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alwelldinho:
@mindful and @dyt, Im really enjoying your two sides of the coin. though I still believe that a successful relationship is all encompassing. the feeling should be natural and where its necessary to make sacrifices, you do.

Are you saying making time out should be a sacrifice?
Meeting should also be or you taking me out or chatting me up
If you call those sacrifices then I am sorry we never supposed be in a relationship

Mindfulness:
Pleasing the ones we love comes naturally and is fun and not a sacrifice. This is why I don't understand why people think it is a sacrifice.

Additionally, the focus should be on the traits we love about our partner. People focus too much on what the partner is lacking instead of focusing on what the person is doing for them and giving. Gratefulness and appreciation go a long way. Complaints don't. I have seen plenty of people suddenly remembering what they had in their spouse, once the person leaves but they were not able to appreciate it when the partner was still around.

And this is the imperfection
Forget the ugly side and concentrate on the best you share
We may not be saying same thing but we driving at same point

To me I don't need to make any sacrifices
Mo sorry
Yes I had options to stop nagging and got the best ever but they tend to always say you nag and I get so angry like go please, this is me and I won't change it
Basically they never really understood I do it most times to see how much they can really do endure
My own ways of no pretence sha
I won't still stop nagging anyway
Whistling away and flips hair

alwelldinho:
I was made to understand that love= respect, trust and tolerance. you dont give what you dont have. if you think a successful relationship just flows on its own then a guess your partner is a saint. been able to tolerate your partner is a sacrifice, compromising certain principles for the sake your spouses is also a sacrifice. me think, a successful relationship is a give and take thing.

Good you said you think
I have been in relationships
Solid ones lol
It just flows
It keeps getting deeper
I have learnt to stop trying to please
I just let it happen
Yes we human are subconscious and wanna please the partner we love
But it stopped working that way a long time
Why do you think marriages fail
Cos they tend to change and can't endure anymore
But on the other hand you know this is me and what I can do and no pretence, trust me this world will be a better one

Yes my man knows me with all my loosed bolts and I know him too with his crazy way
No pretence
No hide and seek
If I see a part I can't cope with I take my leave phew
No time trying to fit in what can't
And that's the whole truth

Mindfulness:
It doesn't come natural because most of us were trained to think that it requires hard work but from my experience if it requires hard work then something is wrong. If the relationship is right, it flows. You don't feel like you are making a sacrifice for making out time with your spouse, you are keen on doing it. If you don't feel like spending time with your spouse and it feels like a sacrifice to you, what's the point of the relationship?

If I go shopping and see something that my spouse needs, I get it for him when the money is there and I enjoy getting it. I don't think of it as having made a sacrifice.

I don't tolerate my spouse. I appreciate my spouse.

As for empathy and understanding, it is required in all spheres of our life. I don't think it is hard work either.

Oya shake body
Oya move body
Make you ring alarm
Shake body

Ewuro4:
Lol

Sis, you don't remember the f00l ?

brought same topic I shut down months ago, I follow am so tey till we tear our shirts for culture section

Oponuayerada , wetin consain am how couple chose to adress each other.

Rotflmao
My son just asked daya what is it

Ewuro4:
Abojududu is that you again?

How is anybody's marital prerogative your beeswax?

Face your work oh...

DollyParton1:
I disagree.
A successful relationship doesn't just flows.
It requires hard work.
It requires sacrifices.
It requires being mindful of your partner.
His/her needs.
It feels like home when you make it home.
Compromise.
It is filled with love, joy and fun when both parties give up their selfishness in whatever form and however minute it is.
Disagreement makes the relationship healthier only when both parties sit to talk and sort out the issues causing disagreement.
You don't let disagreement flow. You don't sulk when their is disagreement.
You talk about it in an healthy way, however inconvenient that is.
No matter how long it takes for both parties to calm down, you have to talk about it.
Those are some of the hard work which at the end of the day results in successful relationship.

Do I sense you talking about changing for my partner, not accepting me for me?
This is me a nag, whoever wants to love me will with all my imperfections
If a man is stingy and I know but still loves him, he can't change lai lai, me sticking with him is accepting his imperfections and making it perfect.

This is the logic
Don't hide yourself
Show this is you and trust me you won't ever have any issues to worry

All we want is just that someone that makes us feel perfect
That one that completes us no matter his or her flaws
That one you can go on and on and on with and still crushes on him
That very one made for you
Don't change for me as you will always get back to yourself if something lacks
Just be you and that your complete will meet you half way

Me I kuku have lots of imperfections
I nag
I am impulsive
And some bolt don't just loose, they fly off sometimes ask mynd44


Damn some men stinginess get grades sha

Adaobi12:
PMS, whats that?

Pre menstrual syndrome

uboma:
Lol.

I leave in peace biko before you get hot on me.

uboma:
Try pouring very cold water on your head when you get hot next time.

Lol

Na
Makes it worse and it feels like I should devour the person

Don't make me start nagging you young man

uboma:
Lol.

Please learn to stop it. Its not healthy.

Really?
Pla tell me not to nag him.when I am hot

Adaobi12:
Tell me more about the LDR, Was is inter state, country etc? How did you both manage it. How did you manage it, personally?

Well
I think I managed it well at some point but I am a crazy kinda woman

I have had both of interstate and country
I must say I enjoyed it sha but when that thing stings ehn
Call it PMS

uboma:
What a sad way to loose such rare but wonderful relationship.

I hope you are cutting down on your nagging habit.

Nope
That's part of me

I can't stop it
Hehehehehehe

Anything and Everything that makes me smile

It just feels right
He's not only your friend but that someone you can never get bore with
No matter how many hours you spend together always something to talk about
These relationships are rare
i must have been lucky to experience 2 of it
Can't say how it happened but I found out I was growing in love daily
Yes we might not talk for hours or days but I never was outta love
The bond was crazy

All I saw was a friend a brother a gossip mate a sexual toy a lover my play mate in him
Never regretted the love we shared
But hey sometimes you can't have all you ever want

I nagged him out(LDR)
Said I went crazy
I know
I COULD BE A TERRIBLE NAG especially when I WANT SOMETHING

Nope
I love my mum crazy
So do I love my dad
Mum never created any impression to hate my dad
She didn't even tell me all that happened but I found out and I loved her even more
For a mother to go through such and still say to you love your father and take care of him
I have the best mum ever

So you blaming your mum for not making it work?
Well I can't judge you
You got your reasons
Good luck

For another reason God pls raise me high

This man has to go down
I can't imagine the pain the mother is going through
Another pain for not getting justice
I AM VEXED

Wow
Wow
As a woman, you can't see your family failing but as a man (your husband) he's just sitting home praying hoping the miracle will walk up to him
Wow and wow and wow

Yes marriages have the financial parts but not when one is trying and the other is hoping on prayers

I have a friend, he's a man, educated, he just got outta job, dude is fine, got all the things classy ladies want but he don't have money but do you know what he does?
Cleaning every weekend
He doesn't even mind selling okrika clothes as he's saving towards it

Does your hubby think he's too big for any job?
Yes I understand cos I am a witness to a broke family, I supported but never tolerated a lazy and excuse man
He's gotta get his damn asssss up

I really wish I can give these kids all
A house to call a home
A school to go
Food to eat
Clothes to wear
Everything

May God bless you young man

Is that not lepacious Bose?
Pretty

BoboYekini:
Ile eru na everything u take resemble your mummy.

Omo dara just like mama
Iya e lofijo
Omo mummy
Shake something

Jeggings:
Or you could have been a target for scam, who knows? You will have to answer that for yourself based on how you related. Nairalanders in those days appeared realer, the ones of these days are so fake you can smell it even off your keyboard.

Well
I could possible had been a target but guess they found out say I no get money


But love don wounjour person ooo

Jeggings:
Yes, she claimed she was catfished but it could likely be fiction

Well
I don't tryst these NLers one bit
Lies everywhere
Phew

Jeggings:
Cool down iyawo. We nefa reach to fight yet. We will surely get there anyway.

Jeggings:
Shame. Odiaero the fake pilot.

Funny odiero was my very good friend offline oo


Now I am.scared for myself
I made friends with scammers
Nawa me
Does that mean I am one too cos this saying that goes you attract your likes

Jeggings:
I remember this incident. but it was a boring thread, she refused to mention the name of the nairalander and I think she was only seeking popularity and attention.

Old you(man/woman)
Abeg continue

Jazzlite:
Hmm toyin..

Hmmmmmmm

BoboYekini:
Stop stalking me abeg. Next thing we know you'll open a thread.

Sagamite:
If you fancy me, just say so.

I fancy you

Gboliwe:
Hahahahhahaha @meatseller abi na ponmo seller! Chai, are meat sellers not entitled to be loved? Unu ga egbu madu. I would so love to read that story. Jeggings!!

The fact he lied about it all
Lady was catfished

ifyalways:
It's definitely different stories. I think I faintly remember the " meat seller, fake picture etc" story and thread , it trended on the romance section.
The " dumped at airport/ ugly" story was between a popular single female NLDer ( us based) and a somewhat popular ( sports peeps) UK based male NLDer.

Madam give names na
Ahn ahn

Complete your aproko and get your degree

tpiadotcom:
when you bleach na

For you
I learnt you like them light skinned
Additional to what I cab do
I can cook and clean



Boboyekini
Pls leave madam.alone

Buhahahahaha
Boboyekini

BoboYekini:
Thought you had the memory of an elephant, you this

tpiadotcom:
Stop stalking me before you fall in love, iwo kini yi.
Did I tell you I want to see my moniker on the love scam list ?

Boboyekini abeg don't finish mummy tpia with your magic

ifyalways:
I also remember reading the story of a certain female nlder who flew from US to UK only to be dumped on arrival cos the male nlder she went to see thought her to be ugly.

Mama ooooo
Mojuba yin ooo
Antenna yin ni extension

BoboYekini:
ko ri be rara o I know if I say I don't want, imma hurt your feelings.
Ma worry, Coogar will NEVER see it!

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