrying about other people’s thoughts and opinions, and you will be much happier and fulfilled. Provided your actions don’t impede on others right to happiness, do whatever you want and be whoever you want.

. PEOPLE DON’T THINK ABOUT YOU THAT MUCH

Besides your loved ones, people don’t think about you often!

Have you ever been sitting somewhere, your body tense, and your breathing shallow because you believe people’s eyes are on you? They’re probably not.(If they are, it’s super creepy. Get the heck out of there ASAP.)

Humans see the world through their ego. Our minds are so preoccupied with thoughts, worries, responsibilities, and our immediate environment to think much about most people, much less some stranger.

3. PEOPLE’S MINDS ARE ALWAYS CHANGING

The human brain is in a constant state of change. When we left high school, we (mostly) left the cliquish nature of judgment behind.

As such, we observe someone, form an opinion or two, and move onto something else. Should that person enter your immediate environment, you’ll repeat the process.

We’re in a state of flux. What others think about us (and vice-versa) is no exception.

4. IT’S NOT THEIR BUSINESS

Ever notice how much the “ruling class” tries to impede on your personal matters? Wants to tell you what to think, what to believe, and what to buy.

It’s none of their damn business! Period, exclamation point.

They’re entitled to whatever ignorant opinion that their ignorant mind conceives, but you’re the only one who needs to approve your own choices.

5. THEY DON’T KNOW WHAT’S BEST

We learn by making choices, taking responsibility, and living with the consequences. Not someone else.

Only you can possibly know what’s best. The truth is that we should feel offended when someone uses the phrase “it’s what is best.”

How in the heck would they know?

6. WHAT’S “RIGHT” FOR THEM IS PROBABLY NOT RIGHT FOR YOU

Here’s that whole ego thing, again. We all think differently and have different needs. It’s nearly impossible to remove the bias from our thought processesunless we’re some yogi master.

Remember the term “bias frames,” because this is exactly what most people have on their face when telling you what’s “right.”

Speaking of which…

7. IT MAY BE THE WORST THING FOR YOU

We’d like to think that people have our best interests in heart and mind when giving us advice. There’s just one problem here: we don’t know that’s true.

Whenever you spend any limited resource (time, money, health), you’re sacrificing something else. In worst cases, this can be the worst thing for you.

8. YOU HAVE TO DEAL WITH THE RESULTS

It’s effortless to advise someone who doesn’t have to live with the consequences of that advice. People will give you an endless number of “suggestions” because there’s no risk on their end.

Let’s use an advertisement from some widget manufactured somewhere.

Here are a few catch phrases “new and improved,” “more productivity,” “faster, better, easier.” So, fork over your hard-earned money or charge your credit card!

Never mind that you pay for it, you have to use it, and you decide it’s worth (which quickly depreciates.) On their end, they count the money coming in.

9. YOU CAN’T PLEASE EVERYONE

People-pleasers may be among the most annoying folks in existence.

There’s a big difference, by the way, between those who try to accommodate others, people who do the occasional favor, and those who are always seeking attention and validation. A BIG difference.

Here’s the inconvenient truth: we can’t please everyone, nor should we try.

Also, there’s no point in trying to please anyone if you’re not pleased with yourself!

So treat yourself right!

10. TRYING TO PLEASE CAN HAVE THE OPPOSITE EFFECT

It’s ironic that people who care too much about what others think end up being disliked.

Worrying too much about what others think of you is a self-fulfilling prophecy. Needing to be liked changes behavior; often, this change is for the worse. We end up becoming too submissive – and this isn’t a trait that people respect, much less like or admire.

Source: http://www.don9ja.com/2017/09/15/ten10-strong-reason-you-should-not-give-any-body-the-privilege-to-look-down-on-you/

The eyes may be where others are focusing their gaze, but they may also be watching the movement and shape of your lips and subconsciously thinking what your lips say about you. We kiss, talk, eat, and breathe through this important facial feature, but we rarely think about them. Our lip prints are as unique as our fingerprints, but unlike our fingertips, our lip shape and fullness may change as we age.

You may have not considered what the shape of your lips reveals about you. What do the shape of your upper lip, lower lip, outer and inner lip edges, outer right and left corners of your mouth, chin point, and upper lip points say about you? The two lip corners and their relative positions to the middle of the lips are used as landmarks to measure the significant lip features such as the upper and lower lip points and their symmetry right to left. Below, we explore some of the more obvious lip shapes and what they say about your personality.

WHAT THE SHAPE OF YOUR UPPER LIP POINTS SAY ABOUT YOU

Philium is the name of the shapely ‘V’ or ‘U’ of the upper lip center directly below the nose, usually a channel from the nose to the center of the upper lip where a defined ridge shape can be seen. The philium is either pointed, like the shape of a letter V, rounded, like the shape of a letter U, or nonexistent.

The philium is the predominant lip shape feature that is often highlighted or outlined by lip makeup. The upper lip points or philium have ten distinct shapes and what they say about you is as unique as your personality.

The lip shape is defined by the lower and upper vermillion border of the lips. The vermillion border is the borderline separating the skin of the face below the nose and the vermillion zone of the upper lip. The shape of the upper vermillion lip border was found to have distinctive types, which are:

1. Twin peaks (V shape) – Creative
2. Uneven peaks – Sensitive
3. Cantilever bridge (flat line between peaks) – Inquisitive
4. Suspension bridge (U shape) – Outgoing
5. Double convex (two rounded peaks) – Flirtatious
6. Butterfly (softer V peaks)- Kind
7. Dome (single curve) – Outspoken
8. Flying bird (outer edge of peak tapers to corner) – Nurturing
9. Flat (no points) – Logical

In a study of lip shapes and genetic markers, researchers applied the method of high-resolution 3D imaging to test the potential genetic associations of lip and other facial variations. The researchers hoped to be able to predict genetic variations by facial shapes. This study was the first to provide strong evidence that the human gene rs642961 affects normal facial shape variation, which can be seen in individuals who have more protrusive and thicker lips. The human gene rs642961 is the same gene responsible for the cleft lip shape, which is often corrected by reconstructive cosmetic surgery.

WHAT THE SHAPE OF YOUR CLOSED LIP LINE SAYS ABOUT YOU

When you close your lips without smiling, there are several different lip shapes that the line between your lips makes. Here are a few shapes that lip forensic researchers look for and what they may say about you:

1. Straight – Trustworthy, Conservative
2. Notch or deep wrinkle near the center – Distinctive, Intellectual
3. Upturned – Generous, Attentive
4. Downturned – Self-focused, Moody
5. Sinuous (curvy) – Graceful, Sensuous

WHAT YOUR UPPER VS. LOWER LIP SIZE SAYS ABOUT YOU

Larger upper lip than lower lip – Charismatic, Talkative, Leader

Larger lower lip than upper lip – Adventurous, Pleasure-seeking, Imaginative

Upper and lower lips equal size – Practical, Impartial, Focused

Research in the journal Plastic Surgery International points to how lip size may also affect a person’s smile. They note that individuals with a thinner upper lip usually show more of their teeth when smiling and have a higher smile compared to individuals with thicker lips.

Source:http://www.don9ja.com/2017/09/15/incredible-see-what-the-shape-of-your-lips-talks-about-you/

I’m lucky enough to have many single female friends who are active on the dating scene, many of whom like to share stories about their dating exploits with me. It provides me with a window into a world that — as a man — I have limited experience with, and helps give a much-appreciated perspective on just how men’s behavior gets interpreted. And let me tell you: hearing some of my friends’ horror stories, whether from online dating or the bar scene is an eye-opening experience about men’s behavior when it comes to trying to get laid.
It also provides a great deal of insight into guys’ psyches. As I’ve written before, men have a complicated love/hate relationship with masculine sexuality. We’re defined by our sexual conquests, but we’re limited in just who we’re supposed to be desiring; someone whose preference deviates from the culturally defined standards of beauty is less of a man. We’re supposed to want to Bleep many, many women but we’re also taught that the women who let us Bleep them are to be seen with contempt. Moreover, we’re taught over and over again that women are the gatekeepers to sex because they want sex less, based on gender roles and misunderstandings about female sexuality, and this leads to the combative, antagonistic dating roles that are promoted by Pick-Up Artists and the various Red Pill blogs and forums.

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Source:http://www.don9ja.com/2017/09/11/how-to-have-sx-like-a-gentleman/

African parents are gifts that keep up on giving – they are loving, there are tough, they are inspiring and can sometimes drive you crazy (then again, all parents, regardless of race or ethnicity, are all guilty of this), but we can’t deny that they are the absolute best.

Jumia Travel, the leading online travel agency, shares 4 interesting things African parents do.

Calling Their Children From Far Away To Hand Them Things Less Than a Meter Away

Okay that’s a bit of an exaggeration, but it’s not uncommon for African parents to ask their children to do things they can easily do themselves, or send their children on errands they can easily go on themselves. They argue that the point of this is to teach their children duty and responsibility, and considering how resourceful African children eventually become, African parents just might be onto something.

Prohibiting Children From Calling Elders By Their First Names

In African homes, it is considered disrespectful for children to call an elder by their first name, and African parents are zealous in ensuring such disrespect does not occur in their homes. It is more appropriate for children to address elders as ‘uncle’ or ‘aunty’ (though the children might have no familial ties or relation with the person). In less Afrocentric homes, the children are allowed to address elders with ‘mr’, ‘miss’, ‘mrs’, ‘sir’, ‘ma’ or ‘madam’ in addition to their actual names, but never with just their names.

Speaking To Their Children in Proverbs and Metaphors

This is done often by African parents when they are upset or dissatisfied with the actions of their child/children. African parents use the proverbs and/or metaphors to better drive home their point to their children, and ring a note of warning and/or caution. If an African parent speaks to their child/children with a proverb and/or metaphor, they mean business and it’s definitely not something to be taken lightly.

They Seldom Admit They Are Wrong

For some reason, African parents seldom admit they are wrong. They might acknowledge they have erred through their actions, but they will hardly ever verbalize it or apologize for it. It is difficult to understand, but some argue that it might have something to do with the fact that they believe that admitting their faults and verbally apologizing to their children will put the respect the children have for them at risk, and humanize them to the point of possibly losing the respect of their children.

Source:http://www.don9ja.com/2017/09/11/the-four4-interesting-things-about-african-parents/

1. She’s a woman, and she gets things done.

Fellas, from the day we came out of the womb, we have been playing catchup when it comes to the wisdom and maturity of a woman. She was way ahead of us on the school playground when she gave us that first kiss and we didn’t know what the hell was happening, and she sure as hell is light-years ahead of us in her fifth decade. She gets things done, and you don’t have to worry about it. Why? Because she thought of it before you ever did.
2. She’s sexy as hell.

Sharon Stone. Kelly Preston. Kathy Ireland. Nigella Lawson. Elle MacPherson. Vanessa Williams. Michelle Pfeiffer. Yeah, exactly. And then there’s Elizabeth Hurley currently in the latest sexcapade series, “The Royals,” on E!. Granted, Liz H doesn’t officially cross the 5-0 threshold ‘til June 10th, but OH MY GOD! If there is any doubt that she is not the hottest woman on the planet right now, just check out the show and how she redefines royal hotness as Queen Helena in a fresh new set of insane lingerie every week. Click Liz, and try to keep your mouth closed when you do.

3. She knows what she wants.

When was the last time you ever heard a woman in her 50s say she didn’t know what she wanted? I would venture to say, uh, never (and if she doesn’t know, run). She will tell you, clearer than a mountain stream in Tibet, what she wants in life, how she is going to get it, where it’s going to come from, and why it’s so important. Here’s the best part: she doesn’t expect you to know what/how/why/where/who you want to be when you start dating her. But one thing is for certain – after a few weeks, months, a year or two tops, you better start figuring it out, because if you don’t, she’s gone. Poof. Bye-bye loser guy.

4. She turns the bedroom into a sex adventure park.

Gail Sheehy, in her book Sex and the Seasoned Woman wrote the following: “The middle years, between 50 and 65, constitute the apex of adult life… for women, the passage to be made is from pleasing to mastery.” The National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior discovered that 71 percent of 50-somethings surveyed — more than any other age group — said their last sexual experience resulted in an orgasm.

Buckle up guys if you wander into her sex adventure park, where you are going to find more experimentation, more toys, more of anything and everything when it comes to sensuality. She’s also much more likely to wear lingerie, which she probably wears daily, because she loves it. One woman recently told me that her lingerie “is the first thing next to my skin, and that lace or silk is going to project on to everything and everyone else around me.” Hello!

Ali Cudby, a lingerie industry expert and CEO of Fab Foundations in Washington, D.C. who I interviewed for a Livinghealthy.com article about lingerie, said lingerie “is the superhero costume underneath her clothes. It makes her Wonder Woman. By wearing lingerie, it sends a message [to yourself] that you are awesome. So everything that you decide to do that day gets dipped into awesome sauce.”

5. She is WAY over her ex, and doesn’t want to talk about him, at all (red alert: nor should you!)

When a man goes on a date with a woman, the last thing he wants to hear about from her is her ex. A woman in her 50s SO gets that and that’s because she doesn’t want to talk about her ex — at all. One big reason why she doesn’t is that she doesn’t have to. Her children are usually grown (Reason #6) so she probably hasn’t spoken to him in weeks, months, hell maybe even years.

The last thing she wants to hear, from you, is anything about your ex. She’s moved on and so should you. If you don’t, then she’s moving on, far far away from your sorry ass. So follow her lead and move onward and upward with her, out of the grip of the ex-Death Star of Divorce, for good. Everyone will be much happier if you do.

6. She loves kids, has grown kids and definitely doesn’t want any more.

More likely than not, her kids are out of the house or just about to leave. That means no early nights to get back for the babysitter or last minute cancellations because her kids are sick or just being brats. She can go out every night of the week. The super-crappy schedule of every other weekend and Wednesday night availability is gone.

She still loves kids dearly and can love your kids just as much. But the best thing of all is that the last thing in the world she wants is more kids. It’s her time now and all she wants is to have fun. Maybe a lot of fun (reason #4).

7. She wants to make you the center of attention.

If she was married before, she learned an awful lot about men during her first marriage and even more if she’s had a second or third ex. She’s committed to correct the past mistakes, miseries and mishaps of her marriage (or marriages) and wants and needs a man that she can be a true partner with — one who she wants to take care of (if she doesn’t, run!). Her kids are grown (reason #6), so she doesn’t need to take care of anyone else but herself and hopefully you.

8. She doesn’t need you.

She may want you, but she doesn’t need you. She is almost always independent and often extremely independent. She’s hopefully financially independent as well, who has a solid job and stands on solid terra firma when it comes to her emotional and financial stability. She’s looking for a partner but the last thing she wants or needs is another dependent.

9. She is comfortable in her own skin, and doesn’t crawl under yours.

She is more content with herself than her younger 20s, 30s and 40s sisters because, according to a Gallup survey, she’s just plain happier than they are. One reason might be she’s already gone through the tough inner work on herself to get to that magical place of inner peace and joy. Whatever the reason is, it’s great because happiness suppresses drama, and we all know high drama in a woman is the worst and completely sucks the air out of your happiness bubble. One guy I know, for example, is dating a younger woman who, when she’s not happy with herself or him, sits on the floor and pouts like a 5-year-old. As Sweet Brown famously says: “Ain’t nobody got time for that!”

10. She can still sport a bikini, and look awesome in it.

The visual evidence is splashed all across Facebook this month of hot women in their 50s, walking around in their tiny little bikinis as they scamper across the sands of Florida and Caribbean beaches. They are often standing next to their daughters, sporting wide Ray Bans and wider smiles, looking more like older sisters than moms. Then there is the added impact of Cindy Crawford (who, by the way, turns 50 next year) going public with a an un-retouched photo of her in lingerie, setting off a firestorm of women in their 50s proudly showcasing their fit, fantastic bodies in a phantasmagorical display of bikinis.


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S*x is an interesting thing on the academic level.

Okay, it’s pretty goddamn interesting on the practical level too, but stick with me here.

Culturally (western culture in particular), we’re brought up to think of it as something that’s supposed to be private and intimate, strictly between two people — preferably with a strong emotional connection.

In practice… well, not so much. In fact, humans as a whole aren’t just interested in keeping sex to private sessions; we’re also — as a species — interested checking out other people’s sexin’. If there’s anything that has remained constant over the millennia of human evolution it’s this: we may love having sex, but we’re also always up for watching other people bone too. It seems to actually be hard-coded into our systems; there’s evidence that female copulatory vocalizations — which is fancy talk for “women’s screaming orgasms” — are specifically for arousing other people, especially men. Not just the man currently having sex… other men. Like, anyone else in ear-shot. Getting other men hot and bothered by advertising that sex is going on rightthefuck now has a number of benefits including possibly inviting other partners to have sex (with her) and induce an element of spermcompetition into the mix.

Porn — watching other people have sex in various forms and mediums — has been with us from the beginning of human existence. As soon as we figured out that abstract symbols could represent external concepts, somebody scrawled boobs on the cave wall.

When we realized that stone could be carved into representative shapes, they started carving marble wangs and basalt naked chicks. All those nude paintings hanging in museums weren’t just celebrations of the human form expressed in a visual medium — they were also created with an eye towards the erotic; having nude paintings in your collection was considered to be scandalously naughty.

Fast forward 50,000 years and we get to the age when watching other people Bleep is as simple as typing “fucking” into Google.

Go on. Try it. I’ll wait.

It’s interesting — since the advent of mass-market pornography, we’ve found ourselves at odds with our own desires. We’re told that porn is horrible, damaging and degrading for everybody involved by one group, while another points out that not only are there no reliable studies on the effects of porn that show all these horrible results, the question is based off a profoundly biased view of human sexuality. Then there’s the fact of porn’s enduring popularity despite all attempts to kill it, the way it’s influenced modern culture in more ways than just teaching people that maybe they wanted to try positions other than missionary or that they might like to try a finger up the jacksie… needless to say, porn is an indelible part of both culture and the human psyche.

Now to be fair up front: I’m unabashedly pro-porn. I’ll freely admit there are troublesome aspects — it’s rife with sexism, misogyny and racism… just like mainstream entertainment, really — but I’m not here to argue the pros and cons or play “my study that validates my point of view is more scientifically rigorous (That’s what she said, ho ho ho…) and accurate than YOUR study.” I’ll also be riding hard (That’s what she… oh never mind) on the comments section; if things get too heated, I’ll start deleting comments. If people start picking fights, I’ll drop the hammer (The hammer is my… oh, come on, you’re not even trying anymore…), so let’s keep it civil there.

Now… let’s talk a little about porn, shall we?

The First Rule of Porn Club is…

Right off the bat, we must acknowledge a simple truth. There are two kinds of men in this world: Men who look at porn and liars.

This isn’t my being glib, by the way. Three years ago, researchers at the Interdisciplinary Research Center on Family Violence and Violence Against Women were working on a study that examined the impact of porn on male concepts of sexuality, masculinity and their views on women.

Now in order to conduct the study properly, they needed a control group — that is, men in their 20s who have never consumed porn.

They didn’t find any.

The fact is, every time technology has advanced in a way that allowed us to jerk off to porn in greater privacy and convenience — transitioning from having to go to the infamous Bleep theaters of the bad-old-days in New York’s Times Square to VCRs to Pay-Per-View — the consumption of porn by the general public has grown exponentially.

Now, as tempting as it is to roll one’s eyes, sigh and say “men,” it ain’t just guys who’re digging having easier access to porn. Women are consuming porn in rapidly increasing numbers. In fact, when you want to tally up other mediums besides video, then suddenly women are consuming porn — even producing — at an equal or greater level than guys.

Surprise!

Women Dig It Too.

Now, nobody’s questioning that men make up the vast majority of the audience of RedTube, YouPorn, and all the other streaming video sites — not to mention members of porn website networks like Brazzers and Naughty America… although we’ll come back to that. But while men are profoundly visually oriented, women consume their porn in a wider variety of mediums than men. Y’see, once you break away from defining porn strictly as video and into areas like text and comics, you start getting into some interesting areas.

For example, take fan-fiction (Please! <rimshot.mp3> ). The predominant genre of fanfic is, not surprisingly, porn. What is surprising is that the majority of erotic fan-fiction is written by and for women — even in fandoms, like Star Trek or shonen anime — that are overwhelmingly male. Even back in the 1970s, when trading fanfic meant shelling out for envelopes and postage, 90% of fanfic writers were women… and they wanted to see Kirk and Spock Bleep.

This trend hasn’t changed, by the way. Just going to fanfic.net and doing a search on yaoi — a Japanese portmanteu of a phrase that alternately means “no climax, no point, no meaning,” and “stop it, my ass hurts!”, and generally refers to a genre of homoerotic male sex written by and for women — brings up over 82,000 stories tagged “yaoi.” Even when you filter out yaoi, the number of explicit sex stories is rather staggering. Take, for example, Harry Potter. There more than 100,000 tales of the students of Hogwarts merrily shagging one another, including some rather disturbing alternate uses for the petrificus curse (helpfully, Hermione traded in her vinewood wand with the dragon heartstring core for a Hitachi…) and creative interpretations of what can be used as lube.

There are over 130,000 Twilight fanfics in the archives. Of those, more than half are all about fucking.

It doesn’t stop with fan-written pastiches of their favorite couples, official and otherwise. If you head over to your local bookstore’s erotica section, you’ll quickly see that women authors dominate the shelves.

The top selling book in America right now? 50 Shades of Grey, 520+ pages of BDSM sex. Written by a woman. For a female audience.

And it started life as a Twilight fanfic.

However, as much as it’s an accepted truism that men prefer to consume their porn visually and women prefer text, studies have shown that women and men respond to porn vids with equal levels of arousal. Women are also an increasing customer base for porn videos and websites as well… and not just the soft-focus “erotic” videos marketed to them by the studios. It’s actually possible to track the growing influence of the female audience base by the evolution of porn stars from “any freak with a giant cock” to “dude-bro” to “sensitive, kinda geeky guy you met at Hebrew school.”

In fact, all those new female viewers have turned porn star James Deen into a smut film anomaly. It used to be that the male stars were nothing but an interchangeable cock — someone to be the insertion point (HEYOO! ) for the viewer while nailing the women that they’re really there to see. You could switch out Dale DaBone for Charles Dera, then again for Evan Stone without missing a beat. Nobody cared… until James Deen. He has an incredibly large… fan base. He’s one of the few men in porn that is actually is a draw. If you do a Google search, you end up with a network of Tumblrs devoted to the man — almost entirely run by teenaged girls — that look like Tiger Beat tried to crossbreed with Brazzers and then promptly exploded into a sea of glitter and animated gifs.

Much like with comics or video games, the impeccably waxed, tanned, and toned Brosephs represent a male stand-in fantasy. It’s the kinda skinny, scruffy dude with the dreamy eyes that the ladies are fantasizing about.

Why You Think The Net Was Born? Porn, Porn, Porn!

Now, while porn has also been great for inspiring boners and introducing new standards of body-hair grooming to both men and women, it is also the driving force behind half the technology you enjoy using today. As soon as we invent a new form of communication, somebody finds a way to use it to see naked people. Naughty daguerreotypes developed almost as soon as the ink was dry on the patent application. Edison’s kinetoscopes were notoriously used to view nudie-cutie films like What The Butler Saw.

When VHS and Betamax were competing for dominance of the nascent home-video market, porn studios signed exclusivity deals with JVC, promising to produce films only for VHS players. The potential to watch porn in the privacy of one’s own home instead of having to sit next to a masturbating stranger at a skeezy theater gave VHS the victory in the format wars, despite the fact that Betamax was actually the superior product.

Like using the Internet? You can thank porn for it.

Almost every innovation that you take for granted nowadays came from porn. Watching cat videos on YouTube? Catching up on Buffy and Angel on Netflix via your Xbox? The ability to watch streaming movies is due to porn; adult websites were the first to utilize jpeg push technology — allowing you to watch videos in your browser, without a plugin.

Do you buy stuff from Amazon? Richard Gordon created the first secure web-based credit card transaction system specifically for sites like ClubLove, which was busily making a fortune charging for the Pamela and Tommy Lee sex tape.

Do you Skype? Use TinyChat? Maybe your job uses web-based conferencing software like GoToMeeting? Once again: you can thank porn. As soon as smut peddlers realized that people would pay HUGE dollars in order to actually interact with a live naked woman rather than just passively watch her on videos, they started investing in live chat and video streaming. What started with a cam-girl, a stuttery 15 frames per second stream and a glorified instant messaging client eventually turned into real-time two-way video streaming… and then into the first VoIP telephone system.

Because folks realized that this was another way for people to get their rocks off.

It Is The Most Democratic Entertainment Medium In Existence

Say what you will about porn, if it’s done one thing well, it’s that it has something for everyone. If you like big boobs, there’re websites that specialize in big boobs. If you like skinny Jewish guys, you can find a kosher smorgasbord. Get off on mind-controlled super-heroines? Well, you’re in luck because holy shit that’s a fertile field of onanistic delights. Some people like doing it with clowns. Other people get off on watching other people smoke. Still others have a fetish for watching women — fully clothed women — sit on balloons and pop ’em. No other sexual content; they’re not touching themselves or pretending to have mind-blowing orgasms. They’re just sitting on balloons.

And there are websites devoted to it, bless their freaky little hearts.

Frankly, if there’s some incredibly random and utterly bizarre combination of circumstance that gets your motor running, you can almost certainly find it online for your masturbatory pleasure.

Rule #34 of the Internet states: If you can imagine it, there’s probably porn of it. And, my God, it’s true.

We live in a world where not only do macroherpetophiles exist, but they can actually find (badly drawn) kaiju Bleep pics. Photoshop provides ample fodder for those who get off on the idea of Boytaurs — bringing the term “barebacking” to a whole new level.

The beauty — and frankly, the horror — of the Internet is how it brings people together, even when the world would probably have been better off for them to never have realized that other people liked to get their freak on in the exact same way. No matter what you’re in to, somebody else out there is likely into it as well. And a third party has realized that he could make money supplying porn to this underserved section of the Internet.

Because when a niche sexual interest realizes that there’s someone there to serve their needs, they bring their get-a-life savings.

It’s Kinda Killing Your S*x Life

So here’s the part that we really need to talk about.

Now, there have been studies out there that raise questions about whether excessive (however you want to define that) consumption of porn — and the masturbation that usually follows — actually desensitizes your brain to sexual stimuli that leads to endorphin release. And you have to admit, it does kind of make sense; after all, there was a point in the lives of most guys of a certain age when even the merest hint of nipple might leave them harder than Chinese trigonometry.

Of course, that does bring up the question of whether that provoked such a reaction from us because that was all we had but that’s a chicken-and-egg problem for another day.

However, this isn’t the problem I wanted to bring up.

No, what I want to address is how porn can completely mess up your expectations for sex.

Porn Makes You A Lousy Lover

When you’re exposed to something over long periods of time, it can color how you think. It can desensitize you. Change your ideas about what’s normal, accepted or even expected. And then, when you interact with the majority of the population that doesn’t have those same expectations, somebody is gonna end up disappointed and upset.

And odds are, it’s gonna be you.

There’re a lot of guys who have let porn guide their expectations for sex. They think sex is supposed to be like porn sex. And the problem is, porn sex isn’t real sex. In fact, most of the time, porn sex is completely incompatible with real sex. It’s not even acting; it’s kabuki, a performance so stylized and marked by exaggeration and ritual that it can’t be replicated in the real world. The part that people don’t understand about how sex in porn differs from real life are the parts that, ironically, directors work the hardest to ensure are invisible: the camera and the editing.

To start with: almost all porn these days is based around the presence of the camera. Regular, old-fashioned vanilla sex by regular folks is actually kinda boring on film; it’s two bodies smushed together with hips grinding on one another. You can’t see anything interesting; no nipples, no real view of penetration… nothing but watching people slap up against each other in the same position for 10 minutes or so, really.

In order to be visually interesting, porn sex has to be “open” to the camera; the actors have to angle themselves in such a way that the majority of their bodies is pointing towards the cameraman — and thus, to the viewer. This is part of the reason for all of the odder positions with legs twisting and torsos bending in opposite directions; they’re making sure that even in the height of passion, the audience can still see the goods. This makes for great film, but in the real world, it’s actually pretty goddamn uncomfortable; these are poses that are designed to look good rather than allow for satisfying friction and genital contact.

The cum-shot, by the way, is also a product of the camera; audiences wanted proof that the guy was actually ejaculating instead of just faking it with a couple of thrusts, a grunt and a shudder. Hence: the money shot — spraying ones load over his partner’s face, boobs, ass, what-have-you. Looks good on film with an added bonus of a certain level of fetishization of the “power” and potency of a man’s semen. In the real world, 99.999% of women are not going to be cool with a guy who wants to blow his load on her face, and the ones who are would really like to plan it out in advance than let it come as a surprise.

Porn sex is sex by the numbers. It almost always plays out the same way: play with the nipples, blow-job, cunnilingus, then straight to slamming away in Vaginatown. Total time spent before penetration: 3-5 minutes.

Real sex, on the other hand, is a fairly drawn out affair when it’s done right; you have pre-intimacy, mutual MouthAction, perhaps stopping to grab some lube, applying the condom, a little more pre-intimacy, having to be guided in… all of which makes for great sex but lousy film.

Porn sex doesn’t allow for things that would occur in real life. Porn sex’s version of pre-intimacy isn’t sufficient for real arousal and lubrication on the woman’s part — yet you will also never see someone reaching for the KY either. Guys who’ve watched too much porn usually don’t understand that you can’t just play with a woman’s boobs, go down on her for a few seconds, and then just start pounding away… not if you expect to have her enjoy it anyway. But that’s how they’ve seen it in film, over and over again.

When it comes to advanced stuff like anal sex it’s even worse. Anal sex in porn is practically the same as vaginal sex: insert yourself and just start plugging away. In the real world, that’s a wonderful way to hurt someone. Real world anal sex takes time and preparation. You need to go slowly. Incredibly slowly. Trying to treat it like they do in movies is an invitation to tearing the lining of the rectum. But, again: the real world makes for lousy film.

Then there’s the editing. In porn, once they get to penetration, guys seem to be able to last forever as they bend their lover into pretzels, plunging in at full speed for 20 minutes non-stop. Guys raised on a steady diet of porn start to think that this is how women like sex: being pounded by a piston for a half hour. What theydon’t see — assuming the editor has done his job right — are the cuts. It’s rare that any penetration scene is done in one take — guys lose their erection, they cum too early, their partner gets tired or sore. If the editor is good, you’ll never see the transition between takes; instead, you’ll watch what appears to be a seamless whole from penetration to money-shot.

You also never see the real-world issues. In porn sex, nobody varies the speed or intensity of their thrusting. In porn sex, you never have to slow down because trying to keep pumping at full speed is actually more of a core workout than you were expecting. The women never need to stop because they’re starting to go dry and the friction from his cock is actually starting to hurt. Muscles don’t suddenly cramp up. His arms never get tired from holding himself up over her. Her thighs don’t start to burn with the effort of pushing herself up and down when she’s riding him.

You never have those human moments in porn. And if you’ve built your expectations for sex around what you see in porn… well, when reality hits, you aren’t going to be ready for it.

Porn makes for great fantasy sex. But those fantasies just can’t apply to the real world. As much fun and as arousing as porn can be, it’s never going to make you a better lover. The best thing you can do is appreciate it for what it is but leave the porn fucking on the screen, where it belongs.
Source:http://www.don9ja.com/2017/09/11/ways-and-manners-in-which-prn-is-difference-from-sx-in-the-real-world/

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Too much porn can make men stupid, scientists have revealed.

A study by German researchers at the Max Planck Institute for Human Development found that men who watch a lot of porn generally have a smaller striatum.

The striatum is the part of the brain which processes ‘rewards and motivation’ – leading scientists to believe that pornographydamages this function.

They can also have less grey matter, making their brains generally smaller than those of men who rarely watch it.

The female leading author of the study Simone Kühn, did point out however, that it isn’t clear whether X rated material is making brains smaller, or whether men with a decreased striatum tend to watch it more often.

She added that the striatum is less active with men who consume a lot of sexual images.

Dr Kühn said: “Moreover we found that another brain region, that is also part of the striatum that is active when people see sexual stimuli, shows less activation the more pornography participants consumed.”

The study questioned 64 men aged 21 to 45 about their porn watching habits and examined who their brains reacted to pornographic images.

While it isn’t clear that porn is the root cause of men’s decreasing brains, it is fair to say that it could have a detrimental effect on them.

http://www.don9ja.com/2017/09/04/how-watching-porn-can-make-men-stupid-by-scientists/

There’s nothing like a drink to help lighten the mood on a first date, but otherwise, we’ve been taught alcohol can hinder romance. Too much alcohol is never healthy, but a little booze could actually be helpful for romance, your sex life, and even your marriage. Here are five surprising ways that alcohol can help your sex life, from a better orgasm to a higher sex drive.

1.Couples Who Drink Together, Stay Together
Nothing brings a couple closer together than alcohol, whether that’s mutual love for drinking or shared abhorrence, and research published last year in The Journals of Gerontology found that, as couples age, happiness is closely tied to shared drinking habits. As a result, drinking together, or abstaining from alcohol together, is beneficial for a long-term relationship, Reuters reported. On the other hand, having a opposite drinking pattern from your spouse, such as having one spouse who drinks while the other abstains completely, is likely to result in more dissatisfied marital relationships.

Not even a serious drinking problem is enough to tear some couples apart. A 2013 study found that although alcohol abuse often ruins relationships and leads to divorce, when both partners have equally unhealthy drinking habits, they are just as likely to stay together as a couple that doesn’t drink at all.

2. Women Are More Attracted To Men Who Drink

Drinking isn’t just good for your marriage, it could also help out the singletons. For example, one 2016 study found that women were more attracted to men who drank alcohol and smoked cigarettes, at least for short-term sexual flings, The Telegraph reported.


Women are more interested in healthy and stable non-drinking or moderate-drinking men for long-term relationships, as this is a sign that a man is both capable and willing to care for children. However, for shorter relationships, it’s the bad boy drinker/smoker that wins the most hearts as it appeals to women’s attraction to risky behavior. Or at least that’s what the study researcher suspect anyway.

3. Short-Term Relief For Premature Ejaculation And Erectile Dysfunction

Alcohol can make it more difficult for both men and women to achieve an orgasm, but for men who suffer from premature ejacualation, where he ejaculates either before or shortly after sexual penetration, alcohol could help. According to The Huffington Post, some researchers actually recommend alcohol as a treatment to control ejaculatory timing, and while it may only be a temporary solution, it could help you out in a pinch.

In addition, while too much alcohol may dampen the mood by making it extremely difficult for a man to achieve an erection, a moderate amount of alcohol can actually make his erection more intense, The Guardian reported. In fact, a 2009 study found that men who drank moderate amounts of alcohol reported 30 percent fewer erectile problems than non drinkers. While the reason for this is not entirely clear, it may be due to the fact that moderate amounts of alcohol can improve cardiovascular health, and erections pretty much rely on having peak operating blood vessels.

4. Boost Sex Drive

If you feel more frisky after a few cocktails, you’re not alone, especially if you’re a woman. Although alcohol has colloquially been used as an aphrodisiac, in 1994 researchers actually found some proof to back this. Scientists from Finland and Japan found that women who drank moderate amounts of alcohol had increased levels of testosterone in the body, although men’s hormone levels were largely unaffected, The Independent reported. This effect was most pronounced in women taking the contraceptive pill, as they already had low levels of testosterone to begin with.


The team suspected that these elevated testosterone levels in women may lead to increased sexual desire in female drinkers, The Independent reported.

5. May Enhance Orgasm

Too much alcohol does have the reputation for hindering orgasms in both men and women, but if you are lucky enough to have an orgasm while buzzed, it may be especially good. According to The Huffington Post, some women report feeling more sexual pleasure when they have had a few drinks.

This may be linked to the relaxation associated with having a few drinks, the fact that alcohol can help some people overcome their inhibitions and insecurities, and allows men and women alike to truly let loose and enjoy themselves.

http://www.don9ja.com/2017/09/03/see-five5-things-medical-research-says-about-alcohol-and-your-sx-life/

When I think of fingering, I think of being in the back of a movie theater getting felt up by a high school boy who acted like his finger was a tiny penis. In other words, my early fingering experiences were not good.

That said, just because teenage boys (and some grown men) can fail so miserably at fingering doesn’t mean that educated adult human beings can’t make it feel really awesome. And in some cases, a preferred sex act.

In this age of awkward boob-twisting (they’re not doorknobs) and shower sex that didn’t pan out like you’d hoped (Does it ever?), fingering is a lost art.

To help us revive that lost art to its former glory, I asked several queer friends to tell me everything they love and don’t love about double clicking someone else’s mouse.

1. Try to touch her the way you touch yourself. Jennifer says the biggest tip she can give on how to be an A+ finger-smith is to touch your partner the way you’d touch yourself. From there, you can check in with her to see what’s working and what’s not, but starting with, “Well, this is what I do” just makes sense. That said…

READ ALSO Five (5) Secret Communication Codes Women Use For Men

2. But what you like might be the complete opposite of what she likes. I’ve found this to be true with a lot of women because we’re all so damn different. I had an ex who loved having her clit jackhammered, which was odd to me since that’s my personal idea of hell. But I just rolled with it and trusted that she really did love that and I wasn’t secretly torturing her. Different strokes, man. In the most literal sense.

READ ALSO 15 Signs You Are in a Dead-End Relationship
3. If all else fails, have her show you what she likes. Victoria, 33, host of the sex podcast Livin’ and Lovin’ in NYC says that if you’re comfortable with a partner, it can be helpful to have them straight-up show you how they like to touch themselves. This is pretty much the only sex act where you can ask someone to show you how they do it (good luck getting someone to do that with cunnilingus), so use that! Plus, as Victoria adds, “It’s also hot to watch.”

4. Switch up how you touch her. While it’s great to get into a rhythm that you know works for your partner, Kendra still recommends trying some new moves once in a while. Kendra says, “Go from lightly rubbing her clit to swirling around it with your middle finger. Or move in and out of her vagina with two fingers while circling her clitoris with your thumb. You can easily get an orgasm out of someone with your hands if you want to.”

5. Don’t actually “bang” her with your fingers. Just because it’s sometimes referred to as “finger-banging” doesn’t mean you should literally do that. Plus, Kendra adds, “Moving in and out super-fast like you’re poking a fish tank with just one finger doesn’t really do anything. It gets you excited that something might happen and then you’re just sitting there awkwardly.” And sadly, it’s that kind of fingering that leads women to believe they hate fingering. Remember, it’s a finger and not a penis. Use that to your advantage and hit her clit, then go into her vagina, or move your fingers around her vulva. It truly is a choose your own adventure of sex acts.

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6. No, there’s not just one fingering position. Victoria recommends having the person you’re fingering lie on top of your fingers (or hand) and push themselves against it. Not only is it hot, but it’s also another great way to feel out where they like to be touched without having to specifically ask.

7. You have two hands. Use them both. Whether that means you’re playing with her boobs with one hand or running your fingers through her hair while touching her clitoris, you have two hands at your disposal. Don’t waste them.

READ ALSO Here Are Five (5) Little White Lies That Are OK to Tell Your Spouse

8. Cut. Your. Freaking. Nails. So many queer friends have been scratched by a girl (and yes, that means scratched in their vagina), and it is the worst. Kendra says she’s even had someone draw blood and then ask if she was on her period. She had to tell them, “No, hon. You clawed my vagina.” If your fingers are going near a vagina any time soon, cut those nails, dude.

9. Wash your hands, please! Molly C. says, “your fingers are literally going inside my body. I should emphasize, a very chemically sensitive part of my body. Once that chemistry is thrown off balance, even a little, it ruins my whole week. It would be so hot if you respected my health and took two seconds to wash your hands before getting in there.

10. Don’t ignore the clit, as most vaginas need clit stimulation to orgasm. One anonymous friend says she likes to keep one finger on the clit, and another on the inner labia. She adds, “Some people are more sensitive and don’t like direct slit stimulation so it’s important to ask your partner what they prefer, or simply follow body signals to understand their preference. I enjoy it the most when partners are enjoying themselves while pleasuring me so moaning and trying to have fun while you’re doing it is also a plus.The whole vagina is very sensitive and it’s easier to orgasm when more than one spot is activated, which I think a lot of people overlook. ”
http://www.don9ja.com/2017/08/23/ten10-complete-guide-to-fingering-women/

Discovering a partner’s affair is easier than ever before in history. Text messages, emails and online credit card statements leave the careless cheater with an electronic affair trail a gigabyte long. We know the typical telltale signs: weight loss, new music or food interests, the purchase of a new wardrobe. But if your affair radar is up — because your partner’s behavior just feels off or out of the ordinary — here are 13 not-as-conspicuous signs you may be overlooking.

1) Time-stamping: Optimizing precious moments with a lover is a balancing act, so he’s counting minutes. “It won’t raise any red flags if I’m home by 6:00 p.m. on the dot,” he rationalizes. Or, “If I call her every day at noon, she won’t get suspicious.” He’s drawing timelines in the sand — and being uncharacteristically prompt or oddly ritualized with his schedule may be one way he does that.

2) New lingo: A friend of mine’s suspicions grew when he heard his wife irritably yell, “Good Christ!” — an expression neither one of them had ever used — and one she typically would find offensive. If she’s spending enough time with her lover, she’s sure to pick up some of his/her expressions.

3) Changing things up: Every evening — like clockwork — he comes home, asks about dinner and walks the dog. Now, that ritual is being messed with. He needs a shower as soon as he walks in the door. Or he pours himself two fingers of scotch when that’s usually reserved for weekends only.

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4) Driving alone: Typically, you’d hop in the car together and be on your way. But recently she finds a myriad of reasons to have a few minutes alone — and a need to take her own car. “I have to stop at Sephora, and I don’t want to bore you!” she says. Time and again.

5) Wearing a lampshade: “Let’s go out and get sh*t-faced tonight,” he atypically and enthusiastically suggests. And you know he hasn’t said anything like that since he was pledging a fraternity. Having an affair — it’s no secret — can make people feel young and impulsive again and that can spill over into other behaviors.

6) Wanting you to strut your stuff: What’s this? A little something from Vicky’s Secret just for you? Funny, he’s always claimed that lingerie doesn’t do much for him. His affair has reawakened his libido and, ironically, he’d like it to do the same for you.

7) You’re clearly up to no good: You smile at the waiter, and he goes off. He knows you’re a friendly sort — didn’t he always love that about you? — but recently that innocent cordiality seems to antagonize him in ways it never did. Now that he’s having an affair, he knows it’s not so far-fetched that you might, too.

No harm in looking, right?: “Did you see our cute neighbor checking out your butt?” she asks with a big smile. “That flight attendant is really your type!” she teases, leaving you wondering what happened to her jealous streak. No mystery. She’s on an affair-fueled, guilt-mitigating mission to casually justify extramarital attractions.

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9) Affairs? No biggie: You sadly report your best friend’s husband is cheating. Instead of sharing your dismay, he becomes defensive. “Well, he hasn’t been happy in that marriage,” or “People have affairs. That’s life.” Condemning others means condemning himself — and he’s not about to go there.

10) Won’t watch it: Fatal Attraction? Derailed? The Affair? Forget it. Plot lines that would have formerly piqued her interest now make her visibly uncomfortable. If there’s an affair involved, know you won’t be seeing it together.

11) All nerves: Many folks experience atypical bouts of depression and anxiety as the guilt of the affair — and the stress of keeping such a huge secret — take a visible toll. Symptoms may include insomnia, disinterest in eating or an unshakeable blue mood.

12) Suddenly an expert: “Did you know the U.S. has the highest dog population in the world?” She starts spewing facts about things she’s never shown interest in before. Heck, she never even liked dogs that much. Could be she’s absorbing her lover’s interests — and finding a way to talk about him/her without saying as much.

13) Signature blank stare: The guy who always has an answer now seems lost for words. His brain is fried with the details of the lies he’s told and excuses he’s made. When you innocently inquire about his last trip to Home Depot, you can almost see the wheels turning in his head: Did I tell her I went to Home Depot? What did I tell her I was shopping for? Is she trying to trap me in a lie? While he entertains these possibilities, you’re on the receiving end of that strange, faraway look in his eyes you’ve been seeing all too often.


Source:http://www.don9ja.com/2017/09/02/thirteen13-sweetable-ways-to-know-if-your-partner-is-cheating-on-you/

If you have ever wondered why some men send photos of their private parts to women, then this is your chance to find out.
Finally, ladies: the answer you’ve long been waiting for.
It was just a matter of time before we took the technology we have at our fingertips and made it all about s*x. I mean, we’re Hot, s*xual beings, so why wouldn’t we?
But while sending our partners Nudde photos seems totally acceptable, the whole “D!ck pic” thing just doesn’t have the same level of respectability. Maybe it’s because dudes on OKCupid think it’s the ideal way to snag a lady friend? I’m not really sure.
We tracked down nine men who were willing to not only admit that they’ve sent a D!ck pic (or two or three or more), but also tell us why, oh why, they do such things. I’ve yet to meet a woman who’s ever said, “And he sent me a D!ck pic and it was awesome!”
But while some of us may not be able to appreciate their, um, manhood, we can at least now start to figure out why the hell they do it.

1. It’s about pride…
“When I used to do it, it was often a mixture of pride and … pride. I only ever rarely did it unsolicited but I’d never gotten a ‘Why did you do that?!’ And I occasionally got a couple of “do that again, please,” responses.

“Now, as an older, rational man, I frown upon unsolicited D!ck pics because it’s just wrong, even if the only reason most men do it is because they hope you’ll show your tits in return. All that said, if a woman asks, it’s a request that should be fulfilled immediately because more often than not, it’s a test.”

2. It’s nice to get a compliment…

“Either I was asked for it or I knew that the person would respond positively. It feels good to have someone compliment your junk or tell you that they want it.”

3. I was hoping to get a photo of them in return…
“I’ve always thought of it as tit for tat. If I send it, even if they don’t ask for it, I assumed it would get me a Nakked picture of them. But I would like to point out that I haven’t tried that since I was 25 or so … so it’s been about five years.”

4. So she knows she gave me an erection…
“It has always been in the middle of some dirty texting and it made sense to share how hard she made me.”

5. I thought it would be an honor for her…
“Let’s pretend I might have considered it in my teens. Those years predate mobile phone cameras (or even digital ones) so honestly, teenage me would have probably considered it an honor for the woman to receive a large oil painting of my trouser business.”

6. It’s usually after I’ve been drinking…

“I can’t answer this because I don’t know why I’ve done it. It’s usually after I’ve been drinking and for some reason it just makes sense. The next morning I always realize it was a stupid and childish move but it doesn’t stop me from doing it again when I’ve had too much to drink.”

7. I was asked for it…
“Because I’ve been asked. Plain and simple. If someone I’m into wants a picture of my D!ck, then why wouldn’t I oblige?”

8. I’m just a guy…
“I’ve yet to meet a woman who has said that D!cks are nice to look at it. So maybe subconsciously I’m trying to change that thought with mine? It’s either that or I’m just a guy.”

9. I assume it might be erotic…
“Since it’s erotic for me to get a picture of any part of a woman’s body, I assumed it might be erotic for her, too. But my wife put an end to that after I tried that once when we were still dating. She still makes fun of me for it.

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Laca sera is the worse u can use it to bleach u cloth

When you take a bottle of coke and get the enthralling refreshment, your body is subjected to many health risks. Researchers, nutritionists, and medical experts have proved that coke is linked to conditions such as obesity, bones damage, cardiac related issues, damage to brain tissues, and addiction. Because of this, you need to stop taking the beverage and substitute it with a more nutritious and healthy drink.

The Reasons Are As Follow:

1. VERY HIGH LEVELS OF SUGAR:
Every Coke you take has about ten teaspoons of equivalent of sugar. When this gets into your body, your system becomes so much stressed to release high levels of insulin for combating the additional sugar. As a result, you will easily develop conditions such as insulin resistance, diabetes, heart diseases, and obesity.

2. COKE CONTAINS A LOT OF PHOSPHORIC ACID:
When excess quantities of phosphoric acid get into the body, calcium uptake is inhibited. This culminates to teeth decay, bone loss, and even osteoporosis. Besides, the acid is a major cause of blockage to normal digestion, hinders nutrients uptake from the gut, causes muscle loss, and kidney issues.

3. HIGH FRUCTOSE CONTENT:
Every bottle of coke you take contains a by-product of corn; high fructose syrup that contains dangerous elements like mercury. In children, high level of mercury is associated with stunted growth and brain deformities. In adults, it can cause cancer, damage to the brain, and cardiac related issues.

4. DRINKING COKE AFFECTS BODY METABOLISM:
Regular consumption of coke compromises the body metabolism. The body finds it difficult to burn excess fat and cutting weight becomes very difficult. Even if you take more hours of exercising, the results will be insignificant.


5. RAISED RISK OF SUFFERING FROM HEART ATTACK:
Researchers indicate that by drinking a coke every day, you raise the chance of suffering from heart attack with over 22%. This level can at times be even higher for people with higher blood sugar as the heart works harder to supply insulin and transport fat for storage.

6. COKES ARE CURRENTLY MADE USING ASPARTAME:
Aspartame is an artificial sweetener adopted as a sugar substitute. However, it has been discovered to be more dangerous compared to sugar. It is highly toxic, causes blurred vision, mood disorders, and seizures.

7. COKE DOES NOT HAVE ANY NUTRITIONAL VALUE:
One fact that you should know is that Coke does not supply any nutrient to your body. Apart from sugar, the drink does not have vitamins, proteins, minerals, or antioxidants.

8. CONSUMING COKE IS HIGHLY ADDICTIVE:
Every time you take a can of coke, dopamine (a neurotransmitter responsible for pleasure) is released and sent to the brain. Human brain keeps looking for every activity that releases dopamine to keep the body in constant pleasure. Over time, you will become fully addicted in the same way that other drugs work in the body.

9. CONTAINS HIGH QUANTITIES OF CARAMEL COLORING:
The caramel color you see in the coke is a major cause of cancer. If you take about 16 micrograms of caramel coloring every day, chances of suffering from cancer are very high. With every bottle of coke contains over 200 micrograms of caramel coloring, the risk of developing cancer is even higher.

10. THE RISK OF INCREASED GUT SIZE:
Taking coke regularly will result in increased size of your waist. After compromising body metabolism, sugar from coke is converted to fat and stored in the waist and other parts of the body. Taking a coke daily can result in about 70% increase in your waistline.

The coke you take everyday is a great threat to your health and personal productivity. Though the taste is refreshing, a lot of time and resources will be used to address resultant health implications. In extreme cases, the impacts could be fatal. Consider taking alternatives that are equally refreshing and nutritious such as sweetened tea, natural brands, or water to stay healthy.

http://www.don9ja.com/2017/09/01/ten10-reasons-why-you-must-stop-drinking-coke/

How do u feel wen u share ur nude pics wit ur bf or gf?. D worst is video rec hw u guys had sex wen u knw we are in a computer world. Those tapes n pics ma end up in a wrong hands n u knw wat dat means. Guys wats ur sugestion, wat is d spirit behind acting porn and sharing nude.

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In every stage of every person’s life, there comes a moment when everything is going from bad to worse, obligations and expectations become overwhelming, and just for a moment, we wish for someone who would understand and support us through this ordeal which seems like its never going to end!

Similarly, there also comes a point when that ordeal is done with, everything is rosy again, the roses are blooming, the birds are singing, the sun is shining, and even the cabbies are in a good mood! And just when we’re basking in the joy and perfection of everything around you, we see a couple strolling along in the park, hand in hand, smiling and laughing at a shared joke, and just for a heart wrenching moment, everything becomes bleak, and the soul is filled with a longing that is exclusively reserved for that extra peanut butter and chocolate chip cookie on Christmas Eve, your first crush whom you never really got over, and a three cheese grilled sandwich.

At both these moments we think that we are ready for a relationship, but are we really? Or have we just clutched onto the first interested person that came along because the prospect of living a lonely life was just too scary to imagine? If the latter is true, we know in the deepest, most secret corner of our heart that this thing is not gonna work out, but because we don’t like to acknowledge it, heartbreak and misery wait for us just around the corner. And unless you are good songwriter, the Taylor Swift therapy of getting over a break up is not gonna work for you. So before you give in to the Longing and get into a relationship, answer the following questions:

1. ARE YOU READY FOR A RELATIONSHIP?

A relationship requires work, emotional investment, your energy, a willingness to sacrifice some of your pleasures for your partner’s happiness, enduring through some really boring parts of your partner’s life, giving your partner the support they need, letting them take over some of your troubles, and the most important, giving up your independence. If you like your independence and carefree life better than your partner, ignore those twinges of loneliness until you meet the person you care for more than yourself.

2. WHAT KIND OF A RELATIONSHIP DO YOU WANT?

Are you looking for a casual ‘lets-see-what-happens’ relationship, or do you see a future with marriage and kids and growing old together? This is kind of important because if you don’t know what you want, you’ll either end up getting hurt or hurting someone else. Talking about expectations at the beginning of a relationship is awkward, but it saves a lot of trouble in the end.

3. WHAT DOES THE OTHER PERSON WANT FROM THE RELATIONSHIP?

If they are looking for a casual relationship while you look for the rainbows at the end, or vice versa, unless one of you reins in their expectations, and even after that, things are going to get messy. Finding out beforehand may help you sort out your own feelings better, and decide if you want to go forward with it.

4. WHAT KIND OF A PERSON ARE THEY?

Are they someone who loves the drama of a messy relationship, the responsible kind, the romantic type, or the easy going commitment-phobe? It may not seem like much, but if you figure that out beforehand, and adjust your expectations accordingly, the relationship might turn out be one of the better times of your life.

5. DO YOU GUYS HAVE COMMON INTERESTS, OR IS IT JUST A CASE OF HEALTHY LUST?

Lust is gonna get you only so far in a relationship, and if you don’t share some common interests, the whole thing will spiral into a vicious cycle of recriminations and guilt that will bog you down even further. Figure out if what you really want is a relationship, or just a fling?

6. DO YOU REALLY LIKE THE PERSON, OR ARE THEY SIMPLY A CRUTCH YOU WANT TO GRAB TIGHT AND HOLD ON BECAUSE IN YOUR MOMENT OF LONELINESS YOU THINK YOU CANNOT DO BETTER?

Relationships that start out of the ‘crutch holding’ are never going to work out, because eventually, you are going to meet the person you really like, respect, and feel like spending all your time with, even though right now it may not feel like you’re worth much to anyone else than your dog. If this is truly the case, instead of getting into a relationship, join a yoga class, a photography club, or volunteer for a non-profit; anything that helps you get your self esteem back. Because when you meet the One, you’re going to want to be at your best, and not in a dead end relationship.

7. DO YOU HAVE TIME TO INVEST IN THE RELATIONSHIP?

Things may be overwhelming for you right now and that support you get, emotional and otherwise, from your partner can be a tempting prospect, but no relationship ever works on its own. Both partners have to invest their time and emotions in it for it to work, and if you take and give nothing back, you are gonna end up feeling miserable and guilty when it ends, because to an extent, it will be your fault.


Source: http://www.don9ja.com/2017/09/01/seven7-things-you-need-to-put-into-consideration-before-going-into-relationship/

Anyways, I’m not writing for those who do not understand that sex before marriage is a sin. I’m writing for those who not only understand, but are also pressing towards the mark of living in total obedience to God.

The world is getting darker. Everybody is doing it. But we are to stand out and shine as the light that we are.

I have decided not to quote so many scriptures in this article (the last person I spoke with said quoting scriptures didn’t help), so I want to be as practical as I can.

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According to the doctor report about my friend health the doctor have warn that he should abstain from sex for about six month which I know it would be easy for him pls friend I need your advise


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This is what happen in sierra Leon,heavy rain swept a muddy mountain across the city that result to the dead of this people

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Hello there everyone, I will tell you about how I got to focck my driver’s wife in return for saving his life from an accident. it all began when I and my wife were at the wedding day of my driver. That was the first time saw her and I forgot to say my driver’s name is Bello and his wife is Saki. She was really was a bomb 36C breassts, slim and sexy in figure and looks, her asss can really drive anyone crazy such huge and fleshy.

I and my wife were married around 10 months ago and didn’t want any kids for now because we wanted to enjoy life and have sex twice almost 5 days a week and she is smoking hot and we were from Edo background now her specs 38B. I know her bra size because every time we are on the bed I need up ripping her bra, good looking and she is that sexy and beautiful in looks, ass always mesmerizes me.

Now back to the story because he was my driver for 1 and half year now he invited me to his wedding greeted them and left off to my house that night I had the best session with my wife and had anal sexx with her which I didn’t prefer the most I did it because I was thinking of Saki all the time I was doing with my wife.

SO my wife became suspicious and asked me what was the matter? So I said that I had likely feeling towards Saki and would like to focck her in any way possible. Me and my wife were open and accept each other’s fantasies and she also opened up in telling that she also has a fantasy to focck my driver because of his masculine body and my driver was actually a mechanic before been a driver so he could possibly have stronger stamina.

So on I was finding ways or possibilities to focck her and for that I frequently used to visit her stating that or this reason.So she would call my driver for taking her to those places and during those times she would sexy and revealing dresses and used to note my driver’s expressions and used to converse in double meaning words and she used to tell me but all this was fine been from a respectful society I was always scared to put front such proposal in front of my driver and used to ways to put front this method but luckily the D day came.

While me and my wife was going to resort in my second car. A day prior my driver asked me to give the keys of my bigger and first car so that he can roam with his wife and some of his friends. I accepted it because he has loyally worked for us and it’s a diesel vehicle which needs to be monitored and gave him the keys and said “be Careful”. But while I was returning just two hours away from your destination.

I got a call from my driver and he said that he crashed a bike and now he is in police station because the bike owner parents were blaming my driver for the bike damages and minor injuries that happened to their son.

So I rushed to the home and was at the police station within 2 and half hours. Me Being a Business man I had contacts and was able to free my driver from any kind of prosecutions and settled parents and bike damages with some cost they couldn’t ignore.

Then I went to my driver and he said Sorry and this all happened because of he being drunk by his friends. All the cost of the damages can be deducted from his salary. That point triggered me and I came with a negotiable offer to make.

Then I said “No have no need to pay for the damages of the car and bike but in return for the mistake you made I want something from you in return”.

my driver:- “What is that sir”

Me:- “Your Wife for a day”

my driver was horrified and wasn’t able to speak anything for a few minutes.

my driver:- “I will repay the loan instead of submitting my wife”

Me:- “It was never about the money it was about lust. The same man who released you out of the jail could also send you in”

my driver knew that he got him and said:- “Ok but I need to ask Saki of the same and if she is ok then I am ok otherwise No”

Then we both went to my driver’s house and I was waiting there outside and he was talking to his wife and then he came outside and said that she...............

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1. You Are Irrational.

Women ooze with feminine energy which makes them crave for love and your presence more than you know. They want to feel protected and loved and most of all they want you to be their rock. They want a man who they can trust, who can let them be. When you behave haywire, indecisive, fearful, or uncertain, it may be the matter of your mood for you but to her, it starts to break the connection and before you know it, she loses her interest in you. You seem unattractive and untrusting and believe me, when most of you stay busy playing cool with such uncertain behavior, that’s when she decides that you are not the kind of guy she wants to be with.

2. You Don’t Give The Importance She Deserves.

I would never understand, why men look at every woman as a trophy. Before they get into a relationship, they would make the woman feel like the queen of the world but once they get into a relationship, the same woman becomes less important. Being successful is easy but maintaining that success is difficult. You would never sustain if you don’t understand that she deserves all the importance in the world even after falling hard for you. Men usually make other things important, take their partner for granted and she feels ignored because it’s your attention that she needs and you are investing it somewhere else. I am not saying that you should keep your focus only on her and leave other things behind, but don’t let her feel overlooked or else she would not take much time falling out of love. Don’t forget to make her feel special.


3. You Don’t Make Efforts To Build Trust.

Men are less emotional than women and that’s why they tend to be way less committed in the few first stages of a relationship. On the other hand when a woman process emotionally which is why she becomes more serious and committed, even in the early stages. Now, when a woman gives all of her heart, she looks for the same, but men fail to understand that it’s not the matter of commitment, it’s the matter of trust. In the early stages, a man often looks for other options as well, but he didn’t realize that he is threatening the trust of his existing relationship which could go long. Once you lose or threaten the trust, it’s almost impossible to regain it. Always and always think twice before when you show you are not ready to commit, it would be easy if you can let her know everything transparently.

4. You Are Too Much Involved With Yourself.

hey Invite Us To A Family Event And Forget That We Were There At All.

Okay, I understand that your brain is wired to pursue a mission and achieve goals but dear men, you aren’t only meant for solving things and fixing problems. If you will never step out of your constant need of doing work and shining in your career, how would you ever know that there is a whole other side of life? Men who spend a lot of time in their own space, often fail to provide the enough time to their love life which makes it impossible to work. If you are in a relationship and a workaholic or not making enough time for her, chances are she is already thinking of you having an affair in her head. That’s not entirely her fault, it’s almost impossible to understand for a woman that your needs are being met in the sphere of work and the relationship. When you don’t make the effort, you are being unfair and eventually, you lead her to think that may be it’s not what you want.


5. You Have No Idea What You Want In Life

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You can have all the promotions in the world, get raises, complete a project or help a friend get over a serious issue. You can be the most amazing person in the world but, if you don;t know what you want out of your relationship in life, it’s never gonna last. You being indecisive about her, is not even the last thing on earth that she needs.

In hope, you have registered all of the above details in your mind and thought of working upon these. It is completely your choice but all I want is to tell you that, if you don’t start making changes in your approach towards a relationship, you will be alone forever.



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