₦airaland Forum

People get into heated debates about
how to purnish children. Should you
spank or use Time Out? Should you take
away privileges for a few days or should
you ground them more
weeks on end? How or if you purnish your child is an extremely personal
decision, but one that is necessary. No
parent wants to be seen as the bad guy,
but it is important to have a method to
deal with your child’s behavior when he
gets out of line. But before you get to the point when
need to apply punishment, you should
ask these 5 questions to make sure that
you address the situation in a loving
manner.

1. Have I established household rules
that are fair and reasonable?
As a parent, you must establish
boundaries and set expectations for
behaviour. Without clearly defined
household rules, children are prone to
go their own way and it's unfair to
punish them for doing something that they didn't know was inappropriate.
Your household rules need to be fair,
reasonable, and reflective of your belief
system. Once your rules are established,
you must explain the consequences for
breaking the rules. When kids understand the rules, expectations, and
consequences they are more apt to
adjust their behavior accordingly.

2.Does the behavior warrant
punishment?
Children makes mistake. Sometimes
they make a lot of mistakes. It is
unwise to punish children every time
they do something wrong. You must
use your wisdom and discernment to
determine which behaviors actually warrant punishment. If you punish
children for every discretion, the
punishment will lose it's desired effect.
Your kids need to understand that their
actions have consequences, but they
also need to know that you are willing to demonstrate forgiveness.

3. Is the punishment appropriate?
If you deem that punishment is the
appropriate response for your child's
infraction, you have to decide what is
appropriate. It's easy to overreact and
dole out a punishment that is too harsh.
On the flip side, you have to make sure that you aren't being too lenient or else
the punishment will be ineffective. You
must also keep in mind that each child
is different. What works for one child
may not work for another child.
Unreasonable punishments can lead to resentment.

4. Are my emotions under control? The worst thing a parent can do when
punishing a child is to react out of
anger. When you allow your anger to
control your behavior, you may do
things that you will letter regret -
things that could scar your child physically and emotionally. If your child
misbehaves in a way that deserves
punishment, take some time to allow
your anger to subside before reacting.
Once your emotions are under control,
then you can respond to the offense with clarity and compassion.

5. What can my child learn from this
experience?
When children misbehave, parents
have the opportunity to teach valuable
life lessons about right and wrong,
repentance, and forgiveness. Don't get
so caught up in the punishment that
you fail to use the situation as a teachable moment.


www.babble.com/dad/5-questions-to-ask-before-punishing-your-child/

I weep From the things i read and hear about my Country Nigeria, its very obvious all is not well. On a second thought i think Nigeria is not mature for democracy, my opinion though.

hmmm! Good for him

Paraffin has got a strong/unpleasant smell how come you gulped it without perceiving? That was careless of you, nevertheless it depends on the quantity of intake, would advise you take plenty of water and Liquid milk that would help neutralize the effect, if ain't better after a while dial your personal physician.

lekpalicious: Why are some men so backward. If it was a white lady, would you say the same thing? Utter rubbish. Now being slim is equivalent to HIV. Not everyone is the big booty popping type.

WTF do you mean by this poo u just spewed here? Are you insinuating that am not entitled to my personal opinion?

The both of them sucks, Yvone looks as thin as an HIV patient while Rita looks stout and too close to the ground despite high heels.

Epic creativity

Most of them did'nt deserve to be mega rich.

Hmm! Pls a woman who committed the following blunders below better not respond back to Igodomigodo.

My Husband and Sambo is a good
people.
The President was once a Child and the
Senators were once a Children.
My Fellow Widows A Good Mother takes care of his Children.
The people sitting before you here were
once a Children.
Yes we are all happy for the effort,it is
not easy to carry second in an
international competition like this one
– Addressing Press men after Female
Under 19 Fifa World Cup.
The Bombers who born them?wasn’t it
not a woman? They were once a
Children now a adult now they are
bombing women and children making
some children a widow My Heart feels sorry for these Children
who have become Widows by losing
their Parents for one reason or another We should have love for our fellow Nigerians irrespective of their
NATIONALITY
vote UMBLERRA and press your finger
for UMBLERRA

hmmm! As for me ain't close to their radar.

Well i think its all about packaging as soeone earlier on stated here, be conservative in your consumptions, exercise alot, avoid excessive stress etc and watch yourself age in grace, am a testament to that.

la paix soit avec vous tous au nom de Jésus

Temismith: Hahahahhahahahahahaha joke of the day is MR BEAN his father?

Maybe who knows

Brainy Concept

This Rivers state political bruhehe is getting messier day by day.

This is Absurd

Good development

otijah: must u qoute all the topic b4 comments.

You spoke my mind.
@ topic so bad for the schools closure, all the same the pupils/students safety is paramount.

gluv01: -Eating fufu before sleeping.
-Doing midnight calls even when you have an exam the next morning.
-Arguing with your parents the night before over who to date.

Hmm this girl smh!

Thats nice

J12: I have never heard of a nigerian called mumumi alao. I only know of alao akala.

Same with me.

[quote author=P.Stacks]Really Sad. Very Religious but yet very Devilish People. No decency, No decorum, anybody can wake up and say God called him.. Sometimes they make me think this god is a joker. When Muslims kill in the name of god or kill for god.. I'm like, is this god so weak he can't fight for himself. When xtains opens churches indiscriminately just to enrich demselves and preach so much on tithe and offering and not addressing morale decadence, I wonder. If u ask a girl what she wants in her guy, the first thing is.. "God fearing, loving, caring" Nigerians talk of the Fear of God the most but Nigerians don't Fear God one bit.. No regulations guarding the sprouting of moshroom churches everyday.
Nigeria needs a total over-haul. Re-orientation.
Everything needs to come to a halt,
Sometimes I feel the country should have a "Reset" button and have this start again from the beginning but this time more orderly.
There's no law and order in Nigeria. We are just bunch of strange bed fellows deceiving ourselves. Not till that "Day" comes, the prediction of a "Failed State" on our collective destiny as Nigerians is imminent. Its really very difficult to admit to. But at the rate and speed we are going, we're on a Crash course. Corruption is not just in government circles in Nigeria alone, it's in me, its in you, its in every facet of life in our Daily life as Nigerians. People open churches for personal gains. People kill extra judicially, people exploit on the slightest possible chance, when people are looking, we do the right thing and when no one is looking, what do you do?

If there's truely gon be a judgement day! God of Nigerians have a lot to judge.[/quote]Pls take it easy, All this long sermon for only those pics? Smh!

As an MUFC fan maself its gonna be lovely seing him play in a united jersey, i cant waite.

un-imagineable

Good news, happy for their freedom.

Am sorry to say it that Deeper life is one christian denomination which their doctrines pisses me alot, Imagine no celebration of xmas,no plaiting of hair by their ladies,until recently there werent allowed to watch TV, imagine such an enslavement! total BS.

Pray to God and u'll be blessed in another way.

"It is believed the referee was
carrying a knife throughout the
match and fatally stabbed the player
in retaliation"
Jeez!