Orikinla:

I am happy to see that majority voted that they will forgive the person.
Good heart of a godly spirit.

I know that it hurts the pride most.
But if you don't forgive, your pain only gets worse.

In forgiveness is your bond made stronger.

Anyone who commits adultery has an unsolved problem and the only way to solve and resolve it is to forgive first.
Forgiveness is like removing the odious pus in a sore, because until the pus is removed, the sore will only worsen.
But when you remove the pus and cleanse the wound, the sore will soon go and the person would be healed.

Men find it hard to forgive a wife who committed adultery, because of two reasons.

1. PRIDE and
2. INSECURITY.

Their ego is bruised and then they feel insecure and scarred for the rest of their life.

The best thing is to welcome her back and do your best to forgive and heal the wounded hearts as long as she still wants to remain as your life.

But if she tells you that she no longer loves you, PLEASE, LET HER GO.
Because you cannot force a woman to love you.

And when your wife no longer loves you, she is no longer yours.
And when your wife is no longer yours, your marriage has ended.
The best solution is DIVORCE, to go your separate ways.
The most dangerous thing is to live with a woman who does not love you.
It is as good as sleeping with your enemy

its well

Olaisrich:

@ Op, i salute your courage for bringing this issue to an open forum, i strongly beleive that you honestly looking
for a solution that is why you bring it here, i can understand your plight! people had said it all, but in addition i want
you to always help your wife to choose her outfits,hairstyles,shoes,necklace and a host of others that will always
make her attractive to you. The forces against marriages nowadays is more than just fulfilling HEAD OF THE HOUSE
responsibities,there is need for extra comittment and sacrifice to keep the fire burning. Spending more time with your
wife on a constant basis after physically and emotional dissociation from the strange woman will definately be of help. Imaging when you start feeling
like this in less than 3 yrs, what will hapeen in the next 20 yrs?.