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There is only Pre-destination.

The bible does not in any way teach free will human beings as many think of it.

Let me put it this way:

If a horse is 'set free', he will still just gallop and eat and play. He will not write a book of poetry, so when some one says you have 'freewill', it does not mean that you will do anything different than what your nature is.

As humans our nature is: anti-God. So we will use this freewill to be anti God.

As Christians, we can finally choose between our old nature and our new nature. Pro-God.

We even as Christians will still mostly choose anti-God, unless we use the whole word of God, the discipline, the obedience, the mercy and forgiveness to be different than our old nature.

Thus -- just saying you are a Christian -- is the reason that most christians do not look any different than any other person, they look just as sinful -- because they have not used the tools of the bible, to discipline themselves and truly get the habits of a kind forgiving and helpful person.

There is no such thing as 'freewill', except what is in your nature.

Mochafella,

I agree. A woman must be what a man wants.

And if need be, she should teach him early -- he does not need all his car windows broken out at his other womans house if he does not come home and 'see' that she is what he wants.

LOL SMILE.

Mochafella,

A man only needs and wants what you teach him that he needs and wants. Eh?

A man only starts with wants it is the woman who must teach him what he needs to get what he wants.

Smile

Chinani & mamaput,

Honestly. I can understand a little better but not really.

We have a little saying: A hard piece of wood breaks easier than a soft piece of wood.

Her husband ate the chicken because he was hungry, not because he was flexible about eating the chicken. Right?

I don't know.

Chinani,

Hmmmm. I do not know if it is a cultural difference or not but I have to disagree with you.

Who cares what the man you love is into? Isn't the idea with every man, that they have to be trained to conform to what you need and want?

My sister says to me, I can not fry chicken, my husband does not like fried chicken.

I was like so what? Fry the chicken and he will eat it.

She did and now they regularily eat friend chicken.

It's Uj4 job to introduce her man to African stuff, if she does not, he will leave her.

Men do not tend to wake up in the morning and praise God for their Arm.

IMHO.

Sista,

My friend goes to Nigeria and talks about villages begging him to have sex with all their women. He says that they want him (a very light skinned blackman) to give them light skinned children.

Others in countries where the whites have tried to divide the "coloreds" from the "blacks" will tell you that they are "saving the race" by having relationships with whitemen to make lighter skinned blacks.

So even though it may seem to be for other reasons in the end it seems to me that most reasons are for financial as in i.e. a lighter baby will have it easier and make more money and get us out of poverty, have a better future.

I know black suburban people married to white folks and they live really good but the thing is, the black person always has a black woman on the side whom he gives lots of money to, to keep her happy.

It is like they want their cake -- white woman who works good job and provides for them or gives them citizenship and a black woman to love and who truly understands them.

I of course am from the Ghetto. There is only one reason besides money, that you will see a black person in the Ghetto with a white person. (deformed black people is the other reason --- severe drug addiction, mental illness, severe ugliness) That is understood by everybody. Really most are ashamed and embarrassed of having to be seen with their white 'money' person.

Only 2 percent of marriages by Ghetto black people are to white people.
Only 4 percent of marriages by Middle Class black people are to white people.
Only 6 percent of marriages by Rich Black folks are to white people.

African Americans are really not into thinking about spending their life with people who smell like Baloney (bologna).

Sorry, if that is not PC to talk about how they smell to us.

Sista,

LOL

U4,

Any relationship you have with a white man, will be an insincere relationship. He will never know your deepest pains nor deepest fears and never know what drives you. If he did ever know them, he would know that you were not ever really in love with him but were using him for financial reasons.

Date someone, you can truly love and be real with at all times.

Uje4,

My son dates an Continental African girl. Her African family loves his dirty draws. Her mother dotes over him and gives him money, keeps up with his birthday and finds ways to give him gifts for no reason.

My son of course is a straight A student, a football and track star, attends a military academy and is beautifully Ghetto (Charming, charismatic, outspoken, jubilant).

He has to force his girlfriend to concentrate on school work and to stop being such a follower (she allows others to push her into stealing to prove she is not scared.)

So he is a very good influence on her.

Of course, she is the bomb to him, he loves African food and walks 5 miles to the suburb where she lives just to eat her food.

Follow your heart, don't listen to stereo types or those who believe stereotypes.