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Smartcitizen:
So you don't see Tinubu, Reno Omokri, Fani Kayode and Wike as Demperignon?

You must be a very serious Demperignon too.

🥱🥱🥱🥱

i call one name, you go dey name people wey no concern the matter. na you sabi

everyone lies but you see domperignon... hmmm, if you see that name post anything on nairaland, RUN! just run

after saharareporters, na domperignon in the ranking of posting fake stories and lies

Nifemy4:
I have known peter now for over a decade. The rest of us amongst his pool of friends womanize a lot , but Peter. He is a straightforward, loyal and steadfast handsome guy to the core. His discipline when it comes to women is second to none. i secretly admire his his resolve and firmness when it come come to chasing big bum like the rest of us, especially Seyi, Emmanuel and me----the group leader when it comes to big bum affairs.


Two years ago , during a cool evening hangout with the boys,i had just finished my own bottle of small stout, when Peter hit us all like a Russian missile, the news of his intention to get married to girlfriend Amara.

boom.. the silence that befell the meeting was deafening. i looked at seyi, seyi looked at emma with our eyes widely opened envicing shock and surprises at the same time. well, honestly , i am not supposed to gawk in shock , i always knew peter to be a one way serious fellow . he loved the girl and he never cheated, nor ever flirted with any other. at least we all know all our secrets.

"i intend to set up a business for her, and i budget about 10m for it "these were his words. he opted for a hair(wig)niche for her somewhere around unilag Akoka.

i was miffed and skeptical at the same time. To my mind ,i felt peter never know all this naija lagos babes, they go show you colour wey no dey for crayon soon. but again, he's about to get married to her in months to come aso, it's no effort in futility i persuaded myself to take a chill pill.

He handed over 5m to her at first to scout for the shop and initiate the importation of a few hairs from Vietnam as she claimed.

2 months later, peter who traveled down to the south East in preparation for the traditional marriages that was to come up in august 2024 .arrived lagos..

"Amara, how far with the 5m , how far have you gone with the search" behold. her response was heart stopping and could break sweat from the skin a person living in iceland.

our dear future sister in law allegedly bought an iphone 15 pro max from the money and could barely account for the rest.


I convinced peter to let go off her. she will end up being a liability , which was his greatest fear .

cool story bro

Dpsychologist:
There is an Unspoken Frustration of Modern Men

“If we’re partners, why am I the only one paying all the bills?”

This question doesn’t come from greed.
It doesn’t come from bitterness.
It comes from exhaustion.

In a world where relationships are marketed as equal partnerships, too many men are realizing they’re carrying the entire load—financially, emotionally, and sometimes even logistically. All in the name of “being a man.”

But how fair is that, really?

Let’s dig deep into the hypocrisy, expectations, and emotional toll behind this simple but powerful question.


💑 The Myth of Equal Partnership in an Unequal Economy

We live in an era where women are more empowered than ever. They earn degrees. They run businesses. They vote. They drive. They have the choice to pursue careers or stay at home.

And yet—when it comes to who pays the bills, many still revert to old-school expectations:

“The man is the provider.”

Wait…what?

You can’t preach gender equality on one hand and demand traditional privilege on the other.

If we’re truly partners, the responsibility to build the home should be shared—not dumped on one person.


🧾 The Reality of One-Sided Provision

Let’s be honest about what it means when only one person pays all the bills:

Stress: One person constantly worries about rent, food, utility bills, car maintenance, kids’ school fees, and emergencies.

Resentment: Over time, the provider begins to feel used, especially if their efforts are not reciprocated emotionally or practically.

Burnout: They may work long hours or take multiple jobs, sacrificing their health and mental well-being.

Imbalance of Power: Ironically, some partners who don’t contribute financially still want to be “50-50” in all decisions.


It’s not just about the money—it’s about effort, respect, and equity.



💬 When “Support” Means Watching From the Sidelines

Many partners—especially in modern dating—say:

“I support you emotionally.”
“I cook sometimes.”
“I clean, I’m present, I’m loyal.”

That’s good. But here’s the reality:

If bills aren’t emotional, your contribution can’t just be emotional.

You can’t hug a landlord instead of paying rent.

You can’t cook love for NEPA to give you light.

Support should be multi-dimensional. It should stretch across finances, emotional encouragement, domestic contributions, and shared responsibilities.

Being in a relationship where one person is the ATM and the other is a “life coach” is not partnership—it’s imbalance.

🧠 What the “All Bills Must Be Paid by the Man” Mentality Really Does

Let’s strip the filters and IG captions.

This mindset:

1. Devalues Men Emotionally: If all a man is good for is money, what happens when he can’t provide?

2. Discourages Intimacy: Resentment grows in silence. A man who feels financially exploited may detach emotionally and physically.

3. Creates Silent Pressure: Most men don’t complain—they just suffer in silence. Until they break down… or walk away.


The result? Lonely marriages. Emotionally distant relationships. Secretly bitter breadwinners.

🧮 What Does Partnership Really Mean?

Let’s define the word “partner.”

A partner is:

Someone who shares the burden, not just the benefits.

Someone who contributes based on their capacity, not just their gender.

Someone who’s willing to build together, not just spend what someone else builds.


If a man is paying the rent, utility bills, school fees, and fuel, while the woman’s income goes to personal things, beauty routines, and weekend brunch—that’s not partnership.
That’s sponsorship.


🙅‍♂️ The “He’s the Man, He Should Provide” Argument Is Lazy

Many defend financial imbalance by quoting tradition:

“A real man should provide. That’s what our fathers did.”

Fair. But let’s finish the sentence:

“Our mothers also woke up at 5 a.m. to cook, raised six kids, ran businesses from home, respected their husbands, and never tweeted about oppression.”

In the past, yes—men paid for everything.
But women worked differently, and they respected the effort. The labor was divided in a way that felt mutual.

Today, women want modern freedoms with zero traditional responsibilities.

That’s not equality.
That’s selective feminism.

❤️ What Men Actually Want: Contribution, Not Control

To be clear: Most men are not asking women to split every bill down the middle.

They just want:

To feel supported, not used.

To see effort, not entitlement.

To experience gratitude, not guilt-tripping.

If your partner earns more, maybe they contribute more. If you earn less, maybe you do more at home. If you both earn equally, find balance.

It’s not about 50/50.
It’s about 100/100 in effort.

🧘 Final Thoughts: Partnership Is Built, Not Demanded

If you’re in a relationship where one person is doing all the financial lifting, it’s not just unfair—it’s unsustainable.

Partnership means:

⚡Carrying the weight together.

⚡Adjusting when one person is weak.

⚡Respecting the silent sacrifices.


So the next time someone asks:

“If we’re partners, how come I’m the only one paying all the bills?”

Don’t just roll your eyes.

Answer them honestly.
Or contribute more actively.
Because love without effort… is just dependence in disguise.

i'm suspecting this is domperignon's second account. the calamities have started to befall him and now he is frustrated because his wife does not want to share bill.

Dpsychologist:
There is an Unspoken Frustration of Modern Men

“If we’re partners, why am I the only one paying all the bills?”

This question doesn’t come from greed.
It doesn’t come from bitterness.
It comes from exhaustion.

In a world where relationships are marketed as equal partnerships, too many men are realizing they’re carrying the entire load—financially, emotionally, and sometimes even logistically. All in the name of “being a man.”

But how fair is that, really?

Let’s dig deep into the hypocrisy, expectations, and emotional toll behind this simple but powerful question.


💑 The Myth of Equal Partnership in an Unequal Economy

We live in an era where women are more empowered than ever. They earn degrees. They run businesses. They vote. They drive. They have the choice to pursue careers or stay at home.

And yet—when it comes to who pays the bills, many still revert to old-school expectations:

“The man is the provider.”

Wait…what?

You can’t preach gender equality on one hand and demand traditional privilege on the other.

If we’re truly partners, the responsibility to build the home should be shared—not dumped on one person.


🧾 The Reality of One-Sided Provision

Let’s be honest about what it means when only one person pays all the bills:

Stress: One person constantly worries about rent, food, utility bills, car maintenance, kids’ school fees, and emergencies.

Resentment: Over time, the provider begins to feel used, especially if their efforts are not reciprocated emotionally or practically.

Burnout: They may work long hours or take multiple jobs, sacrificing their health and mental well-being.

Imbalance of Power: Ironically, some partners who don’t contribute financially still want to be “50-50” in all decisions.


It’s not just about the money—it’s about effort, respect, and equity.



💬 When “Support” Means Watching From the Sidelines

Many partners—especially in modern dating—say:

“I support you emotionally.”
“I cook sometimes.”
“I clean, I’m present, I’m loyal.”

That’s good. But here’s the reality:

If bills aren’t emotional, your contribution can’t just be emotional.

You can’t hug a landlord instead of paying rent.

You can’t cook love for NEPA to give you light.

Support should be multi-dimensional. It should stretch across finances, emotional encouragement, domestic contributions, and shared responsibilities.

Being in a relationship where one person is the ATM and the other is a “life coach” is not partnership—it’s imbalance.

🧠 What the “All Bills Must Be Paid by the Man” Mentality Really Does

Let’s strip the filters and IG captions.

This mindset:

1. Devalues Men Emotionally: If all a man is good for is money, what happens when he can’t provide?

2. Discourages Intimacy: Resentment grows in silence. A man who feels financially exploited may detach emotionally and physically.

3. Creates Silent Pressure: Most men don’t complain—they just suffer in silence. Until they break down… or walk away.


The result? Lonely marriages. Emotionally distant relationships. Secretly bitter breadwinners.

🧮 What Does Partnership Really Mean?

Let’s define the word “partner.”

A partner is:

Someone who shares the burden, not just the benefits.

Someone who contributes based on their capacity, not just their gender.

Someone who’s willing to build together, not just spend what someone else builds.


If a man is paying the rent, utility bills, school fees, and fuel, while the woman’s income goes to personal things, beauty routines, and weekend brunch—that’s not partnership.
That’s sponsorship.


🙅‍♂️ The “He’s the Man, He Should Provide” Argument Is Lazy

Many defend financial imbalance by quoting tradition:

“A real man should provide. That’s what our fathers did.”

Fair. But let’s finish the sentence:

“Our mothers also woke up at 5 a.m. to cook, raised six kids, ran businesses from home, respected their husbands, and never tweeted about oppression.”

In the past, yes—men paid for everything.
But women worked differently, and they respected the effort. The labor was divided in a way that felt mutual.

Today, women want modern freedoms with zero traditional responsibilities.

That’s not equality.
That’s selective feminism.

❤️ What Men Actually Want: Contribution, Not Control

To be clear: Most men are not asking women to split every bill down the middle.

They just want:

To feel supported, not used.

To see effort, not entitlement.

To experience gratitude, not guilt-tripping.

If your partner earns more, maybe they contribute more. If you earn less, maybe you do more at home. If you both earn equally, find balance.

It’s not about 50/50.
It’s about 100/100 in effort.

🧘 Final Thoughts: Partnership Is Built, Not Demanded

If you’re in a relationship where one person is doing all the financial lifting, it’s not just unfair—it’s unsustainable.

Partnership means:

⚡Carrying the weight together.

⚡Adjusting when one person is weak.

⚡Respecting the silent sacrifices.


So the next time someone asks:

“If we’re partners, how come I’m the only one paying all the bills?”

Don’t just roll your eyes.

Answer them honestly.
Or contribute more actively.
Because love without effort… is just dependence in disguise.

so wanting to share bill with your wife is frustrating you? god forbid the men of this generation. a lot of you are weak and lazy

delugadou:
That PH pastor moves different. If you look at his eyes, you'll tread carefully. I heard that he once imprisoned the daughter of an ex governor

If dark guy has loved ones, now is the time for them to talk to him. Otherwise he might lose weight before Christmas

I trust Nigerians, they will change his name to Very Lanky Guy

Kemi olunloyo is a mad woman and even your bus driver can lock her up because everyone knows she likes trouble.

sweetkev:
Seun, has it gotten this bad that once someone mentioned Tinubu name under comment section, your mods banned the person from commenting on nairaland for few hours even if the person never insulted anyone. I hope you are aware of this Seun ?

you must learn to be civil by force

DomPerignon:
Amaechi first openly declared that as an Ikwere man, that he is Ibo when he was a serving Minister under the Buhari adminstration.

Amaechi made that statement in response to a journalist asking him to comment on cririsicm of the Buhaei government marginalising the SE of federal appointments.

Amaechi replied that it was all nonesense and used his appointment as a Super Minister as an example claiming further that he is an Ibo man from Rivers state.

Amaechi is now backtracking and saying he made that statement out of political convineince . In short , Amaechi has confessed that he lied to decieve and that he isn't an Ibo man but an Ikwere .


Now the question is why is Amaechi backtracking ?

It serves no purpose and it is doing him real disservice to admit he lied for political convenience and he coming out with what he said will further alienate him from the SE core Ibo population.

So why did Amaechi suddenly decide to confess and state unequivocally that he isn't Ibo?

Did Amaechi need to come clean so as to assuage the northerners he is plotting with to get to Aso Rock on his real ethnicity ? And if so, does Amaechi see being Ibo as a real obstacle in gaining northern support?

i see you are still out here spewing trash

osuofia2:
Regrets of most northern elites, send their kids abroad and they become radical. The case of Mutalab still fresh in our memories.

I am really happy with how Mutalab's case turned out. he will live long in prison to see he made a silly choice. people like him never learn their lesson and it is the only way to teach them

Bestwt001:
Justice Uwais lived a life of impact, integrity, and nation-building. His legacy, especially in judicial reforms and electoral integrity, will continue to shape Nigeria’s legal and democratic future. May his soul rest in perfect peace, and may his vision for a just Nigeria live on.

and his son joined ISIS what an impact from his family

Ogbuu101:
The one wey him pikin go Syria go join ISIS

lol, na papa ISIS be that

Nna2025:
Hello Nairalanders, I know we are very sensitive to cheating so I ask for forgiveness.

I had a fling with a girl I have known for sometime now, I used CD but at some point, I used my finger. I started reading about Hiv and the possiblity of contracting it through fingering. Although my readings says % is very low provided there is no fresh injury, however I opted for PEP to calm my nerves. ( Pep is a drug used, when you suspect an exposure to HIV, remember you have 36hours to take it or else it won't work)

I tore off the pack, hid it in something and kept it in my bag. My wife for whatever reason searched my bag, saw it googled it and came back shouting and screaming since last night. My only comment to her is let's go for hiv test And that the drug was for my asthma, I know she wants to take it somewhere for verification.

My only fear now is if I disclose the reason for taking PEP, then my marriage is in danger.


Anything I can do to salvage this situation, I do not have time. Please my people

fake story for engagements

Wickedlywicked:
They should keep coming, the hangman is not tired of doing his job.
Blame this on your father, Nnamdi Azikiwe. While others were fighting for their people (I.e Awolowo in the West and Amadu Bello in the North) in a regional government fashion, Azikiwe was sternly against them and YES, it was an Igbo man that advocated for this ONE-NIGERIA that we are “enjoying” today😂
He so frustrated Awolowo instead of looking after the interest of his own people in the East just like Awo and Bello. He frustrated Awo’s secession clause just because he wanted to become President. Well, he became a ceremonial president😂 You shall keep enjoying this one-Nigeria forced on us by you igbos. We die hia😂😂

this is a very domperignon thing of you to write

that boy has been roaming around nairaland, trying to rewrite nigeria history with his depressing dreams

before person wey get white hair na wise man

i'm happy for internet

it has shown us that even numbskulls get old too

lol. make she enjoy now, and I hope she remember to prepare her outside Nigeria plan when her husband finally move

HEAVEN4444:
This matter was simple. Dem show fubara the time wey be chop billions and the documented proof. Talk say Dem go make an public. Fubara body jus calm down 😂😂😂😂


Allegedly

na only this word save you for wetin you write so

Mariangeles:
He caved in.

Bentacur007:
Oil dey your head

na condemn oil

this man is a poor representation of his tribesmen

Seun:
Please bear with me. I am trying to figure it out. 😔

abi you see why I say saharareporters is not a credible source of information yet your moderators keep pushing their posts to front page. you will get into trouble that no amount of disclaimer will save you. stop allowing those saharareprters post on frontpage

how is this alarm? why is this news?

if oga no like am, make he siddon inside house

the future of nigeria is bright!

this is another domperignon post. that guy can write this type of stories for nairaland

Nigerian politicians like free money!

that is how they go around the globe, collecting loan upon loan that has mortgaged other people's children future.

I said other people's children because the children of the politicians are either groomed to continue the political legacy of their parents in Nigeria or they are whisked away to countries that their leadership provided a more stable environment and better quality of life.

DyshApp:
UK-based Nigerian woman, Uloma Nwogu, has recounted a distressing experience involving the father of her children, whom she claims reappeared after years of absence and attempted to use her as a route into the United Kingdom.


Uloma revealed in a post on Facebook that she relocated to the UK two years ago with her children after raising them alone for six years. She described the journey as both physically and mentally draining, stating that the stress of single-handedly raising children in a foreign land led to her developing high blood pressure.

According to Uloma, the children’s father resurfaced in January this year through a Facebook message, expressing a sudden desire to reconnect with the children.

After a series of conversations, he proposed to be included in her visa application and, in return, offered to reimburse her for the children’s school fees from the past six years.

all this domperignon post sef. na wah

yeah, Wike knows he is on borrowed time

His political hustle is gradually winding down. It was good while it lasted

lol

adenigga:
Source: https://vanguardngr.com/Saudi-deportation-Gumi-urges-FG-to-stand-up-for-Nigerians-rights-abroad

oh, so these islamic-teaching, sharia-loving gnats know about the freedoms enjoyed under democracy?

I thought they love an islamic government and all its oppression until it is used against them

haha. love to see it

deport him anytime he sets foot on your soil

DyshApp:
Popular comedian, Adesokan Adedeji Emmanuel a.k.a Shank Comics recounts how his father switched from being a Muslim to a Christian.


He made this known while speaking to a fan he met in the United States.

The fan had informed him that he thought he were Muslim like himself, however, Shank noted that he is a Christian.


However, he clarified that he has a Muslim name, Saheed, and his father used to be a Muslim.

He noted that his father had converted on the day a church gave him food while he was famished.

Shank said …

“My daddy was a Muslim. Then there was one time he was fucking hungry then one church gave him food, then he became a Christian. I swear to God, my dad is so cheap.”

hustle o... make your children no use you catch trips for internet.

you can never find any rich man pikin saying such about their parents.

Golde58:
Your write up is riddled with inaccuracies, generalisations, and senselessly offensive stereotypes. You trivialized the complexities of the 1967-1970 civil war which was supported militarily by Britain and soviet union as well as other powers. Your take on the aftermath of the civil war is indicative of your addled mind. Your reference to Ah Q is both laughable and shows a lack of understanding, which you've managed to decieve yourself as smartness. It is no news that the Igbos rebuilt after the war and are celebrated for community resilience.
Also, your claims lack evidence and relies on emotionally charged rhetoric. And all your quack references do not compensate for your lack of substantive argument. You've just managed to show your poorly constructed and biased screed that misrepresent history, and stereotypes an entire ethnic group with provocative rhetoric. Your entire posts on this thread lacks evidence, nuance or intellectual rigor and your derogatory tone undermines any potential for constructive dialogue.

he has nothing important to say