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Because they want to sow where they did not reap (or, is it the other way round?)!

*drinks milk*

@ Gina

Remember I said REAL HAPPINESS, in essence, TRUE HAPPINESS. Happiness qua happiness cannot exist without peace of mind. You are using the word 'happiness' in a very loose sense. True happiness emanates from (peace in) the soul and not from some material possession. You can't be happy for stealing rather you could be pleased that you stole something you wanted and wasn't caught. The fact that you don't have peace of mind after the theft actually says that you are not "happy" for what you did. Geez, you are even countering your own argument! Duh! Having a pleasant feeling doesn't necessarily mean being happy. Pleasure is different from happiness, and that's why the ealr Christian martyrs were said to be happy even in the face of adversities, even while they were being martyred. For them, it wasn't a pleasant feeling cos of the pains they went through, but they were happy cos of the reward they expected ultimately.

Like I said before, Happiness in its most essential nature does not rely on (the possession of) any material thing like money.

Since you want me to say something: There's no real "happiness" without "peacefulness" (peace of mind). They go hand in hand. I had always wanted to tell you that. Just weren't sure what direction you were taking the discuss.

That's why I would rather say that the rich only [b]appear [/b]happy. They are not necessarily happy.

Hmm!

Yea, cool.

Lol @ Gina!

@ iice,

Glad u've come to, but still as much confused about the "being rich makes you happy and at the same time poor makes you peaceful" theory as you are.

_{Yeah, I no more take coffee, but I could manage with lipton if there's no other beverage, though it makes me more lepacious than I am already}

iice:
_*cogitates* hmmmm on second thought _{*drinks coffee* maybe things will be clearer}

Still cogitating? _{I wonder why coffee and lipton hardly have any effects on me.}

crazykid:
Ahhhhhh
Sorry oh!!!
i no no say you need am oh!!
any way keep trying
she will respond.

I actually meant that Gina and I didn't seem to be arguing on the same footing anymore.

crazykid:
@Douzy
Let me answer that.
From my own point of view
marriages that are based on money, power, fame, and all other things
instead of love, are bound to crash.
co's love is what keep you both going
till death do you part.
money can't do that.
fame can't do that.
power can't do that.
and all other things can't do that.

Only love.
Perfect love

Welcome to my camp, crazykid. We're saying the same thing (may be, in different ways).

Phew! My convo with gina wasn't flowiing again there.

Well, Gina u were talking about the happiest being those with money and turned around to say that the most peaceful were those without money. How comes the least happy become the most peaceful?

ginababy:
the most peaceful couples on earth are those with out money.

Dayum! Where are you taking this discuss to?

By the way, the level of peace and understanding a man enjoys at home (with and from the wife) could be serious factors to how much more money he makes in the future. This is why the Japanese economic system is strongly hinged on the family.

ginababy:
The most happiest couples in the world are those with money.

Another fallacy of over-generalisation (and hasty conclusion).

Have you gone round the world? Have you met all the couples in the world? What are your sources?


Your statement should rather read: The happiest couples in the world appear to be those with much money.

Oh teacher, teach me Figures of Speech, but your analogy is so WEAK, and as such a Fallacy!

For all I care, love without money (if I understand what you mean) can bring out the best of creativity in a relationship. Now tell me what's it like in heaven without God! Have you been there to make the comparison?

Why not get in touch with the person that saw him at London to see if s/he would be able to get you speak to him somehow?

ginababy:
you are right. but Love without money is like heaven without God.

Can't believe my eyez! You equate God with money? How lame analogies could be!!! Such a FALLACY!!!

Anywayz, there's no man without money or the potentials to make money and even more money. Do most gurls understand that? Do you even know how to pray for your man or your eyez are ever on his pocket?

Money is the root of all evil! . . . lol!

iice:
Why is it that this became a standard? I mean i don't think it was so in the time of our parents. Granted that economic situation is different from back then. I think that we just want to be comfortable and taken care of to an extent (i don't mean financially, more like emotionally) Still i don't think that a man wallowing in wealth must be prerequisite for a relationship or whatever develops from that.

Wish there were more of you around here. Or is it that they've been eluding my searchlight?

Ultimately, it most often boils down to the fear guys have of what the wives (or would-be wives) would think of them if or when their pockets are not loaded. If at this very moment, I find a girl whom I, without doubts, believe is not going to add to my anxieties as I'm still struggling to carve out my niche or when the water runs dry, (but would want to sweat it outz with me), then marriage would be one of the topmost on my priority list. Such girls, I've come to believe, even bring goodluck to their husbands (or haven't some of you seen men who suddenly became embarrassed with material wealth just moments after they got married?).

Girls, sometimes you are the reason we marry late (that is, not in all cases, though). Ask your parents and you would find out how much our mums have been strong support even in times of financial difficulties. I know men of great wealth who, I can say, their wives sorta made them what they are today (don't quote me out of context here). In fact, most 'struggling' men end up marrying the girl who had sometime somehow helped them or been such great support for them while in some difficulties.

To sum up, the Igbo today no more looks for an Oriaku, but an Odoziaku for a wife (apologies to the non-Igbo).

Jackal:
@ Tomkatz.
I saw your signature and how ironic?
There's no flame in Heaven so maybe the opposite of Heaven is your final destination.

Have you been to heaven before?

Stage THREE!

kellorah:
i know anything LAW pays!!

May be, not really in Nigeria.

Too confused to know yet.

The only thing I can't forgive is being murdered by my very own partner.

Never knew it was free.

EmemJU:
This is either fiction or the girl is a 419er. If she has access to the internet, then there no way she would not have escaped long before now.
Peoples, beware!

Sure! No matter how much the ip address of the computer (NIC Card) is hidden, it could still have been deciphered and her location tracked long ago.