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MzPecs:
Change his school to day school..

Not just anyhow day school, take him to command secondary school. Let them reset his brain for him!

Seminary school kwa? Na dere everything dey happenn nah

Command?
Na dia he dey pass
As at 1996 gays and lesbians were suspended

At that age
Anyone could fall
Even some older fall for more cheaper flows
I will kill any man who takes advantage of my child's innocence
Seriously when I look back, I must have been so lucky cos obviously I could have fallen too

Not until I checked who the OP was, I was almost typing but with my dear tpia
Everything is possible

Funny sha
I go out everyday
Work my big asssss off
Come home shower and I can't just wash that pant?
Why do I even need to pile
Its yucky to me sha
I wash it every evening after work not cos I have one, I have a full Ghana must go of thongs

Souljaboi1:
This is Dyt for me !

Awww my sweetie

adellam16:
Lord Rama and Sita

Correct

Rukemi291:
Please take it easy with the fights. Yes, stand your grounds. Pele sis.

Dyt... funny u.

yebo36:
I agree with you both. Do you know at times i think the woman suffers most in marriage. Don't know who to share it with so i keep it to myself

Wondering why men leave responsibility for their wives. Anytime i make up my mind not to support the family again, the kids are affected.

U cee come tomorrow, i will report to a man he calls father, nobody knows ve been the one covering for him.

If you decide to leave now
They will say cos he's broke whereas he's lazy
Sorry to say
He's not a man enough
Haba
Yes I blv in support but not for 4yrs and still choosy?
As a woman myself I don't mind cleaning sef so long it pays my bills

Sagamite:
Be careful what you wish for.

You won't scam me will you?

Sagamite:
If I said I fancied you too, that would be wrong because it would just be a gross understatement.

The correct statement is that I luf you.

After I have discovered how financially blessed you are, my luf for you is unequalled in my attempt to retire in 2016.

Now this got me crazy
Ojigbijigbi
Come to me my ruf
I ruf you like the dog and it's bone
Honey and bee
Lord rama and ra

Rukemi291:
The problem is that no woman can sit down and fold her arms when she knows the family needs her. Only men can.

Seem those kind of men are the types we have these days
Phew

Rukemi291:
So what miracles did your Dr. Adewale perform?

He gave you live papers?

Sent you the Marking schemes?

or forged your results?

Abracadabra na
Oloshious Op

DrAdeolu:
I don't even know why I smiled when I read this.

I am tickling you na
Oya open teeth
Hehehehehe

Fkforyou:
I like your analysis,she is just rambling and contradicting her self.

Is it my fault you don't understand what I wrote
Not like its of any use to you
Leave it and pass

DrAdeolu:
What's funny?

Abojududu
*pushes mouth out*

DollyParton1:
From your earlier posts, u made it sound like you love nagging randomly. You said it causally like someone would say I love drinking tea, and if my my partner cant accept my tea addiction, he should leave me alone kinda ish.
Yes there are people who nag alot for no apparent reason. Because it is their character. They are just abusive like that.

And there are ways of getting a man's attention. I can categorically tell you that nagging won't do the trick most of the times. Most people (male or female) hate nagging with passion. They just shut down as soon as the nagging starts. Nagging doesn't gain men's attention in most cases, it drives them away instead.

My opinion is that when you are in a relationship, long distance or not, and you have to start running after your partner with texts, calls and chats without them replying, then it is a sign to take a break or break it off.
No need to stay and continue tormenting oneself's and the other person with nags.

Hmmmmm
Let me read again

Rukemi291:
When I saw that he doesn't like teaching, I entered silent mode for some seconds picturing what Op is going through.

Uhmmm. Not good at all.

The kids are growing. their expenses are increasing and he's having a choice? God will see her through sha.

He's having to make choices again

Maybe she should stay home too and join him praying

Mindfulness:
If you tell people that you have a relationship that resembles paradise on earth they will try to convince you that it is not possible, how screwed is this?

Well that seem to be the situation we find ourselves
I am a witness to a ever sweet relationships
Yes there are quiet days but it keeps getting better

PresVA:
My head will fall because I gave my opinion?

SMH
And I said watch it before you shake again and again and it falls off

DollyParton1:
I used to think like him. Then reality started hitting me squarely.
He would come to terms with it sooner or later.


Now long distance relationship. Shït!!! Being there, done that. No way will I ever walk that path again. Because not everyone knows what it entails and the sacrifices involved.

Lol.... my mama's still making the coat.

Well I think Mr mindfulness has not only seen reality
He has tasted it
Muchechecheche

Oh Mrs

Rukemi291:
Ahh. I just saw that he doesn't like teaching. I don't think this is a matter of what he likes or doesn't like o. He has to intensify his efforts. You have tried in your way.

He doesn't like teaching def won't like some other kind of jobs
Op pls stop making excuses for your husband
In this part if the country not everyone likes what they are doing
They are doing it cos of the pay
Excuse is a no no no

I was in this situation too
Yes we had our shouting days and very best days during this time
You gotta push him
You can't be the only one pushing while he's watching

PresVA:
As in eehh... I was just reading her posts and SMH... Take me for who I am is one nonsense I don't believe in...

She knows she nags a lot and she isn't making any efforts to change rather she believes anyone that loves her will love her for who she is(absolute bull$hit).. she isn't even concerned about the emotional trauma she maybe be causing her partner. .

Just like someone telling you she's a womaniser, abuser , cheat or liar; then telling you to love him the way he is.. Mtcheeeew..... Nobody was born to endure and endurance isn't an evidence of love!..if what you do hurts people especially your partner, then you need to change...

Lmao
I don't have a problem with me then what's yours?

Pls also watch your head
Do not let it fall

DollyParton1:
You realise nagging is a form of abuse. Both words and emotional abuse.

Really?

So many things I dunno
I must be a witch then

You should also know a lady don't nag without a reason
Or I don't have rights to be jealous?
I don't have rights to wanna get his attention?
Lack of these makes a woman nag
I don't think there are women that nags unnecessary
Women ain't mad to just pick on anything
If I nag then I am nagging cos there's something

OK reminds me when I was in a LDR with this guy
Called no response
Chat no
Hmmmmmm
Not like no trust but few times that devil will come on you and then he picked I started
Where were you
Hope you used a condom
She's finer and hotter than me
Those crazy childish act
And dude just hung up
Then I sent series of msgs


Now was it my fault that I nagged?
Have I also abused him in any form?

Ewuro4:
Abojududu..

Rotflmao
Why did I view it again na

DollyParton1:
Lol..I know. I ended up writing an epistle.

I hope I haven't started to nag on this thread

DollyParton1:
Not changing for your partner. Change for yourself. Change because you want to stop hurting someone. Change because you feel you truly need to.
If you feel your character is not affecting anyone negatively, you don't have to change.

Example, I can't stand someone that lies, total turn off. Now if I discover my partner is a liar, am gonna try to understand why they lie, analyse it critically. Talk to them about their lies, let them see how bad it is affecting the people around them negatively. Let them come to the conclusion that they have to change. Not for me but because it is a bad character. If they are not ready to change, I take a walk because I can't live the rest of my life like that.


Don't hide yourself. Changing is not synonymous to pretence. Pretence is when someone from the example above tries to make their partner falsely perceive that they do not lie anymore. All their efforts will be directed at changing the way their partner sees them.
But when someone is changing, the way they view things change, they are concerned about how everyone around them feels due to their actions. Their focus shifts from how they are seen to how they affect people. They acknowledge that they hurt people with their lies and they sincerely wanna stop that.

There are some imperfection you love someone with, that is if you know you can stand that for the rest of your life. Accepting people's imperfections does not extend to their selfish traits. No one is perfect yes. But there is always a perfect one for everyone.

You can't keep nagging my head off everytime and expect me to stick with you for the rest of my life. Same way I don't expect you to stick with me if something I do hurts you most times, and I refuse to let it go.

My opinion is that if your partner complains about a character of yours to you. Sit down on your own and analyze it first.
How did they tell me? Is he being manipulative about it? Or going commandos on me?
Is that my particular character really hurtful? How would I feel if the tables were turned?
Will me letting go of that character make me loose my self or my identity in the process?
So many things to ponder on. After this is when you can sit with them and talk to them about it and if u wanna change, ask them for help.

Compromise is when I hate rice and he hates beans, but we decided to eat rice and beans mixture. Or eat those food on alternate days.
Compromise is not me coming home to a nagging husband after a hard day work everyday.
Or when my husband refuses to help me financially because he is stingy and not because he is financially incapable. Thats suicidal.

Chai too long but I picked the change part maybe I tried and it never worked
I am sha not a witch that nags all the time
I nag cos that's the only way I let out my anger, jealousy and something
Its something I can't control when I am fumming
So that's my own bad side, I know it and I don't need any man to remind me else I nag again

Mindfulness:
I wasn't talking about sacrifices and endurance as part of a successful relationship.

Lol sorry
I quoted you and directed some at the op who thinks endurance and sacrifices makes a successful relationship

warriboy21:
swe bar...wer u @ valpo

Huh
Kilonjebe

Mindfulness:
I don't get this part. Why would you want your partner to endure anything? Would you like it if he who was checking how much you can endure by for example cheating on you?

If anyone asked me how much I can endure, I would say NOTHING! Why would I? Is this is what relationships are for?

That goes for a man that's pretending duh
If you being real
You won't have issues with my nagging
You know me for it, don't pretend to wanna endure and hoping I will change
I can't change
I flaunt my own bad side but I guess the best part of me always wins sha


Op talking about sacrifices
Endurance lol
I just put in a check and you already raised eyebrow

So my dear
Relationship should be enjoyed and not endured

No matter what
I.can't date and a stingy man not to talk of making sacrifices by enduring
Not in this world
Ori iyemi onije


Stinginess, abuse(any form o) words, physical, emotional
Hell to the fecking no
I am too pretty to stay and suffer
Life is too short
Live every moment like you won't live again
Miolewaku

alwelldinho:
I guess you know most men will still tag it as a sacrifice. canceling a meeting for your sake is one biiiiigggg SACRIFICE

Wow
I never knew


I am sure if he had told me
I would had asviced him go for his meeting but not doing it willingly and using it as reference for me

If my meeting him is not fruitful
I bet he wouldn't have ignored that particular meeting

For me
I like to chase money
Not saying he doesn't worth my time but we should both understand
I personally can't leave my money making

I miss my sunday evenings at SWE bar

alwelldinho:
hmmm

Lol
Just asking na
Are those supposed be part of sacrifices

Yes I am a manager and always bust but I make out time for you (sacrifice) in your own word

If nothing comes naturally except you using the word making sacrifice then that's no relationship

I am. Using my whole life experience as examples here
You tell me you have a meeting but cancelled it cos you wanna be with me and you end up tellingvme that a sacrifice
I will tell you nope
Don't say that
You are here cos you wanna be not you making sacrifice
Who told you those few hours if I don't see you I die


#kidding#