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Romance / Three(3) Keys To Succeed In This 2019 by don9ja4: 2:23pm On Jan 03, 2019
Now I’ll show you how you can achieve each of them in details.

1. Write down your goals
The first thing you do in the morning will determine what your day is going to be like. Program your mind to be in a powerful state from the moment upon waking, and you are guaranteed to have a productive and great day.

How you can do this is by writing your goals down, every morning. Then, once you’ve done that, circle the most important goal, the goal that in the long-term will have the most impact on your life.

2. Create a powerful belief system
Ask any successful person what their number one rule for succeeding is. They all have this in common:

They believe in themselves and what they’re doing, and they are not afraid to say it.

If you don’t believe in yourself, why would anyone else?

When people ask you about your goals in life, don’t be afraid to say it out loud. If you have high goals, they might laugh and look at you funny. But if you’re insecure about your goals, you will make insecure decisions that will lead you nowhere.

3. Invest in yourself
A wise man was once asked what the best possible investment someone could make. His answer was short, sweet and simple: “Invest In Yourself.”

The man’s name is Warren Buffett. He is known as the world’s greatest investor. According to Forbes, he has a net worth of $53.5 Billion.

Hiring a personal coach, getting a membership at a gym, buying healthy foods, books and education are not expenses. They are investments: investments in yourself.

Some things you can do today to invest in yourself are:

Go to the gym and train. Physical training releases endorphins and makes you feel great. It increases productivity and energy levels. By investing time in the gym, you’ll be better able to handle daily tasks and what life throws at you. Forty-five to fifty minutes is all you need, it’s actually the best time to shoot for in a workout.

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Romance / See How Watching Porn Can Make Men Stupid By Scientists by don9ja4: 3:07pm On Jan 02, 2019
Too much porn can make men stupid, scientists have revealed.

A study by German researchers at the Max Planck Institute for Human Development found that men who watch a lot of porn generally have a smaller striatum.

The striatum is the part of the brain which processes ‘rewards and motivation’ – leading scientists to believe that pornographydamages this function.

They can also have less grey matter, making their brains generally smaller than those of men who rarely watch it.

The female leading author of the study Simone Kühn, did point out however, that it isn’t clear whether X rated material is making brains smaller, or whether men with a decreased striatum tend to watch it more often.

She added that the striatum is less active with men who consume a lot of sexual images.

Dr Kühn said: “Moreover we found that another brain region, that is also part of the striatum that is active when people see sexual stimuli, shows less activation the more pornography participants consumed.”

The study questioned 64 men aged 21 to 45 about their porn watching habits and examined who their brains reacted to pornographic images.

While it isn’t clear that porn is the root cause of men’s decreasing brains, it is fair to say that it could have a detrimental effect on them.

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Romance / 4 True Signs You Are Just His Next Option by don9ja4: 7:49am On Dec 27, 2018
When it comes to having a love that continuously goes unreciprocated, it feels like you are a victim of a perpetual black hole. You pour your energy in, but nothing ever comes out of it. But then this new person comes along and alters your state of consciousness so you think you might be a priority, when in reality you are just his next option. If you cannot decipher his intentions for you, then here are the true signs you need to look for to tell if you are just an option:

1. Out-of-the-blue appearances
Though he may have the decency to ask you over a text message about what your plans are tonight, regardless of how fast you respond, he takes forever. So you are left wondering what is actually happening or if you may wind up spending the evening with him. Instead of just carrying on the day as you would normally, you try to forgo meals (just in case of dinner) and check your phone every 5 minutes.
Then, like a bolt from the blue, there he is, either offering the chance to do something fun or messaging a short apology like, “sorry, never mind.” This shows pure unreliability. If he cared, he would respond within a reasonable time or at least give a reason for why he had contacted you in first place. Last minute requests may be pleasant at first, but treat them with caution.

2. I-need-something-from-you calls
Some friends do this too. They call you for help with moving everything out of their apartment but when you need similar assistance, suddenly everyone takes to the hills. If you find him calling up, asking for a partner to a family dinner or someone to take him to the garage to pick up his car, be wary if he has never done the same for you.

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Romance / Every Strong Relationship Has These Qualities In Common by don9ja4: 11:04pm On Dec 26, 2018
They say the perfect relationship doesn’t exist, and maybe they’re right. But happy and healthy ones do. Maybe they’re not flawless, but they’re meaningful—and they share certain characteristics and positive qualities that make them so.

Here are 17 things all strong relationships have in common:

1. Love
“When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance.” –John Lennon. Bring a little love into your life and the lives of others, and watch it work miracles.

2. Devotion
So if, God help us, we are ever tempted
to ditch our marriage when it’s lost its glow,
let’s give the thing our finest spit and polish—
and, having learned our lesson, not let go.

3. Kindness
How kind should you be? As kind as you possibly can. Who should you be kind to? To everyone you come in contact with. A kind word goes a long way. Perhaps somebody is having a bad day and you don’t know it. They are really feeling down and you offer a kind word. Maybe it’s just a friendly, “Hello, how are you today?” Maybe it’s just taking a minute or two to listen to what somebody has to say. But your few moments of attention could turn somebody’s day around. You might make them feel more worthwhile and important.

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Romance / Warning Signs Your Partner Is Going To Cheat by don9ja4: 6:24am On Dec 23, 2018
Though no one expects a partner to cheat, it still happens anyway. So, what are the tell-tale signs of a partner who might likely cheat on you?
These ones…

• When s/he is emotionally distant.This disconnection is usually the prelude to a dying relationship. For a potential cheater, it’s easier to distance oneself emotionally from someone than to confront the real problem. Psychologists regard it as cowardly.

.Absence of s*xual intimacy. When two people are still in love, s*x is normal and it happens without prompting. However, once infidelity enters the picture, physical disconnection sets in and absence of s*x is its expression. . This is especially true is no prior issues existed in this area. If nothing else, this behavior is indicative of some type of emotional or physical disconnect. Regardless, given the importance of physical connection in a relationship, a serious discussion is in order.

• When your partner suddenly demands “privacy.” Of course, in any relationship, everyone needs the “me” time; but when your partner is always in need of time alone, something isn’t right and it may be another way of easing him/herself out of your relationship.

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Romance / Science Says This Is The Day & Time Your Partner Will Most Likely Cheat by don9ja4: 8:53am On Dec 22, 2018
New research by the affair-seeking website Illicit Encounters indicates that certain days and times create the best opportunities for cheaters to engage in their illicit affairs.

The site collected data regarding the messages people send to arrange their next hook-up, determining a prediction, down to the hour, of when we can expect cheaters to contact their secret lovers.

We can get even more specific than that, though. Of about 600 messages sent each day, two different days and times stood out, according to the research.
The researchers found that as much as 2,000 messages are sent between 8 a.m. and 9 a.m. on Monday mornings—the most of any other day or time. The second most popular time? Between 9 p.m. and 10 p.m. on Friday evenings.

Surprised? Probably not. It stands to reason that cheaters are probably busy with their families during the weekends with their family. During their commute to work on Monday morning, though, cheaters might have the opportunity to check back in with their side fling. Add that to the likelihood that their partner won’t be nearby, and you have a recipe for an illicit encounter.

If you happen to catch your partner Cheat!ng (regardless of the day or time), there are some reactions you should definitely avoid. And you should understand that there may still be a way to get your relationship back.

Source:http://www.don9ja.com.ng/2018/12/22/science-says-this-is-the-day-time-your-partner-will-most-likely-cheat/
Romance / Four(4) Unique Dating Tips That Make You Stronger by don9ja4: 2:24pm On Dec 21, 2018
Dating tips may be very useful when you realize your relationship should be improved as soon as possible. Nothing can be perfect. Being in a relationship means you have to give and take. It is important to learn the things that can make your relationship stronger so you can grow together. Yes, being adjusting and caring are the must-have traits to run a fascinating, long-term relationship. The person who attracts is someone with a deep soul. It is about the energy you radiate. You should pay attention to how people respond to your energy and be aware of the energy you put out. Have A Quick Look At This Nice Advice And See What We Mean By This.

THE FOLLOWING UNIQUE DATING TIPS WILL MAKE YOU STRONGER AND HELP YOU GET YOURSELF IN THE RIGHT MINDSET.

1. ONE OF THE MOST COMMON DATING TIPS IS COMMUNICATION.

You are going to hear one of these dating tips now and many more times from a person who you are in a relationship with. If you cannot openly communicate your fears, issues or anything else with your partner, it is just not going to last. Be honest about everything and remember while communication is important, so is listening! Be all ears when needed. It is always important to pay heed to your partner’s problems and offer advice.

2. Stop thinking too far ahead.

A lot of people start getting ahead of themselves the minute they meet someone they find attractive. They start to fantasize about this new person and form expectations about what a relationship will be like with them, instead of going with the flow and finding out as they go along. This is a common mistake thousands of people make. They cling to the fantasy and idea of the person they are with, instead of focusing on actually trying to get to know them.

3. Do not wait for another person and do your best to succeed in everything

The more you are hooked on someone, the more you need to spread your energy around or you will become a mess. Your life should be filled up with various activities and interests that are not related to the person you are interested in. Do not stop talking and getting in touch with other people. Being in a relationship does not mean you become a sociopath. Always take care of your own private space. It will give you a certain vital amount of energy that will transfer into your relationship.

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Romance / Must Read: The Primary Reason A Lady Falls For A Guy (money) by don9ja4: 10:24pm On Dec 10, 2018
NOBODY WANTS TO ADMIT TO THE FACT THAT MOST LADIES FALL IN LOVE WITH GUYS ON THE BASIS OF MONEY.
Okay let’s be honest with each other, a guy spends on you, tends to your every needs even before you asked him to, you would definitely find yourself developing some feelings there or is there anyone who wants to live a life of penury.

Money may be the root of all evil, but for a relationship to thrive there must be money. It may not buy happiness but it sure buys a good life and no lady anywhere in the world wants to live a life of just love and no money.

Money is very essential to fall in love as one hardly see a lady falling in love with a broke guy, it’s true you can’t control who you fall in love with but when a guy spends for you. you sure going to find yourself falling head over heels for him.

Ladies might want to argue with this but it is just the basic truth in the recent world we find ourselves…


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Romance / Why People Always Make S*x In The Office by don9ja4: 7:21am On Dec 10, 2018
1.The fling
Just started an office affair, tread more cautiously. You don’t want to set the office gossip mills abuzz.
What to do: Until it’s serious, hide it.


2. Dating the boss
A minefield: get together with the boss and you are sleeping your way to the top. And if you are the boss you’ll be accused of abusing power.
What to do: Switch your sights to someone more lateral to you. Or hide it at all cost.

3.Forbidden romance
Some offices have strict dating policies, but the forbidden fruit always seems sweeter. Ask yourself: are you looking for passion or promotion?
What to do: Follow company guidelines.


4. Dating the partner
Starting a business with your significant other is a good and bad thing. Good because you can discuss anything, bad because the personal and professional mix.
What to do: Cultivate smaller egos.
Nearly 5 per cent of workers who have had an office romance say they have left a job because of an office relationship gone sour.

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Romance / Three (3) Best Habits You Need In Order To Find The Love Of Your Life by don9ja4: 1:56pm On Dec 07, 2018
When people are single and searching, it is not uncommon for them to ask questions such as, what do I need to do right to meet that special person who will become the love of my life?
One of the frequently-asked questions for people like this is: ‘what am I getting wrong?’ ‘what do I need to do better?’ and ‘what do I need to get right?’

If you are single and need to know which habits will make it easier to get the type of man or woman you desire, here are some of them below.

Mind you, these are not conclusive rules but they are valid and important for anyone who really has one or more of the questions above and truly increases your chance to meet that lover you’ve always wanted.

1. Self love
Finding love starts with loving yourself because, really, if you do not love yourself, who will?

It will be difficult to show people how to love you. It will be difficult, as well to give people what you do not have. If you love yourself, you do not only become more independent and in charge of your life, you also become easier to love and will find it less difficult to find love.

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Romance / Ten (10) Signs Your Date Is Not Going Well by don9ja4: 9:05am On Dec 07, 2018
Everyone dreams of a date where it seems like nothing in the world could make the experience more blissful (not even your favorite band descending from the roof of your favorite restaurant). In reality, though, most dates are uncomfortable and the you would rather replace that awkward silence with a stadium full of screaming Wizkid’s fans. These are the 10 signs your date isn’t going to end like a Disney movie:

1. She’s late and makes you wait at least an hour, updating you with smss about her state of UnCloth, levels of stress, what a day she’s had while you wait patiently… resisting a third beer. “lolz! sorreeee!!!! � xoxoxo”.
Verdict: Tardiness means she probably doesn’t really care about you or the date and that’s a bad signal to receive before the date has even really begun.


2. Your ill-advised opening line is “hello sugartits!” and then you remember that she wasn’t the one girl in the club who found that funny when you met. Explaining yourself is futile.
Verdict: Tequila-induced amnesia on your part and sense of humor failure on hers. You, as a collective, are doomed.

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Romance / Five (5) Signs You Are Dating A Married Man by don9ja4: 8:00am On Dec 07, 2018
You think you have met the perfect guy, but you just feel something isn’t right or the relationship isn’t as smooth as how you want it to be. He’s probably holding back for a reason, you just might be a side chick.


1. Limited Availability
This is a major red flag. If he’s only available to talk or see you at odd hours, Married men will often talk to you when their wife is away and vanish when she returns.

2. He never invites you over
If you’ve been dating a guy for awhile, and you’ve never been to his house or he is reluctant in when it comes to inviting you over, just know that something is up. He doesn’t want you over because his wife and family are at home and you’ll see the evidence of his other life.

3. He never spends holidays or special events with you
Married men are hardly free to mingle at holidays or special events because getting away from their wives won’t be so easy, it’s easier for him to make up excuses to give his side chick than his wife.

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Romance / Five (5) Tips To Get You Back In The Dating Game by don9ja4: 7:20am On Dec 07, 2018
1.MATCH YOUR INTERESTS
Then: You’d practise your lines
Now: Take up a hobby

Market research firm Penn Schoen Berland found 34 percent of single women in their late twenties and thirties don’t actively look for a partner as they don’t think they’ll find someone they have anything in common with. “Take up an interesting hobby,” says Leil Lowndes, author of How To Make Anyone Fall In Love With You. “You’ll meet women you already have something in common with, and it’ll help build confidence. Look her in the eye and say in your head ‘I like you’,” says Lowndes. “The time it takes to do this is the optimum length of lingering eye contact. Secondly, repeating it will soften your features so you look more approachable. And thirdly, it’ll stop you thinking ‘does she like me?’, which would make you seem nervous and shy.” Just don’t say it out loud or you’ll be barred from Adult Creative Pottery classes.

2. GET A FEMALE POINT OF VIEW
Then: You’d get your mate to act as a wingman in a club
Now: Enlist your female friends

You could definitely lose your dignity on that dance floor, and the odds are you won’t find love there. A study by the University of Michigan found while 50 percent of 18 year olds go to bars or clubs twice a week, only 25 percent of 32 year olds venture out even once a week. There’s a better way: recent studies at Temple University in Pennsylvania found that 63 percent of long-term couples were introduced by friends, especially female friends. “Newly single men in their thirties get far more support from their female friends than women when it comes to meeting a new partner,” says Dr Judith Sills, author of Getting Nakked Again. “They’re far more likely to suggest matches, arrange dates and help you adapt to single life.”

It may be tempting to let them broker the whole deal for you, but it’s worth asking for the lady’s phone number and calling to arrange the date yourself. Studies published in the journal Evolution and Human Behavior found that you can instinctively and accurately predict how physically attractive you’ll find a woman from her voice alone. This is because attractive women are more confident, so they subconsciously alter their pitch and tone to sound more feminine and seductive. Call it the aural cex test.

3. “SCREEN TEST” HER FIRST
Then: Dinner and a film
Now: You both screen your dates

Don’t commit to a hefty restaurant bill and an interminable rom-com. It’s now acceptable to schedule a “pre-date” – a daytime meet or early evening drink. “Women in their thirties are also jaded by the dating process, so don’t want to waste their time on dates that are going nowhere,” says Green. “A pre-date takes the pressure off – if there’s no spark you don’t have to spend the even-ing together. You’ll also escape the regimented awkwardness of the dinner date, so you’ll both act more naturally and you’ll get a more accurate impression of her.” Even if it’s going well, cut it short. A study in the Journal of Marriage and Family found leaving her wanting more will increase her desire. And it’ll leave you time to see the lovely lady from last week’s pre-date.

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Romance / Don’t Ever Consider Marrying These 10 Types Of Women (for Men) by don9ja4: 4:50pm On Dec 06, 2018
Here are the 10 types of women you shouldn’t consider marrying;


1. The Chatterbox

This is the woman who never shuts up, barely stopping to breathe. Seemingly only concerned about what is going on in her life, she always has to make a comment about everything and dominates conversations.

2. The Desperate Chick

This type of woman will seem fantastic at first, until she starts talking about your wedding location, how many kids she wants and the name of your future dog–right after the first date! When a woman advances WAY faster than normal,watch out.

She NEEDS a man so bad that she’s willing to put anybody in that slot, even the homeless guy on the corner.

3. The Overly-Critical Woman

Anything you do for this type of woman is simply not good enough. Nothing seems to work unless it is done according to her standards.

Anything that is said by anyone will be quickly taken out of context to become some sort of insult or some reason to wage war against the world.

This type of woman has plenty of emotional baggage and will make you an angry and bitter person as there will be nothing but misery with her.

4. The High Maintenance Chick

If this type of woman breaks a nail, she expects you to drop everything you’re doing to drive her to the salon immediately. Her daddy always told her she was a princess and she expects to be treated like one at all times.

She has expensive taste and expects you to shower her with only the best things and take her out to posh places on a regular basis. If you don’t have a lot of money and a penchant for luxury, don’t even bother.

5. The Clingy Girl

This woman is a nuisance who can’t go anywhere or do anything without the company of her man. She’ll adopt your interests, calls 20 times a day and fly off the handle anytime she’s not around to monitor your behavior.

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Romance / Seven (7) Signs A Girl Gives Away If She Wants To Sleep With You by don9ja4: 1:25pm On Dec 06, 2018
Don’t get caught with your pants down when she isn’t planning on taking hers off. Find out if she’s down to get in bed before you try any funny stuff!
Women are complicated in so many ways, but sending mixed signals is one of the most baffling things that they are capable of. A lot of men are caught unawares because women can surprise them by initiating the first move or rejecting any of his moves altogether.

It’s not their fault. Women are biologically enticing. They emit pheromones that can make any generic male specimen long for their touch. The problem is that women are not always interested in cex.


It may come off that way because they seem beguiling and seductive, but that’s just them being who they are. Not all of them are out to tease you. They are just exuding their feminine wiles because it’s natural.

If you really want to sleep with them, you need to know if they are ready and willing. If not, you’ll end up asking for something that they’re not planning on giving. It will be very disappointing – not to mention humiliating – if you did try to have cex with a woman and ended up being rejected on the spot.

Why won’t she sleep with you?


Women will refuse to sleep with you because of various reasons, including but not limited to their level of attraction to you, their interest in cex altogether, and their principles and ideals. So what are the common reasons she won’t hop into bed with you? Here are a few.

#1 She’s on her period. You saw it coming, but you didn’t expect it to be that blunt. Most women will refuse cex when they are on their period. Some may concede and allow it, but that usually applies to women who are in relationships or who just plainly enjoy period cex.

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Romance / Five (5) Habits That Women Find Very Attractive In Men Apart From Look by don9ja4: 7:50am On Dec 06, 2018
There are a few habits and behaviors can increase your chances of attraction than your looks.

Forget the six packs, the well-defined biceps, and triceps. We want to indulge your mind with an alternative reality of what it takes to become that guy that women want to talk with, spend time with, and date.


So are you ready? Let’s get started.

1. SELF CONFIDENCE
Women like men who are sure of themselves. A nervous, uncertain guy may leave too much decision-making up to women, and that puts the burden on them to make the right decisions or risk disapproval. Nerves can also be contagious in a social setting; a man with self-confidence can put a woman at ease.

2. EMPATHY
There is a fine line between being confident and being arrogant. Whether in business or in a personal relationship, it is important not to put others down to build yourself up. Being mean and acting superior shows insecurity, not true confidence.

3. OPTIMISM
Optimism is not quite the same as self-confidence. Self-confidence shows a can-do attitude. Optimism is believing that things beyond a man’s control are going to work out just fine anyway. Since women can be natural worriers, the ability to offer reassurance is an attractive quality.

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Romance / Difference Between A Mature Relationship And An Immature Relationship by don9ja4: 12:02am On Dec 06, 2018
Mature couples don’t “fall in love,” they step into it. Love isn’t something you fall for; it’s something you rise for.

Falling denotes lowering oneself, dropping down and being stuck somewhere lower than where you started. You have to get up from falling.

Love isn’t like that — at least not with people who are doing it right. Immature couples fall; mature couples coast. Because love is either a passing game, or it’s forever. Love is either wrong, or it’s right. A couple is either mature or immature.

How do you know? How can you tell if your relationship is in it for the long haul or the two-month plummet everyone predicted behind your love-obsessed back?

First, it should be easy, from the beginning to end. There are no passionate fights with passionate make-up sex. There’s no obsessive calling, texting or worrying.

There’s no real drama. Because drama is for kids. Drama is for people who don’t know how to have a relationship — who live by idealistic, preconceived notions that love must be wild and obsessive.

Love is easy. It’s the easiest thing you’ve ever done. It’s the calmest place in your life, the safest blanket you’ve ever worn. It’s something that happens naturally; it doesn’t need to be fought for day in and day out.

When you love someone, and he or she loves you, and there’s no doubt to his or her feelings and no doubt to yours, that’s peace of mind. A peace of mind you’ve never had before.. the kind that humbles and revives you.

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Romance / Three (3) Signs That Shows You Are Dating An Untrustworthy Man by don9ja4: 5:37pm On Dec 05, 2018
IS THERE CHANCE TO ANTICIPATE THAT SOMEONE IS GOING TO DECEIVE YOU OR WALK AWAY FROM YOU? CAN YOU GET OUT AND STAY SAFE WHEN YOU GIVE YOUR HEART?


Here are 3 signs that your man is not trustworthy. Don’t ignore them!

1. HE LIES ABOUT LITTLE THINGS.
A guy that lies about foolish details won’t hesitate to lie to you about the things that truly matter. That’s just a fact. So before you go making excuses for his “little” lies, you should ask yourself if you are okay with big ones because those are sure to follow.

2. HE’S CHEATED.
Okay, I hate to say that Cheat!ng means someone is automatically a loser because that isn’t true. People make mistakes. But Cheat!ng also tells you a lot about someone’s character and whether or not you can trust him.

It’s up to you to decide if you can accept his reason for Cheat!ng and if you believe the story about how and why it happened. But when you are in the dating stages and a man cheats, think long and hard about whether or not you truly have a future and if this man is worthy of your love. If he doesn’t respect your enough to stay faithful now, you have to wonder if he will be able to do so years down the line.

3. YOU CAN’T DEPEND ON HIM.
Reliability and honesty go hand in hand. If your man tells you that he will do something or he will be there for you, he has to mean it and follow through. His failure to do so should tell you a lot about who he is. If I can’t depend on someone, it tells me that I can’t trust that person because he doesn’t always come through.

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Romance / 11 Signs She’s Using You Emotionally & Just Playing With Your Heart by don9ja4: 4:12pm On Dec 05, 2018
You may be seriously head over heels for her, but she’s not fully committing to you. What are the signs she’s using you emotionally?

Are you someone who will be open and vulnerable and take a risk on your love? First, you need to figure out if the girl you’re with shows the signs she’s using you emotionally.

First of all, love isn’t easy. When we do find it, it gets even harder. Now, this doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t fall in love—you should! It’s one of the best feelings you’ll experience. But you want to make sure that you’re giving your heart to someone who actually wants to cherish it. I know, I sound like I’m 90 years old, but I’m speaking the truth here!

This isn’t to say all women are going to string you along, but there are many that will. Is this because they’re evil? No. This is simply because they’re scared of getting hurt.

The 11 must-know signs she’s using you emotionally

Women aren’t stupid. We see how many men have side chicks and don’t respect the point of being in a relationship. So, to deal with this, we keep our options open even when we might really like you. Why is this? It’s all done so that we save ourselves from getting hurt. I’m not saying she’s a good or bad person because of this, I’m telling you what it is.

Stringing anyone along is a selfish thing to do while you’re keeping your options open. This shows huge trust issues, ones that will take time to overcome. If someone is stringing you along, you respect yourself, so find someone new. Cause we all know, it’s not cool.


#1 You feel something slightly off. You have intuition, don’t kid yourself. You know when something doesn’t feel completely right and if that’s the case then there’s definitely something wrong in the relationship. Now, this doesn’t mean that she’s emotionally using you, it could be a sense of something else, but the point is, you feel it inside of you.

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Romance / 12 Well-hidden Signs You’re Not The Only One She’s Sleeping With by don9ja4: 9:14am On Dec 05, 2018
You may really like her, but you sense you’re not the only one. Well, it’s time you figure out the signs you’re not the only one she’s sleeping with.
Of course, we all know that guys can have side chicks, but most of us forget that women are also cheaters. Yes, both sides are guilty. Let’s get this straight, not all women and men cheat, so you can find someone who’s loyal and faithful. However, at this moment, since you feel doubt, the person you’re dating isn’t one of them—maybe. But before we start accusing them of sleeping around, let’s look at some signs you’re not the only one she’s sleeping with.

How to tell the signs you’re not the only one she’s sleeping with

Ah yes, most guys think that you’re the one with a handful of women that you switch around, but this is the 21st century, people. Nowadays, it’s normal for people, including women, to have multiple partners when they’re single… and… not single. Sorry to break it to you. But this is the reality.

When I was single, I went on dates with a couple guys, trying to see which one I connected with the best, etc. Now, this is fine. However, it becomes tricky when you stop casually dating and go into something more serious. Why? Because then it’s Cheat!ng. No one likes to be with a cheater.

Maybe you’re the notch on her bedpost. What a plot twist.

#1 She’s physically changed. Normally, she’s wearing sweatpants and hanging out with you at home. But now, she’s been doing her makeup, fixing her hair, and maybe even changing her outfits. If she gets a new shirt, that doesn’t mean anything until you base this from the norm. What is she usually looking like? Has it drastically changed from that norm?

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Romance / See How To Get A Guy’s Attention On Instagram Without Using Your Body by don9ja4: 6:59am On Dec 05, 2018
It’s the Insta era. Somehow that means the answer to knowing how to get a guy’s attention on Instagram is to get Nakked. But listen, there are other ways.
Yes, yes, yes. I am fully aware of the frustration of Instagram “likes” and learning how to get a guy’s attention on Instagram can be freaking exhausting. It is just so crowded with girls just like you trying to do the same thing. Since I’m a blogger, and a Public Relations graduate, Instagram is sort of my thing. I’ve done so much research on how to get more likes, more followers, more engagement, etc. It is seriously exhausting.

Girls post a photo of their avocado toast with no filter, and they can post it whenever they want to post it, and they get 300 likes. Me? I filter my photo to match my Instagram theme, post it at the exact time that my followers are online based on my analytics, tag accounts in the photo, geotag the photo, use relevant hashtags, etc., etc., etc. You know what I get? Oh, I don’t know, 50 likes? It is so, so frustrating.

But you know what happened yesterday? My girls and I went to the beach and decided to feel liberated and take Tople$$ photos. Slow your roll, dudes, you can’t see a thing in the photos. *The photos were taken from behind*. But anyways, you know how many likes that photo got? Almost 200. HELLO. Welcome to the internet. I hope you enjoy your stay. You might need to do some yoga to destress from it, dang.

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Romance / 15 Ways To Win Her Over With Your Charm by don9ja4: 1:40pm On Dec 04, 2018
Some men are just born with the gentleman gene, but it is not always like that. You can indeed learn how to be a gentleman over time.
Feminism may be on the rise as women are fighting equality in all walks of life, but that doesn’t mean we don’t still appreciate the traditional values of an old-fashioned gentleman. Learning how to be a gentleman and charm her will serve you well.

Having a man hold the door open for you, pull out your chair, and even walk around to the other side of the car to help you out are not merely kind gestures. These are small moments that show the lengths that a man is willing to go for you.

What does it mean to be a gentleman?

Being a gentleman does not mean you are wimpy or overly-sensitive. It does not make you weak or less macho. In fact, being a gentleman gives you a leg up.

A gentleman is a chivalrous, polite, and honorable man. These characteristics that make up a gentleman are more than hand-holding and being courteous. They include a proper sense of right and wrong, tolerance, and respect for everyone.

So although you may want to learn how to be a gentleman in the realm of dating, becoming a real gentleman goes far beyond that and takes effect in all part of your life.

How to be a gentleman

What are some things you can do, say, or change in order to be a gentleman? Odds are you aren’t the opposite of a gentleman now, at least I hope not. So you aren’t starting from scratch.

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Romance / Seven(7) Signs Of A Dying Relationship by don9ja4: 1:16pm On Dec 03, 2018
You don’t walk away to prove your worth. You walk away because you allowed someone else to dictate your value and you found yourself believing it.”

However, when a relationship becomes more work than it is fun, it can mean that the relationship is slowly dying.
“In other words, if you can’t talk about the hard things, you’ll also feel less warmth and affection; and over time less fondness and admiration for your partner, ” adds Gaspard.
Has your relationship been through a rough patch lately that doesn’t seem to end? You may want to check out these signs of a dying relationship, and see if it’s time to let the relationship go – for your sake, and your partner’s.

Here Are 7 Signs Of A Dying Relationship

1. You don’t talk about personal things anymore
At the beginning of the relationship, maybe you discussed all of your hopes and dreams, and serious issues in your life. But now, it seems like all of your conversations are rehearsed and rehashed small talk. You’re no longer discussing real, emotional things and instead, seem to only talk about how your day went and what to have for dinner.
“ When you share your struggles and difficulties you not only strengthen your bond through your vulnerability but you also set the precedence for an open and nonjudgmental relationship for the future, ” says life and wellness coach Dana Peters.
Therefore, it’s clear that when there’s nothing left to talk about, the relationship starts to die.

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Romance / As A Wife Four(4) Things You Should Always Say To Your Husband by don9ja4: 12:07am On Dec 03, 2018
These experiences taught me that solid marriages and crumbling marriages are both a direct result of the small things. Below are four small phrases you can say to your husband to add weight to the words “I love you.”

Say this: “I’m proud of you.”

I recently heard Pastor Steven Furtick say, “Most men feel like they are not cutting it.”

I think this is true. Most men feel like they’re not good enough. When Holly says, “I’m proud of you,” what I really hear is that she is proud to be associated with me and proud to be seen with me. One of the most powerful ways a wife can show pride for her husband is to brag on him. Brag on him to the kids: “Your daddy works so hard every day! Did you know daddy is the best mechanic in Dallas? I am so proud he is my husband and your daddy!” Brag on him to your family and friends.

When your spouse finds out you’re bragging about him, guess what will happen? I bet you he’ll become a more confident person—a man who realizes he’s not only cutting it, but actually excelling as the man God created him to be.

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Romance / I Love You: 15 Powerful Things To Tell Your Partner by don9ja4: 10:58am On Nov 30, 2018
We get caught up in saying ‘I love you’ when we leave our partner, greet our partner, or when something really good happens. The words ‘I love you’ can lose their meaning when you are only using them in this way. Letting your partner know why you love them consistently in many different ways can do a lot of powerful things for your relationship.

– It can help them feel appreciated and show appreciation back.
– It can help them feel good about themselves when they are feeling down.
– It can remind them that they are in an awesome relationship and they need to take the time to slow down and appreciate it.
– It can make them feel lucky that you are the one they are in a relationship with and not some jerk who never shows their love.
– They recall your words at times they need to be reminded that they are loved.

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Romance / Worship The Woman You Love This Seven(7) Ways To Keep The Fire Of Love Burning by don9ja4: 8:54am On Nov 30, 2018
Men in Female Led Relationships enjoy showing appreciation for the women in their lives in ways that are a little more emotionally involved than the average man. We call this type of appreciation worship because it demonstrates a man’s willing devotion to the happiness and satisfaction of the woman he loves.

Every man should learn how to worship the woman he loves. Here are 7 ways to excel at the art of worshiping a woman.

MouthAction

Offering a loving session of cunnilingus is the number one way to worship the woman you love. When you kneel before her treasure and your focus is only on pleasing her, you are showing her that you honor her in the most fundamental and pleasurable way.

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Romance / Caring Guys:five(5) Reasons They Never Stop! by don9ja4: 8:21am On Nov 29, 2018
Relationships are always very complicated. Sometimes, the little things we do can go a long way to spice it up. We have seen instances when a guy can go extra miles just to make his woman happy.

Sadly, most us misconstrue some of these things and think that such a guy has been bewitched. This is not true, some act of kindness a girl exhibit to her guy can be more intoxicating than the strongest love portion. In this article, you will the 5 reasons why some guys never stop caring.

Top 5 Reasons Why Some Guys Never Stop Caring

1. When They Love You Exceptionally

One of the reasons why some guys never stop caring is love. When a guy loves you, he can go extra miles to make you happy.

In fact, some of them can sacrifice their future for you ( This one strong o). Oh! Haven’t you seen instances when guys use their school fees to pay their girl friend’s school fees? ( This one na stupidity sha). The reasons for all these is because he loves that girl unconditionally.

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Romance / Three(3) Best Ways To Flirt With A Guy by don9ja4: 7:59am On Nov 26, 2018
But obviously, guys are very different from ladies in a myriad of ways, so here are some more specific methods to send the right message to the dude of your dreams:


Get physical
Go ahead: touch! Physical contact is not only a sign that you’re interested — if he feels the same way, it’ll also shoot a mini jolt of romantic electricity through his body. So the next time he makes a funny joke, give him a little tap, squeeze, or even one of those playful punches of yours! (Just don’t knock him out.)

Engage
Ask questions; keep conversation flowing; suggest plans. The younger or less mature the guy, the more direct you might need to be (e.g. “Want to get coffee some time?”), as a lack of experience can translate to a lack of assertiveness. But a more self-assured dude who’s already into you will pick up on even the most subtle of prompts (e.g. “Cool sneakers.”) and flirt right back.

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