₦airaland Forum

Watcharena:
the same thing was said about Gaddafi's regime , Saddam Hussein regime the same thing but look at those two countries now

and those countries are a source of very cheap raw materials for American companies and black market dealers

this is why war will never end. it is too profitable to close shop

Sonnobax15:

This is certainly the first time after a very long time I'm hearing the phrase -"talking stage" .

Cuz no responsible and reasonable young man of this generation will waste his time trying to woo a lady......a truck-load of worthless liability for that Matter

Personally,na from our first two conversation or chat go determine whether the "thingy" go get head,cuz from that every wise man don suppose know banny wey get sense or the one wey her brain get affiliation with that of a native hen

that's because you came to nairaland. this website is a cesspool

Funny thing is that the people of Iran are happy these military men are gone, but sad that some innocent civilians were hit. Anything to get rid of the regime is welcome

Axis313:

Me too I am short of words,I am dumbfounded.
I was like ,when did we start this mo.nkey play?

yeah bro. suck Feun

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who resurrected this dead thread?

anyway, since we are talking about food. I fi ever become president of Nigeria, I will ban ewedu in my opening speech

...and amala. I will ban amala too

KaptainAfrika:
If Nigeria partners with Israel, terrorism would be defeated in no time!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Israelis hate Nigerians. they are racist. I do not get why Nigerians are so obsessed with being a friend of Israel that even Nnamdi Kalu went as far as belittling the Igbo tribe by saying they are descendants from the Jews.

Mrfixitt:
Gej assembled capable hands and they gave Nigeria Biggest economy in Africa. Tinubu and Buhari are disasters that shouldn't have happened

cliffypatt:
Jonathan was referring to the actual meaning/definition of stealing and corruption. Calm down abeg

IbeOkehie:
A blanket condemnation of Nigerian leaders is just patriotic preening and pandering for public approval. The real and unpleasant truth is that THE NIGERIAN PEOPLE are the ones that should be condemned for their addiction to SOCIALIST policies.

Presidents Babangida and Obasanjo did very well for Nigeria. President Jonathan to his credit continued their reforms and even took some very difficult decisions that went against the wishes of the Nigerian people and so he lost the Presidency. The many positive economic policies they initiated have been repeatedly explained on this forum. They produced very good RESULTS felt by ALL Nigerians. It's no accident that Nigeria became the Poverty Capital of the World AFTER President Jonathan left. Everyone knows now that the 15 years of PDP were better than what Nigeria is living through now.

The problem in Nigeria is THE FEUDAL-SOCIALIST SYSTEM and it's unfortunate that the vast majority of Nigerians have become natural socialists. That is why Nigeria has ALWAYS been a poor country. The Nigerians people NEVER support any policies that go against the socialist structure of Nigeria, that's the REAL problem. Socialist policies create scarcity, inefficiency and POVERTY in the long term in any sector in any country.

The ONLY reason President Tinubu revoked petrol subsidies and devalued the naira is that Nigeria was BANKRUPT when he assumed power and the bankruptcy was caused by policies he campaigned for from 2012 to 2015.

Good Luck to Nigerians.

so all of you actually think Bello really said this? this is what they want. for you to come online and spend your time talking about things that never happened. avoid reading things from saharareporters. do something better with your time!

seun no dey hear word

maybe shahrareporters have a special agreement with him to publish their articles because I can bet it is only people who work with saharareporters that visit their website.

If you read anything from saharareporters, and domperignon just click close

they should go to sambisa and check phones there

benuejosh:
This is just a kind reminder that MEN ARE THE PRIZE.

louder, for those at the back

seun's bot said I should write 40 or more characters

Dpsychologist:


Dumb comments. Read to understand you won't.

Only to make assumptions and criticisms.

since you made that first post, how much money have you earned? if you like continue what you are doing. hopefully you will find your dream wife to share bills with you.

Factcheck0001:
that's y u can't even b a local government chairman

yes, you have luck

i take whatever una dey serve take beg una. no carry amala and ewedu go outside your village

in fact, the day I become president of nigeria, I will ban ewedu and amala in my opening speech

if i come president of Nigeria, first thing i will do is to ban ewedu and amala

no doubt. as long as you are not in the corridors of power, it will be hard to have adequate knowledge of the economy.

Dpsychologist:
Nothing we no go see for Nairaland

Dpsychologist:
Read to understand but u will not.

just work hard and make money, not coming to nairaland to complain that your wife is not sharing bills with you. you hear?

Kobojunkie:
Why do my questions upset you? That is what I would like to know. I didn't realize that there were only so many times a person was meant to comment on this particular thread.

ignore the guy abeg. has nothing better to do with his time than to write fake stories for engagement.

Chram:
I write with Pains in my heart.
I wish to ask God why some certain events occur in life.
I have lots of questions to ask, but nobody to give me answers.

I describe as Selfish, inconsiderate and egoistical the decision of my mum to remarry.

So, I lost my lovely and caring dad six years ago. We had lived in Port Harcourt prior to his death. When we were traveling to the village, we packed all the little properties we had cos we were not going to return back to PH again since my mum would not be able to cater for myself and little siblings.
After the burial and funeral ceremony, we all stayed in the village. I mean a typical village where there's no good road, no electricity, no mobile network. I stayed for a few months, then left them to go squat with my friends in port Harcourt so I could hustle with my muscles and return back to sch at least because it had always been my dad's desire for all of us to go to sch, so I beat my chest and vowed that I would go to sch and graduate. Thank God, I'm done with sch now.

My current challenge now is my mum is in her mid forties and wants to remarry to a man in the village. She hasn't told me yet. But my paternal aunt called to inform me. I'm really worried because if she gets remarried, she will abandon my younger siblings who are there with her because she won't be allowed to take my siblings to her new husband's house as it is an abomination based on the customs and traditions of our place. If my siblings must live with her in that place, then they will have to start bearing the new husband's name as his children. Why ?

Also, as a male child, I'm not allowed to go visit here and eat or sleep over in her new house. If I do this, I might die. Why is this?

Based on reports, my grandfather(mum's dad) is the one mounting pressure on my mum to get married. I'm really worried about the whole situation because the ties between my mum and my siblings are about to be severed. Since my dad died, my mum has been living in her father's house instead of my dad's place. Though both places aren't far from each other. Its trekkable. I feel really hurt and betrayed, I can't even imagine my mum in the arms of another man. If I was stable in monetary and economic terms, I would have taken her out of that dungeon to come live with me, and also bring siblings along. I'm really pained as I type. Tears.. my dad died at age 47.

I wish u guys can beg my mum not to remarry please. What's the difference between me and someone from a Broken background?
Life is not fair to me and my siblings. Not fair at all. I know how I'm feeling right now.

Let me make it clear at this point that if her plans of remarrying goes through, I will dis-mother her. I'll cut all ties and destroy every bond that ever existed between herself and us the children.

File photo used for illustration

fake story

you must be very lazy and jobless

Smartcitizen:
So you don't see Tinubu, Reno Omokri, Fani Kayode and Wike as Demperignon?

You must be a very serious Demperignon too.

🥱🥱🥱🥱

i call one name, you go dey name people wey no concern the matter. na you sabi

everyone lies but you see domperignon... hmmm, if you see that name post anything on nairaland, RUN! just run

after saharareporters, na domperignon in the ranking of posting fake stories and lies

Nifemy4:
I have known peter now for over a decade. The rest of us amongst his pool of friends womanize a lot , but Peter. He is a straightforward, loyal and steadfast handsome guy to the core. His discipline when it comes to women is second to none. i secretly admire his his resolve and firmness when it come come to chasing big bum like the rest of us, especially Seyi, Emmanuel and me----the group leader when it comes to big bum affairs.


Two years ago , during a cool evening hangout with the boys,i had just finished my own bottle of small stout, when Peter hit us all like a Russian missile, the news of his intention to get married to girlfriend Amara.

boom.. the silence that befell the meeting was deafening. i looked at seyi, seyi looked at emma with our eyes widely opened envicing shock and surprises at the same time. well, honestly , i am not supposed to gawk in shock , i always knew peter to be a one way serious fellow . he loved the girl and he never cheated, nor ever flirted with any other. at least we all know all our secrets.

"i intend to set up a business for her, and i budget about 10m for it "these were his words. he opted for a hair(wig)niche for her somewhere around unilag Akoka.

i was miffed and skeptical at the same time. To my mind ,i felt peter never know all this naija lagos babes, they go show you colour wey no dey for crayon soon. but again, he's about to get married to her in months to come aso, it's no effort in futility i persuaded myself to take a chill pill.

He handed over 5m to her at first to scout for the shop and initiate the importation of a few hairs from Vietnam as she claimed.

2 months later, peter who traveled down to the south East in preparation for the traditional marriages that was to come up in august 2024 .arrived lagos..

"Amara, how far with the 5m , how far have you gone with the search" behold. her response was heart stopping and could break sweat from the skin a person living in iceland.

our dear future sister in law allegedly bought an iphone 15 pro max from the money and could barely account for the rest.


I convinced peter to let go off her. she will end up being a liability , which was his greatest fear .

cool story bro

Dpsychologist:
There is an Unspoken Frustration of Modern Men

“If we’re partners, why am I the only one paying all the bills?”

This question doesn’t come from greed.
It doesn’t come from bitterness.
It comes from exhaustion.

In a world where relationships are marketed as equal partnerships, too many men are realizing they’re carrying the entire load—financially, emotionally, and sometimes even logistically. All in the name of “being a man.”

But how fair is that, really?

Let’s dig deep into the hypocrisy, expectations, and emotional toll behind this simple but powerful question.


💑 The Myth of Equal Partnership in an Unequal Economy

We live in an era where women are more empowered than ever. They earn degrees. They run businesses. They vote. They drive. They have the choice to pursue careers or stay at home.

And yet—when it comes to who pays the bills, many still revert to old-school expectations:

“The man is the provider.”

Wait…what?

You can’t preach gender equality on one hand and demand traditional privilege on the other.

If we’re truly partners, the responsibility to build the home should be shared—not dumped on one person.


🧾 The Reality of One-Sided Provision

Let’s be honest about what it means when only one person pays all the bills:

Stress: One person constantly worries about rent, food, utility bills, car maintenance, kids’ school fees, and emergencies.

Resentment: Over time, the provider begins to feel used, especially if their efforts are not reciprocated emotionally or practically.

Burnout: They may work long hours or take multiple jobs, sacrificing their health and mental well-being.

Imbalance of Power: Ironically, some partners who don’t contribute financially still want to be “50-50” in all decisions.


It’s not just about the money—it’s about effort, respect, and equity.



💬 When “Support” Means Watching From the Sidelines

Many partners—especially in modern dating—say:

“I support you emotionally.”
“I cook sometimes.”
“I clean, I’m present, I’m loyal.”

That’s good. But here’s the reality:

If bills aren’t emotional, your contribution can’t just be emotional.

You can’t hug a landlord instead of paying rent.

You can’t cook love for NEPA to give you light.

Support should be multi-dimensional. It should stretch across finances, emotional encouragement, domestic contributions, and shared responsibilities.

Being in a relationship where one person is the ATM and the other is a “life coach” is not partnership—it’s imbalance.

🧠 What the “All Bills Must Be Paid by the Man” Mentality Really Does

Let’s strip the filters and IG captions.

This mindset:

1. Devalues Men Emotionally: If all a man is good for is money, what happens when he can’t provide?

2. Discourages Intimacy: Resentment grows in silence. A man who feels financially exploited may detach emotionally and physically.

3. Creates Silent Pressure: Most men don’t complain—they just suffer in silence. Until they break down… or walk away.


The result? Lonely marriages. Emotionally distant relationships. Secretly bitter breadwinners.

🧮 What Does Partnership Really Mean?

Let’s define the word “partner.”

A partner is:

Someone who shares the burden, not just the benefits.

Someone who contributes based on their capacity, not just their gender.

Someone who’s willing to build together, not just spend what someone else builds.


If a man is paying the rent, utility bills, school fees, and fuel, while the woman’s income goes to personal things, beauty routines, and weekend brunch—that’s not partnership.
That’s sponsorship.


🙅‍♂️ The “He’s the Man, He Should Provide” Argument Is Lazy

Many defend financial imbalance by quoting tradition:

“A real man should provide. That’s what our fathers did.”

Fair. But let’s finish the sentence:

“Our mothers also woke up at 5 a.m. to cook, raised six kids, ran businesses from home, respected their husbands, and never tweeted about oppression.”

In the past, yes—men paid for everything.
But women worked differently, and they respected the effort. The labor was divided in a way that felt mutual.

Today, women want modern freedoms with zero traditional responsibilities.

That’s not equality.
That’s selective feminism.

❤️ What Men Actually Want: Contribution, Not Control

To be clear: Most men are not asking women to split every bill down the middle.

They just want:

To feel supported, not used.

To see effort, not entitlement.

To experience gratitude, not guilt-tripping.

If your partner earns more, maybe they contribute more. If you earn less, maybe you do more at home. If you both earn equally, find balance.

It’s not about 50/50.
It’s about 100/100 in effort.

🧘 Final Thoughts: Partnership Is Built, Not Demanded

If you’re in a relationship where one person is doing all the financial lifting, it’s not just unfair—it’s unsustainable.

Partnership means:

⚡Carrying the weight together.

⚡Adjusting when one person is weak.

⚡Respecting the silent sacrifices.


So the next time someone asks:

“If we’re partners, how come I’m the only one paying all the bills?”

Don’t just roll your eyes.

Answer them honestly.
Or contribute more actively.
Because love without effort… is just dependence in disguise.

i'm suspecting this is domperignon's second account. the calamities have started to befall him and now he is frustrated because his wife does not want to share bill.

Dpsychologist:
There is an Unspoken Frustration of Modern Men

“If we’re partners, why am I the only one paying all the bills?”

This question doesn’t come from greed.
It doesn’t come from bitterness.
It comes from exhaustion.

In a world where relationships are marketed as equal partnerships, too many men are realizing they’re carrying the entire load—financially, emotionally, and sometimes even logistically. All in the name of “being a man.”

But how fair is that, really?

Let’s dig deep into the hypocrisy, expectations, and emotional toll behind this simple but powerful question.


💑 The Myth of Equal Partnership in an Unequal Economy

We live in an era where women are more empowered than ever. They earn degrees. They run businesses. They vote. They drive. They have the choice to pursue careers or stay at home.

And yet—when it comes to who pays the bills, many still revert to old-school expectations:

“The man is the provider.”

Wait…what?

You can’t preach gender equality on one hand and demand traditional privilege on the other.

If we’re truly partners, the responsibility to build the home should be shared—not dumped on one person.


🧾 The Reality of One-Sided Provision

Let’s be honest about what it means when only one person pays all the bills:

Stress: One person constantly worries about rent, food, utility bills, car maintenance, kids’ school fees, and emergencies.

Resentment: Over time, the provider begins to feel used, especially if their efforts are not reciprocated emotionally or practically.

Burnout: They may work long hours or take multiple jobs, sacrificing their health and mental well-being.

Imbalance of Power: Ironically, some partners who don’t contribute financially still want to be “50-50” in all decisions.


It’s not just about the money—it’s about effort, respect, and equity.



💬 When “Support” Means Watching From the Sidelines

Many partners—especially in modern dating—say:

“I support you emotionally.”
“I cook sometimes.”
“I clean, I’m present, I’m loyal.”

That’s good. But here’s the reality:

If bills aren’t emotional, your contribution can’t just be emotional.

You can’t hug a landlord instead of paying rent.

You can’t cook love for NEPA to give you light.

Support should be multi-dimensional. It should stretch across finances, emotional encouragement, domestic contributions, and shared responsibilities.

Being in a relationship where one person is the ATM and the other is a “life coach” is not partnership—it’s imbalance.

🧠 What the “All Bills Must Be Paid by the Man” Mentality Really Does

Let’s strip the filters and IG captions.

This mindset:

1. Devalues Men Emotionally: If all a man is good for is money, what happens when he can’t provide?

2. Discourages Intimacy: Resentment grows in silence. A man who feels financially exploited may detach emotionally and physically.

3. Creates Silent Pressure: Most men don’t complain—they just suffer in silence. Until they break down… or walk away.


The result? Lonely marriages. Emotionally distant relationships. Secretly bitter breadwinners.

🧮 What Does Partnership Really Mean?

Let’s define the word “partner.”

A partner is:

Someone who shares the burden, not just the benefits.

Someone who contributes based on their capacity, not just their gender.

Someone who’s willing to build together, not just spend what someone else builds.


If a man is paying the rent, utility bills, school fees, and fuel, while the woman’s income goes to personal things, beauty routines, and weekend brunch—that’s not partnership.
That’s sponsorship.


🙅‍♂️ The “He’s the Man, He Should Provide” Argument Is Lazy

Many defend financial imbalance by quoting tradition:

“A real man should provide. That’s what our fathers did.”

Fair. But let’s finish the sentence:

“Our mothers also woke up at 5 a.m. to cook, raised six kids, ran businesses from home, respected their husbands, and never tweeted about oppression.”

In the past, yes—men paid for everything.
But women worked differently, and they respected the effort. The labor was divided in a way that felt mutual.

Today, women want modern freedoms with zero traditional responsibilities.

That’s not equality.
That’s selective feminism.

❤️ What Men Actually Want: Contribution, Not Control

To be clear: Most men are not asking women to split every bill down the middle.

They just want:

To feel supported, not used.

To see effort, not entitlement.

To experience gratitude, not guilt-tripping.

If your partner earns more, maybe they contribute more. If you earn less, maybe you do more at home. If you both earn equally, find balance.

It’s not about 50/50.
It’s about 100/100 in effort.

🧘 Final Thoughts: Partnership Is Built, Not Demanded

If you’re in a relationship where one person is doing all the financial lifting, it’s not just unfair—it’s unsustainable.

Partnership means:

⚡Carrying the weight together.

⚡Adjusting when one person is weak.

⚡Respecting the silent sacrifices.


So the next time someone asks:

“If we’re partners, how come I’m the only one paying all the bills?”

Don’t just roll your eyes.

Answer them honestly.
Or contribute more actively.
Because love without effort… is just dependence in disguise.

so wanting to share bill with your wife is frustrating you? god forbid the men of this generation. a lot of you are weak and lazy

delugadou:
That PH pastor moves different. If you look at his eyes, you'll tread carefully. I heard that he once imprisoned the daughter of an ex governor

If dark guy has loved ones, now is the time for them to talk to him. Otherwise he might lose weight before Christmas

I trust Nigerians, they will change his name to Very Lanky Guy

Kemi olunloyo is a mad woman and even your bus driver can lock her up because everyone knows she likes trouble.

sweetkev:
Seun, has it gotten this bad that once someone mentioned Tinubu name under comment section, your mods banned the person from commenting on nairaland for few hours even if the person never insulted anyone. I hope you are aware of this Seun ?

you must learn to be civil by force

DomPerignon:
Amaechi first openly declared that as an Ikwere man, that he is Ibo when he was a serving Minister under the Buhari adminstration.

Amaechi made that statement in response to a journalist asking him to comment on cririsicm of the Buhaei government marginalising the SE of federal appointments.

Amaechi replied that it was all nonesense and used his appointment as a Super Minister as an example claiming further that he is an Ibo man from Rivers state.

Amaechi is now backtracking and saying he made that statement out of political convineince . In short , Amaechi has confessed that he lied to decieve and that he isn't an Ibo man but an Ikwere .


Now the question is why is Amaechi backtracking ?

It serves no purpose and it is doing him real disservice to admit he lied for political convenience and he coming out with what he said will further alienate him from the SE core Ibo population.

So why did Amaechi suddenly decide to confess and state unequivocally that he isn't Ibo?

Did Amaechi need to come clean so as to assuage the northerners he is plotting with to get to Aso Rock on his real ethnicity ? And if so, does Amaechi see being Ibo as a real obstacle in gaining northern support?

i see you are still out here spewing trash

osuofia2:
Regrets of most northern elites, send their kids abroad and they become radical. The case of Mutalab still fresh in our memories.

I am really happy with how Mutalab's case turned out. he will live long in prison to see he made a silly choice. people like him never learn their lesson and it is the only way to teach them

Bestwt001:
Justice Uwais lived a life of impact, integrity, and nation-building. His legacy, especially in judicial reforms and electoral integrity, will continue to shape Nigeria’s legal and democratic future. May his soul rest in perfect peace, and may his vision for a just Nigeria live on.

and his son joined ISIS what an impact from his family

Ogbuu101:
The one wey him pikin go Syria go join ISIS

lol, na papa ISIS be that