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efficiencie:
No be me oh. Validation bawo. So if you are surrounded by people who do not approve of your lifestyle you will change it so that they can accept you? If yes, then you are a feather in the storm. You will forever be at the mercy of narcissists, demagogues, abusers etc. No human's validation means anything to me because in the end I will face the consequences of my decisions without the help of anyone.

Lol.... It does you just won't accept it... Imagine yourself in a case where it's just you in this world you'll understand this thing better. You'll not be pressurized to do more you'd be just contented wherever you are. A cat's basic Toyota car can take you to anywhere you want. As long as it's new... Give me just one reason you need a higher one that extremely expensive..

Honestly it gets worse

superCleanworks:
speak for yourself. quit the GENERALIZATION.

Please Give me a reason why you think I shouldn't generalize

Powerbando:
You are very right
I tried all my best to not to impress people, but still undirectly impress people
I don't dress or eat expensively, but my inner man still crave for it.
And that is what is putting people under pressure to keep up
I just hope one day I become totally broken🙏🙏

Thank you... We end up wanting to impress people even without knowing...

I can't help but imagine the level at which humans crave for validation from others. Both directly and Indirectly. Some people also pretend not to crave for validation just to get validated at the end.

From the food we eat, to the house we leave in , the car we drive, the people we marry. All these things boils down to our desires to be validated by others.

Technology and the developed countries as a whole know this truth and they use it against us every day. Check out the iphones, Facebook or social media as a whole, Lamborghini, big nyash, big breast, just to mention a few.

I stand to be corrected but I honestly believe that our happiness is greatly driven by validation. Directly and Indirectly

Please what's your take on this.

You dated this man for five months and then you're complaining at the sixth month.

Knowing fully well that you're not supposed to depend on him for financial support at this level of the relationship why do it?

Hope you're not listening to friends or influenced by the things you see..

It's obvious you're a good person but you're beginning to feel entitled which isn't good. It's his Money, if he decides to give u fine, if he doesn't still fine.. that's how it should be till he marries you..

If he's loving you right, treating you right and your only problem is you not gaining financially from him then just know you're the problem.

My Advice:
take your eyes off his money..
Love him right,
develop yourself,
dress well,
look good,
Smell good
Respect him,
(If you already started having sex). give him very good sex when it's necessary.
Give him good reasons respectfully if you're not ready for sex.
Don't ever tell him you'll not give him sex because he's not attending to your needs..

Do these things and this man will never be able to breathe without you... If you end up marrying him he'll have no choice than to lavish on you.. cheers

donphilopus:
Shettima don dey suffer for their hands since. Nyako don join Shettima for the bad mouthing today. Nothing Musa nor go see for gate.

Oga no one is hateful. See how cute and good looking you are but fail till see things for what it is. Had to go through your post just for me to see how comfortable you are supporting Tinibu of all people.. even after seeing the obvious reality, just because of personal gain or self interest. Omo, you're a finished man aswear

I'm not a politician and I also don't mingle in political affairs too much. But you see these two people.... Watch out for them... They'll cripple the country to an unrecognizable stage. . I know one of them, I don't know one of them...

Just zoom in.

Mrtaye:
Freedom is above all okay and it's because you are free that you can type on Nairaland but you can't have that luxurious freedom of expression in North Korea hence you will be arrested and killed or jailed

Freedom is curbed, but every other thing works well in North Korea. In Nigeria what are you really doing with the freedom you have. Trust me, nothing.... Take out the enormous freedom and give me a strong and working system I don't mind.

Sweetplum:
You be OGB cultist or what?
Moreover every boy called Ebube that I know always get big head. Front row and back row, opon and ogo.

Sweetplum. Name gets me thinking. Wetin sweet for where you deh?

Sweetplum:
Lol. I m matured. I don't do boyfriends.
But you this EBUBS or Ebube too dey quick over react. No dey do like big head naa?

Lol. how you take know say I get big head. Now you're sounding smart. No deh yab guys again make you no go collect.

Sweetplum:
Jobless boys with 3 boxer shorts.
Is dating multiple partners an achievement?
Why Una life just be like telemundo like this?

Apparently your boyfriend has just three boxers. That doesn't mean other guys are like him

EmiDon11:
Na one o

But she don dey give me High Blood Pressure.

One deh always give HBP as long as you never marry her.. expect you don hammer big time

Thonia69:
I know

You never talk true

Thonia69:
Just 5

You be babe na

With the increasing number of girls in the world today most men end up dating more than one just to find a compatible mate.

It's a faceless forum. Feel free to express yourself. Let's get a data down..


So let's go. How many babes you get?

It'll still sell

Writing amounts in dollars is killings our currency

duro4chang:
Curse and dammation will never depart from you life and your entire family

You life shall be miserable until you stop drinking water

duro4chang:
So it is carrying of weight that makes a good president? Then we should go for weight lifters then

May your generation unborn suffer the faith of Nigeria

SyncForth:
How do I control Djack home theater with MI Remote, I can't find the option for Djack

Did you finally get a solution?

I actually drank odogwu bitters because of portable

faceland:
The latter is dated 14th and he want them to pack on the 15th when they had plans to renew... Bros, he has lost this case especially with that sock-away excuse. He ought to even pay damages for trying to make them homeless without telling warning 6 months in advance.


I would leave the house for him when I have found a replacement at my convince (which might be one month max), but I know I have the right to foooq that up for at least 6 months to a year while we drag it at court.

Lol....I'm definitely leaving after a month. Just time to gather up enough cash. I no get strength for wahala

kingthreat:
Guy start gathering money.You have a right to 3 months at least.

Thank you sir

Richy4:
What a kind man to give you 1 month to decide .. I think some Nigerian landlords are nice.. though there are some from hell..

But what were u tenants eating that warrants sewage system to get removed/ drained every 5 months

It's probably a strategy to to tell us to vacate.


Imagine out of four tenants the letter was given to just two of us.

I and the other tenant had protested on why a single prepaid meter should be brought fur the whole compound without even noticing anyone. Making us to pay higher bills for electricity. Not that we aren't paying our bills as at when due.

Maybe na it make the guy want use toilet matter pursue us

Richy4:
It's good that you were trying to pack.. What a good tenant would have done would be to remind the landlord in April that his rent would be expiring on 15th of May.. and will like to move on the 20th of May...this is in order for the landlord to keep the deposit in his possession ready...

The caretakers/ agents that handles and monitor the properties are the ones that does this like one month to the expiration date.. in their absence, the landlord would do that... But to avoid bullshit like this, u should have done it.....

U can't stay in someone else's house and wait till 14th May to make up your mind to leave or to stay when your rent is expiring the next day...I guess u haven't even started looking for an alternative accommodation yet since you were planning to leave... Assuming u will be leaving in a month time, are u gonna pay for that month or is it a windfall or manna from heaven?

I like people that come to equity to come with clean hands buddy... No one whatsoever should be taken advantage of..

Lol. It's totally not as easy as you think. Me planning on moving out means it must be a better place. That also means necessary funds for that purpose has to come.
If the funds does not come I'd rather renew until I'm comfortable enough to move to a better place.
Note: my landlord gives me an extra one month after expiry to renew. It's stated in the agreement/receipt.

Pickmycall:
A tenant who is given a quit notice doesn't pay throughout the six months.

Really please clarify more

Ghostrye:
the notice should have come three to six months before the time you are expecting to vacate depending on your type of tenancy

Thought so too

Richy4:
I understand every other thing except the 15th of May...

When is your rent expiring to start with?.. if it has expired and you have not made any effort to pay, then u are leaving in his house illegally..

If it hasn't expired, then I have never seen that kind of notice in my life..

The rent got expired on the 15th of this month. And I was given a letter on the 15th. Was planning to either park out or renew

pheelhip:
No next step, but the heading of the message doesn't manifest the truth

Tell him the notice came to you unprepared and he would give you enough time to get yourself a new apartment. Enough time like 3mnths. If he asked you. If you can vacate within 3mnths, just leave.

Don't bother talking him in into paying the new house rent, he clear he doesn't need you in the building again if perhaps there's no issue of the soakaway.

Was actually planning to leave before this came up. I'll have to prepare myself and money too. Problem is he didn't include specified timing

Lawyers in the house please give me the advice.
I've never been in this situation. Please What's the best step to take.

Fire this meal eh, that dried fish up there is the most important