frozen70:


She is crying because she had only girls

Let her ask a barren woman what her wishes are

Let her ask a mother with deformed child what her wishes are

Let her ask those her aunts who are married before her and are yet to have a child what her wishes are

She is the one troubling herself

Instead of her to be grateful for having those lovely angels

Anyway God will grant her heart desires

Amen

Mizwisdom:
I know this is a fake story because your email address is Talktodrflora@yahoo.com, you seem to be a life coach who has a blog with made up stories. Another reason this story is fake is becos you're a Dr and you're asking us for solution on a depression case?. Dr Flora explain yourself

I have nothing to prove to you. If I am a blogger, I would have put my blog link.


You choose what you believe.

ifyalways:


GTFOH with your excuses.

Fake love siblings. I detest your likes.

I will never be in your shoes, God forbid. My family comes first. You have no excuse!!!

And someone would think that you are responsible.

thorpido:
You didn't say anything about the husband.Is he putting her under pressure even if it is subtle?
At this day and age,education should have changed the perception of people about the gender of the babies they have.

Unfortunately,your sister is depressed and needs expert counseling to come out of it.Family members should make out time to see and be around her.

The husband cares less.

Both my sister and the husband are educated so they know that the man determines the gender of the child.

But you know, men are cunning. They will say that it doesn't matter, but in future, their opinion will change.

nnamdibig:
Is she not aware that she and her husband can decide the gender of their baby(at least to a great extent)?
There is no sense in trying to kill a baby after carrying her for 9 months. Instead of being depressed or trying to harm herself and the innocent child, when next she wants to get pregnant, she and hubby should plan it well at least do their own part to ensure they have up to 80% chances of having a boy. Let her educate herself more.

She tried this method but it failed. Thus the reason it seems to her all hope is lost as she has tried everything within her knowledge as human.

Unfortunately, it cost minimum of 3 million to do IVF that can allow you select the gender of the child.

ifyalways:
So your sister put to bed and y'all could not afford to pay her a visit?

No one from your family visited to see her or the baby? No relative or nothing. All y'all do is to disturb a nursing mother with calls when she needs all the rest and help she can get

Besides the obvious PPD, the fake love from y'all is enough to break down any woman. You lots are wicked.

Shioooor.

One thing that I have noticed about some nairaland commenters is that they can stay in their home and tell what is happening in another man's home.


If you read through my post, you will see where I stated that she just delivered few days ago.

Do you think we are not working? Do you know the distance between where we are and where she is? So, if you were in our shoes, you will just jump and start rushing to visit a woman that just delivered without any preparation?



Think before you judge!

sean079:
Why can’t you explain to her in detail the mystery behind baby gender. It aint her doing but the husband chance. Having sex during ovulation increase chance of baby boy while before result in baby girl.
She n her husband should just be patient to have sex a day before ovulation or day of ovulation n increase their chance of having baby boy.

The man is responsible for baby gender n not wife. Whatever u sow, u shall harvest or reap

One of my sisters is a nurse. She followed them through when they were about to conceive and put them through on when to have sex to have a male child.

Unfortunately, it didn't work.

carammel:
Stop calling her over the phone, pay her a visit and talk to her, make her see reasons why she should be grateful. She may have other things bothering her that is beyond having girls only.
My cousin has three delivery through CS already and she always lose the babies after delivery, she's even afraid of trying again, she'd give anything just to have one girl.

I wish it is possible to visit her. But we're living miles away from each other. We will ask our sister living close to the state that she is, to visit her.

Katier00:
She is depressed. I know how she feels. She wants a boy and probably just 3 children. Give her some time

You are not far from the truth. She said that she doesn't want to give birth again and that explains the reason that she desperately needs a boy.

chiommy123:
I also believe its pressure from her inlaws maybe but she should know that many women pray each passing day just for God to even bless them with one and she has three. But it's very easy to advice someone until you feel their pains. You guys should look for a way and caution your in laws if you don't want your sister to die of B.P

Firstly, there's one of my sisters that has been married for 19 years going to 20 without any child.

My sister that is directly younger to this one has just one female child that is 4 years now and they are planning on doing IVF soon.

So you see, she has enough life experience to learn from and be grateful.

But then again, I understand it's not easy for her. But one of the parts of being an adult is accepting things that we cannot change

Alexk2:

Please let her seek medical help immediately. She's probably depressed and the "gender issue" of the baby is just and alibi to make you all think otherwise until it's too late.
FOR the sake of the baby and her very self, let her see a qualified doctor immediately pls.

Thank you. We will consider getting a psychologist for her.

DUNKA:
Probably the pressure from the husbands family for a male child. She needs counseling as she is psychological scarred. She should be happy as some women cannot even give birth and would give the world just to even have 1 girl.

Well, I will say that there's no "actual" pressure from the husband's family.


The major pressure here is the one my sister put on herself simply because the wife of her husband's brother is giving birth to boys.

So, it appears there's an unwritten rivalry or will as say "dare"

There's this my sister that has two female children

She took in for her third child but refused to go for scan. Few days to her delivery time, she finally accepted to do the scan.

The result of the scan showed that she is carrying a girl. This is where the problem started. She started crying, calling everybody and weeping heavily.

When she first called my other sister, she thought maybe, she has lost the baby.

It was when I listened closely to the crying voice of my sister that I understood what actually happened. I had to call my other sister to tell her the true reason my sister is crying.

Fast forward to few weeks later, my sister became due for delivery but she refused to go to hospital.

The pregnancy water came out of her body but she still stayed at home, the blood which is the last stage before the baby comes out also came out of her body while she was still at home.

It is not until the baby stopped making movement that she had to visit the hospital.

When she got there, the baby was already weak and the doctor said that any further delay could have seen the baby dead in the womb.

My sister wanted to rush home immediately after giving birth. It was the doctor that forced her to stay for an additional day to ascertain the condition of her health and that of the baby.

She went home the next day without telling anybody that she has given birth. Not until the husband came home (he wasn't around the day she delivered).

Three days after, the husband started calling all of us (her siblings) to please call my sister and ask her what the problem is.

You will not believe that my sister is still crying inconsolably.

As I type this, I am feeling hurt and pity for the poor innocent child that came out to this world to meet a mother that spites her simply because she is a girl.

My sister as I type, has refused to pick our calls. I didn't know people will still think and behave this way in 2018.

Please, is it normal for a mother of a newborn baby to be crying profusely, simply because she has given birth to three girls?

Our fear is that she might hurt that baby as she has demonstrated during the late pregnancy stage when she was due to deliver.

Please, any suggestions on how to make her come back to her senses and know that children are from God?

Please, I need your contributions

Rextizzle:
So mtchwww

Are you hating?


Bad Belle

This is impressive. She looks smart

madridguy:
I understand the fact that women so much cherish privacy but first you must address this issue with your husband amicably with low voice and not threatening to move out of your matrimonial home. If possible, you can invite your religious leader or your husband's friend to talk to him about it.

Remember, blood is thicker than water so handle the matter at hand with caution.

I have been pretending before these people while talking to my husband about my dissatisfaction with the situation.

My husband has been actually supportive but if he by omission or commission allows this old man in, I will throw caution to the wind.

elektra:


At bolded, how do you know it is for a short while?
My parent thought my dad’s cousin was going to live with us for a short while too until she stayed for 11 years! Last last, Na my papa use him own hand chase am. To get her settled, my dad paid the rent for one year lease and there was still some bad blood because my dad asked her to leave his house after accommodating her for 11 years.

Exactly, this sister that is leaving has stayed with my husband from the time he rented his apartment and is ready to stay until he look after her at old age.

Her stay with us made her other siblings to overlook her, with hope that she stays with us and therefore we should take care of her.

Now that she's moved, it's everybody's responsibility to take care of her.

tugar:
I wonder how people think these days, your brother inlaw for that matter, in African settings he's your husband also, accommodating him for a short while won't do you any harm, this is marriage not friendship, you will definitely need their assistance one day, no body is an Island.

I don't think any African man with self-esteem will type what you just typed.

Why should we accommodate him for a short while? It's not as if he has any reason that shows he's coming to stay for a short period of time.

This man doesn't have sham at all. I overheard him asking his wife if they are not ashamed of themselves that her, her mother and father could not feed and pay the school fees of their four children.

I mean, which responsible man does that? Is it the responsibility of the wife's parents to train the children they both brought to the world?

I wish you understand the personality of the person in question.

Amhappy:
@ OP Sorry ooo you have tried. Tell your husband to advice the man to relocate to the village. He can give him some money to started a business there ooo. Why do they want to remain a burden for their little brother? I once had a similar problem and it caused me a lot of stress so i know how you feel.

Please I don't know how to start quoting everybody.

The day my husband suggested that he should go and learn how to drive so that he can become either a bus or a taxi driver, all hell was let loose.

He called everybody telling them how my husband has insulted him by suggesting that he should become an 'ordinary' driver.

I think my husband in a way caused this, because even till today, this man still collect money and food items from my husband and our house.

For those suggesting about bringing in any parent, both mine and his are late.

I got married to my husband in 2012. Before then, he has been living with his elder sister in a three-bedroom apartment.
Within the first few years we lived, things were going fine and we were in good terms until suddenly things fell apart over time.

The story is too long for me to type on here. For sanctimonious Nairalanders, please don’t ask further for more details to start your sit-at-home judgement because I am not ready to answer any of such.


The short story that led me to create this thread is that I asked my husband to rent an apartment for her. My husband has rented a one room self-contained apartment for her in a place not too far from where we stay. Mind you that this lady is not married and is about 50 years of age.

As if the burden of having this elder sister-in-law around since I got married is not enough, I have another brother in-law who is also an elder brother to my husband. My husband happens to be the last child of the family.


This man came the day my sister-in-law was packing out that he wants to pack into our house. Note that this man is married with children. His inability to take care of his wife and children led them to pack to the wife’s family. He has been living alone for long.


Please I need help on how to stop this man from moving in with us. I have a daughter and a foster daughter who sleeps in the parlor because the third room is where we packed our properties. When this girl urinates at night and it stains our rug, the whole parlor stinks. My plan is to move her with my daughter to the room where my sister-in-law just left.


This my brother in-law does not do anything. All he does is eat, bath, sleep and walk around, only to come back and eat again. I have told my husband that if he packs in, I will leave the house for them until he is done marrying his brother. Enough is enough, this people don’t want to give me breathing space.

The annoying part is that this sister-in-law connived with the problem that he will move in as soon as she moves out (I guess she wants to use it to punish me for sending her away) without my husbands consent until the day she was packing out.


cc lalasticlala

Royalroy

elmafelix:


I got mine today after writing yesterday

Please I have gotten a mail for the business awareness test.

How was yours? Can you give me a hint on what to expect please

LuckyWinner:
Good Day folks,

I wish I had gone through this thread earlier before taking the test on Saturday, 19th April. I only hope for the best though.

I want to advise any other person who will take this test sooner or later to study current affairs seriously and if possible know them by heart.

Current affairs was the only section that I found challenging and that was because I was tricked by the "GMAT based test" written in their email. so I focused on Logic, Math and English which were quite cheap.

Among the tricky questions asked in current affairs were:

Obama was the ........ president of the United States. The answer is 44th.

Who wrote a book about "cave" It's Maya Angelou

When Kaduna Nzeogwu carried out the first military coup.

At what age Mandela died?

Which country is one Tennis player Azerbaka or something from?

Aba women's riot was carried out when, year?

Which country has antananarivo as it's capital?
know Countries and Capitals especially African countries.

Who's the youngest Nobel Prize winner? (I got this one. Thanks to CNN)

When Nigeria changed from right hand driving to left hand driving?

Then a coach that carried Champions League more than once. (Great, cos I cared less about football).

And Check KPMG graduate trainee thread page 58 and 59... All these current affairs questions were discussed there. It's sad I found those precious pages after the test.

I learnt a lesson from the test. I'll always pay attention to everything. It's not enough to be great at answering tests. Current affairs is very important. A well rounded person must know by heart events of the past and present and must be able to say something about everything.

I wish you well as you take the KPMG test.

Meanwhile, pray for me folks. I just hope I'll still pull through cos I'm not certain about those current affairs questions.

Those who were at KPMG towers on 19th April, 2017 should hala, let's know ourselves and plan the way forward.

Wish you all success.

#OneLove

I wrote the test on Thursday last week and today I received a success mail.


Please how do I prepare for the business awareness test


Deadline - tomorrow by 1pm

Please treat as urgent everyone reading this that can help

roldre:


Thank you very much bro. My test is scheduled for Thursday, and am in dire need of the study pack. Please kindly forward it to me . nasirullahoni@yahoo.co.uk

Please if you have gotten the study materials, can you kindly send it to me at talktodrflora@gmail.com

My test is also scheduled on Thursday 17th August

dapyd1:


I didn't choose audit.

I have gotten my offer letter.

Please send me your study materials to talktodrflora@gmail.com

I have my test scheduled on Thursday 17th August,

I will be 26 in December, I hope that is not a barrier

lordMac80:


I won't dignify any more of your comments with an answer.. You are not wise, I wish you had said something reasonable since you stumbled upon this thread, but No, You just have to abuse the privilege of being stupid. You came to this world with nothing and you will someday leave with nothing. You rant like no one is ever helped you before, everyone no matter how strong and skillful he/she is at some point in life is being helped.. You are what you are today cos somebody helped you somewhere. I don't blame opportunist like you and I pray u don't have to ever go through anything that will push you to ask for help. You are too arrogant for a woman.. Have some respect for people. You shouldn't be stupid and be proud of that. Showing off is the fool's idea of glory.

Dude, are you fvcking kidding me?

I have really seen where a beggar has a choice and opinion.

You write so intelligently yet you couldn't use your intellectual prowess to save your azz from soliciting for help online.

I am no way in support of the girl's post but your response so far depicts pride and arrogance.

Please note that there is no excuse for begging. You don't need an online advice before you know that you should go and work.

Are you just knowing that people can make money by working at construction sites? Are there no sales boy or car wash vacancies in Port Harcourt?

Dude, stop showing yourself and get your freaking azz to work. I hate it when people try to prove a point when they are actually clueless.

Eketem:
Is he autistic? Maybe even undiagnosed knowing how we don't like going to the hospital and only beat and abuse our kids when we notice differences

There's no medical condition here

It's normal. One thing is certain, he's going to stop it with time.