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From interviewing beautiful women for the Sex God Method and from talking with female friends informally, I know there are a few things which almost EVERY woman wishes men did more of in bed. Here are the top 10:

1. GIVING HER AN ORGASM BEFORE INTERCOURSE STARTS
This is far and away the biggest thing women wish men did more of in bed. Most men don’t do this – instead, they clumsily plow straight to intercourse as fast as possible. This means that “pre-intimacy” usually consists of a few minutes of obligatory kissing, followed by a few minutes of obligatory breast stimulation, followed by a few minutes of obligatory cunnilingus until the ultimate goal of intercourse is reached. This isn’t what women want!

If you can give her an orgasm before you penetrate her, then it’s GUARANTEED to be good sex in her book, even if you don’t last as long as you’d like. And on top of this, giving her an orgasm will make her more responsive and MUCH more likely to have another orgasm during intercourse. Sex becomes better for you, and for her.

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Worried about confessing love to a crush? Do you fear she will refuse? Here are six steps to fearless confessions.

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When it comes to talking to women, most guys are reserved and scared of ruining it, so they don’t dare to tempt her.

In this article I want to show you the hidden language ‘naturals’ use when talking to women and why that works so incredibly well.

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Whether you’re attached, flying solo, or somewhere in between, there’s bound to be something on your heart’s mind. From how sex can improve your health to the ultimate guide to contraception and the science of a broken heart (ugh, sorry…), check out these resources for everything you want and need to know about love, sex, and romance.

Relationships and Love

1. How I Stay Single and Sane While All My Friends Are In Relationships

There have been laughable dates, periodic tears, and lots of people who feel sorry for her. Here’s how one Greatist writer learned to cope with being single when (almost) everyone else her age had already paired off.

2. How to Set Healthy Boundaries in Every Relationship

Guest Writer Jennifer Kass outlines how to know if you’re not setting healthy boundaries in a relationship, plus three crucial steps for becoming your own best advocate.

3. How to Find Love in 4 Minutes: The Science of Speed Dating

What else can ruin a first date besides bad breath? It turns out, a lot. Researchers analyzed speed-dating interviews and found several factors that predict a lack of connection.

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When a friend of mine told me she only dated men because women are too complicated, it stung. I remembered all the times I’d been on the receiving end of this “women are complicated” stereotype.

There was those times when I took issue with my ex-partner when he was gaslighting me or not listening, and he’d tell me I was being petty and losing sight of what’s important.

There was that other time when I confronted another ex about telling mean jokes about me, and he responded by telling me I was “overanalyzing” it.

Not to mention all the men I’ve witnessed in person and on TV who’ve looked at each other, rolling their eyes, and complained – “women.”

I don’t think I’m the only one who has witnessed or experienced this. There are countless women who’ve been told they’re complicated – especially if, God forbid, they ever ask for something in a relationship.

For whatever reason, it’s commonly believed that men are simple and women are too complicated (and non-binary people supposedly don’t even exist).

But are women really too complicated?

I would say, simply put: No.

Most claims about the innate differences between men and women are scientifically unfounded. It’s more likely that the idea that women are more complicated often gets used to discount their feelings and that’s not cool.

We need to stop saying women are complicated and start empathizing with them. Here’s why:
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When you first meet a woman and you both don’t know each other that well yet, you may be wondering… what kind of girl is she? Does she want a casual relationship, or is she looking for something serious? Is she open minded about having sex the first night, or does she have moral judgments about that sort of thing?

The good news is – she doesn’t know any of these things about you either. So it is up to you to present yourself in the light that you want to be seen in… to set your very own relationship expectations… and to put the relationship in the context of your choice.

For example, I once had a friend who was looking for a wife. He met a girl on the internet, and when I saw the two of them together, she seemed to be exactly what one might want in a wife: conservative, loyal, “hard-to-get” and trustworthy.

The question is, however: did she just present herself that way because my friend had subcommunicated his expectations?

What if I had been the one to meet her on that dating site instead of him… and what if I had told her that I enjoy my single life?

What if I had implied that I was a sexual man – that I think casual sex is fun, healthy and perfectly okay?
You can bet MONEY that she would have presented herself in a very different light indeed… and that an entirely different relationship would have resulted from the first date.

So the question is… what kind of relationship do YOU want?

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Dating as a Christian has some profound differences than dating in the secular world. Here is what I have discovered going from dating in the secular world compared to dating a godly man.

Before dating my husband, I had never “followed” per say any guidelines that a Christian woman would follow dating. I didn’t follow specific commands found in the Bible and it wasn’t that I didn’t believe in God, but it was because I lacked a relationship with Christ. Although my intimate relationship with God begun just a few months before dating Nick, I learned a lot just by being around a man with godly integrity who stood firm in his faith. Just as said in Proverbs 27:17, “ As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.”

These are the 7 things I have learned from dating a godly man.

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When asked to describe the purpose of
romance, a woman will use words such
as friendship , relationship , endearment ,
and tenderness .

Given the same question, a
man will answer with one of the shortest
words in the English language— sex . For him,
physical oneness and affirmation of his
manhood equal romance.

Can two people with such different
perspectives have their expectations met?
Absolutely! But creating adventurous romance
requires planning and enthusiastic effort. The
relationship has to be a top priority.
One reason so many marriage beds are frozen
over or boring is that couples just don’t have
time for romance and sex.
Too many husbands and wives try to work sex in
between the evening news and late night talk
shows.

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It is better to relate with a new person with a clear, unjaded mind; willing and open to learning about them from the scratch. It is better to enter into the new relationship on a clean slate, and with a clear, unjaded mind which is willing and open to learning about the other person without any prejudice and or misinformation. “5 relationship lies to throw away immediately“.

This unlearning process is absolutely necessary given how there are many falsehoods, half-truths and misleading opinions about men, women, relationships and marriages everywhere one turns.

Five of these opinions, which need to be discarded immediately are busted below:

1. Money is compulsory

You don’t need to give your partner for your relationship to thrive. You don’t need to give sex for the relationship to work.

This may sound weird but it is true. These things are present in almost every happy relationship [not marriage] but they are not on the same level of importance as other things such as commitment, faithfulness, etc.

Don’t ever feel compelled to give either of this in a relationship. It is fine if you are cool with doing it but if you aren’t, don’t.

Although it is advisable that you share everything you have with your partner, including money, as a foreshadowing of what to come when you get married.

2. Love is proven by sex

If anyone ever tries to sell you an opposite idea, reject it flat down. There are sexless relationships brimming with love, contentment and all the happiness imaginable, just as there are relationships filled with sex and nothing more.

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I had to laugh at the (seemingly) adorable naiveté of her questions. To think making a man fall in love could be reduced to a simple set of instructions!

Later in the day, I started thinking about her question a little more. The more I thought about it, the more I realized that getting a man to fall in love really can be achieved following a few simple steps. And I was instantly able to pinpoint what they are.

Here you go:

Step 1: Attraction

This is the most obvious step…sparking a guy’s interest always starts with attraction. Being attractive to a guy doesn’t necessarily mean looking like a cover girl, it really boils down to being confident with who you are and what you look like.

It’s important to take care of yourself no matter what stage of a relationship you’re in. Make sure you fit exercise into your life– staying in shape has all sorts of benefits, especially when it comes to the way you look and the way you feel.

Step 2: Go with the Flow

So an attraction has ignited you just start hanging out. You text and talk on the phone here and there, but you’re still in that stage where you don’t quite know where this is going. Just go with it!

Don’t analyze, don’t obsess, don’t plot, don’t stress. And don’t consider yourself off the market just because there’s a guy in the picture that you really, really like. Keep your options open, play it cool, and give him the space to come to you. And stop checking your phone every five seconds to see if he texted. Seriously, stop.

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Sometimes we let our thoughts and emotions get the best of us. When we get upset and angry, we take those emotions out on the people we care for the most, especially our spouse. If you have offended your spouse, do not fret. You can make amends. However, don’t just settle for a simple “I’m sorry.”

Tell your spouse just how much you do care by apologizing with one of these fun ideas.

Write

Words are an excellent way to show how much you care. Write a letter to your spouse asking for forgiveness. Be willing to open your heart and share your emotions with him. Share the frustrations and sadness that may be in your heart.
Another fun and simple way to apologize to your spouse is to write a list of all the reasons why you love him. Preface or conclude the list by asking for forgiveness and tell him why you did what you did. Throughout the list, share with him all of the reasons that your heart begins to beat fast when he walks in the room, and how much you love cuddling him on the couch. This type of list will not only make him happy, it is also an excellent way to strengthen your marriage and remind both of you why you fell in love with each other in the first place.

Physical touch

Sometimes all it takes is a hug, a handhold or snuggling on the couch to show that you are truly sorry for what you have done. Physical touch is a powerful thing. Think about the times when you have had a bad day, did a hug or a kiss turn it around? Think about a baby or young child when they are upset, frightened or sad. Does the embrace from a loving parent help calm him down? Be willing to get close to your spouse when you have done something wrong. Ask for forgiveness, explain the feelings in your heart, and then give your husband a hug, a kiss or even just put your hand on his knee. There is power in touch.

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No one likes to be broken and hurt. As sentient beings, we were created with the ability to love and be loved. But what do you do when you love someone and the person fails to return your feelings?

It is important not to focus on disappointment or feel that you have failed somehow. Instead, focus on the opportunity to grow from the situation. Loving someone means you are willing to give and offer a piece of yourself to make another person happier. When this is returned, you will feel wonderful. But when it is not, you will pass through a period that gives you opportunity to evolve — and become stronger. Here is why.

You have a deeper understanding of what life and love really means

Being vulnerable is consuming. You need strength to love and you also need to be able to define what love or loving someone truly means. Without any risk or cause for pain, no knowledge is gained. When enduring a devastating period of loving someone who doesn’t love you back, you are able to evaluate the situation and prepare for something similar in the future.

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It is quite easy to get into a relationship, but maintaining it, is a big deal. Everything seems to be relishing at the initial stage of a relationship but as the time passes, interest from both the sides start diminishing.

‘You are not the same person as you were before’ a very common statement used when a relation grows older and becomes boring. People welcome new relations even without giving a second thought to it.

‘One goes and the other comes’, is a very popular trend in today’s world. But have you ever thought over, why doesn’t your relationship last for long? No, people are too busy in their lives to think over it and at the same time they are so engrossed in the sudden fast changes of their life that they hardly pay any attention to the cause of all that happens to them.

All that is needed is to think why your relation is not working or why it did not work. There are a number of things that can bring undesirable changes to your relation that generally go unnoticed by you.

Following are certain common things that you think as least important but they can poison your relationship.

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You know things are not going well for you and your spouse. Your partner did seem stern, aloof and resentful that last time you spoke to each other. Like always you expect them to come around, let go of the steam and become their normal self with time. Instead, one day, you come home to find their clothes missing from their cupboards and a piece of paper on the dinner table- a divorce notice.

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Tough relationships — we all have them. But what do they leave you with? Sure, they leave you with a lot of heartbreak, but what do they leave you believing about yourself? It burdens my heart so much to see the lies other people can make people believe about themselves. Here are a few lies I found people believing after and/or during a bad relationship — myself included.

1. “I can change them.”

First and foremost, you cannot change another person. I repeat — you cannot change another person. This is the first red flag. You should never go into a relationship with intentions to change someone because it will continually leave you disappointed. People aren’t going to change without willingness and conviction, and those two things are to be brought on by the Holy Spirit. Guard your heart and don’t try to be their savior, because quite frankly you can’t be.


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Being honest about all of her thoughts and feelings is one of the biggest signs you can trust your partner, says Shaunti Feldhahn, social researcher and author of The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages:

The Little Things That Make a Big Difference. “Openness and vulnerability in conversation—their willingness to really open up their heart and share what they’re really thinking, even if it puts them at risk for ridicule and being criticized for you—that is a scary thing in a lot of relationships,” she says.

That said, just because your partner doesn’t immediately jump to tell you her thoughts doesn’t mean she isn’t willing to share.

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It was Alexander Graham Bell who once said, “When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.”

Who knew the inventor of the telephone was so good at giving advice that can be applied to your dating life?

Now, breaking up is never really easy to do. But for some, the process of getting over a failed relationship can linger a little longer than for others, which sometimes begs the loaded question: why can it be so difficult to get over an ex?

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In the early stages of a relationship, everything will feel so sweet and so romantic… like a page pulled out of a splendid fairy tale.
Sadly this giddy feeling often fades off at some point, leaving the partners stripped and wondering if they are still in love at all. This is usually the stage where many relationships crash.

But according to couples who have been together for 30 years and more, this is what love feels like with the right person… the one with whom you can spend forever.

1. Feels like you’ve known each other forever

Mrs. Nnena says when she started dating her husband in 1984, it felt like they had known each other forever and even when they got married in 1985 it only felt natural. 32 years later, their three daughters are now happily married and they are still very happy together.

2. Accept each other

Partners that will last together accept each other the way they are from the onset. They take themselves as they are – no attempt to change or turn the other person around to suit their ‘taste’

“He always accepted me with the baggage I came with. When I look at my husband today, I see the same guy I fell in love with 53 years ago.”Says Elizabeth.

3. You don’t just love each other

If a relationship is going to last long, you’ll discover from an early stage that you and that partner will love each other, and also likeeach other.

Mrs. Suliat [not her real identity] says “after 39 years, my husband and I still like each other a lot. We’re together almost every moment of every day and still find laughter.”

4. They do little things to make you happy

Love remains to be found in the little things and one way to identify a partner who’ll be with you for a long, long time is their ability and willingness to do little things to make you happy.


“After almost half a century together, I would marry my husband all over again. He knows how much pleasure I [find in little things]. After all these years, he still adores me and I adore him.” Says Naomi, married for 43 years.

5. Similar values

When you find someone with whom you have similar goals, similar ideas and a significant merge of values and things that mean a lot to you, then you can be sure that you will be with such person for long.

“Too many people expect perfection from their spouse, but people aren’t perfect. The fact that we wanted the same things out of life was the sign to me that we were meant to be.” Says Nana, a grandma married for 41 years.Dating & relationships are not the same.

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Yep, this time of year makes us want to have babies, as there is a surge in pregnancies from people wanting to start a family because they’re in the festive mood.

Research, in the journal of scientific report claims that an increase in pregnancies in society is dictated by cultural holidays.
The results showed that there was a much greater use of the word ‘sex’ and other sex-related terms in web searches during cultural and religious celebrations.

Luis Rocha, a professor in the IU School of Informatics who co-authored the study, wrote: “We observe that Christmas and Eid-Al-Fitr are characterized by distinct collective moods that correlate with increased fertility.
“Perhaps people feel a greater motivation to grow their families during holidays when the emphasis is on love and gift-giving to children.
“The Christmas season is also associated with stories about the baby Jesus and holy family, which may put people in a loving, happy, ‘family mood.'”

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For example, your predilection toward doggy style indicates that you “have a real disdain toward women, and you try and degrade them any chance you get” — an assessment that is really kind of degrading to both men and women in and of itself.

Sure, it’s a joke. But it’s a joke that supports the very worst, most harmful assumptions about men’s sexuality. I could go on and on about the ways in which such a joke shames both men and women for having the kind of sex they want to have, not to mention the fact that some of the most loving, connected sex I’ve had in my life has been in the canine position — but I would l probably only be written off as a wet blanket by the ranks of bro–dom.

Source:http://www.don9ja.com.ng/2017/12/29/what-your-favorite-sex-style-say-about-you/

How important is sex? Sex should not be the entire basis of a relationship, but it is important for the survival of a relationship. A healthy sex life helps couples feel connected.

Not only is sex a key ingredient to a lasting relationship, according to this article from Web MDk, there are many health benefits from a healthy sex life, also.

Web MD lists among the health benefits: stress relief, an immunity boost, burning off calories, improved heart health, greater self-esteem, increased intimacy, less pain, reduced risk of prostate cancer, stronger pelvic floor muscles, and better sleep. Read the article for more details, but you cannot argue with those great benefits to your health.

Why is sex important for men? Men need a physical release, especially when they are feeling stressed. Sex is a wonderful physical activity that they can share with their partner.

Men can participate in sports or other physical activity, but sex is a lot more fun. They don’t often get to share those other activities with their partner so sex is a way for men to spend time with the women they love. Men use sex to show the woman in their life that they love them. Sometimes men cannot communicate feelings with words.

Since being close physically is one of the ways men signal to a woman they love her, they can feel rejected if their partner loses interest in sex. Ladies, if you have lost interest in sex, talk to your man about why.

He needs to know if you are not having your needs met or if there is another reason that sex no longer interests you. If you tell a man what he can do to make sex enjoyable for you, he will want to do it. Men want to know what makes you feel good.

They don’t always know what that is. Never criticize, but tell them honestly what drives you wild. You’ll be surprised at how great sex can be when a man no longer has to guess.


Why do women lose interest in sex? Women need to have their emotional needs met in order to feel good about having sex. If a woman doesn’t feel respected, she will lose desire.

If she is really stressed out or just plain too tired from chasing kids around all day, she won’t have the energy. Women sometimes feel self-conscious about sex. As their bodies change from pregnancy and childbirth to menopause, they may feel unattractive. Men, you can help by reassuring her that you love her body.

Tell her she is sexy and the only woman you want to be with. Also, if you have young children and she feels run ragged, try to plan a day off for her. Allow her time to work out, get a massage, or have a night out with friends. If you can take care of the kids, by all means, do that. If that is not the best option, get a babysitter. Schedule certain days whenever possible that are Mom’s days off. Even if it can only be once a month, it helps.

Ladies, you don’t have to be a size 6 to be desirable. Great sex is about confidence. If you love your body, so will your man! Relax and enjoy the physical time together. Immerse yourself completely into the moment. Try not to think about the kids or work or anything else. A woman who is distracted will not get the most pleasure out of sex that she could.

If you have become stuck in a rut and sex has become non-existent, you can change that. Ask your partner if they are willing to talk about it. Tell them that you would like to rekindle your sex life. If it’s been a while since you’ve shared that physical closeness, spend some time reconnecting as a couple. Spend time together relaxing and having fun. Touch each other, not just as pre-intimacy. Touch each other throughout the day.


A simple kiss or hug, maybe just lightly touching a shoulder or back can restart that physical connection needed to bring back desire. If necessary, see a therapist or a physician. There could be a medical reason why desire has been lost. You can always see a relationship coach, too.

If your partner wants to talk about your sex life, take it to heart. If sex is important to your partner, they are not going to wait around forever. Don’t help them decide to look for someone else, help them love and desire you.

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Do guys really like fingering a girl and do girls really like to get fingered? These are the important questions I sometimes ask myself. I have been mulling over fingering for the last two days in an attempt to get to the bottom of it. I will pen my thoughts as they arise. Call it ‘thinking out loud’ if you will.

When I was a young girl and my pubic hair was just starting to reach its full potential, I remember one of my brother’s friends tried to finger me under a beach towel. He was forcing his hand between my legs, trying to gain leverage under my swimsuit bottoms. I didn’t know what he was trying to do but I did know that a young man’s hands on my private parts in broad daylight was not something God would smile upon. Good thing I had tremendous thighs or I would’ve lost my fingerginity much too early in life. Later I overheard him telling another guy that he ‘totally tried to finger me’ and then I understood: he wanted to put his fingers in my vagina. (GROSS!)

Why do guys like fingering? Perhaps it’s because in the initial endeavors of ‘hooking up with’ a girl, this might be all he gets. It’s like the apex is always the vagina, and reaching the apex is dick inside the vagina. So, if you can only get your fingers in there, you have not exactly lost maybe…maybe you still get ‘points’ or something.
We all know fingers don’t have the same amount of nerve endings as a penis does. (But boy if it did, guys would be eating spaghetti in an entirely new way!) So, we know fingering a girl will not feel quite as nice as it does when it is a penis. So, perhaps the stimulation a guy gets from fingering a girl is in feeling the hot, wet, tightness (hopefully) around his fingers and maybe seeing her get pleasure (hopefully) from it.

I think, also, that maybe fingering is a testing ground. You can maybe determine a few deciding factors such as;
Does she get wet?
Tightness
Taste and smell
Whorefactor
To expatiate:

Does she get wet?

If you are making out in a hot and heavy fashion and you push your hand under her belt buckle and snake it down into her panties army man style and find out that her liquidity levels do not match the steel trap boner you are sporting then maybe this is a miss-match.
Tightness

If you find that you can fit your entire hand and maybe a small koala into her vagina, maybe she’s not a tree you want to climb.

Taste and smell

I liken this to the checking of the oil when you are at a full service gas station. I envision a man clad in greasy coveralls, a three day growth of beard and black under his fingernails withdrawing a dipstick and squinting at it over the cracks in my dashboard. I figure a guy can get his digits down there, swirl it around for a few and maybe fake a nose itch or something and have his hand make his way back up to his face where it can afford him a ‘prelude of things to come’. I will leave it at that. (I will keep it ‘delicate’ and ‘tasteful’.)

Whorefactor

If a girl lets you finger her within hours of knowing her she could easily be a LovePeddler. (Not in the literal sense…) This might be a winning factor for a man, or not. In this day and age, guys are probably fingering girls on the dance floor.
Bottom line; I think guys like fingering girls because they are putting their fingers in her vagina and ‘fucking’ the vagina with the fingers. It’s probably a great thing to do.

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