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whitelexi:
@douzy: na ibu kwanu nwa nne'm (so you're ibo?)

Now, that u've bought me ova, I'll be on your side, just for a tad moment. . . lol (kidding).

Just try to look at the issue a bit more objectively (as in, giving room for some uncommon, but not abnormal peculiarities) rather than from the 'mass man' point of view.

That's just my own.

Daalu so!


BTW, dating must not necessarily include losing one's virginity. I've been dating since I was like 22, yet (now almost a decade after), I'm still a virgin.

There's more to reality than the common.

lmfao! Now, I beg to rest my case.

_{*just came to*} NORMAL(CY) = The usual, common? Duh! I'm the Individual (borrowing a leaf from Soren Kierkegaard). I decide what is usual and/or common to me and not to the 'mass man'. Individual uniqueness, despite the demerits, is the spice of this otherwise humdrum existence.

If at all there is really anything like NORMAL(CY). _*cogitates*

Oh dear, sorry I got u miffed. Didn't mean to. It's all about semantics, so cheer up.

whitelexi:
Lol, its not normal nowww, ok iice, place yourself in her shoes, would u do that normally?

We all are unique and what works for you may not work for me. After all, she may have decided that the best way for her to avoid certain eventualities is by shying away from dating (in the meantime). The Igbo say, "Mgbe onye ji(ri) teta bu ututu ya (whenever one wakes up is one's own morning - _{provided one does wake up finally. . . lol}).

_{Dunno why I had to explain that proverb to you.}

OM_FG! Dun even get me started now. . . everything in life is a risk (if u know whut RISK means)!

Yea, I mentioned that some regard it as a form of bondage, but that doesn't mean that is the general case nor is it the ideal perspective. What is more, I do not see it as such, though I may rather say it's a risk, of which LIFE itself is a full of risks, but we've got to live it!

We MEN! _{*shakes head*}

@whitelexi

What are we talkin 'bout here: not appearing attractive to the opposite sex or not wanting to date (until further notice)?

Is there ever an "osho free" wife? Even if there were (which I'm yet to know about), I'm sure guys would rather run away from such, as that would ultimately come with too many (subtle) strings and attachments.

Again, getting married is not all about having all the good things in life (BTW, who has all the good things in life?). Even when I don't really support guys who go about sampling and dumping gurls, I would also say that in the world of today, it's even more difficult to find someone (gurl) who would be patient enough to be a real support and joy if they were to get married so early. Most of us want to be quite comfortable before marriage because, though we can't satisfy all the material wants and needs of our women, we don't want her to lack so much. However, we also wouldn't want wives that would nag us to the grave cos we weren't providing for them as much as other men do. What is more, some women would even begin to tell their men that there ex's or former guys (the husbands they missed marrying) used to take better care of them.

Even today that the issue of fulltime housewives is giving way to working-class wives, which helps in making the household finances a bit more robust, we still wanna make sure that rather wouldn't turn out to be an avenue for the women to try lording it over us.

Some of these reasons and more urge some of us to rather believe we could enjoy life a lil more as bachelors before going into marriage (which some regard as a bondage. . . lol).

I feel you, Deaconess Bobbie Mae!

There is nothing wrong with not dating before 22 (there could be several legitimate and normal reasons for that), provided it doesn't mean that the person never talks nor relates with others (of the opposite sex). Personally, I never really dated until I was 22 (just wondering if I was even supposed to start dating then . . . lol).

iice:
Ahahahahaha an illusion! Thats why they laugh

Now, I'm also laughing!

Aww. . . White and white - Angelic iice!