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advanceDNA:
.guy....na their way be that for you...
.they always over estimate their worth in a relationship, believing they are doing you a favour by being with you.....

All I see is......she's just playing with leverage that she doesn't even know how little she has

Her case even funny.....Person wey nor fit pay bills dey threaten who dey feed her with divorce!!

Oga....get lawyer make he draft you divorce document ....sign am..give am make she sign

One of the two will happen..
1)Dem nor born am well make she sign am..... Na cry she go cry....come add victim game join

2) pride will make her sign...u don free be that

Baba...no let any body rob u of ur peace ooo
be selfish and ruthless about your peace of mind

I swear e get one rich man wey don promise am heaven and earth in order to shine the congo. and the woman wey no get sense (because why buy artificial hair when you were born with hair) wan comot for the marriage

a woman will sacrifice her family for her selfish desires, a man will sacrifice his selfish desires for his family

thunder fire anyone wey claim gender equality, we are not the same

Wakatumbit:
I've made some previous posts about how my wife threatens me with leaving our marriage everytime we have small issues (I didn't post it with this account).
She always threaten to leave anytime we have misunderstandings, not even only misunderstandings, even when we are having normal conversations and someone refers to maybe a bad marriage experience, she always says if it's her she will leave. I've spoken to her about it several times, I have even spoken to her family about the issue but it keeps repeating itself.

She has this kind of mentality that she can leave the marriage at any time I do something to her and she repeats it every time, the last one was during an outing when we had a misunderstanding, even before hearing my own side of the story, she said she already tired of the marriage and wants to leave, so I told her to go if she wants. The next morning, she came to wake me up and told me she doesn't want to do again that she wants to leave, she said she'll call her people and I should call my people. I said fine.

I told my family about it, and they supported me because a woman can't threaten me with marriage after one child.

Another thing my wife does is that she constantly compares me to other men, telling people I don't provide for my family, I don't take care of her, to the extent her friends are telling her that if a man doesn't provide for his woman, then he's pushing her out to meet other men.

In regards to the issue of providing, when we met, things were going very well, it was just the two of us and I had money at the time, I took her on vacation, booked flights for her, bought her hairs, a new phone and all. But now we have a child, added responsibilities, and money isn't as it used to be before but one thing I never do is to starve my family.

Last year I made close to 20m but I didn't see the money, not because I'm an extravagant spender but because of family expenses, I can't even explained what happened to the money aside the fact that I bought a car.

I opened a business for her with almost 3 million, the business crumbled, she doesn't want to do anything, she stays home all day just pressing phone. If I don't have any money at all she can't support me, she calls me for everything, even to as little as salt in the house.

She started comparing our marriage to when she was single, that she used to wear the lastest clothes and buy the lastest hair, and now she's married she doesn't get those things forgetting those where the thing I used to do for her when there was enough money.


This whole thing has made me tired of the marriage and I don't feel like continuing it any more, I've told her to call her people since she doesn't want to continue the marriage so they can return the bride price. I just want to focus on my life

na you go marry woman wey need to buy hair when she no get cancer. I can never marry a girl that is so insecure about her natural appearance. it is a huge red flag! if she can not be satisfied with the hair she was born with, she will never be saisfied with anything in this life even if she go meet that rich man wey don dey seduce am.

Love800:
Okay.
But what will headgear do to my hair?

a good breeding ground for infection, which is why is suggested you wash them regularly if you really want to use them.

Some people have never washed their headgears in their life

do you know how long 120km is that you are calling "just"?

wonder233:
There is nothing like sugar mummy, it is a hoax. It is a fantasy young guys have had for generations. It doesn't exist.
Most young guys dream of that wealthy mature lady who would keep them for sex and also give them money and gifts.
Movies promote this fiction, so the folklore continues.
It is psychological, and for most young men, they are highly motivated if a woman is older, married or in a serious relationship. She becomes a prize. Even if she doesn't give them money, these factors are enough motivation.

But as a guy grows older, he sees the reality - which is that females are by default HYPERGAMOUS. That is, women's own sexual motivation is programmed for the upturn not downturn. That rich, successful woman you're making puppy eyes at, is looking at you like "what is wrong with this small rat?" when what is on her mind is how to get a Senator or the Chairman/Ceo.

So, you soon realize, you're just fooling yourself. Then you drop the fantasy, and face that your normal girlfriend, to start your own life.
But small boys coming up who have been sold the same fantasy, start trying to target your wife, motivated by nothing but the fact that she is a "married woman"... And then the cycle continues.

just say you broke come worwowr on top and no woman (even old woman) gree look ya side

Greydebz:
This sounds very toxic 🤨

explain "toxic" or are you using words you don't understand?

Love800:
What is headgear pls?

cap, hat, bandana

unless you are going to wash them regularly

It is because most of the men they are married to are average or poor men.

I haven't seen a woman married to an influential family complaining about the stress of change of name.

exactly!! see your evidence here sef... you don't need to look far

Brownpeanut:
If, eventually, I get married to Dangote, I will change my name under 2 days

the world needs less people. we are over 8 billion and counting. one effective way to do that is to encourage more "boss ladies". keep them busy so they don't think of having children or even starting a new home.

bad as e bad when the ovaries dry up, dem go adopt children like Oprah Winfrey

Caaz:
Kobojunkie my love,stop misleading women,you re in a sane country where things are working perfectly,the govt even offer shelter and free Meals.


Now let us be realistic....this is nigeria,most family are struggling,i assist my husband,he didnt compelled me,i do it just to ease the burden from him,because that's the essence of being married.


This man has carried this(Billing)for 15yrs,it will not be out of place for his wife to assist with some bills,if she contribute the heavens will not fall.

I cancel any bad thing you wish for yourself

you can clearly tell from her posts that she is a single, old woman. It does not matter if they are in a sane country or not. bad character always keeps them single

Yxxx:
Is it not madness to use a western platform to campaign against westernization and it's benefits.

that's how you know they are sponsored by foreign interests to destabilize our economy

Entusky:
I wish Gideon orkar's coup succeeded
That man really saw 2morrow😐

who is Gideon orkar and what does he have to do with this?

Na still market she dey find

Finquas:
She's even looking younger and better.. quick grace to recovery my wonderful actress 🙏 mercy

lol. Makeup can do that to almost anyone

Check back when she has no makeup on make we see something

Badb0y4lyf:
The little he has done APC has still manage to spoil it and even made everything worst

you are not wrong, but this thread is not about APC

Obj could have done better

This obj guy go soon collect better slap. What did he do about the festering corruption under his government?

Now he saying keg of gunpowder... na to rub that gunpowder for him face, light cigar for that him big mouth

Funkyswagzz:
Netflix is worth way more than 3 billion bro

Does not mean they will offer 3 billion naira to one Jarvis for a role with kissing scene.

That boy dey lie like small pikin and people with room temperature IQ dey believe am

Aether:
My main beef is not even with the fulani terrorists, but the wealthy individuals from all these places under attack.

What exactly are they doing??

You see animals attacking your towns and villages and yet, you cannot use your money to procure defense for your people, you must be a selfish and wicked individual

Nah...it's not the rich people that are the problem. Look at government

Sellfish:
If the woman is to submit vagina regardless of whether she is tired or not so that the man won't cheat, then it should also follow that a man must provide all she asks, reasonable or not, or she is justified to go outside and seek from another man what her husband cannot give her..

What is good for Greece must also be good for Uganda


I wonder what kind of family or marriage Veekee is coming from for her to have this kind of slave mentality about marriage.. A man who insists on copulating with his wife regardless of her desire to do so, must also be ready to provide whatever she asks regardless of whether he has the resources to do so or not...

Yes! Let her go outside and look for the man that will give her 10 bedroom mansion, Mercedes Benz 5-car convoy, and personal assistant because she is queen of the world

Lol

chrisanderson99:
I wonder why some ladies will deny their husband sex, Yet complain that those men cheat on them.
Same thing that they gave freely to other guys before their husband decided settle down with them.

as in eh... women do some of the dumbest things

omoredia:
Chai! Black man is always moving. Never resting

on the contrary, we never had to move for generations. Everything we needed was all around us.

It is the foreigners that brought this mentality of poverty, created artificial scarcity, wars and eventually made young black people think moving away from your homeland is a life achievement.

It is not!

When you leave, the criminal foreigners will pillage your resources because there is no one there to resist them.

This is why I hate Black women. Never satisfied with their skin color or hair type

I have no sympathy for this matter

JobAndVacancies:
keep your mouth shut

you can't tell a troll from a normal human being?

That one you quoted is a troll

Always ignore the trolls

papyjaypaul:
Na statistics we go chop? 😂
At least some people are keeping records and love empirical evidence. Some people will just generalize, no evidence, no data, just their opinion they assume for everyone.

Dis statistics from inside dia nyash

meobizy:
Adichie really is poor and depressed. Rita Dominic really is poor and depressed. Diezani Alison-Maduekwe really is poor and depressed.

i don tell you my own finish. If you like dey look people wey no send ya papa dey take get hope.

Na still you go create another nairaland profile to lament

This one na to collect another loan on top the one we collect take pay IMF loan

Kingpele:
Hahaha Hahaha I never knew this woman no gentle till now...she seems genuinely good and humble maybe is because of majority of her roles in movies portray her that way..but now she has spoken is obvious she is not the family type, I thought....marriage require commitment to make it work, naturally the overall wellbeing of the family becomes the most important thing, whatever you have to sacrifice for it should go...na this kind yeye advice dey make our actresses to jump from one marriage to the other to met a soul mate

Lol. Add the simps that continue to enable this behavior

meobizy:
Marriage is always going to hold somebody back. We were raised to be independent. All of a sudden, we're forced to depend on another while trying to chase our dreams. Ko le werk. I will achieve my dreams first before giving this marriage thing a go.

if you like no marry, don't think men will chase you forever.

You will end up depressed and alone if you don't take your time

I'm so glad no one has come here to say it is a spiritual problem. Nairalanders are beginning to have small sense. Thanks to seun's new antispam bot.

I think Love800 will do better if he keeps a low-cut hairstyle for a few weeks, and bathe at least once a day (paying attention to his hair). That will stop the dandruff for sure.

No headgear while doing this

papyjaypaul:
This generation takes risk because they don't know risk. They are more comfortable online than in person. They are disconnected from reality.

people pull statistics out of nowhere these days, create funny graphs, and share online.

Originalsly:
With such relationships ... oyinbo gf/bf ...tribal/cultural differences don't matter ... background check? ... digging not needed ... relationship approved.... Congrats... .major achievement.

lol. na him classmate be that. I go bet money say dem no dey date

e fit don beg the girl make dem snap the photo after dem finish one class like that