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queeneve:
Poster,

First thing you need to do is MEET HER and make sure that you know her enough to make a life changing decision. Sometimes we get caught up emotionally and not look at the signs. THe signs are usually there if we chooses to pay attention to it. IF something does not feel right or it appears to be odd, IT USUALLY IS ODD OR NOT RIGHT.

I know it difficult for men to fall in love emotionally and when they do they fall hard. But, try to refrain from that a bit and let her know your intentions however, but do not propose until you have at least 70% of the assurance you need.

Good luck!

Right on spot! You are actually saying that making my intentions known to her doesn’t really mean a proposal.

Noted, thank you.

olas2u:
Be careful get to know her well,they hide a lot of information from you and you will get to know later,the society expects the girls to be married at certain stage ,so they do all they can ,take your time and investigate her very well before anything ,its a longlife commitment.

Generally, women are perfect when it comes to secrecy, but when carefully understudied (also by prayer & faith in God) there is a limit to which one can concealed.

Thank you, comment noted.

Tosinville:
What kind of distance relationship is that? From Nigeria to Yankee? Abeg sufri o! wit someone you haven't seen in your life before o!

Yea noted, but we are both in Nigeria, besides i've seen her like four (4) times this year.

Thank you.

luap:
^^^ smart person^^^ Don't be afraid to express yourself ever!!! You will get much more respect, courage, and your are teaching yourself how to make YOU happy. I met my wife on line, and I loved her before I met her. To this day, she wonders how I can do this? She can not understand, that my love is based on spiritual love, and is not dependent on the material world or society views. It is a leap of faith.

Well spoken, "Spiritual Love" it takes FAITH IN GOD.

omega25red:
^^^ im shocked but i agree with ^^ you can't just put yourself out there like that because you have a time table of when you want to settle down. You have to get to know a person first because marriage is a whole different pot of soup.

My time table is actually a wish, which must not be except God is in agreement with it.

I've known her for more than a year.

Thank you very much, I appreciate.

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@ ds700

First There is nothing wrong in you telling her your actual intension's (IE if you really love her and if u see yourself having a future wiv her)

Secondly You have to be sure of what you want before talking about marriage!

Do you trust her?

And lastly i dont think she might consider any guy any time soon should you fail to make your intension known

esp when she knows she is in a serious affair,You know what most ladies want is Just SECURITY and Trust from a guy and not

necessarily money or sex! https://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-signs153.gif

Humanly speaking and to some reasonable decree, I trust her.
(Am being led my spirit not by sight)

I appreciate you prudent comment, thank you.

I've been into this distance relationship for some months, soonest i will be travelling to see her.

The isssue here is that am being very careful as i don't pray to dissapoint anybody.

Does telling her in clear terms my intentions (i.e that the relationship might lead to marriage if it is the will of God) means that I have proposed?

Am believing God for a life partner (in less than 2yrs)

Or should i continue in friendship till further notice ?

Don't you think that she may later consider another guy if i fail to make my intentions known to her?

Pls I need your help.

Thank you.

Women prefers light-off, before love making, why ? ? 

I mean making love is darkness, why?

My take?, 

Considering the speed to which women folks depreciate as a fixed asset even when you are older than them, I wonder what will become of an older wife in the nearest future. (some bitter truth)

, though it could be as a result of some economic factors, but preferably it is better for husbands to be older.

I meant no harm, after all i love the women folks.

It has gone beyond s both of you, atlest ur parents and hers must be aware of the paternity of the baby.

Besides, is the baby a SHE or a HE, because most definatly, the lost father must surely appear at the end of the day to claim the child, and in as much as he is able to provide d evidence of paternity d law will not consider what u went thru. And by then everybody will get to know d truth.

Forgiveness is d only solution but then YOU MUST FORGET. otherwise after d marriage the remembrance of d past issue may cause a big barrier.

As you continue with d child see him/her as a child under ur care(but don't treat him/her as such)

So that u will not break down when hit with reality.

if you leave me i will commit suicide.

Seeking for such an advice from a quiet old single folk,

HE/SHE WILL CERTAIN ADVICE YOU NOT TO RUSH INTO MARRIAGE,

Who told you that am rushing by marrying @ the rite age?

Or it is when you wait till no one in interested in you, that you end up accepting any possible chance that it became prudence?

Who then is rushing, ?

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Son: Don't be deceived by her ACADEMIC CERTIFICATION & PHYSICAL Attractions, these are of secondary importance when it comes to choosing a wife !

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joe4christ:
Now, that's were the trouble lies, I'm not very good at being patient, my principle on the issue at hand is this: If i discover a gurl admire me and i finally resciprocated, and she then begins to form levels for me, walahi, i go just withdraw my application instanta without appology, and will just continue to present myself as a friend and nothing else, it's just matter of time she'll be the one toasting me. Makachukwu, cos i know i'm endowed!!

Atleast, I got one "GOOD" comment. Haba!

when i was reading i guessed d husband, lol.

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A boy was jealous of his newly born brother, so whilst his mother was asleep he rubbed poison on her nip.les. The next day their driver died.


hehehehehehhe   lmfao.

Rocktation:
Hehehe. Call it protocol. Afterall it doesn't take much for you guys to call us cheap, now does it? Especially when the yes rolls out too fast.

esp. with much younger girls, Its quite annoying.

Can't girls accept a guy @ d first instant, even when they have been praying for you to come their way they still go ~~~~~~ LET ME THINK ABOUT IT~~~~~~~~

Guys let do it dis way.

Guy: Hi girl, pls be mine,

Girl: Oh, i c, let me think about it

Guy: am waiting, do that now, how many minutes, 1, 2 or 3.~~~~~ ur time starts now !

A guy can actually dump you for not allowing him to have his way,

So am not condeming you for having sex with him, but u should know that you are doing that @ your own risk !

Having sex shouldn't be the first thing just to be sure that sex isn't the centre of his attraction.

Just forget him and forge ahead!

He is UR PAST.

My God help dt business of urs,

U wan use ur business do lovi lovi, am sorry for u

Just 3 things.

Money, money money,

Its just that some come for it directly and others indirectly that's just the differences.

yorke:
Tell her 2 go bck n dream again,mayb this time around she might be the one pregnant 4 u.

Moralistli:
I'm a gud @ interpreting dreams,  Thats twince for u, start buying baby things now. No joke.

Nodded in perfect agreement wit the above views.

my yoli yoli, haven't c her for about 2 months, distant relationship can be pathetic.

na so all of them be, bunch of pretenders !!!

Ladies in general can be very difficult to woo, but the most difficult is to lay them off.

It could take you as long as 1 whole month to complete the metamorphosis of wooing a girl, whereas to discharge them when you are done could last a LIFE TIME !

Guys take note, I learnt my lessons d hard way.