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Vanhooijdonk:
I guess you had no time to visit Swakopmund west of Windhoek. I heard it is even more beautiful and looks like any town in Germany.

Nigeria is unfortunately a failed state, with terrible and heartless leaders. I feels bad when you see other Africans nations advancing and we keep retrogressing.

From the pictures I can see. I had no idea of that place. Nigeria is a mess for sure. With the much resources we have I still don't understand how Nigeria still looks like an ancient African nation.

Mykel51:
Hello, do you reside there or you travelled for holidays ?

I asked cuz I would love to vacation at Windhoek also

I travelled there just for a short visit. I reside in Gaborone.

Vanhooijdonk:
How did you find you encounter with the locals and getting around the city.

Well it wasn't bad at all. A friend and I went from Botswana to Windhoek. We lodged at a certain Lanipo guesthouse and it was really nice in terms of good customer service. Though I didn't have issues with the locals and the beautiful Namibia ladies as they appeared nice when you give them some level of respect, but I think there is this stare of being uncomfortable when they know you are Nigerian. I don't want to say they hate Nigerians but its more like if they are scared of Nigerians and tend to watch their back when a Nigerian is around.
As for their ladies, I think Namibia has more beautiful (well endowed) ladies than Botswana.

I will be travelling for a short visit to Monrovia in Liberia by mid February. I will love to know how life is over there in regards to feeding cost, accommodation, transportation and nice places to hangout.

Vanhooijdonk:
What is the difference between Gaborone and Windhoek?

The atmosphere is quite more serene in Gaborone than in Windhoek though they are both beautiful.

murphy02:
No stress bro

Presently in Cape Verde, it's beautiful here

Do Nigerians need a visa to Cape Verde?

True is really beautiful. I visited there last year and I will still visit soon. However I love Gaborone in Botswana more than Windhoek in Namibia.

It will be very nice and beneficial to all the ECOWAS countries to adopt that single currency.

This is quite funny

For a lot of couples, even though there might be love between them, there’s still an underlying tension or distance that seems to always be there.

The fights, arguments and disagreements just seem to erupt out of no where and neither person knows how to stop the pattern.

Some people believe they just need to learn how to “fight fair” and that fighting is healthy in relationships.

We don’t believe that fighting is healthy or learn how to “fight fair” because you don’t have to fight at all.

The truth is you can look in another direction to resolve your differences.

These 5 ways to create more love have worked for us and others and we invite you to try them in your relationship right now.

Idea #1 Let go of the tug-of-war rope

Even though you may think continuing to plant your feet and tug as hard as you can on the “rope” will win the argument for you, in the long term, it won’t. When you let go, you can see how you trigger each other and how you pull away.

Letting go of the rope doesn’t mean sucking in your hurts and putting on a smiling face when you don’t feel like it.

It means being “real” with yourself and with your partner about what you want without blaming the other.

It means consciously deciding not to react from old patterns but rather to make other choices–because the old ways you’ve been dealing with this haven’t worked.

It means being open to another way of looking at the situation and resolving it.

When one person lets go of the “rope,” there’s nothing to fight against and a new way of seeing it all can emerge.

Idea #2 Use “Magic Words” when you talk to each other

It’s a fact…

When it comes to your relationships and getting the love you want…

All words are NOT created equal.

Some words cause fights and arguments and others don’t.

Here’s a great strategy from our “Magic Relationship Words” program you can use right now to cut fights, conflict and disagreements in half…

Think about this for a second…

One of the ways that many people keep a fight or disagreement going is by blaming and accusing.

You might say something like this…

“How could you say or do that?” or “You don’t respect me because you said or did that.”

Instead of using phrases that push your partner into being defensive and push him or her away, express what you want more of–from your heart.

You might use a phrase like this to help you stay connected even when it’s difficult to do it…

If you think your partner is spending too much time away from the house and away from you, the tendency might be to accuse him or her of ignoring you and the relationship.

Use this phrase instead to open the conversation rather than close it…

“I’d love to spend more time with you. How can we make that work?”

Idea #3 Be a Good-Finder rather than a Wrong-Finder

To a great degree, the success of your relationship relies on what you both focus on.
Do you focus on what you want and enjoy in the other person or do you focus on what irritates you?

It is pretty “normal” to get caught up in only seeing what irritates you in your partner.

It just seems that as hard as you TRY to not focus on that irritating habit, it just gets bigger.

Believe it or not, many fights and disagreements are born from these petty irritations.

To stop fighting, try this for one day…

When your irritation comes up, change it in your mind to something you like, love and appreciate about your partner.

Keep focusing all day on that aspect of him or her and watch what happens.

Idea #4 Appreciate Your Partner

Many fights, arguments and ill-feelings begin and are kept going because one or both people don’t feel appreciated in the relationship–and they don’t know how to get the appreciation they need–so they do the second best thing…

They pick fights and start arguments to get some attention.

If you feel like you aren’t appreciated, your tendency may probably be to withhold appreciating your partner because who wants to appreciate someone else if they don’t feel appreciated themselves.

In order to break the cycle, just try some sincere appreciation anyway.

And this appreciation should go further than “thank you,” although that’s nice to hear too.

* Important *

When you appreciate someone– be specific in your appreciation.

It might be a loving thought that flits through your mind but you never say because you either assume that he or she knows or you don’t say it because you don’t feel appreciated yourself.

If you want to cut the distance and the fights between the two of you, start appreciating.

Idea #5 Stop holding grudges and holding onto being right

People hold grudges for years about things that sometimes that can’t even remember exactly what happened to cause them.

If you’re holding onto a grudge and punishing your partner for something that happened long ago but is not happening now–and you find that you bring it up over and over…

To stop fighting, find a way to resolve it.

Don’t hang onto it.

When you hold onto a grudge and to being right, there’s no room for listening to your partner.

One way to “let go” of your grudge is to open to listening to what your partner has to say with new “ears.”

Listen as if this is something new and listen for any truth at all in what he or she says.

If you want to cut your fights in half, resolve old issues, let them go, and focus only on the issue at hand.

There you have it…

He looks like Ubi Franklin's son

See how the Philippine looks like Ibadan with brown rusted roof lol. And some people will take flight to that place and start shouting they are in obodo oyinbo

He is really a big thief. One man handling 300 invisible contracts.

If you were given N250,000 to start life, what will you actually do with the money? Share your different ideas because someone lucky will be blessed with this money and maybe this thread might help the person utilize the money very well.

Happy New Year in advance.

What is wrong with the police

Impregnable101:
Did jenny rubbed groundnut oil on her bwest?

Grace just follow whizkid cause the boy is not that talented

May grace also follow your use of English as you are not talented in English as well.

In Nigeria, every animal is edible.

Kingpee2:
You will be amazed to find out that the woman is still going back to live in that same house again..

I believe you read the part they said he is fond of beating her around that time. So she is used to it and will still go back for more as it is obvious she can't use her brain.

iCauseTrouble:
The Ooni of Ife, That king of Iwoland and Oba Elegushi are the only digital kings we have in Nigeria...... The remaining are still using pentium 1

Go and find out about the young king of Agbo in Delta state.

I can't shout

Nnemuka:
I have a made in Nigeria goods that needs marketing outside Nigeria.
The product is sold in Nigeria and it's highly lucrative over here.
Can I contact u?

Hello, you can send me a PM. I would love to know more about your product.

Let them forget all these stories, we all know they need aboki to handle that sit. A government of aboki

With this sort of issues of fake news all the time, tell me why it is not necessary for that social media bill everyone is complaining about.

So sad. The ancient ekiosa market of Benin kingdom.

I got my first car in 2005 and I paid £100 for that Honda accord they call Honda halla that year. I was shocked because £100 then was about N25,000 but then I realized there in England the car had no level the way it was being respected in naija.

You can write such a long story just because of sex with or without condom? How are putting this energy in writing reasonable novels and see if writing is your calling instead of wasting in on something unreasonable that will not put food on your table.

Offpoint:
After I read a front page thread titled "If money is delaying you from getting married, read this"

I looked at my mirror this morning and I saw a string of white hair, I checked my account balance... it looks like AIDs patient.

So guys, abeg make una help me... I need state I fit marry on credit. help me please, make una help me o

My guy, you don't need to find out which state you can marry on credit. I know very well that if you go to your village, just look around for any very poor village girl, meet her family and promise them you are a city guy trying to hustle and with time you will make it and come back to pay the marriage loan. Trust me you will find a wife inside your own state there. No need to find another man state, wethin dey for sokoto dey for your shokoto. If you are not an indomie generation you should understand the meaning of that statement.

As long as she is online and you met her online and complimented her online, you are just number 100+ in her list. Her reaction simply might mean hope this is not another mumu that will start sending the picture of his d****k like many useless guys usually do to girls online.

Before Xmas
And Wednesday is already Xmas, what was the point of waiting till this time. Very irresponsible government with a heartless way of thinking.

I still feel sorry for many of these ladies that carry heavy stuffs. Most men only admire such just out of lust to taste sex with them. Many of them end up being used and dumped in most cases. Even when they manage to marry, most men that marry them just keep them as wife out of sentiment because 90% of these men get tired of those massive stuffs and end up cheating so bad.

But honestly these men are heartless. They will owe salaries while in office and to pay minimum wage is a big issue as they keep shouting insufficient funds. But there is sufficient fund for their pension when they leave other pensioners in severe hunger without payment for months or years.